Why do men pay for sex

[patchuchai]

sakin naman he doesnt pay for sex, noong bata pa siya lets say he is chinito good looking, nag asawa siya ng maaga nagkaanak, pero aminado siya he was not satisfied kaya naghanap siya sa iba at willing naman mga babae na meet niya. usually subordinate niya then mga nakilala, alam naman nila situation niya na he is married. first place pa lang sinabi na niya conditions niya and all the girls payag naman. its just plain s*x. Masuwerte na lang hindi siya nagka aids and wala siyang nabuntis sa mga ito. Nung nalman ng asawa niya there was constant fight pero nasanay na rin si wife, kasi naman he is almost perfect, iyon lang talaga weakness niya. Now that he is 60+ sabi nga niya kasalanan niya talaga naging mahilig siya pero wala naman siyang pinaiyak na babae kasi he was honest sa umpisa pa lang. Sabi nga niya as he age nabawasan na rin ang urge niya.

[yourboyToy]

dati talaga hindi ko rin maintindihan kung bakit may mga lalaking ganun. ngayong nararamdaman kong wala nang gana ang asawa ko sa sex napapaisip ako na baka isa yun sa mga dahilan. at napapaisip na rin talaga ako gumawa nito.

factual na sagot lamang po. mula sa isang lalaki.

[glamorosa_09]

@yourboytoy
^What hurts/bothers you more?

Hindi ma-satisfy yung sexual needs (di makarelease)? Or you don't feel wanted sexually and emotionally by your wife?

[futboler_dati]

naisip ko rin minsan subukan to. lalo na nung panahon na tuyo ang lupa. pero, kapag naiisip ko yung mga possible consequence, umaatras ako. mahirap na,

but generally, wala akong maisip na malalim na dahilan why men pay for sex.

tama yung sinabi ni@galmorosa09. okay lang na pag-usapan nyong mag-asawa ang sex. walang mali dun.

[Girltalker2]

Patchuchai/ yourboytoy - pero Hindi ba obligasyon ng hubby sabihin sa asawa nya na may pangangailangan sya? And if he is not happy, sabihin nalang nya sa asawa nya na panahon na maghiwalay kasi walang point magsama sila if he needs to engage in extramarital sex.

Ang hirap kasi, kung ikaw yung guy, why would you pay for sex secretly at itago sa wife? She has to know that you're thinking about it na because she cannot be the wife you thought she was supposed to be. Nang sa ganun, fair ang labanan, alam ni wife ang issue and if she didn't do something about it, or di man lang magtry kung pano nyo ma resolve, then dun nanga kayo mag hiwalay para both sides happy.

Kasi for all you know, akala ni wife Ok lang Kay hubby kahit walang sex. If u just tell her you're at the point to give up marriage na because of thiS, and that's how importAnt it is to you, Baka matauhan. At least honest ka, kung mahuli ka man, she knew it even before you did it. At Hindi yung para kang cheater at magnanakaw na nagtatago at natatakot mahuli.


Back to the topic why men pay for sex... Kung may asawa na at game naman lagi si wife, si husband Lang talaga ang gusto ng variety... well this is a different story. This shows that the husband is just an *sshole na parang hayop.

[naizlabonita]

@Girltalker2
Ayan nasapol mo GirlTalker2. Agree ako sa lahat ng sinabi mo.

[kvandenhaak]

I wonder if these guys think about the possibility of getting STDs at hawahan ang wives.

[Ann_2128]

I wonder if these guys think about the possibility of getting STDs at hawahan ang wives.

I don't think so. Kasi if they knew the consequences of the act they wouldn't engage to it.. A***hole talaga sila..

naisip ko rin minsan subukan to. lalo na nung panahon na tuyo ang lupa. pero, kapag naiisip ko yung mga possible consequence, umaatras ako. mahirap na,

but generally, wala akong maisip na malalim na dahilan why men pay for sex.

tama yung sinabi ni@galmorosa09. okay lang na pag-usapan nyong mag-asawa ang sex. walang mali dun.

tama naman ang desisiyon mo.. buti ka pa mataas ang self control mo. Wag ka na tumulad sa mga husband namin...

