Husbands/Fiances/BF going to a bachelor's party

[itsKat!]

what's your insights ladies?
do you allow them since its a one time thing with their friends?   

[la_pinay]

i allow my husband because his friends set his bachelor's party when we got married (they took care of all the expenses as well)

it's very seldom and a one time thing anyway.

[itsKat!]

^thanks la_pinay, so regardless of the fact kung may girls or wala?

I know it's a one time thing and they won't have sex naman or what. Wala lang, it still gets into my nerves. But iniisip ko, why the other guys pinapayagan naman sila ng mga wife nila. Anyway, thanks again!

[yannuh]

I do not know how to answer this. I am the jealous type kasi, baka sugurin ko lang yung bachelor's party kakacheck kung ano nangyari dun haha! Nakakatawa pero baka ganun nga gawin ko haha! Pag walang involved na babae at inom lang, go ako😂

[simang]

Saken okay lang. Sobrang hindi kasi malabas/magimik si husband, so I will probably let him go to a bachelor's party. Nasa kanya naman yun if may gawin man syang hindi ko magugustuhan. Tsaka kasi ako myself have gone to a bachelorette party na may male dancer (as in like nude all the way) and madalas if high end sila they won't even let you touch them. Konting hawak malaking bayad ang katapat. So I don't think it's very risky, at least for us.

[shinies]

Di din malabas mister ko pero kung gusto niya, oo papayagan ko sabay paalala/warning

Selosa din ako pero pipiliin ko na lang pagkatiwalaan mister ko tutal nandidiri siya sa mga bayarang babae. Pwera na lang kung may biglang "surprise" na babaeng dadalo na kakilala pala niya/nila..


itsKat!, kilalanin mo din yung mga kaibigan niya kung sila yung tipong nakikipagsex basta may pagkakataon. Kasi may alam ako na mahilig talaga at sa mga bachelor party nila, maraming milagro kahit na lahat sila kasal/taken.
Bakit yung iba pinapayagad? Trust (o kaya may exit plan kung sirain ni mister ang trust )

[sarsingkit]

Not a problem with me. I've been to gay bars too and my husband knows it. Saka my husband have been to places na may strict rules. As in no touch. They just watch them dance and strip. Running joke pa sa bahay namin yung pag nakakarinig kami ng songs we heard on girly/gay bars. My husband will usually say "ayan, pang second set na yan." lol.

[acdc]

Depends.. If husband/fiancé/bf has a history of pambababae and trust has become an issue between you two, then don't allow him. Actually, mas maganda kung siya mismo ayaw pumunta. On the other hand, if he's a homebody who pukes at the thought of cheap girls then by all means allow him haha! In my opinion though, if married na dapat wag na cos your mind, eyes, body should only be for your spouse. Why place yourself in an environment where you'll be tempted? Delikado yan lalo na pag marupok haha!

[dewb]

When we are not yet married parang ok lang sakin. Pero now, parang ayoko na especially if may strippers or babae na kasama. Paranoid lang na baka mgkadesire siya sa iba. Pero kung inom lang go!

[Pink_Sugar]

Kung ano man mangyari dun walang dapat makalabas. Hehe at pag may nadulas, lagot. :-D

[ficklemind]

depende sa mga kasama. If HS friends ni hubby or college friends namin papayagan ko siguro siya. kakilala ko naman sila. magkakaibigan din mga wives so I think they won't do anything disrespectful to the wives.
Pero kung officemates ni hubby, NO! I haven't met most of them personally pero sa mga kwento lang ni hubby mukhang ke haharot at kahihilig sa babae kahit yung mga married na.
I may look uninterested pag nagkkwento si hubby about sa ginagawa ng mga officemates or mga kwentuhan nila sa carpool nila but actually I'm taking notes haha

[engr_neechee]

Ako, hindi ko papayagan. Why?

He has mentioned na some of his friends say na "It's not counted as infidelity for a married man if you had sex with a prostitute because there are no emotions attached naman."  Hindi lang isa kundi marami sa mga kaibigan niya ang nagsabi niya.  My husband feels pity towards the prostitutes.  Hindi siya mahilig kumuha ng mga bayaran, but because he has friends na ganyan ang prinsipyo eh ayoko na siyang mapasama sa mga ganyang klaseng tao. 

Actually ayoko siyang sumama na dun sa mga taong nagsabing ganyan.  My husband says iba naman siya sa mga kaibigan niya, pero ano pa ba ang magagawa niya if andun na diba?

Kapag may asawa ka na, your body and soul should only be for your wife.  Kahit pa bayaran ang prostitute at no emotions, for me it's infidelity pa rin.  I won't touch my husband na kapag alam kong he slept with someone else kasi nakakadiri.

[itsKat!]

^thanks for all the input ladies. I know we have our different opinions when it comes to this matter.

I know his friends, and their wives also, just like what ficklemind said. but...

Although h2b is very loyal, no issues of 3rd party for the last 7 years. I still consider it cheating kahit tingin tingin lang sila sa mga strippers and no touch.

i agree with acdc

In my opinion though, if married na dapat wag na cos your mind, eyes, body should only be for your spouse. Why place yourself in an environment where you'll be tempted?

For me, why would you even need to look at other girl's bodies diba? hahaha! Just my opinion ladies. 

 but i do respect yung iba. actually gets ko din na one time big time lang naman or no s*x naman. but sakin lang, i just want to avoid any form of future "infidelity" hahahaha or kung anuman tawag dun! 

[yannuh]

I still consider it cheating kahit tingin tingin lang sila sa mga strippers and no touch.

i agree.

[fashtag]

my husband doesn't go out much pero i do allow him to go kung meron.  kilala ko naman mga friends niya so tiwala nalang talaga.

[britzm]

i'd allow him to go. though wala pa naman nag iinvite sa kanya so far. i would even tell him to spend the night sa friends niya pag masyado na gabi matatapos dahil baka kung ano pang mangyari sa kanya sa daan.
i don't feel threaten sa mga prosti but i would remind him na ayoko magkasakit lol.
hindi naman kasi ako selosa. but i would be very pissed if he would cheat someday and i still don't know how i will react if that time comes.
minsan pag magkasama kami, WE would check out girls na makakasalubong. lol
like i would tell him, she has nice boobs, she looks like a model, ang kinis ng girl.
no, i'm not a lesbian.
so just in case magpaalam siya for a stag party, i'd allow him. we have few friends din kasi.

[cosmochick]

I probably would. I see nothing wrong with it. I trust naman my husband. I'm at this stage na tapos na sa mga selos selos and I'm actually the one who's pushing him now to go out with his friends and to have a life outside our marriage... I don't want to feel restricted din kasi. 

[fashtag]

minsan lang naman yan, so i think ok lang naman to let them enjoy from time to time

[lovemeagain30]

bachelor's party? ay super ok lang sakin!! as if naman nag iisang gwapo/hot ng asawa ko among his peers para siya lang ang pagdiskitsahan ng mga prosti!  haha saka party naman yun, sa pelikula lang yata ang may ganyan kasamang pokas, mahal din naman bayad niyan sakanila noh.. knowing ibang lalaki mga kuripot kasama na diyan mister ko! tee hee!. for sure kainan at inuman madalas ang mga yan.