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Twistedgirl0013

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Hubby asked for 3some
« on: November 11, 2016, 10:50:16 am »

There was one night that I asked my hubby what are his thoughts on 3some. I forgot what line of though I was having then but it's not about us. Then that though came to me. I think it was about some friend's guy wanting it. I wanted to just check and see what he thought of it. And I even added I won't judge him on whatever he would say.

He told me he likes it and he thinks it's really sexy. The conversation went on until he told me we will do it. He did not ask me and he assumed I'm into it just because I opened the topic.

Now, I don't want to demonize my hubby. He's such a great guy and I believe he'd been honest with me for a very long time. Though just like a typical guy, he likes reading and watching porn. I just think he's very ma-L.

The thing now is that, he's really excited about it. He wanted it. I told him I'm not sure about that. Not sure coz, 1.) I can't imagine him and myself doing it with another people. 2.) It feels weird just thinking somebody would do me (he wanted 2 guys plus me). 3.) I feel that we'd be hurt one way or another. Another part of me wanted to give in coz I want to satisfy his fantasy. And honestly, I'm curious too.

I told him I'll think about it. Might even consider doing so. So when we had another conversation, I asked him if he'll try another woman. He said he won't if I don't want him to. I asked him if he wants to. He said yes. Asked him if he'll kiss her lips (my ultimate gesture of emotional attachment) and he said, "maybe." With that last word, I just felt so sad and heart-broken. I don't know why but I suddenly do not know where this is heading.

If you have similar encounter, i'll appreciate some thoughts. Please don't judge me or him. I just feel so vulnerable now and I can't speak about it to any of my friends.

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #1 on: November 11, 2016, 11:51:35 am »
^i know a guy na ganyan din, yung lang hindi nya wife ang kinoconvince nya.
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« Reply #2 on: November 11, 2016, 11:57:09 am »
Sounds like you have a lot of hangups about sex. I can't blame you, though, given the typical overly religious way us Pinoys are brought up.

First off, being curious about sex is perfectly natural. It is not something to be "demonized" or to feel guilty or vulnerable about. But seeing as how you're so worked up just thinking about it, I would advise you not to go through with the threesome with your husband. Imagine how much more crazy in the head you'll get after doing the deed.

If you do want to go through with it, you first need to work on your issues about sex. Then you need to have lots of open communication with your husband -- know and set your rules about the threesome, like "no kissing on the mouth". Your husband is being honest with you about what he wants in a threesome, and you are in the position to take advantage of it. You can tell him outright that you are only curious and only want to fulfill his fantasy, so if he wants that, he better make sure that he follows your rules and not hurt you + your relationship.

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #3 on: November 11, 2016, 12:23:35 pm »
Never ask a question that you might not be ready for the answer, yan tuloy naging burden pa sa iyo. I'm not judging you sis ha naintindihan kita, likas naman tayong curious e. Saka normal naman yang attitude ng hubby mo sis pero di ko sinasabi na tama yan ha, exciting kasi yang idea na yan para sa kanila. Kung tatanungin mo ang ibang guys baka 99.9% ang sumagot na sexual fantasy nila ang 3some lol. I asked my bf na din about diyan out of curiosity, according to him exciting isipin pero parang di daw niya kaya gawin. Di daw niya keri na may ibang guy kaming kasama at makaka-do ko. Di din naman daw niya keri i-kiss sa lips and down there si other girl (if 2 girls kami) saka takot sa STD yun kaya useless and nonsense ang 3some para sa kanya. May ibang paraan naman daw para maging exciting ang sexual encounters namin kaya wag na kami mandamay ng ibang tao.
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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #4 on: November 11, 2016, 03:26:02 pm »
curiousity kills, ika nga.
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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #5 on: November 11, 2016, 03:58:08 pm »
1. Talagang fantasy ng mga lalaki na makathreesome pero kadalasan gusto nila 2 babae.
Pag nagtanong ka, siyempre gusto nila. Minsan lang inaayon nila sa sensitivity ng partner ang magiging sagot/reaksyon pero deep down, gusto nila.

