Online Dating (Thread 2)

[kvandenhaak]

^It's really up to you what you want to allow. They will take whatever they can if you give it to them.

[angeljolie]

^^Saang site mo na-meet?

^Hey how's it going with athlete and the guy from Tinder (tama nga ba?)? (Side note: introvert ka din!)

[Apple1230]

^Sounds like you're not into him (at least not that much), so kung ako ang tatanungin, hayaan mo na muna. Tignan mo kung mami-miss mo sya. If not, then maybe it's time to move on.

I have this wall kasi since we got back together. Siguro sobra lang yung fear ko na maulit yung nangyari dati. 2 weeks na kame hindi nagkikita but he texts me everyday naman. I brought up that issue last sunday and he shuts down. Naiinis ako sa kanya kasi masyado matigas ulo niya. And he is so set in his ways palibhasa tanders na kasi. Hehe!

Ang weird lang lately i have been getting messages from guys in my past. Yesterday a guy i dated briefly ex matinee idol siya messaged me sa fb we are fb friends, nangangamusta lang asking me about my lovelife. Another one i chatted with online he is a pilot messaged me, and another one i also chatted expat siya messaged me asking me out, he just came back from spain and wanted to have dinner. He will show me around in my city daw.

What is up with that. For now i am just letting things happen. I am currently working on my spiritual growth and my relationship with God. Maybe i got busy with life na konti lang yung binigay kong time sa part na yun and i need to work on it now before anything else. I am doing it not so i can get something out of it but because i will not be whole until i get that part right.

How about you sis kamusta na mga boys?
 

[angeljolie]

he is so set in his ways palibhasa tanders na kasi. Hehe!

You know what, yan din justification ko kay first guy. He is almost always not willing to compromise. Inisip ko kasi nga he's 50 na that time. But the new guy, he's very considerate and loving. Total opposite of first guy. And this new guy is 56. So at the end of the day, it's really never about the age.

I have been very busy at work, hindi ko nabibigyan masyado ng panahon si first guy (in my defense, pati naman school/study time ko nasasacrifice). At lumalabas ang totoong kulay nya. He's super insecure to the point of accusing me of having sexual relationships with my male colleagues. Ang matindi nito, yung sinend kong pic sa kanya, puro babae kami. Naka barber's cut yung hair tapos yung isa nakatalikod. Nakaka turn off sya sobra. This happened the other night. Sinabi ko sa kanya, I'm away from home (business trip abroad), working my ass off till midnight, missing my kids, then there he was accusing me of having an orgy with my colleagues. I told him I don't have the energy for his drama. That was my last message to him. Nag message pa sya saken after that. Di ko na sinagot. Ugh. Unbelievable.

[Apple1230]

^i'm not really justifying his actions. Ang reason niya why he didn't ask to meet last weekend was nag co-complain daw kasi ako na madami siyang ginagawa tapos sasabihin ko uuwi na lang ako. I'm not aware na ganun pala. Ang sa akin naman since busy siya uuwi na lang ako so i can do other stuff kesa naka buntot ako sa kanya.

For now cold kame pareho sa isa't isa but we are talking naman. Pabayaan ko na lang muna siya. I have met a lot of men, i have dated a lot rin and i can say he is better than most of them. When it comes to character, values, and attitude wala naman ako masabi. Yun lang minsan ang hirap niya kausapin lalo na pag may issues umiiwas siya sa mga ganung usapan. Kaya ewan ko kung ano mangyayari.   

Grabe naman yang first guy mo parang immature siya for his age. At ang wild naman ng imagination niya. Kaloka siya.

[kvandenhaak]

^^Ay, insecure much? It takes one to know one, you know. Siguro ganyan din sya kaya feeling nya lahat ng nakapaligid sa kanya ganon.

[angeljolie]

^^Masaya ka naman ba dyan sis? What's your reason for holding on? Love mo? Hindi ko ma-gets masyado yung wala kang masabi sa character nya, pero nahihirapan ka kausapin sya because umiiwas sya sa usapan (hindi ba kasama ito sa overall character?).

^I know right! Yan din una ko naisip. Anyway, I'm just glad the new guy came. Kung hindi man kami magkatuluyan, he is at least helping me let go of the first guy. Can't believe I was so blinded hehe.

[Apple1230]

^We are back to normal na ulit. Yung issue namin nag start siya kasi i have been rejecting his invitiations to go out and sleep over since we got back together.

Regarding kung love ko siya, yes i love him and yes i am very happy. Syempre hindi naman everyday nasa cloud 9 kame, there are days na we will have issues and that is normal sa relationship. We have a healthy relationship, mataas ang tiwala at respeto namin sa isa't isa, we are both quick to forgive, we don't have bitterness and resentment towards each other, mas madaming masaya at mabibilang lang sa fingers in one hand yung times na nagkaka issue kame in a year. I am determined to make it work this time and so does he. So far none of us has dared to throw in the towel yet.

