My Boyfriend doesn't want to posts our photos on Social Media

[minikeyklush]

We've been together (in a commitment relationship) for 2 months now but he doesn't feel comfortable posting photos of us or me tagging him on photos I posted specifically on facebook. Our relationship status were already linked to our fb account publicly and we already met both our families. When I asked why he prefers that way, he just said that he want things about our relationship to remain private. The questions are:

Am I being overdramatic?
Is it silly to care about social media?
Is it silly to get upset?
Should I be worried?

I hope someone can enlighten me here. Thanks!

[mimiku]

Am I being overdramatic?
- IMO, no you're not. As long as you haven't taken any dramatic actions like crying the hell out of it.

Is it silly to care about social media?
- No. I assume you are a millennial. Pretty much nowadays, all people are into social media. Heck even my mom does have an account... unfortunately. The question is, how far in terms of your need to persuade your bf to post couple pictures? Are you one of those ladies who take PDAFB(public display of affection on FB) religiously? If so, baka naman nakokornihan si bf? In all sincerity, wala namang problema magpost ng pictures sa FB. People want to share good times. You are just normal like everyone of us. It's just that maybe, your bf is not into this kind of sharing unless he is himself also is hooked up on FB as well. If he is that kind of guy who is online lagi and posts lots of pictures aba, magtaka ka na kung bakit ayaw niya.

Is it silly to get upset? - If I were your shoes, I'll be a tad bit upset and curious. Again, this is me. Curious because, most men I know, doesn't really care whether you post pictures of them or not. Some even like sharing pictures of their gfs. So in his case, there is an underlying cause - mahirap magauge since basically I don't know your bf or have any info about how he uses his own social media. However, dapat wala lang yung ganitong mga bagay sa kanya. Wala lang in a sense that it should not make him uncomfortable because it's just pictures. Ano namang masama kung gusto mong magpost ng pictures niyo together?

Should I be worried? - It's too early to be worried. Magworry ka na lang kung 6 months or so, ayaw niya pa rin.

[books_mags]

it might be early warning sign unless he can give you a very good reason why he doesnt want to post pictures.

my friend was under the same situation and was caught by surprise na iba ibang babae kasi ka chat sa fb nung bf. the last girl she discovered, the bf was planning the civil wedding na pala with the other girl so she was left with no explanation.

[kvandenhaak]

If your relationship status is already on social media, then he can't lie about your relationship. So, it's not like he wants to hide you from the public. Besides, we know that he can always create another account if he really wants to. Two months is very early in a relationship. For now, don't overthink because it's a relationship killer. Enjoy what you have now.

[minikeyklush]

thanks sis @mimiku, @kvandenhaak and @book_mags!

*just to be fair, he never posted/share/uploaded anything sa social media na nagstart few yrs ago pa but may mga tagged photos sya per his approval siguro on his timeline with friends and officemates early this yr. So I asked him what's the difference between his friends/coworkers tagging him and girlfriend na itatag sya sa photo and he just flatly answers na ayoko lang talaga na ipublicize yung sa relationship matter and baka maging source pa daw ng away lalo na daw yung sa liking/commenting on photos or posts thingy sa ibang kanetwork nya sa fb then baka may maoverlook syang post ko na di nya nalike or malagyan ng comment. He mainly points out na he uses fb as an extension of messaging app with long time friends or relative and updates daw sa sports page then he once in while uses to search infos or reviews kasi nga linked na ang fb sa google.

Again nakalink naman ang name namin sa fb na we are in a relationship (hindi nga lang sya nabroadcast as a life event becoz he did it discreetly) but may mga times talaga na i just don't understand yung pagrefuse nya of posting our photos together. I am not the kind of girl naman na mapost din ng every details of life or mapost ng PDA with my significant other sa social media but may mga times lang na i sincerely just wanted to share the moment out of happiness.

[Shadow Angel]

Kami mag asawa till now ayaw ni hubby ang mga tag at magpost ako ng mga events at lalo na mga private moment namin 2. Lalo na baby no photos allowed na upload ang photos ng anak namin kahit pa hindi naka tag or whatever. Una hindi magfb si hubby besides meron kami photos sa fb nya pero less than 5 lang ata. So far no worries nakikita ko naman fb nya if gugustuhin ko pero hindi ko ginagawa. Anytime naman pwede ko icheck kasi di sya nag lolog out sa phone. Kahit mga friends ni hubby and relatives limited lang ang mafb. Better kausapin mo bf mo ano pinaka main reason nya.

[shinies]

May point naman yung gusto ng privacy.
Gaano kadalas ka ba nagpopost ng photos? Anong klaseng photos ito? Nakakasira ba ng privacy? (Tipong kita kung san kayo nagpunta, ano mga ginagawa niyo, etc.) O mukha niyo lang magkasama kayo at di alam kung san?

ayoko lang talaga na ipublicize yung sa relationship matter and baka maging source pa daw ng away lalo na daw yung sa liking/commenting on photos or posts thingy sa ibang kanetwork nya sa fb then baka may maoverlook syang post ko na di nya nalike or malagyan ng comment.