[glamorosa_09]

Kung sakaling the husband availed this service, I would guess na hindi na rin masaya ang marriage nila. The basic element of any relationship, which is communication, baka dyan pa lang semplang na.

Emotional needs (e.g., appreciation, attention) nga lang mahirap na i-express at i-communicate nang malinaw at walang away, sexual needs pa kaya. To communicate these needs, the couple must really have a good relationship in the first place.

Kahit naman tanggalin mo yang mga accessible services na yan, doesn't guarantee a good marriage. But it sure added to their already strained marriage.(I guess).

My point, start from the basic.

[izabelle]

Why do men pay for sex - Maybe because hindi sila kuntento sa meron sila?

If they are single then that's fine, baka gusto lang mag try ng iba ibang babae.  After all walang masama, single naman e.

But if married? Baka hindi kuntento sa wife or sa married life nya.

I honestly think na kapag hindi kuntento ang tao sa asawa nya at sa married life nila, kahit gaano pa kasexy or kaganda ang asawa at kahit araw araw pa makipag sex ang asawa nya, hahanap at hahanap pa din ng iba yan and he will still pay for sex sa ibang babae.

Simply because hindi kuntento e. Hahanap at hahanap ng iba at ijujustify ang kalokohan kahit alam naman mali.

Girltalker2 is right, *sshole lang ang peg ng mga ganyan. 

[futboler_dati]

^ what do you mean po by kuntento? sa lahat ng aspect ba dapat?

[drinveilside]

I dont know why my post didnt go through. I honestly dont know if there are girls that would really be okay with sex even if they are married.

wife ko nga got pissed kahit na once a week nalang kami minsan pa 2 times a month lang. simply because wala daw sya sa mood sya pa nga nag sasabi dun nalang daw ako sa bayaran.

she even told me na nasira daw image ko when i raised the topic of sex

i guess may mga babae lang talaga na can live without it right?

I wonder at what point in time does a guy should stop having sex with his wife.. do we factor kids because honestly i dont know why a girl would complain about having sex with her husband

[naizlabonita]

I dont know why my post didnt go through. I honestly dont know if there are girls that would really be okay with sex even if they are married.

wife ko nga got pissed kahit na once a week nalang kami minsan pa 2 times a month lang. simply because wala daw sya sa mood sya pa nga nag sasabi dun nalang daw ako sa bayaran.

she even told me na nasira daw image ko when i raised the topic of sex

i guess may mga babae lang talaga na can live without it right?

I wonder at what point in time does a guy should stop having sex with his wife.. do we factor kids because honestly i dont know why a girl would complain about having sex with her husband

even before ba kayo magka baby ganyan na si wife mo? Kasi kung after baby siya naging ganyan may possibility na talagang bumaba yung libido ni wifey. However, if you are married, responsiblity ni wifey un. Pero still that does not give the man a license to pay for sex or cheat if the wifey will not give into it. Kelangan lang mag usap, kung needed na ischeschedule nyo yan.. mas mabuti.

[blushberry]

He told me that he looked and paid for it because I was unwilling when i was pregnant and it just went on from there.  As long as alam ng husband natin na once ginawa yan, there is no turning back and there won't be any more chances.  Pag ganito ang attitude natin, men will think twice before hiring again.

[drinveilside]

even before ba kayo magka baby ganyan na si wife mo? Kasi kung after baby siya naging ganyan may possibility na talagang bumaba yung libido ni wifey. However, if you are married, responsiblity ni wifey un. Pero still that does not give the man a license to pay for sex or cheat if the wifey will not give into it. Kelangan lang mag usap, kung needed na ischeschedule nyo yan.. mas mabuti.

its probably the libido part but the thing is sometimes a month would pass by wala . tapos if i want it ayaw parin .. she doesnt even want to talk about it.

sure it doesnt give me the license to cheat but i thought about it honestly since she said na i should just pay some for sex

[naizlabonita]

sure it doesnt give me the license to cheat but i thought about it honestly since she said na i should just pay some for sex

Nako sinasabi lang yan ni misis mo pero pag nalaman nya na ginagawa mo magagalit un for sure..its a trap lol

[luckysiete]

I discovered that my hubby has a fb dummy account to flirt with different girls whom he doesn't know. (e.g. "Hi you look sexy on that picture"  "You made my c** tight."  "Let's meet on friday"

I think he is hooking up with other girls.
"Available ba si ***? "Send ka ng pic ng makapili ako." "This is my only money pang check in pa." etc. etc.

