Why do men pay for sex

[dismembered]

Really? Wow! Eh madali lang naman maghanap for girls kung sex din lang ang hanap? Not tooting my own horn but if I really want to right now, may dalawang bagets na naghihintay. But then maybe pag talagang Madame Auring na ang peg ko then I might consider paying for it...lol! For now, I am good!

Paying for it doesn't mean na hindi afford makuha yun for free. Sadyang may mga other better reasons lang kaya people pay for it. For example na lang yung mga reasons:

1. Privacy.
Instead of getting involved with some adventurous people willing to do it for free, may mga tao na mas gusto doon sa mga "pro" dahil mas kampante sila sa privacy doon. BTW, may vouching system din sa ganitong kalakaran kaya you'll know if matino yung babayaran mo to protect your identity.
2. The Quality of the service.
 Kung kukuha ka for free ng random, hindi mo malalaman if satisfied ka ba sa magaganap. At least when you pay, you almost know what you are paying for. May mga list sila ng service nila at expectations. So people pay to get the service that they want.
3. Looks.
Well, possible na may random strangers or friends na available and willing for free. Pero you don't have that much options. So if you are willing to pay, pwede ka mamili.

[kvandenhaak]

^Privacy, well okay...fine. I guess, you can have things in black and white. However, quality of service? It's not a guarantee that you will get it until it happens. Daming kayang mga lalake, maigi lang sa satsat pero walang binatbat...lol! There's lots of options in randon strangers, trust me. The biggest concern is STD...lol! Anyways, I didn't know that there's such a thing available for girls. More power to us...lol! But I will agree to the sister here that it parang it makes you feel ugly if you have to pay someone for sex. Besides, you gotta feel something for that person before you make yourself that vulnerable. But then that's just me. I can't separate emotion and libido. It goes hand in hand.

[dismembered]

^ I understand naman yung point nyo. Somehow, ganun din ang dating sa aming mga lalake if nagbabayad kami, para bang ang desperado na for that. But anyway, like what I've said, iba pa din sa "pro". Yung service nila, yung iba nag include ng BDSM, role playing, or etc na hindi normally acceptable. Doing it with strangers or other people for free, baka ma-judge ka pa. hehe.

And for some other places, yung mga sex workers eh mas calculated ang risk of getting an STD kesa sa random strangers you could get for free. sex workers regularly have their medical check up. Kailangan nila yun para sa work nila while yung mga random adventurous strangers eh mas risky kasi hindi nila consider yun.

[kvandenhaak]

^Oh ok. So, it means kaya nagbabayad ang lalake is because they can demand what they want the girl to do. Like for instance they have fetish na hindi masabi sa wife/GF nila and so they will pay to satisfy that need. Why just not tell the wife/GF? Speaking of "pro", as if naman merong regulatory body that will certify that someone is clean or not. That's still a gamble, in my opinion.

[naizlabonita]

^ I understand naman yung point nyo. Somehow, ganun din ang dating sa aming mga lalake if nagbabayad kami, para bang ang desperado na for that. But anyway, like what I've said, iba pa din sa "pro". Yung service nila, yung iba nag include ng BDSM, role playing, or etc na hindi normally acceptable. Doing it with strangers or other people for free, baka ma-judge ka pa. hehe.

And for some other places, yung mga sex workers eh mas calculated ang risk of getting an STD kesa sa random strangers you could get for free. sex workers regularly have their medical check up. Kailangan nila yun para sa work nila while yung mga random adventurous strangers eh mas risky kasi hindi nila consider yun.

Agree ako dito..saka coming from my partner who previously got hooked sa ganito (spakol).. well I dunno kung yun yung main reason nya no..sabi nya kasi.. iba daw ang approach din ng mga girls duon.. like sobrang lambing daw.. talagang Ma PR (syempre kasi binabayaran eh no) and nakaka wala nga daw ng stress at papakinggan ka daw talaga..kasi other than sex itself.. my Girlfriend experience din eh yung tipong ..kakausapin ka ng pabebe, kiss at hug....hehe...mga ganyan.. eh you know guys they like it kahit na alam nilang may halong kaplastikan haha.
Saka yes, they get down to business without making it difficult for a guy unlike if liligawan mo pa si girl.. bibisitahin everyday syempre buhos effort pa..eh duon.. kung gustu lang nila ng sex..edi sex lang then out na..saka tama.. nako well trained yung mga babae dun..hinde talaga sila aamin for sure they will keep the privacy kasi maski sila hinde alam ng pamilya nila ang hidden agenda ng trabaho nila. Secured sila.
True din yun na nagpapacheck up sila at hinde basta basta nagpapa Live. Always naka condom yan kaya feeling safe yung mga lalake kaya pabalik balik din. I sent a message sa isang Therapist before nung nag iinvestigate ako and nagpanggap akong customer.. talagang detailed nyang sinabi sakin yung rates nya sa bawat position and paano yung gagawin.. pati ultimong paulit ulit nyang sasabihin na gustu nya malinis daw kame dapat pag andun na bagong ligo daw  blah blah..hahaha.
Anyway, I do not condemn din the girls kasi they are really the victim, may nakausap din ako na isa pa at talagang antindi ng pinagdaanan nya kung baket siya umabot sa ganung trabaho.
I guess.. madameng factor and reasons why guys pay for sex..pero if you have the right values and you have a strong virtues eh hinde ka basta basta mapupunta sa maling temptations.
Dame ko lang hugot.sorry haha.

[kvandenhaak]

^Hah, you gave me an idea...lol! No, hindi ako maghahanap ng bayaran. I just mean kasi meron akong lalandiin ng todo-todo so kelangan pala pa-sweet. Ay, hindi rin po ako magpapabayad. I am seeing that guy naman. I just need to do something. Thank you!

