platonic marriage

[lonely_dad]

^Eh di ikaw ang mag-initiate?

ilang beses na ako nag initiate pero napahiya lang ako in the end kaya ayoko na maulit yung humiliation

[baliwsayo]

TS - Kung ang reason nya kasi ayaw nya mabuntis ka eh di sabihin mong nagpipills ka.

Regarding naman sa di ka nya napiplease, turuan mo na lang kung paano ka nya mapi-please sis.

lonely dad - na-maintain mo ba itsura mo bago kayo ikasal o para na din tummy ng pulis ang tyan mo?

[lonely_dad]

TS - Kung ang reason nya kasi ayaw nya mabuntis ka eh di sabihin mong nagpipills ka.

Regarding naman sa di ka nya napiplease, turuan mo na lang kung paano ka nya mapi-please sis.

lonely dad - na-maintain mo ba itsura mo bago kayo ikasal o para na din tummy ng pulis ang tyan mo?

natawa naman ako sa post mo LOL
pareho kaming payat before kinasal
normal naman mag gain weight pareho after 10years pero di naman ako parang pulis 

[swim_fatale]

^LOL! And in all fairness, a "pulis" tummy is not a reason not to have sex.  BAkit naman si hubby may tiyan pero oks lang sa akin. Eh ako rin naman walang 6-pack so wala akong K na mag demand ng Superbod! LOL

[lonely_dad]

^LOL! And in all fairness, a "pluis" tummy is not a reason not to have sex.  BAkit naman si hubby may tiyan pero oks lang sa akin. Eh ako rin naman walang 6-pack so wala akong K na mag demand ng Superbod! LOL

100% agree

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

LOL sa tiyan, but yeah, sometimes truth hurts, yung looks maski gano ka shallow, mahalaga to keep the fire burning, isama mo na amoy nyong dalawa hahaha!

[kvandenhaak]

^You still have to make an effort, of course to look yummy and presentable...lol! Within reason syempre at hindi naman yung trying hard to dress like a teenager when you are in your 50s.

Naalala ko na naman yung ex-friend ko. Yung asawa parang walang gana and she's so pissed off kasi palagi na lang nasa computer si hubby. Now, she's kind of critical of women who tends to put importance on their looks. She thinks it's so shallow. I was like, "Eh wala namang masamang magpaganda. It's not illegal and it's not immoral. Ikaw okay lang sa 'yo na buhol-buhol ang buhok mo (she was cutting her own hair....lol) at bitin ang pantalon. But for some, they enjoy being presentable and pretty". Sa isip-isip ko, kaya mas feel pa ng asawa mo manood ng porn at magjakok kesa makipag-jerjer sa yo kasi sobrang losyang mo na. Nakakaloka! Sobrang judgemental.

[amethyst028]

my friend just got engaged and she was asking for advice. they are together for almost 2 years and they've never done it daw. she claims that she is still a virgin at 34 and in 2 years nothing has happened to them daw. the guy is 40. they've gone on out of town and out of the country trips and nothing daw.

they've french kissed a few times but the kiss was un coordinated daw so they just stopped. they don't even hold hands in public or in private. when they sleep in the same bed the guy wouldn't even cuddle, she would put her legs over the guy's but the guy would remove it saying it's too hot.

she was defending him saying that maybe he is just the traditional type. something is wrong with their relationship if there is no physical touch as early as now. she doesn't want to believe it. she thinks the guy  will change once they are married. i don't know why women sees guys as a project they can fix or change. maybe you can inspire or encourage him but it's still up to him if he wants to change.

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

^^ red flag

[peachlipstick]

Sis amethyst028, I agree the "guy" that we marry should not be a project. Hindi natin dapat isipin na mababago natin sila simply because we believe in them. If they don't want to change or if they are built a certain way, we cannot change them.

Sometimes people turn a blind eye kahit the truth is staring at them at the eye. We become so consumed by the image we want them to be na ipagsisiksikan natin sila sa image na yun kahit na they really do not fit.

[Girltalker2]

Sis amethyst, I think your friend is making a mistake in marrying her fianc?. Yes she is 34 na, pero kahit lalaki pa iyan, kelangan may chemistry din kayo sa bed as a couple. Sex is an important aspect in marriage. We are not encouraging pre marital sex here, but usually, cuddling, kissing should be good with your better half para masabi mo na may indications na magiging maayos /normal sex life nyo.

