platonic marriage

[pedroea_]

Hubby and i were doing very well before we got married. Nagaaway kami minsan pero most likely sobrang ok ang relationship namin. Para kaming barkada. We just got married over a month now. He barely initiates to be intimate. His reason is he never did that to any girl. Tsaka natatakot sya for unplanned pregnancy. Gusto kasi namin after 1-2yrs pa. Pero it's killing our relationship. Ganun ba talaga? For a newly wed couple na mawala agad ang intimacy? Nasabi ko na sa kanya. Pero wala pa din nagbabago please help me girls. Sobrang lungkot ko kasi wala ako mapagsabihan

Add ko lang, kaya din ako frustrated kasi he doesn't satisfy me physically. Parang ako pa nagtuturo sa kanya ng mga bagay bagay. Tsaka pregnancy issues, really? Hindi ba nya alam yung mga birth control? Huhuhu. 

[simang]

He barely initiates to be intimate.

Did you have premarital sex? How intimate were you bago kayo ikasal? Did he ever initiate o talagang wala? If he does sometimes, how does he do it? Anong circumstance?

Ganun ba talaga? For a newly wed couple na mawala agad ang intimacy?

To be honest sis, I'd say no, kasi based sa experience ko, hindi ganun. We're married for a little over a year pa lang naman, and I'd say our intimacy level hasn't change since. If ang reason nya, is that he never initiates, then would it be an issue for you if ikaw lagi ang mag initiate? Naisip ko lang, if you initiate everytime, then maybe he'll see you more as a sexual being, then baka mas maengganyo sya na mag initiate eventually?

Nasabi ko na sa kanya. Pero wala pa din nagbabago

How did you tell him? How did he respond?

Add ko lang, kaya din ako frustrated kasi he doesn't satisfy me physically. Parang ako pa nagtuturo sa kanya ng mga bagay bagay. Tsaka pregnancy issues, really? Hindi ba nya alam yung mga birth control? Huhuhu.

I guess may mga guys talagang ganun... They want to be dominated in a way na they will only do something if you tell them to. Or baka kelangan nya talaga maturuan pa? Maybe he doesn't have enough experience and knowledge on how to satisfy you. In that case, I don't see anything wrong kung tuturuan mo sya. Let him know what turns you on and let him do it.

Re: birth control, sadly, most guys ay wala talagang alam dyan. Maybe you can assure him na you're taking contraceptive pill, or teach him a little about calendar method, para you both can put the pregnancy issue aside. Baka kasi wala talaga syang alam, and abstinence lang ang alam nyang contraception.

[amethyst028]

@TS part ng marriage ang intimacy in fact it bonds the couple together and makes the marriage stronger pag healthy ang sex life.

are you sure lalake talaga ang mister mo? not closeted gay? sorry to ask that. i recently met with a gay friend from high school and napag usapan kasi namin mga batch mates namin kung sino mga bading na ngayon yung mga out and proud and may mga na mention siyang names na hinala ko talaga dati bading pero until now hindi pa umaamin.

may isa kasi doon newly wed. i was shocked nung kinasal siya kasi akala namin bading then my gay friend confirmed na gay yun. pero nagpakasal siya and panay ang post ng pictures nila ng misis niya. then i wondered about those relationships kung sexually active kaya sila.

if you are 1000% sure that your husband is not gay then maybe there are other factors. but i understand you kasi mahirap talaga yung ganyan and pwede nga yan maging grounds for annulment. if the marriage was never consummated. 

[yannuh]

I am not sure sis about dun sa biglang lesser intimacy. I mean one month married pa lang kayo pero wala syang gana agad? Naliligo at nagtotoothbrush ka naman ba sis? Haha! Joke lang:) just trying to lighten up the mood.

Sis agree ako sa ibang sinabi nila, try mo i-assure si hubby na mag iingat kayo and explain mo sa kanya yung mga birth control methods if yun ang ikinawoworry nya. And explain mo din sa kanya yung nararamdaman mo now para malaman nya din where you are coming from. Balitaan mo kami sis.

[hotbabe925]

di ba dapat pag unang months of marriage mas active kayo at mas Ganado? kasi you now have the freedom to show your desire for each other... at about sa birth control, as far as I remember you have to attend a seminar on reproductive health before you get married kasi required yun sa cityhall to get a marriage license.