[dismembered]

^Oh ok. So, it means kaya nagbabayad ang lalake is because they can demand what they want the girl to do. Like for instance they have fetish na hindi masabi sa wife/GF nila and so they will pay to satisfy that need. Why just not tell the wife/GF? Speaking of "pro", as if naman merong regulatory body that will certify that someone is clean or not. That's still a gamble, in my opinion.

Telling the wife/GF doesn't necessarily mean na pagbibigyan siya sa kung ano man ang gusto. So to make things not complicated, mag pay na lang sila to get what they want the easy way.

Sa ibang bansa may legal regulatory body ang mga sex workers. And if you just dig deeper, may unspoken regulatory body din kahit discreet dito sa Pinas. Andun ang vouching system and etc.. You'll be surprised kasi may mga doctors din na involved sa community na ito. At kapag may panic na nagaganap among the community, they will require everyone to get a health certificate. Ang hindi mag comply, nasa "beware" list.

[mysterioza_me]

May naalala pala ako, i had an officemate before na very much married and she swore na never nag-bj, kahit daw irequest ng hubby niya na ang bj e ayaw niya. Nabababuyan daw siya and parang nakakaliit daw ng pagkatao niya. So kung ok kay hubby at naiintindihan ang stand ni wife e di good pero yung naghahanap talaga ng bj most likely e hanapin ang serbisyo na yun sa iba.

[kvandenhaak]

^Oh, lol! Ako, dyan naman expert.

[mysterioza_me]

^Ako din sis. Gustong gusto ko kaya yan. Give and take kami sa ganyan no. After niya ako naman pasiyahin niya hahaha

[shinies]

May naalala pala ako, i had an officemate before na very much married and she swore na never nag-bj, kahit daw irequest ng hubby niya na ang bj e ayaw niya. Nabababuyan daw siya and parang nakakaliit daw ng pagkatao niya. So kung ok kay hubby at naiintindihan ang stand ni wife e di good pero yung naghahanap talaga ng bj most likely e hanapin ang serbisyo na yun sa iba.

Ok sa mister niya? Hanggang ngayon ba hinihingi pa din ng mister niya?
Baka may ibang effective na paraan siya para ma-please si mister kaya ok na din.

[mysterioza_me]

^Not sure sis since wala na kaming communication nung lumipat na ako ng company. Newly married sila ng time na yun, i think less than 6mos pa lang kaya nakakatiis pa si guy na walang bj. I just told her magbabago pa ang stand niya sa bj pagtagal ng pagsasama nila at mawala inhibitions niya. Ang sarap kaya nun lalo na kapag ni-return ni hubby ang pleasure.

[aquacharly]

They pay so they can make "weird"/kinky or ab-normal sex demands
Some, to assuage their guilt, or to rationalize their kahayukan:  I didn't get involved; hindi ko linigawan; bayaran lang yan; parang nag order lang ako as in: 1 ngang p#ki! 

[cupcakejane]

Haha naalala ko kasi sis yung article ni Rey Pumaloy na ikinagalit ni Saab M, medyo ganun ang context.

^Lakas naman makapanget sa ating girls if magbabayad tayo for sex. Pero i have to agree na baka kapag super kulubot na e iconsider na din ang pagbabayad ng serbisyo haha.

True!  Nakakahiya naman to be the one paying for it. Sana may lalaki who can answer 

[dismembered]

^

I'm a guy. And the way men view this is very different sa inyo.  At some point, kapag mga bata pa or college ang mga lalake, same ng thoughts sa inyo na lakas naman makapangit kapag need pa nila magbayad to get laid. Parang ang hina naman ni ganito para magbayad p. Pero believe me, nung tumanda na ang mga yan at may iba ibang priorities sa buhay na mas kailangan pagaksayahan ng panahon, they'd rather pay na lang to get laid tutal pansamantalang aliw lang naman talaga ang need nila. Mas tumatanda ang mga lalake, mas humihina ang game nila at mas kumokonti din ang time to fool around. Kaya they'd rather pay. And sa mga view ng mga ibang lalake na kapwa may edad na, hindi ikinapapanget nila yun. It shows their power and influence etc...

[three8one]

most of the men pay kasi ayaw nila ng may mini maintain.mas magastos yung ganun at sometimes pag nag tagal na nagiging demanding yun babae sa material, financial at time.

[sarsingkit]

I guess when it comes to older women who pay for sex, ang habol naman nila is someone who can be there for them all the time. Since binabayaran ko ang oras me, be sure to be there for me when I need you and to do whatever it is that pleases me. On some level, it shows din yung power and wealth ng babae if they can pay for sex. I mean, yes, women can get it for free. And since nagbabayad ka, it means you have money to throw away diba.

I've been to gay bars and I see Lolas there. Haha. I did not think na ikinapanget nila yun or whatever. Masaya nga ako for them kasi andun na sila sa age na they are confident with their choices na.

Now, kung bata ka pa or like me that I'm in my 30s. I just don't see any reason why I would pay for sex. No judgement though to people who choose that path. Its just not for me.

[kvandenhaak]

I already revealed my age here in GT and I don't think I will get to the stage where I will pay for it. Me nagkakagusto pa naman... LOL! But kudos sa mga ka age ko na kayang magbayad. YOLO, sabi nga nila.

[cupcakejane]

So men, is it acceptable if the husband is paying for multiple women and at the same time may binahay?  Ang reason is because mas malinis daw yung binahay and there are things that the girl won't do.  Take note paid woman yun, but he has 2 more women for other things.  And he has other one night stands too.

[three8one]

^ knowing na may asawa sya, lahat ng nabanggit mo hindi na acceptable.