I confronted him and told me wala lang yun. He never uses other girls daw.  But, I don't believe him. He's a damn liar. Huli na nga todo deny pa. I want to gather more evidence, but how?

[naizlabonita]

I discovered that my hubby has a fb dummy account to flirt with different girls whom he doesn't know. (e.g. "Hi you look sexy on that picture"  "You made my c** tight."  "Let's meet on friday"

I think he is hooking up with other girls.
"Available ba si ***? "Send ka ng pic ng makapili ako." "This is my only money pang check in pa." etc. etc.

I confronted him and told me wala lang yun. He never uses other girls daw.  But, I don't believe him. He's a damn liar. Huli na nga todo deny pa. I want to gather more evidence, but how?

Hi Sis, I found out about my partner's shenanigans and confirmed it when I made an account dun sa site that he uses to communicate and avail services of those girls. So I was able to track and saw his activities.. and also we do not have a car we just use his dad's so whenever he go out he uses grab and uber and dun ko na confirm yung places and massage spas with extras that he goes to same kung ano yung nasa site. Then mas naconfirm ko nung may mga nag memessage sakanya and I copied their numbers while he is sleeping tapos pinag tetext ko so naconfirm kong mga bayarang babae sila.
What account or site ba meron si hubby mo?

[shinies]

I want to gather more evidence, but how?

Kung may budget ka, kuha ng private investigator/hacker.

[Girltalker2]

wife ko nga got pissed kahit na once a week nalang kami minsan pa 2 times a month lang. simply because wala daw sya sa mood sya pa nga nag sasabi dun nalang daw ako sa bayaran.

Responsibility ninyong mag asawa pag usapan ito. Feeling ko naman di lang kasalanan ng wife if tumatanggi sya.

Pag sinabi nya sa bayaran ka nalang pumunta, then ask her if she is serious. But of course after analyzing muna your circumstances.

Feeling ko kasi pag walang gana si wife, puede ng maraming factors. In a typical Filipino household, wives are usually saddled with household chores while also earning at the same time, taking care of kids pa. With all these responsibilities, ine-expect pa ni husband na in the mood Si wife sa lovemaking?

Para sakin, di purkit mag asawa na kayo, you will stop flirting with her. You should still try to seduce, woo her, appreciate her, be romantic in your own ways. Make her feel beautiful always. Help her around the house and make sure di sya napapagod. Help her avoid circumstances na na-s-stress sya.

My ex never bothered about this pero pansin ko iyan sa current partner ko. If alam nya stressed ako sa work, sya nag p prepare ng dinner for me and the kids. He tries to get to know me by knowing when I'm happy when I get easily irritated. For example, maikli patience ko kung gutom ako. Di ko iyan alam pero sya nakapansin. Then iiwasan nya situations where di ako nag dinner or he makes sure busog ako at night, especially if he has intentions. Idk, but I feel so loved and cared for, parang it's just nice to be intimate with someone you know who looks after you.
Di ba ito ang general feeling naman ng mga babae? At least to me.

she even told me na nasira daw image ko when i raised the topic of sex

i guess may mga babae lang talaga na can live without it right?

Kasi for us we really don't look for sex. We look for love and romance. Hindi instantaneous na hahanap hanapin namin ang sex. At least iyan ang paniniwala ko. Unlike for men, part na ng physiology kasi nyo iyan.

So the trick really is to engage her in sexy conversations. Not sex talaga but trying to find her soft side kung San sya or kelan sya bumibigay
When you got married, how did you ever initiate sex? Recall those times. Paano naman kayo nag honeymoon before?

And siguro if tumatanggi sya, let it be for a while. Woo her in different ways (not sex), and I'm sure aabot ang time sya ang mag aaya sayo.