Online Dating (Thread 2)

[zee87]

oo nga. someone asked me kung ano daw ba gusto ko, serious or fun lang. di ko pa nasasagot. kasi di ko rin agalm kung bakit ako nagsign in. lol Tapos may ni-unmatched na ako kasi sabi ba naman, he's horny, naloka ko.

scared and curious ako at the same time. Di ko pa natry makipagblind date, ever. Sabi nung isa itry ko lang daw, wala naman mawawala. lol

[Shadow Angel]

Di ko rin na try ang tinder pero tama sila known for hook up yan. Days mo pa lang ba chat meet up agad? Kung ako siguro mas gusto ko more than a month before ko imeet observe muna kung paano sya makipagchat or videocall muna. Ayaw ko nun clueless ako kung anong itsura baka kasi di naman real ang profile picture nya.

[zee87]

Update: so i signed up  a week ago and swiped for a day. There are few i exchanged messages to for few days and there's only one left today who has been consistent. He asked me out several times already. Most of our conversation is just about how our day went and what movie we are watching. So last night, he asked me out again to watch a movie supposedly Friday but told him I can't as my daughter will wait for me thus cant go home late (1st time I mentioned i have a daughter). That didn't put him off. So he said that he will make sure that I will be home before 10PM.

I already said YES, but honestly I am still not sure about it. I am thinking to just uninstall the app if ever I get cold feet by friday. lol

I know I am overthinking it, but this is the first time that i will be going out on a blind date. He seems nice as there was no instance that shows he is hitting on me.

Should I go? If I go, is there any precautions i have to do? lol

[angeljolie]

^I'm not sure a movie is good for the first date. Una, you'd like to be talking to each other. Pangalawa, maraming pwedeng mangyari sa dilim LOL!

[fredprinz]

No recent dates yet, met a few on Tinder and OKC this past week pero wala pa nagmamaterialize. Hehe

[Shadow Angel]

^blind date as in no idea ka kung ano itsura? For me lang mas ok kung coffee or resto ang meet up. Madilim sa sinehan alam mo na. Before kamakipag meet dapat may isa ka trusted person na alam or alam ang background nyan para kahit anong mangyari alam kung nasaan ka at sino kameet up mo.

[zee87]

It will be an outdoor cinema (where people watch from their cars in an open lot) so somehow it wont be really dark. 

Edited to add: already informed my bestfriend/housemate about it. she's pretty much excited and
I am anxious.  lol

[Apple1230]

^same lang din yun sis nasa loob ka ng car ng guy. Mas madaming pwedeng mangyari. Ako yan ang pinaka iniiwasan ko sa online dating yung sumakay sa car ng guy that i just met.

One more thing don?t be flattered that he is still ok kahit may anak ka kasi kung hindi iyan serious sayo he doesn?t really care if you have a kid or not. Ang gusto lang ng guy maka isa. You know what i mean.

Ano ba hanap mo sa online dating? kasi pag serious si guy at gusto ka talaga makilala dinner iyan usually. I would say go kung gusto mo talaga pero mag ingat ka kasi kung mag da moves siya and hindi ka ready make sure to put him in his place.

[angeljolie]

^Agree. I'd play devil's advocate by adding that he might even think you're easy because you are a single mom (therefore, nothing to lose).

As for the movie, even if it's not too dark, you still won't get to talk as much as you could if it were a coffee/dinner date. Parang too intimate agad yung movie. Why don't you suggest coffee? Mas madali pati mag exit kung hindi mo pala sya type.

[zee87]

Ayun nga iniisip ko. scary nga.... so uninstall na ko ng tinder? hahaha!

[Shadow Angel]

Bakit blind item nakalagay sa post ko 😂 kakagamit ng suggestion words.

Anyway for me lang until makilala ng mabuti ang guy at comfortable na ako or unless na lang kung talaga type na type ko si guy papayag ako sa 2nd date na movie date. Mas ok sa resto or coffeeshop mas makakapag usap kayo to know each other better and besides maoobeserve mo reaction nya if may mga itatanong ka diba?