[kvandenhaak]

What the heck is "uncoordinated kiss"? Part of romantic relationship ang lust and passion. Nalalabuan ako sa sitwasyon na ganyan. Parang walang physical attraction?

[amethyst028]

^exactly. Inasked the same question and i can't move on when she said the kiss is uncoordianted. They've been together for 2years and they didn't make any effort to work on the kiss. Hehe!

Well she thinks the guy is the tradtional type daw. I told her no such thing. If the guy is physically attracted he will jump at you every chance he gets kahit second base man lang.

she sees all his potential but not what he really is. She's off age already and we will respect her decision if she will go through with the wedding coz what can we really do diba? She already made a choice and she chooses to stay with him.

[Hannyagirl]

Hubby and i were doing very well before we got married. Nagaaway kami minsan pero most likely sobrang ok ang relationship namin. Para kaming barkada. We just got married over a month now. He barely initiates to be intimate. His reason is he never did that to any girl. Tsaka natatakot sya for unplanned pregnancy. Gusto kasi namin after 1-2yrs pa. Pero it's killing our relationship. Ganun ba talaga? For a newly wed couple na mawala agad ang intimacy? Nasabi ko na sa kanya. Pero wala pa din nagbabago please help me girls. Sobrang lungkot ko kasi wala ako mapagsabihan

Add ko lang, kaya din ako frustrated kasi he doesn't satisfy me physically. Parang ako pa nagtuturo sa kanya ng mga bagay bagay. Tsaka pregnancy issues, really? Hindi ba nya alam yung mga birth control? Huhuhu.

Sis actually ganyan din kme halos when we got married. My husband is totally not gay. Nung bf gf kme he is so naughty and isa yun sa mga nagustuhan ko about him given na sya yung first ko. When we got married ako halos nag iinitiate. When i asked him about it sabi nya mas gusto daw nya na sya niyaya. Siguro mabibilang ko lang sa fingers ko yung times na sya nagyaya lol pero he never rejected me naman nung bago kme. Although ang nagdecline talaga yung performance level nya nung married na kme. Hehe Possible din siguro na kaya ganyan hubby mo kasi super takot sa unplanned pregnancy baka di pa sya ready.

[baliwsayo]

natawa naman ako sa post mo LOL
pareho kaming payat before kinasal
normal naman mag gain weight pareho after 10years pero di naman ako parang pulis 

Hehe sorry for the super late response. I was just trying to analyze the whole situation kaya I asked for the possible reasons no matter how far out. Physical look does make sense, imho. And yeah the smell too.

Also, I noticed, if the guy is on the heavy side, their pututoy becomes smaller. Sabi mo nga you're thin before, but if you're fat now and pututoy is smaller, it's no longer that satisfying so kakawalang-gana na to have sex if you're not getting satisfied di ba?

[lonely_dad]

^di naman ako ganun ka heavy. my previous weight is around 165, ngayon nasa 175 ako
after checking, same size pa rin naman 

si wifey nag gain ng weight pero di naman ako apektado, never ko rin sinusumbat sa kanya yun

[amethyst028]

^ sabi you can guage the status of your relationship by the kind of sex you're having. sa amin mga girls kasi usually we have issues with our partner or emotional needs not being met kaya wala kameng gana to do it. and someimes we are not aware that our partner feels rejected.

[Danicajan26]

Hi there, we are still not yet married pa naman and Im currently pregnant. As of now, something happened. My past was a bang to his family. He says he wont break up with me.. But I myself gusto ko tlagang maghiwalay parang walang gulo. May kaso kase ako noon but that was way back 2015 and on my part nakakahiya kase nalaman ng side nya and nakabas ako ng mga pangit na messages galing sa mga pinsan at tita nya. We are living together a of now..nakikita ko naman mahal nya ko kase nga nagabgo sya ng number para di na sya macontact ng mga relatives nya.. pero para sakin ayoko na kase.. we can be civil naman. we can be friends and he can see his child anytime na gusto nya. Litong lito ako. please help Need some advice.

[lonely_dad]

parang lumalabas kasi pag babae ang nagreject sa sex ok lang
pero pag guy ang nagreject iba ang meaning 

[Shadow Angel]

^para kasing ungentleman pag lalaki ang umayaw at given pa na ang mga lalaki madali lang ma arouse or mahilig.