Confused! i think i'm falling for my husband's brother

[aquacharly]

You say you just want to vent to someone, but don't wanna be judged.
What do you want from anonymous us here? To encourage you to go with the flow of your kiligs?  Well, some may probably go along with you...

No judgement, but:
You may just be bored, or looking for some different ego massage.
But really, you're a Big Girl -- don't misplace your Big Girl panties, look for some other productive high.  Get creative & productive to boost your ego.  More work focus towards a promotion? A sideline or new business? A new hobby? 

But stop the daydreaming over your brother-in-law, it just adds fuel to what, IMO, is gonna be in bad taste -- if it comes to anything more than what is happening now. 

Bottom line, some thrills are not worth the irreparable damage/fallout.   

[ayka]

Sis Coldsoul,

Nobody is perfect. Yes, we are only human. BUT therein lies one of the characteristics that distinguish us from animals. We have the ability to distinguish right from wrong. We have insight and judgment. And from there, we can decide to choose which course of action to take.

You said it yourself, you "know the answer to the problem" and "no good will come out of it". So don't even think of acting or going beyond your "secret feelings". Why? It's simple. Because you're married. Instead of daydreaming about your brother in law, why don't you daydream about your husband and the beauty of your future together? Think about how you two fell in love when you were younger, about all the things you can do and enjoy together as a couple. STOP the wishful thinking about his brother. In a way, you're already cheating on your spouse. Biblically speaking.

And seriously, haven't you met your husband's brother before you got married? Were you attracted to him before? Just curious.

[izabelle]

TS - Do you have kids? I'm asking because better THINK first of your kids before yourself and how you feel about your brother in law.

Baka crush lang yan or natutuwa ka lang sa brother in law mo. Remember, kapag tinuloy mo yan, maraming masisira, marriage nyo, relationship ng asawa mo at brother nya at pati mga anak mo affected (kung may kids kayo.)

So, ask yourself, worth it ba? kung hindi, magtigil ka. Sorry, i need to be harsh para magising ka sa katotohanan.

Walang nagagawang mabuti ang  ganyan.

[miss resilient]

magkasama kayo sa bahay? yan ang mahirap.

solution: bumukod na kayo ng husband mo.

[hushush]

^best advice so far