Di kaya nagkaron ng isyu sa ex niya na ganyan kaya ngayon nagiingat na siya? Kasi bakit magkakaron ng away..

SIguro hayaan mo muna tutal bago pa lang kayo?
O kaya compromise na private posting yung kayo lang makakakita

[minikeyklush]

May point naman yung gusto ng privacy.
Gaano kadalas ka ba nagpopost ng photos? Anong klaseng photos ito? Nakakasira ba ng privacy? (Tipong kita kung san kayo nagpunta, ano mga ginagawa niyo, etc.) O mukha niyo lang magkasama kayo at di alam kung san?

Di kaya nagkaron ng isyu sa ex niya na ganyan kaya ngayon nagiingat na siya? Kasi bakit magkakaron ng away..

SIguro hayaan mo muna tutal bago pa lang kayo?
O kaya compromise na private posting yung kayo lang makakakita

sis shinies

actually wala pa akong naipopost na pic kasi nga inaask ko muna if okay lang sa kanya then yun nga sagot nya sa akin. and based sa last na usap namin looks like naging issue nga sa kanila nung ex nya un. And tama ka nga siguro sis na ilet go ko muna yun para at least iwas sa away.

[amethyst028]

@TS just post pics if you want and if he doesn't want you to tag him then don't. Don't take it personally.

I had an ex na every time we go out he takes photos of us the posts it on social media. We fight all the time because of his possessiveness. We broke up after 2 years.

I have a bf now, we are together for 4monhs, we didn't post that we are in a realtionship, we don't have a single photo together on social media. We are very much in love and have never been happier. The best relationship we've ever had.

Bottom line, is that really super important in your relationship? Don't overthink things just respect his wishes. If he wants to he will do it.

[superjuzh]

two months pa lang naman pala, matagal pa pagsasamahan niyo kaya wait ka lang. in my experience, hindi rin mahilig magpost si bf ng tungkol samin sa facebook pero kapag may maganda kaming kuha at nasa mood siya magugulat na lang ako nagpopost siya at nakatag pa ko. ako din kasi yung tipo ng hindi mahilig magpost ng tungkol sa relationship halos ayoko nga eh gusto privare lang talaga.

[kvandenhaak]

Meron kasi talagang mga girls that gets that validation if the guy publicly shows her off.

[kaythrielle]

Iba na talaga ngayon, parang kasama na sa equation ng relationship ang social media.

Pag hindi updated ang status sa social media na "In a Relationship" or pag walang pictures together, parang the relationship does not exist.

Parang double edged sword eh. Pwedeng gusto nga ng privacy, which is reasonable, we can respect that.
Siguro for long term couples okay lang understandable.
Pero kung bago pa lang, bakit kaya. Kasi hindi ba dapat excited pa na ipagkalandakan sa mundo na kayo na.

But it depends siempre sa personality ng tao. TS you know your bf more so you should be able to answer your questions. Kung sya ba yung tipong hindi talaga active sa pag-upload ng pictures sa mga happenings or activities sa buhay nya? Or mga pictures lang na related sa relationship nyo?

[krabby_patty]

Talk to your partner about it. Tell him how you feel, and ask him why he prefers to keep things private. Make an effort to better understand where he's coming from. Communication is key!

There are a lot of advantages din naman in keeping things private. Trust me, your friends on social media don't want to see you day in day out in their news feed Don't sweat the small stuff. You said you've been together for 2 months - that's the best because honeymoon stage pa!!! Hope you get to the bottom of this issue soon. Good luck!

[khaleesiCersei]

Wait ka lang muna sis, ikaw na lang mag post ng pics nyo sa wall mo, bahala siya kung ayaw niya. Kumbaga gawin mo magpapasaya sayo. Tayong mga babae natural minsan gusto magpost ng happy moments so go, mag post ka.

Ngayon about his not posting on socmed about your relationship, If something is fishy naman, i think mararamdaman mo. Trust your instincts. Kung feeling mo may something at parang hindi ka kuntento sa binibigay niyang rason, baka nga may dapat kang malaman

[plumpolka]

for me:
not everyone who posts their relationship on fb ay masaya. happy relationship are mostly shared by the couple lang IN REAL LIFE at hindi mema lang sa fb. although a pic or 2 would be nice pero hindi naman ibig sabihin nun hindi na kayo masaya.

ganyan din issue ng bff ko sa bf nya. naging issue ko din to dati, then i asked myself bakit ba gusto ko na ipost nya ako palagi sa fb nya? for people to see na masaya kami sa relationship namin? bakit? hindi ba ako masaya pag magkasama kami kaya kailangan may validation pa thru social media? now, we're happy kasi never na kami nagka-issue dahil sa socmed.

just because hindi ka nya pinopost 24/7 doesnt mean he love you less and more so if he posts you 24/7 e he loves you more. for me, masyadong mababaw kasi yung issue ng fb lalo na kung nararamdaman mo naman na mahal ka nya IN REAL LIFE at hindi lang sa socmed nya. again, maybe naka-move on na kami sa issue na to, we post our pics siguro once a month na lang or if we want to share something special with our friends.


as to TS:
2 months palang, kilala mo na ba talaga? baka naman private na tao talaga or hindi din naman kasi sya ma-socmed kaya ganon. tsaka hindi ba mas mahalaga na kilala ka na ng family nya kesa makilala ka ng mga "friends" nya sa fb? ano ba mas importante sayo? sa fb o sa totoong buhay? kasi ako, mas magworry ako na kilala ako sa fb as gf pero never ko na-meet family nya.

