I hate my brother inlaw

[snowhite_12]

I love my sister but we never like the man that she married. I know she knows we never liked him and when i complained about his husband.she never said a word. Her husband doesn't respect her and the child. Ang ugali ng husband niya is like those guys sa labas ng bahay naka stand by lang sa kanto at nag iinuman. Nag wawala pag lasing na and of course pag lasing na hindi mo dapat pag sabihan dahil wala na sa isip yan and by the way they are staying in our house. We had a peaceful life and now its so opposite and nakakahiya also sa neighbors namin. How can you handle with this kind of situation. Has somebody has the same scenario like this.thank you

[aquacharly]

No, I have no bum/embarrassing brother-in-law.

The Reality is:  useless as you all may label him, your sister tolerates him & chooses to have him in her life.  Defects and all, she sees him as a "keeper".

If the issue is pampabigat na sya financially kasi palamunin, or he does not add to your house's curb appeal sa kakatambay nya sa harap  ng  house nyo, or your sister's lousy choice is negatively affecting your community standing -- then, tell your sister, that bum, and their children to reside elsewhere.

Well, sa kakatambay nya, sige pag minalas  sya eh baka  makaboom sya and tapalan ng sign:  Pusher. Hwag tularan.  Eh di wow. 

Realistically, what can you do? You can't make him over; nor can you make your sister dump him.

[snowhite_12]

Sinabihan ko na sister ko dati umalis na sa bahay dahil nakaka stress na yung husband niya. Hindi mag salita yung sister ko. Dahil alam niya ayaw talaga namin sa husband niya. Uber sa kapalan ng mukha ewan saan nakuha ng lalaki yan.

[shinies]

Oo dapat umalis sila saka bakit kasi hindi magsarili kung nagasawa na.

Wala ka magagawa sa kapatid mo kasi yan ang pinili niya.

[argento]

magaling pumili sister mo 

[megamabushii]

Your sister...

1) has low standards
2) has poor and cheap taste
3) settles for less

Iyun.

[blushberry]

luckily, i never had to experience anything like that, and that both my brother in laws are businessmen and comes from good families.

if your sister insists on keeping him and you can't tolerate him, something's got to give.  hiwalay sila or she goes with him.

[chinkywinky]

My family never liked my sister's husband as well for reasons that I don't like to elaborate anymore. Our difference is hindi naman sila sa amin nakatira at hindi namin nakikita (pati sister ko hindi rin namin nakikita at hindi man lang dumadalaw kahit sa nanay ko). My sister, nahiwalay na sya twice sa husband nya pero bumabalik talaga eh so we let her go. So nasa sister mo yan kung gusto nya maging martir.

[NeilRudecat]

Kung babae ka at baka may anak pang babae...tapos merong nakatirang lasenggong isatambay na hindi ninyo kadugo...delikado yan.

I suggest mag-usap na kayo sa barangay.  Kailangan maghain kayo ng pormal na reklamo at mag-usap na kung papaano ninyo ire-resolve.  Kung papayagan sila mag-stay sa bahay ninyo, kailangan may time period lang...yung sapat lang para makahanap sila ng sariling kabuhayan nila at malilipatan.


About the sister and her choice of man...ilang beses  na akong naka-encounter ng ganiyan.  Hindi ko maintindihan kung saan naa-attract ang mga babae sa ganiyang lalaki.  Minsan, sa kawalan ng matinong paliwanag, naiisip ko na parang evil design na eh.  Parang maraming babae ang nahuhulog ang kalooban sa mga lalaking walang kwenta at sisira lang sa buhay nila.


Anyway, I try to help out para naman makatulong na ma-prevent ang ganitong situation.  I go online and share information about relationship science, attraction, psychosexual development, women's health and other topics...to empower people to make fully informed decisions in life. 

[twelvth_goddess]

If I were in your situation, I would focus on the things that are within my span of control. Obviously, I cannot control who my sister chooses to love and settle with, but being that they live in MY house, I have control on whether they can stay there or not. That being said, I'd choose to kick them out.

I'm sure you love your sister and you want to protect her from the man she chose but she has to see and to decide that for herself. Otherwise, blinded by love, kayo lang lalabas na pakelamera and hinde makaintindi. When they separate from you and she sees how irresponsible and despicable he is, BAKA sakaling (hopefully) matauhan sya. Honestly, I don't understand why some women go for men na lasenggo at nagwawala pa. Daig pa taga-barrio.

You can still keep watch over her from a safe distance. By the way, have you tried sitting down with him and speaking to him about his behavior? Yung pagwawala pag lasing is not just scandalous but dangerous too. Pano kung pati kayo madamay pag may nakaaway sya? Buti kung sya lang mapahamak, eh kung madamay kayo.

[kvandenhaak]

"MY house, My rules! So F off!" Ganyan ang sasabihin ko, if I were the TS...lol!

[xsugar]

hi sis snowhite_12, anong meron sa sister mo na laging walang imik pag pinagsasabihan mo? Baka naman may explanation or kwento behind yung di nya pagpigil or pag away sa mister nya?baka din may rason bat ganun yung bro in-law mo? Try talking to your sister in a way na makakapag open sya syo na hindi sya naja-judge. Pls. don't get me wrong.

I have the same sister who choose to love a guy na tamad din. We hate the guy from the start (she got pregnant) and we are very open to both of them about our feelings pero ganun pa din. My parents to talk my sister and we though everything is ok pero hindi. Yung isa, nadagdagan pa ng isa png baby. I was so mad sa sister ko, first, dahil nasayang effort ko to send her to school, isang sem na lang. Second, because of her choices. Lahat na ata ng salita narinig na smen ng sister ko pero para syang bingi at bulag na hindi nya makita yun imperfections ng guy.

One time, lumabas kaming 2 nag overnight sa beach and we talked. Inalam ko love story nila and she opened up. She is madly in love. And she's seeing daw what we're seeing dun sa guy. Napapagod na din daw sya and someday pag malakas na yung loob nya and she has enough reasons, she will leave the guy para sa sarili nya at mga anak nya.