Online Dating (Thread 2)

[young_maiden]

^ Pareho tayo bro.

I hate small talks. Common ang small talks sa online dating. Ayoko yung puro hi, hello, kumusta at taga-saan ka na conversations. Ang boring. Yung ibang guys pa bastos.

I deleted all dating apps sa phone ko. Sayang lang sa space.

[jtansanco]

^ It's not only that. You have to keep introducing yourselves to each one. Another factor is the chemistry. Online chemistry is different than in real life especially if you haven't met them in person. Another issue I've had with women is ghosting. Bwisit. Hahaha! I might as well date myself and spend all my hard earned money for me alone. LOL

[eischied_21]

Another issue I've had with women is ghosting. Bwisit. Hahaha! I might as well date myself and spend all my hard earned money for me alone. LOL

Ghosting?

Yeah, this is the thing "spend money to yourself". For me I travel, shop and eat everything I want. So far I'm doing all these things and enjoying being single

[kvandenhaak]

I am glad I never experienced ghosting. Meron akong experience na magkikita dapat pero biglang nawala daw ang cellphone and never got back to me. Maybe ghosting is a woman thing....lol!

[Antigone]

I am glad I never experienced ghosting. Meron akong experience na magkikita dapat pero biglang nawala daw ang cellphone and never got back to me.

But isn't this ghosting?

[kvandenhaak]

^Ah yun ba yon? I thought ghosting is when you have already met, you are interested or naging kayo and then he's just poof...gone! I thought that's called being stood up. Well, if that's the case, I ghost and I was ghosted. Sounds like a normal thing especially in online dating.

That guy though I still saw online afterwards. That was an interesting guy though. Tinakot pa ako...lol!

[jtansanco]

Ghosting?

and @kvandenhaak It's when you communicate with someone (usually via text/chat) and that person doesn't respond at all. It doesn't matter whether or not you know each other in real life. Maiinis ka nalang na sinayang mo oras mo kasi mawawala lang siya bigla. Haha

[Girltalker2]

^ so di lang sya online. So why give up online? Or give up ka na sa General dating.

Kaya mga dating rules the same with online and real life. Never fall immediately, get to know them more muna before getting close. Start with having coffee muna and meet ups kesa dinner date agad etc.

Personally I think better parin yung ka kilala ng ka kilala at least May background check ka somehow. But this doesn?t necessarily mean the guy/girl is good for you. But somehow meron Kang masabihan in case he/she does something off.

[angeljolie]

You can't expect everyone to find you interesting. If they had the guts to tell you they're not interested in you, thank them. If they don't, then move on. Yan ang isa sa dapat matutunan when dating, especially online. Don't take it against them or against you. It's just dating's dynamics. There was this Canadian guy I was talking to for 2 weeks mga 2 months ago. Click na click kami (or so I thought) then one day he just disappeared without a word. Yes it's disappointing, but it is what it is. The smartest move for me is to just move on and never look back hehe.

ETA: I'm beginning to like the new guy na. At nashishift na attention ko sa kanya from the first guy. I just feel so guilty. Nag dinner kami Thursday last week and got to know more about him. Dun kami sa fine dining outlet at the hotel where he stays but he never hinted on anything intimate. He told me though that he's really attracted to me and he's not apologizing hehe. He never took advantage. Ang worry ko lang is baka masyado syang nababagalan sa pacing. But then, kung di sya makahintay, then maybe we're not meant to be talaga. We can stay friends though.

[jtansanco]

^^ Just online dating. I still prefer to meet someone through a mutual friend but it's almost impossible in my case since I live in SF now. If I was in Manila, it'll be a lot easier for me to date but can't really let go of the allure of money here. Haha. At the end of the day, love can't pay the bills so I think I'll gradually accept being single now. Either way, I doubt relationships are for me based on how I view myself.

[angeljolie]

^We're probably twins in our past life! LOL! Ako naman nagi-guilty kasi hindi alam ni first guy (FG) that new guy (NG) exists. NG said he researched on our culture before coming here. So he understands daw that Filipino women like to take things slow. Wait, alam ba ni athlete yang si Tinder guy?

[heavensent]

Aside from Tinder, what other dating sites/app do you use?

[angeljolie]

^Well true. Kumusta na ba si kuya athlete?

^I suggest you forget about Tinder hehe. Try OK Cupid.

[heavensent]

^I suggest you forget about Tinder hehe. Try OK Cupid.

Is it better sis?

[kvandenhaak]

^^Haven't heard from him in awhile. I think I am officially been ghosted...lol! Pero may time naman mag-like ng pic ko sa FB? He will eventually text back. In the meantime, concentrate muna ako sa summer loss weight challenge ko with a friend.

[angeljolie]

^^Yes, in my experience at least.

^Pareho sila ni FG. Babalik din yan (whether or not you want to wait is a different story). But in the meantime, do the things you want/need to do.

I've been spending more time with NG and I can say he is growing on me. Though parang ako na yung nababagalan ngayon. 

[angeljolie]

^Ahahahah pareho talaga tayo, we have this "makamundo" side. It's not to say we're that shallow but it's an additional requirement on top of the more important ones.

Anyway, ako feeling ko makikipaghiwalay nako kay FG. I didn't expect this time would come kasi since laging sya yung nanghihingi ng break time, I expected sya yung mangiiwan saken. I can tell nararamdaman na nyang I'm drifting away. I can feel his insecurity. And suddenly he has plans (na ako pa din ang pupunta sa States para magkita kami). He's also extra sweet. Too late though. He had his chance.

It's funny how NG has been growing on me. He's a very sweet guy and the more I see and get to know him, the more he becomes attractive. Medyo nasi-strain lang ang leeg ko pag magkausap kami na nakatayo sa sobrang tangkad nya.

[Apple1230]

Ako naman even though we got back together i am no longer the same person while he is exactly the same pati mga routines niya and all. He wants to do the stuff we used to do, kung ano kame dati ganun pa din. Ako naman i have become too independent of him. He has invited me to stay over many times pero sinasabi ko lang next time na lang. Hindi ko napapansin dami na siyang invite sakin that i turned down. Pati sa out of town trip nila ng family niya hindi ako sumama.

Mas pinipili ko pa friends ko over him. kasi since we broke up sila lang lagi andiyan for me so nasanay ako na sila parati kasama ko. So ayun ngayon deadma si bf sa akin since last week pa. Hindi na halos nag te text. Hindi ko alam if he is waiting for me na ako naman ang maghabol sa kanya or what. I don?t know if i should reach out or hayaan ko na lang siya.

[angeljolie]

^Sounds like you're not into him (at least not that much), so kung ako ang tatanungin, hayaan mo na muna. Tignan mo kung mami-miss mo sya. If not, then maybe it's time to move on.

[kwang sun]

Ako yung tipong maganda lang sa personal. Chos. Hahah.. ang sad lang pag dating online dating hahah ....so nag online dating ako .. nag meet kami.. he is older than me at muntikan na may mangyari samin first date lol. Bakit ganun na meet up nowadays ...they will translate it to sex ? :/