[jelai424]

Different folks, different strokes. Kami kasi when we are courting, we decided na mag-deactivate pareho ng facebook. Masaya naman kami na walang socmed, aside from google plus. Walang masyadong distractions, at alam namin na masaya kami, genuine. No need ng validation sa socmed na most of the people naman na andun e mga lulubog lilitaw na tao lang sa buhay mo. Tapos nung nag-activate kami uli pareho, nagpopost kami, pero not on a regular basis. Pansin ko mas mapost ng pictures ang bf ko kesa sakin... Madalas tinatag ko sya sa mga nakikitakong vid, tapos sasabihin ko pag di nya napansin, tignan mo naman yung pinost ko. Then titignan na nya, magsosorry sya sasabihin nya busy kasi sya. Ganun lang, walang masyadong arte, kung ano nararamdaman/naiisip ko sinasabi ko sa kanya sinasabi namin sa isat isa, ganun din sya kapag too much fb na ang ginagawa ko pag magkasama kami, then I will put my phone down. No problems naman on both of our parts...

So I think, ganun din yung bf mo sis, give him benefit of the doubt... Kung di ka pa din mapakali, it's better talk to talk to him sa nararamdaman mo, if he really loves you macompromise sya or at least ia-assure ka nya na there is nothing to worry about... Pero pakiramdaman mo din sya observe mo pa din, syempre you want to be positive but not ignorant. Ikaw lang makakpagsabi nyan through the course of time

[naizlabonita]

Well I think siguru yung bf mo TS he is not that kind of person kaya siguru hindi siya pala post. Baka iba lang yung expectations mo for your relationship. Pero honestly, wala namang issue yun lalo bago palang kayo baka di pa siya sanay. No need to worry naman kung linked or nakikita naman pala sa FB ang relationship status nyo, it means hindi ka naman nya tinatago or kinakahiya or what. Maybe nga di pa siya sanay or hinde lang siya yung ganong tipo ng lalaki.

Yung boyfriend ko nung mga unang months namen Friendster pa uso non haha..tapos lumipat sa FB..linked din na in a relationship kame..hinde rin siya pala post ng pics namen.. kahit may okasyon wala. Hindi rin naman siya vain na tipong papalit palit ng FB mostly mga kalokohan lang pinopost nya..pero nung tumagal na kame siya yung post ng post at tag ng tag. Minsan nagugulat nalang ako kung ano ano na tinatag or post about samin.

So sis, chill ka lang no need to worry. Mag worry ka kung hinde ka kilala ng pamilya at friends nya, hinde nag appear or link FB relationship ninyo, tinatago at may PW ang cellphone at madalang kayo magkita. hahaha

[Ms. Undecided]

Yung bf ko miminsan lang mag post ng pic namin sa fb kung di ko pa aawayin. hahaha. Pero panay tag sakin sa mga picture niya kahit wala akong kinalaman dun haha. Di nga rin kami naka-in relationship sa fb eh. Dati kasi meron, siya naglagay. 3 years na lumpias di yun natanggal. Tinanggal ko nung nagkaroon kami ng major fight. Tapos nung nagkabati kami binalik niya tas kada mag-aaway kami, tinatanggal ko tas ina-unfriend ko siya. hahaha. Kaya ayun yung status namin sa fb parehas single xD nagagalit nga ko bakit di niya binabalik. sabi niya " alis ka ng alis. Di ko ibabalik yan hanggat di ka umaayos" hayy.

Kapag nga may bago akong post tas antagal niya bago ilike sasabihin ko, "di na ko magpopost, di mo naman nilalike" gagawin niya, pupunta siya sa profile ko tas la-like niya lahat ng post ko xD
Kapag ako naman di naglalike sa post niya, hindi naman big deal sa kanya kung di ko malike agad. Pero natawaq ako kanina, nagpost siya ng photos na galing siyang gym, tas sabi niya, "Di mo man lang pinususan picture ko" hahaha nagulat ako xD

[argento]

big deal ba sa inyo pag hindi pinopost pics niyo sa social media?

[naizlabonita]

big deal ba sa inyo pag hindi pinopost pics niyo sa social media?

Siguru sa simula big deal lalo kung bago bago pa relationship.. medyo mataas pa kasi expectations lalo ng girls saka medyo gustu ng girls yung i- flaunt yung love life..well most girls hehe.

Pero kung long term na siguru ang relationship medyo hinde na yan big deal.