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Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« on: May 31, 2017, 08:01:11 pm »
I'm 25 and ehem still virgin.  My friends tells me na late bloomer na daw ako and might give it away.




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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #1 on: May 31, 2017, 10:26:48 pm »
Wag ma-pressure sa sinasabi ng iba. What do you mean give it away? You're just gonna get in bed with Joe Blow?
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #2 on: May 31, 2017, 11:52:27 pm »
I got your PM, TS. I think you need a certain number of post to be able to reply. Anyway, my question is....do you want to give it away because that's what you really want or because of peer pressure?  Remember, you're the one living your life, not them. You will suffer the consequence of your action, not them. So think about it. You're only 25. Unless you really think sobrang kulang ang buhay mo dahil virgin ka pa at this age then go ahead.
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #3 on: June 01, 2017, 12:06:40 am »
Big deal pa ba? Depende sa values mo.

I was 25 when I first had sex with my then bf (now husband). He was not my first boyfriend but he was the first na I got really intimate with. Most of my friends in college were non-virgins, pero di naman ako nakaranas ng pressure to give it away. Binibiro din nila ko minsan na late bloomer ganyan, pero di ko naman sineseryoso. Tsaka di naman big deal sa amin ang sex life ng bawat isa haha. My advice would be to not give into the pressure, and just listen to yourself whether you want to have sex or not. For me, concept lang ang virginity, you don't really lose anything when you "give your virginity away". At least that's based on my exprience ha.

By the way, you can edit your post na lang and update it with your response kung di ka pa makareply. Tama si kvandenhaak, you have to each a certain number of posts para makareply.
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #4 on: June 01, 2017, 02:21:55 am »
Not big deal for me ako 29yrs old ako nun. Nakailang bf din ako. Na sayo yan. Pede ka naman makisali sa usapan about sex kahit virgin ka hindi mo rin need na ipagsabi pa sa iba na virgin ka or hindi na.

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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #5 on: June 01, 2017, 06:34:40 am »
For me, it's still a big deal. Me and my bf were both promised na until we got married saka ko palang ibibigay ang lahat. Though di ko naman sinasabi na pure virgin pa ako. (Di palang pinapasok so intact pa talaga siya hehe) ang hirap kasi sa isang relasyon ang walang physical contact lalo na if you really love each other. My advice is, Bigay mo yan sa nararapat na lalaki para sayo syempre pagkasal ka na.

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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #6 on: June 01, 2017, 08:22:15 pm »
Hi privykamote,

Ako, lalaki ako pero I believe na mas big deal pa dapat ngayon ang virginity.  Dapat kasi mas makilala natin ng lubusan at malalim ang makakapartner natin.  At ang pinaka-sure way ay kung maglalaan ng maraming taon ng pakikipagkilala, magko-commit na ang lalaki at bibigyan ka nang malaking karangalan sa pamamagitan ng paghiling na makasal siya sa iyo.

Nakamamatay na ngayon ang intimacy at sex kung hindi mo alam ang personal hygiene, health background at sex history ng makaka-close mo.

May mga Sexually Transmitted Infection at Diseases na nakukuha sa kahit skin contact, kissing  at oral sex lang.

Kung hindi perfect ang dental health mo (at ganito naman ang situation ng marami sa atin)...kung may singaw (sores) o bleeding gums ka (sa sobrang pag toothbrush)...pwede kang mahawa ng HIV...even from kissing  or oral sex.
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #7 on: June 07, 2017, 11:30:44 am »
sa kin big deal yun kaya sa lalaking karapat-dapat ko ibinigay kaya walang regrets :)
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #8 on: June 07, 2017, 05:12:51 pm »
My husband was a virgin when i met him. ang kondisyones kasi niya sa buhay kung makikipagtalik ka rin naman, it should be someone really, really, and really special to you. It's not just sharing of bodies but making memories as well. plus takot din siya sa sakit.

may point nga naman si hubby! haha nung naging kami eh single mom nako. kung iisipin ko yung sinabi ng mister ko tama nga naman siya. some of my personal intimate experience i wish i didn't do it. may regrets kumbaga.

now that we have children, i always tell my son (junior high school) that sex is a big thing and it comes with responsibilities and consequences such as unplanned pregnancies and diseases. Relationship also is a preparation for marriage. Kung hindi mo nakikita sarili mo na kaya mo ng bumuhay ng pamilya -- don't go through that path. i made myself as an example para mas madali niyang maintindihan. 

sa tanong kung big deal or not ang pagiging virgin -- personally, No. hindi naman yan mag dedefine ng pagkatao mo. pero kung gagawa ka rin ng memories sa sarili mo, siguraduhin mo lang sana na maganda eto at hindi pagsisihan sa bandang huli.

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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #9 on: June 08, 2017, 05:12:49 am »
Ang problema, kapag may naka-sex na...hindi basta nakakalimutan yun.  O kahit akala mo ay wala na sa conscious mind mo...pero "the body remembers" pala.

Ang sex kasi ay full sensory experience: sight, sound, taste, smell...touch.  It's so much as a Psychological thing.  Kapag nasa isang serious and lifelong relationship ka na (marriage), pwedeng ma-trigger ka na ma-recall ang memory na yun at pagmulan ng away (dahil marami inililihim ang kanilang sex history).

Kung ang porn ay poison sa mind....pwedeng maging mas matinding lason...sa isip at sa katawan ang sex.