2. Totoo, hindi open sa sex ang kultura ng Pinoy. Ibang lahi naman, normal lang sa kanila kahit kasal na.

3. Ok lang din naman maging curious. At least alam ano yung desires di ba. Tapos pwede naman mapagusapan yan.
Siguro andun din kasi yung umaasa na baka hindi carnal si mister at aayaw sa threesome. Mataas din kasi tingin sa kanila dahil mahal sila.


Kung ako mismo, ayaw ko at di ako curious dahil di naman talaga ako sexual na tao. Bilang lang sa isang kamay ang beses na nagselfie ako sa tanang buhay ko hehe pero oo nasa to do list ko ito..
Ayaw ko din sa iba. Kahit may mga gwapo macho, maappreciate ko pero di ko pagpapantasyahan. Pero pag kay mister, go na go!

Tinanong ko din si mister kahit alam ko naman na ang sagot ay oo dahil sa no.1
Pero nung sumagot siya, nagiisip pa siya. Sabi niya oo gusto niya pero di niya gagawin kasi una, alam niya na ayaw ko at pangalawa, saan daw hahanap ng kathreesome na makakasiguro ka na walang sakit? Takot din sa STD

So ang ending, no go kami sa threesome. Siguro kaya ok lang sa amin kasi nagsusubok din naman kami ng mga ibang bagay na naiisip o kaya nakikita sa internet/porn.



Kaya sis, when in doubt, don't!
Pagusapan niyo na lang ng mabuti.
Hanap ng ibang paraan "to make up for it"

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #6 on: November 28, 2016, 12:33:31 pm »
Thinking of it pa lang, For sure it will hurt you the most sis. Knowing that he can stand seeing you doing it with other guy. Try to do sexual thing that will excite him the most. Like Snowbear thing while you do him. ;)


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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #7 on: November 29, 2016, 06:23:45 am »
That's super weird na gusto niya 2 guys and u  ;D mukang may pagka-bi 'tong hubby mo.



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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #8 on: November 29, 2016, 07:31:30 am »
My husband is foreigner kung 3some siempre fantasy ng lalaki. Sabi ni hubby kung gusto nya gawin dapat nun binata pa sya. Hindi nya raw kaya gawin with me. Lalo na other guy si hubby kasi ang mas konti selos kesa sa akin. Akala ko rin dati ma-l masyado mga foreigner si hubby kasi masasabi ko sakto lang.

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #9 on: December 14, 2016, 06:14:06 am »
We had a similar situation. My husband was obsessed with it and after almost a year of non stop pleadings, I finally yielded and did MMF threesome two months ago. Being a mother of two, I hesitated at first but since it's been a regular topic during our intimate moments, I got curious, excited, convinced and became a willing participant. He planned everything and found the third person. We established rules such as no lip kissing and bj if you know what I mean.

Everything went well except for some hiccups wherein the third person and myself failed to abide by the above rules. It was dark and I could not see who's who, I got confused, as such, made mistakes. Besides,  in a tense  and  fluid situation it's difficult to control your emotions and not get carried by the ongoing excitement. Although my husband did not stop us at the time, I knew that deep inside he was hurt and disappointed.

For almost a week after the incident the atmosphere in our house was full of tension.  To assuage him, I made a conciliatory  move and told him that although it was a memorable event, I would prefer it to be our first and last threesome and that there shall be no FFM to avoid similar incident. He agreed, thus, everything's normalized.

Although it was emotionally draining,  the experience admittedly has improved and added intensity to our sex life. And quite frankly, we never regretted doing it much more since it has  proven that our love for each other is strong and will not diminish in any way and can withstand life's challenges.




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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #10 on: December 14, 2016, 07:27:02 am »
^Curious lang ako sis, who decided na MMF? Most guys kasi mas preferred ang FFM.
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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #11 on: December 14, 2016, 01:42:10 pm »
Although we agreed to do both, my husband is more focused on MMF.