[hushush]

Tama mga sis natin dito.saka as per my experience yung maghubad ka lang sa harap ng asawa mo kahit tanghaling tapat at di pa kayo nakakaligo e umaatikabong laban na yun hehe

Baka naman nahihiya lang sya kasi wala pa sya karanasan.. minsan need natin mag-initiate to the extent na tayo ang gagawa..
Try nyo manuod together ng porn para makakuha sya ng tips o makabuwelo sya sayo.ganahan man lang..then gayahin nyo para hindi sya masyado mailang..

[lovemeagain30]

teka nga tinanong mo na ba siya prangkahan if he's gay? if he is, tell him you are willing to understand (yun nga ay kung willing ka).

napaka impossible a straight man will not crave for sex or initiate sex to his newly married wife!  yung matakot sa pagbubuntis ng walang plano magagawan ng paraan yan. ikaw palang ang may ganyang kaso kung sakaling totoo nga ang kwento mo .  kung may kutob mabuti ng direchuhin ang lalaki habang maaga pa.

para sakin gay man can still marry a woman and live like a married couple.  depende sa usapan at  samahan yan ng mag asawa. hindi naman dapat kinakahon ang pag ibig kung ano lang ba dapat at hindi.

[Shadow Angel]

2 years married pa lang kami. 1st month honeymoon stage pa. Actually kahit now almost honeymoon stage pa rin medyo kakasad lang ngayon na since nagbuntis ako 2x pa lang kami nag do. hindi ako active. Anyway sayo kakaiba ang asawa mo TS nakakapagtaka nakakatiis ang asawa mo kahit hindi mahilig pag ganyan newly weds active sila.

[yannuh]

^sis baka iniingatan lang nya si bebi

yup sis impossible talaga sa guy na hindi magcrave dun. especially bagong kasal pa lang kayo. parang may mali

[Shadow Angel]

^oo pero minsan needs nya feel ko kahit naman sabihan ko ok lang sa akin ayaw kasi gusto nya un gusto ko rin para hindi sya feeling guilty na naobliga lang ako. Or siguro sanay sya dati na feel na feel ko rin.

[simang]

para sakin gay man can still marry a woman and live like a married couple.  depende sa usapan at  samahan yan ng mag asawa. hindi naman dapat kinakahon ang pag ibig kung ano lang ba dapat at hindi.

May napanuod akong documentary before about this. Title is My Husband Is Not Gay. It's about married gay man, alam ng wives nila na attracted sila sa lalaki but they live like a regular couple, may mga kids din yun iba.

[beyondmydailydose]

Hello sis! Opinion lang, medyo masyado pa yata maaga for this to happen. Talk to him and let things be worked out.

[beyondmydailydose]

I agree talk to him pero sana receptive. When I speak to my husband on this matters nagagalit:) Pag aralan mo din sis, ako ganyan ginagawa ko, tibay ng loob lang tapos I am having the feel kung mag initiate ba ng intimacy sakin. Ina ibang favtors din e

[Girltalker2]

Is this a valid reason for annulment?

[swim_fatale]

Hala medyo kakaiba hubby mo sis. Nung bagong kasal kami kulang ang 4x a day! Seryoso! And that went on until we were I think in our 5th or 6th year of marriage. After na lang nun humupa, hehe.

Mahirap yan sis kasi physical intimacy is not the only thing that makes a marriage work, but it is a BIG thing.

Sana maayos nyo o madaan nyo sa pag uusap kung ano ba talaga ang problema. Good luck sis and balitaan mo kami.

[lonely_dad]

dapat pala mabasa ito ng magaling kong asawa 

[khaleesiCersei]

Something is up sis.. kung hindi man siya gay eh baka he gets it from someone else? Sorry to be blunt pero kasi parang ang weird kung ayaw niya ng intimacy lalo na at you are newlyweds and his excuse is very lame naman. Pakisabi mag imbento naman ng dahilan na hindi nakakabobo.. my advice, mag imbestiga ka quietly hehe.. find out what is the real cause of this weird behavior kasi i'm sure kahit ikaw sis hindi ka naniniwala sa reason niya na ayaw pa niya mag baby. So if you can't get a straight answer, do what you have to do to find out the truth.

[beyondmydailydose]

I can relate at times:(

[lonely_dad]

buti kayo naiisip ninyong mag initiate
eh sa part ko wala. frigid kasi wife ko 

[kvandenhaak]

^Eh di ikaw ang mag-initiate?