My past came back :(

[Twisterfries31]

Hi I am really confused and sad right  now, probably my situation is similar sa mga ibang sis dito nabasa ko, but I want to share mine para I can also get a good advice on what I should do.

Here is my situation:
I just dated a guy from my past recently. Last kami nagkita 8 years ago pa, and our set up that time is MU Lang kami,we do what couples do pero that time kasi he just broke up sa long term gf niya. That is why we don't have a formal relationship, sabi nya he likes me pero I can't understand why he can't commit with me. Kasi nag work siya that time. Inconsistent yung pag kita namen. To cut it short, bigla ng one day hindi na nagparamdam. Years past na and I moved on already, and one day nag travel ako with friends tapos I think I saw him and he reminded me of my past, so I searched him via social media and i msg him, he replied and told me na siya nga yung nakita ko. Tapus don na nagstart  ang communication namen. He told me his reasons why bigla nalang siya nawala na wala man Lang pasabi,reason niya is na focus na siya sa work and until na destino na siya sa ibang bansa at naging ofw. He is successful na now and has a good position sa company where he works. So sabi niya he has a big responsibility and pressure sa work niya. By the way he is still single he is already 40 now and I am 34 am also single but had many relationship too.. nung one time umuwi siya sa Pinas we went out and had intimate moment siguro dahil namiss namen isat isa. Then we talk and I asked him about us, then his reason is. Sa ngayon his priority is his career  pero he wants to have a baby with me daw. Ang labo nga eh, ayaw makipag commit pero gusto ng baby.. dito ako mejo na confused.. sabi niya kasi he can't give the time of being a bf kasi nga sa demand ng work niya, manager siya.. na sad ako and disappointed sa part na yon. Para kasi bumalik lahat yung nangyari samen from the past..
he knows I am disappointed pero sabi niya, eh ganon daw kasi talaga siya.
Eh I still like him after all siguro dahil stable na siya and bumalik feelings ko..
Do you guys think I have to wait or or I need to start moving on nalang.. 😓

[khaleesiCersei]

Hi sis! Move on na, mga lalaking ganyan eh hindi dapat pinag aaksayahan ng energy. He is an *censored* and mukhang alam niya na gustong gusto mo siya kaya pinaglalaruan niya feelings mo. He is not that into you. You don?t deserve to be treated like a doormat. Please save yourself. madami pang iba dyan mas deserving. Wish you the best sis!

[Miss Taken]

My first question to you sis is if he can't commit to you now then paano na lang if magka baby nga kayo? He can't even give you the time as a bf then how much more as a father to a child.

You don't have any assurance at all that he will be there to support and take care of you. Based on your story, he's a guy who doesn't want any commitments at matali sa isang babae because his priority is his career at malinaw na at this time you're not even part of his plans. It's good that he's stable financially but at this point in your life, do you really want to be with someone who's already at the right age pero hindi pa rin kayang maghandle ng relationship?

He's being an a**hole because he's very much aware that you like him.

[plumpolka]

He just wants to have sex with you. You should know by now that guys will always say things you want to hear just to get into your pants. He can even say he loves you and not meant it just for you to have sex with him. Wag naniniwala sa mga sinasabi ng mga lalaki. Listen to their words but always believe in their actions.

[three8one]

Hoy! Gising!....

yan ang isa sa mga programa ni Ted Failon sa TV. gising kapatid.. baka nun time na sinabi ng ex mo na gusto nya magka baby sayo eh masyado pa siyang high sa comeback sex na nangyari sa inyo. sa totoo lang ang gusto mangyari ng ex mong set up eh pag na horny sya meron agad siya mapapagparausan.. harsh ang dating pero yun ang katotohanan.

[minabey]

Sabi nga nila, kung gusto may paraan, kung ayaw may dahilan.

My take on this is he wants to have a baby with you - just because he's already a certain age where people are having families already but he doesn't want to commit or hasn't found the person worth committing to so he's asking around for a Baby Mama instead.