[zee87]

uninstalled Tinder. I realized, i am not ready yet. lol
Nakakaguilty na di ako nagpaalam ng maayos sa kanya but i hope he understand.

[Girltalker2]

^I'm not sure a movie is good for the first date. Una, you'd like to be talking to each other. Pangalawa, maraming pwedeng mangyari sa dilim LOL!

I agree. Why, movie?! Duh?!
It?s not an avenue where you can get to know the other person.
If I?m in your shoes, id rather not go.

[LABYU]

Thanks sa mga advice sisses, tagal ko na pala di nakabalik dito. Update, binura ko na yung account ko sa Filipino Cupid. I realized hindi talaga siya para sa akin, siguro wala dun si Mr.Future Husband ko LOL  but I will definitely apply yung mga advice na binigay niyo sa akin, yung last experience ko honestly masaya ako kasi experience din yun para sa akin, at sa future siguro try ulit ako mag register sa international naman LOL hahahahahaha

[angeljolie]

^What happened sis?

[kvandenhaak]

^Ikaw, kumusta ka naman nowadays? Me bagong prospect ba?

[angeljolie]

^Waley! Actually he (same guy) messaged me again last week, after about 1.5 months of silence. At magagalit kayo saken because I'm entertaining him lol. For the record though, he contacted me first. Wala din akong time pa magsimula na naman eh. I have too much on my plate dahil balik school na ako this weekend.  Ikaw? How's the athlete???

[LABYU]

@Angeljolie may pagkaweirdo yung last na naka chat ko haha at gigil ako di ako nakaganti hahahaha pero good experience na din, deleted lang account ko dun dahil naging busy na din sa trabaho ko Pero for sure pag naburyong na naman ako, join ulit ako, pero malamang sa Int'l na, level up ako to int'l! hahahaha

[angeljolie]

^^Aww thanks. My other friends don't like the idea of us reconciling. Galit sila sa kanya. I never badmouthed him ha, but they know everything that happened. True, wala naman akong tinatapakan. At maganda naman ang pinagsamahan namin kahit papano. Hindi naman kami nag away talaga. Anyway, I'm taking everything lightly at this time.

Congrats on the FB friendship lol! Uyy mukhang going serious na kayo ha. I'm happy for you! Naku pasalamat ka nga he doesn't keep grudges. Kesa naman konting bagay maging issue pa. True ayaw nila ng tinatanong about their past. Ok lang yun as long as your past doesn't matter to him too. Basta isipin mo, mas importante ang present, how he treats you.

^Naku madami talaga sa kanila weirdo hehe. Actually isang rason pa yan kaya hindi din ako naging active maghanap talaga ng kapalit lol! Ang dami ko din naencounter na weird. Yung iba naman kala ko okay tapos biglang naglalaho parang bula. Basta don't take it personally. What do you mean international? Madami naman members ang FC from all over the world.

[Apple1230]

@LABYU it takes time talaga sa online dating.  you will really encounter a lot of weirdos so going in dapat thick skinned ka and hindi ka madaling ma affect ng mga sinasabi or ginagawa nila. Trial and error din siya.

@angeljolie pareho tayo i am talking to my ex again. we met for coffee last week and since then he's been texting regularly and asking me out again. I kept declining kasi pinapa kiramdaman ko pa if i want to be with him knowing na ganun na naman ang mangyayari. Coz most likely it's the same thing dahil same person e. To make it work dapat tanggap natin lahat lahat.

Sa online dating naman a few days ago a guy i was chatting with last march messaged me saying he is coming to the philippines by end of May. During that time kasi he was asking me kung ano daw best time para pumunta siya dito to visit me. But then naputol na communication namin nito lang ulit nagparamdam. I made it clear to him that if he comes here there will be no intimacy just companionship. For now i'll just play it by ear. Whatever is meant to be will be.

@kvandenhaak congrats for being fb friends with the athlete. Tama naman yung ginagawa mo to just enjoy the moment. Most guys are like that they live in the present. As long as they are happy they are staying. And that is better than putting so much pressure on each other to the point na nagiging toxic na.