Usually it's me. if i get ignored or he shuts down i threaten him for a break up. But this time i'm acting like a mature adult. I'm hanging in there and waiting for the storm to pass. The old me would be out the door by now and dating the next guy that comes along. I know now that it doesn't always have to be that way. I struck gold with him already. With the way he treats me i cannot ask for more. 

[angeljolie]

^^Good luck! Hope it works this time.

[kwang sun]

First time ko maindian hahhaahahha grabe saklap

[kvandenhaak]

^You got stood up? Nangyari yan sa akin, not with anyone I met online. Dati kong BF after we broke up. Masakit talaga. Looking at the bright side, marami pang iba.

[kwang sun]

^You got stood up? Nangyari yan sa akin, not with anyone I met online. Dati kong BF after we broke up. Masakit talaga. Looking at the bright side, marami pang iba.

Yup.masakit... at alam ko sa sarili ko na di naman ako pangit... i got flings mga may itsura din pero grabe haha nakakapangit pala sa feeling lol ang masaklap kasi sya sana una kong meet up dun sa app na yun tapos malapit pa sa city ko eh wala inindian niya ako . He replied two days after sabi nakita nya daw ako .. di ko na nireplayan

[Apple1230]

^^Good luck! Hope it works this time.

thanks sis. ikaw din good luck with the new guy. 

@kwang sun why did he have to say that he saw you. nakaka insulto naman talaga yun. pero hindi lang naman sa itsura yan sis. baka maganda ka naman sa mata niya but there is something about you that kinda scared him off. it's not so much what we say or do, it's the energy we send out. baka yung mga exchanges of messages niyo that gave him a second thought. who knows.

i think that is part of the risk we take when we have to meet up with someone thru online. may chance na baka hindi sumipot. don't take it personally na lang. huwag mo na isipin na kasalanan mo or na hindi ka attractive. baka lang may issue siya sa sarili niya and blessing in disguise na hindi na kayo nagkita. baka may sira pala sa ulo yun or something. hehe.

@kvandenhaak bakit nga kaya may mga guy na nawawala for a while tapos babalik as if nothing happened. hindi naman sa pagiging nega, sa akin kasi, personal ko lang, hindi ko kaya maging close or mag entertain ng guy na may tendency mag disappear ng matagal. siguro 1 or 2 days, baka longest na kaya ko tolerate is mawala ng 1 week pero pag more than that wala na yun for me i will be civil to him pero hindi na gaya ng dati kasi parang walang security or walang pagpapahalaga sa akin.

but that is just me. if you are ok with it and are happy with him ok lang yan go for it. hindi naman tayo pwede mag judge sa situation ng ibang tao.

[kwang sun]

^ thank you sis ha.. nakakagaan sa loob naman message mo. Nakakdown din kasi pero yun nga iniisip ko na lang din na baka hindi talaga sya yung nasa picture kaya parang nag backout siya..so yung ngmessage sya na nakita nya ako medyo natakot ako kasi wala akong nakita dun na kamukha nya either poser sya or he is lying or may sira sa utak . Pero yun lesson learned na lang

May mga dumadating papangakuan ka na mgmimeet lalo na pag ldr then after awhile mapapagod ka kasi nasa hangin lang yung promise.l may mamimeet ka sa local city mo kaso may sayad. Hai iniisip ko nga magpahula na lang baka walang meant for me

[kvandenhaak]

Mga sis, new developments! And it's not exactly good. Time to put my red stiletto and pitchfork.

Will keep you guys posted! LOL!

[angeljolie]

^Ano na? Cliffhanger eh.

[angeljolie]

^Awww 1,000 brownie points for him for opening up about his past and for checking your car! Seems like you guys are heading the right direction, albeit slowly. Enjoy mo lang. Found this online and I think it?s useful for everyone: Stop being afraid of what could go wrong. Start being excited about what can go right.

Kilala na sya ng son mo?

[kvandenhaak]

^My son knows all the guys I went out with but he's yet to meet one in person. Saka na lang pag naging serious na. Yeah, it's pretty slow pero consistent. I showed him what I wrote in my 5-year journal last year and luckily I was able to record the days when we started talking. Yes, enjoy ko lang to especially now that he is opening up. I am cautiously optimistic.

[Girltalker2]

^ buti di nya naisip na baka gusto mo lang sya papuntahin sa house  😁
Kasi they can?t find anything wrong naman
Buti think that can be considered as meant to be talaga sya mag visit/drop by 😍

[kvandenhaak]

I forgot to ask, how are things recently @angeljolie