Kapag virgin pa...walang problema.
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #10 on: June 08, 2017, 07:16:08 am »
Before it was a big deal nung mga high school or college ako. Pero after my first sex, I was like, yun na yun??? Anong big deal dun?

Virginity doesn't define a person. Nung highschool kasi and college kapag hindi na virgin talk of the town ka na lalo na sa province. Parang tainted ka na. Madumi. E paano nalang yung mga na rape or molested?

Your mind can be full of impure thoughts, masturbate a lot, engage in cyber sex or alike but hymen is still intact. You can have "make love" to your significant others 5x a day na ang pagiisip ay it's your way of sharing affection and love.

Sabi ng boyfriend ko dun sa 31yrs old ko na friend na NBSB and no experience at all, looser daw. A guy who's still virgin at the age of 20s above para sakin parang may problem? Ewan ko hahaha IMO lang naman.
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #11 on: June 08, 2017, 11:01:43 am »
^akala ko ba virginity doesn't define your personality? Eh bakit natawag na loser yung 30 year old virgin? Bakit may mali kagad kung 20s na at virgin pa? Some people are pressured to have sex (just like TS) dahil sa mga ganyang comments I think.

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I agree with lovemeagain, it's not a big deal but it doesn't mean you should just do it left and right, both for safety and emotional reasons. Some people who are in their 30s na wala pang experience can have different reasons naman. Yung iba choice talaga nila mag abstain until marriage, yung iba naman really have no one to do it with. And hindi naman lahat ng tao are into one night stands, so they'd rather stay a virgin instead of engaging in casual sex. So i don't think there's something wrong with 20-30 year olds na virgin pa. Walang masama doon, just the same na walang masama if you choose to have sex.
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #12 on: June 08, 2017, 11:03:23 am »
^akala ko ba virginity doesn't define your personality? Eh bakit natawag na loser yung 30 year old virgin? Bakit may mali kagad kung 20s na at virgin pa? Some people are pressured to have sex (just like TS) dahil sa mga ganyang comments I think.

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I agree with lovemeagain, it's not a big deal but it doesn't mean you should just do it left and right, both for safety and emotional reasons. Some people who are in their 30s na wala pang experience can have different reasons naman. Yung iba choice talaga nila mag abstain until marriage, yung iba naman really have no one to do it with. And hindi naman lahat ng tao are into one night stands, so they'd rather stay a virgin instead of engaging in casual sex. So i don't think there's something wrong with 20-30 year olds na virgin pa. Walang masama doon, and just the same, walang masama if you choose to have sex.
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #13 on: June 08, 2017, 10:17:52 pm »
Ang losers are the people who think that people who chose to preserve their virginity until the right moment. Sometimes, feeling ko me halong inggit din yung mga hindi na virgin making a big deal of people's virginity. It shouldn't affect them di ba? But no, they will label and call them names. For what? Losers!
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #14 on: June 12, 2017, 08:11:53 pm »
This is interesting. Contemplating on your opinions.

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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #15 on: June 19, 2017, 04:46:36 pm »
as to big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin:
--> siguro hinde. pero kung commendable sya, i guess it would be so. if it was because you saved it for the right time and person, then good for you. if because single lang talaga and walang relationship for the longest time, then ok lang rin, wala naman ding kaso.

as to big deal ba pag hindi na virgin:
--> hindi. if a person is in a relationship or had a relationship, i would safely assume that the person has already some sort of sexual experience. and whether nakakababa ng pagkatao yun, hindi. kanya-kanyang trip yan eh.

as to kung kelangan ba ni TS magpadala sa pressure:
--> naku, wag. sayang. if you're gonna lose it, make sure it is with someone very special to you, yung mahal mo at mahal ka. kesa sa kung sino lang for the sake lang na may maikwento ka sa iba. baka mamaya pagsisihan mo lang yung "for the sake of experience".

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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #16 on: October 09, 2018, 01:22:06 am »
Male opinion here :D

Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?

-for me yes and i will share it to my future daughter. kung mabibiyayaan ng daughter heheh. but but but..

now i have fiance at hindi ako first nya but hopefully i will be her last and for me too gusto ko cya na last ko. and it would be unfair kung i reduce my feelings about her because hindi na cya virgin dahil she accept me even i have 2 sons with other 2 women, kung baga 2 na panganay :D. and hindi din nya naman kasalanan na magkaroon cya ng ex'es na pervert eh.
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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #17 on: October 14, 2018, 12:13:29 pm »
For me kung virgin yung girl by choice then guys should respect that. But it is not the end all be all. Ang importante sa relationship nagkaka sundo kayo, nagmamahalan kayo ng too and you are both committed to it.

Would a guy or a girl prefer a partner na virgin nga pero ang sama naman ng ugali. Self centered at walang regards sa kapwa? Hard to get along with. Immature. I don't think so.

Virginity is not about being above everyone else or it is nothing to be ashamed of. It is a matter of personal choice. Spiritual and psychological din kasi siya. Yung iba naniniwala talaga na ibibigay lang nila ito sa taong mapapangasawa nila.

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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #18 on: October 16, 2018, 06:23:04 pm »
Being a virgin or not should not define who you are as a person. The right one will accept you regardless of this and everything else. :)

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Re: Big deal pa ba ang pagiging virgin?
« Reply #19 on: June 05, 2019, 12:43:25 am »
Hi is this thread still active? I have a few questions.

 


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