I think if he was really into you, he'd have found the time and made an effort to seek you out but at least he's honest about how much he can give into the relationship. At least you know where you stand. If you have a child with him, baka nagdagdag ka lang ng another person for him to ignore. He says his number one priority is his career. May disclaimer agad: bawal mag demand, di kita priority. 

Could you live with this situation?

[Shadow Angel]

Wag ka magpa anak dyan wag ka man damay ng inosenteng bata na hindi mo alam kung ano ang future sa kung magkakaroon ba ng normal or buong pamilya or worst kung magbibigay ng sustento sa bata para sa akin ang selfish na gigustuhin na magka anak without thinking sa future ng bata. Kayo may choice magkababy pero ang baby hindi kayo kaya piliin bilang magulang. Pasintabi sa iba pero para sa akin hindi rin ako pabor sa mga babae na gusto magka anak lang kahit walang tatay. Although nagiging normal na ang pagiging single parent mahirap pa rin lumaki na hindi buo ang pamilya much more hindi mabigyan ng attention dahil busy kakatrabaho para itaguyod ang anak. Wala ka naman dapat problema kung hindi ka nagmessage. Sure ka single sya? Walang kalive in or gf or asawa kaya? Sinasabi na nga sayo ng harapan na hindi sya makapagcommit sayo naguguluhan ka pa rin malinaw naman hindi ka nya gusto.

[kvandenhaak]

Iniwan ka nya dati without even telling you what happened. You're the one who reached out first after years of not hearing from him. Now, he can't commit because of his career. Translation: I don't really care about you but if I can hook up with you, then it's fine.

Don't even think of getting pregnant. Para kang kumuha ng batong ipupukpok sa ulo mo.

[simang]

Ang labo nga eh, ayaw makipag commit pero gusto ng baby.. dito ako mejo na confused..

Nothing confusing here, buti pa nga transparent sya sa bagay na yan, hindi ka nya gusto, gusto nya lang ng anak. He just said he wants a baby with you kasi ikaw ang nandyan ngayon at willing umagree sa kanya. Syempre, kung papayag ka, win win sya, magkaka baby sya without commitment with anyone.

So i hope by this time alam mo na dapat gawin.

[shinies]

Dagdagan ang self respect at wag maghabol sa isang taong di ka naman mahalaga.

[kaythrielle]

Move on na lang sis.
Just wait for the guy who will love you and commit to you, hindi yung aanakan ka lang.

You deserve someone much better than him.

[annhalay]

Girl, move on! The fact that he can't commit and he said that e masyadong in  your face na yun sis, dont you think?  You deserve more.  Until when ka maghihintay sa wala? Divert your attention sa iba. Madami naman ways to meet new people if you need. 

[lesters_gal]

Sis wake up!!!! Wag mag t**** tangahan. Napaka simple lang ng sagot sa tanong mo. At ikaw mismo alam mo ang sagot. Gagamitin ka lang ng lalakeng yan. Madali lang i-decode ang mga lalake as easy as ABC. Kung ano na yung sinabi niya, yun na yun at hindi yun magbabago kahit magka anak pa kayo. Kaya please lang itigil mo na yan, dahil in the long run ikaw ang kawawa.

[mica07]

It feels so sad kapag hindi ikaw yung pinili niya, worse, eh mas gusto niya career niya. sinabihan mo na lang sana na pakasalan mo nalang kaya ang career mo. HAHAHAHAH i MEAN JUST ENLIGHTEN HIM A BIT, na kapag nagretire ka makaksama mo ba ang career mo? And bakit kailangang iprioritize mo ang career mo? what has he gain with it? MONEY? pero yung feeling na may mauuwian siya, mahuhug niya paguwi niya. WALA. I mean, most men kasi are hardheaded, sometimes what they need is understanding and support, You can support him naman but the question is are you willing to be not his priority? Ask yourself din sis, are you willing to wait for him or let go of him and let that someone special for you find you, someone who would make their priority is to make you happy, marami pang lalaki ang ganyan, let them do it for you. Kaya din siguro hindi nagwork yung mga relationships mo kasi you cannot let go of that past, Let go of him, you deserve better. and kung kayo, kayo nman talga. but as of now, let go talaga.