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #12 on: December 14, 2016, 02:24:08 pm »
This is a usual topic/conversation with BF lalo na during sex. may experience na si BF ng MFF twice na daw with different girls before pa maging kami. so nung una, naging curious kami sa MMF since hindi pa nya yun natry. I like the idea of having sex with my BF and another guy, and ok lang din naman kay BF. pero bigla kong na-feel na parang pinamimigay ako ni BF kasi pumapayag sya na makipag sex ako sa ibang guy so i felt bad a little and we didn't push through na with the MMF idea. then naging fetish ko naman MFF and pinapakwento ko kay BF past experiences nya sa ibang girls, lalo na yung sa FA ng PAL and yung sa officemate nya. sobrang turned on ako and napapacum ako agad pag kinukwento nya yun while having sex. pero hanggang kwento lang yung kaya ko, mamamatay yata ako sa selos if gagawin namin for real yung MFF. sobrang selosa ako kay bf to the point na obsess na nga ako sa kanya sa pagka clingy. so the idea of MFF is thrown out of the window na din. then I had another fetish, gusto ko nalang na may manuod samin ni BF while having sex, whether guy or girl or could be both. pero manunuod lang talaga sila, hindi nila kami totouch and hindi sila sasali. nagstart yung fetish ko nung one time nasa hotel kami ni BF, naka open yung curtain ng room namin and yung katabing building is under construction. I can see may workers sa kabilang building halos same level ng room namin, i know they can see us and naexcite ako. we had sex na nakabukas lang curtains and nakikita nila ginagawa namin. meron din times na iniiwan naming nakabukas yung door ng motel room namin, knowing na dadating yung room boy kasi nag order kami ng something. at this time, nag agree na kami ni BF na we'll look for someone na manunuod samin ng live in the same room and could be in the same bed. si BF yung active na pinapahanap ko.

weird fetish?

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #13 on: December 14, 2016, 03:33:01 pm »
Oh, wow.  Lucky is he who would be your chosen audience!  Where do we download the application forms?:)

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #14 on: December 14, 2016, 04:06:11 pm »
^
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« Reply #15 on: December 14, 2016, 05:04:44 pm »
but of course.

but to answer your question...i think it's not a weird fetish.  it's pretty standard in erotica.  and i think i might enjoy performing for an audience too.  might.  i haven't done it , though. 

maybe we should wait for someone who has tried it to share the experience:)

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #16 on: December 15, 2016, 02:15:58 pm »
Nasubukan ko na mag 3some sa ka chatmate ko dati sa tagged kami nagka group just for fun lang :) grabe parang sobrang pagod talaga overnyt kami sa la carmela boracay..we done morning at sa gabi. It was the best experienced so far na subukan ko hehe

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #17 on: January 25, 2017, 01:21:10 pm »
We have done MFF. Its a big NO-NO yung MMF.

I agree with Sofitell. It added intensity both to our sex life and love for each other.

We only did it once, probably the last, but we are still looking forward for the next one.  ;D ;D

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #18 on: January 25, 2017, 06:56:33 pm »
^^^^no offense meant sis..i dont think it's weird. I just think that you are into sexual perversion/exhibitionism..please correct me if im wrong..

"Martymachlia is a fetish that involves arousal stemming from others watching their sexual activity. This falls under the umbrella term "exhibitionism." Martymachlia is specific to sexual activity that is witnessed by others."

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Re: Hubby asked for 3some
« Reply #19 on: January 25, 2017, 08:12:30 pm »
Is this some kind of disorder?  :o

Whether it is or not, we enjoyed it. Well, we got a little guilty after we did it. Pero ang maganda sa nangyari samen, right after we did it, nandon pa si girl 2, nagbibihis, niyakap and kiss ako ni husband sabay sabing "walang paring tatalo sa alaska" Hahaha. Tapos pag alis ni girl 2, we had sex ulit na kameng dalawa lang. And it was wild, more intense! ;)

 


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