Hindi na daw 100% ang love nya sayo

[snowkeis]

Ano gagawin nyo at mararamdaman kung sabihin sa inyo ng asawa nyo na hindi na 100% ang pagmamahal nya sayo?

[yannuh]

^tanungin mo muna sis kung bakit biglang ganoon. Pag usapan nyong mabuti.

[snowkeis]

^ Dahil daw sa mga nangyaring away and problema. Nagbago din kase ako para ako naging masungit at mabilis mainis. Minsan nagmumura ako. Siguro kaya ganun.

[jowvxyz]

I'm currently on this situation too. Maraming kaming irreconcilable differences ni hubby kaya madalas hindi nalang kami nag-uusap para hindi mag-away. Yung love ko for him habang patagal nang patagal nababawasan and I'm sure sya din, ramdam ko naman. I didn't see this coming. I didn't want this to happen pero we're falling apart. Hirap ng ganito.

[simang]

^^when did he say it? Nag aaway ba kayo nung sinabi nya or did he just randomly told you that? Kalmado ba sya nung sinabi nya or nasa height ng emotions?

[itcha123]

Mga sisses please be remember that LOVE is a decision. And being misery and happy is a choice. Baka lack of communication lang ang kluang sa relationship ninyo. Try to have an open coomunication or a dialogue before going to bed, to patch up things. God bless po.

[littlekinselle]

I feel this too nag bago feelings ko kay husband after lahat na nangyari..well ramdam ko din naman yun.. Importante lang naman samin un anak namin..

[yannuh]

Mga sisses please be remember that LOVE is a decision. And being misery and happy is a choice. Baka lack of communication lang ang kluang sa relationship ninyo. Try to have an open coomunication or a dialogue before going to bed, to patch up things. God bless po.

Agree ako na love is a decision. Kaya it's really up to the couple whether they want to stay in love or not.

[simang]

But what happens if one decides to not stay in love?

For a couple (married or not) to choose to stay in love, both has to be worthy of it.

[hedonista]

una ask him - how he quantified the love - pano nya nasabi na hindi na 100%
can you really love less than all?

then probe. what happened in the last 30-60-90 days parang project sa opisina lang.
meron ba syang iba or nababaling ba ang atensyon nya sa iba?
kumusta ang intimacy? Drill down.
what do you want, do you want to bring back the % na nawawala and how do you plan to do it?

anyway, relationships are complicated sometimes. you know your partner best and yourself best. You will get through this and I hope for your happiness sis.

[Girltalker2]

Mga sisses please be remember that LOVE is a decision. And being misery and happy is a choice. Baka lack of communication lang ang kluang sa relationship ninyo. Try to have an open coomunication or a dialogue before going to bed, to patch up things. God bless po.

Love is a decision by both. If one won't cooperate (Husband), lalo ka lang ma-frustrate. It won't work.

[ri-anne]

So true. Marriage is a two way street. Both should be willing to make it work.

But i wonder, kelangan ba talaga 100% ang love para mag-work ang relationship? 
Hindi ba pwedeng hindi naman talaga buo na 100%....But both still decide and choose to commit and work on the marriage... i wonder...will it still work? Or magiging weak na ba ang rrlationship?

[kittypaw]

kaya dapat ipasa na ang divorce e!

[jowvxyz]

But i wonder, kelangan ba talaga 100% ang love para mag-work ang relationship? 
Hindi ba pwedeng hindi naman talaga buo na 100%....But both still decide and choose to commit and work on the marriage... i wonder...will it still work? Or magiging weak na ba ang rrlationship?

For me, it will still work kahit di na 100% love but still trying to work on the marriage kasi I believe hindi lang naman love yung nagpapatagal sa marriage. In my case naman I know we're both willing to keep our marriage working pero ang hirap kasi feel ko wala na yung respect ng husband ko for me and ayoko ng ganun. I don't even know kung saan kami dadalhin ng small amount of love namin for each other.

[angelholics]

how about attending marriage encounter or some sort of counseling sa CEFAM sis?
para may neutral na tayo makapag advise sa inyo and ma discover nyo or nya un love

[super bratinella]

Basta alam mo kung saan ka nagkamali may solution, kasi pwede pang itama.

So in your part you can only control what you can change, so it will start from you and the effect will follow once nakita ng hubby mo may changes then there will be a possibility he will reciprocate.

Basta remember this is not an overnight process kaya dapat talaga matiyaga.

You can watch the movie Fireproof there is so much lesson to learn.

“God made marriage to be for life. That’s why you gotta keep your vows to your spouse. You gotta ask God to teach you how to be a good husband/wife. And don’t just follow your heart, because your heart can be deceived. But you gotta lead your heart.”  - Fireproof

[ri-anne]

^^^sis jowvxyz, yeah i think din possible pa rin. Love may not be the only factor....it's a lot of other things. But i think Respect plays a really big part.
Pero As long as committed both sides to make the marriage work, it means they are not giving up. Kahit hindi na 100% yung love.  And that's a good thing, right? I just don't know how long the couple will be able to keep it up. But on the other hand, it may be possible, hopefully somewhere along the way, bumalik sa dating init yung relasyon...
So to you and TS good luck!

[glamorosa_09]

Reading this thread, I`m reminded of sternberg`s theory of love. Sabi ng theory, there are three stages of love that adult romantic relationships will go through:

1. Passionate love -- passion + intimacy
2. Fatuous love -- passion + commitment
3. Companionate love -- intimacy + commitment

Pansinin nyo yung mga younger, new couples, punung puno ng passion. On the other hand, pansinin nyo ang mga elderly couples, it`s more of companionate love. Sobrang at peace and comfortable nila sa isa`t isa.

So when you say “less than 100% love,” looking through this theory, it could mean less than 100% passion. Na talaga namang mawawala over time.

Yung iba they have this wrong notion of love na ala-spark at nag-aalab ang damdamin. So pag nawala (which is mangyayari naman talaga) eh will give a signal that the  relationship is doomed.

Of course there are so many factors why some relationships don`t move up to companionate love:
- una, isa sa inyo hindi talaga fit to be married. Hindi kaya magbigay ng respect, loyalty, commitment, support, etc.
- pangalawa, immaturity, walang alam about relationships. Nagkapatung patong na lahat ng issues, hindi na kayang ayusin, hiwalay na lang.
- pangatlo, daming hang-ups sa buhay.
- pang-apat, sobrang naging busy sa ibang mga bagay, hindi nila alam na ang relasyon parang halaman na kailangang inaalagaan. Ayun, tuluyan nang nalanta.

At marami pang ibang factors.