Improving your Married life

[britzm]

Mga sis, i would like to know ano routine, techniques etc to improve our married life.
i'll start:
not wearing losyang clothes. kung maluluwag man, dapat yung mga tshirt ni hubby. they feel special daw seeing us in their clothes.
binabawasan ko pagiging nagger ko.
kahit nasa bahay lang, dapat looking fresh.
foods! i'm trying to improve my cooking skills.

[mysterioza_me]

>gawin ninyo pa din yung routine ninyo nung magbf/gf kayo like dating or kain sa labas, nood sine

>travel kayo without kids, yung kayong dalawa lang atleast once or twice a year. Parang honeymoon lang.

>Constant communication, yung mga maliliit na bagay wag masyado ipagwalangbahala kasi pagnaipon lumalaki or dumadami e. Pero wag naman gawin masyadong big deal.

[shinies]

Basa ng libro gaya ng Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood

[Shadow Angel]

Ako naman never nag nag kay hubby lalo na sa maliliit na bagay. Sinasabi ko sa kanya wag ako gawin nagger kapag ginagawa nya un mga kinaiinisan ko about sa house katulad ng maduming damit na ilalagay na nga lang sala pa ang laki naman ng bibig ng laundry bin mga ganun bagay. Buti cooperative sya at naiimprove nya. Eto pa iba namin ginagawa
-Minsan treat nyo isa't isa as best friend un mga simpleng kalokohan ng mag best friend.
-nagdadate kami once a month bukod pa ang gala or travel. What I mean date is movie watch or dinner/lunch date. Yun tipong parang magbf/gf na nag eeffort ka mag dress na maayos.
-may movie night kami sa house twice a month.
-kapag magkagalit wag matutulog na hindi magkatabi.

[ri-anne]

How to improve married life

- Always have goals for your marriage & your family. Both short term and long term goals.

- Constant communication, physical touch/intimacy, and fun/laughter in your relationship

- Always pray together.

- Create a routine, or a tradition for your own marriage/family.

[yannuh]

-treat nyo si hubby as your bestfriend. Maglokohan at mag-asaran kayo at wag aalisin ang fun sa sistema nyo.
-asikasuhin ang isat isa all the time.
-physical touch and intimacy ay important talaga. Constant kisses and hugs din.
-surprise ang isat isa. Dapat me natitirang mystery pa din para hindi nakakasawa at routinary ang mga bagay bagay.
-date every weekend if possible. Or kahit 2x a month basta wag laging nasa bahay or magmukmok sa work.

[britzm]

one thing i can't seem to improve is yung pag nag aaway kami, walang kibuan then mawawala na lang. diba sabi its not good kasi naiipon. 

[Shadow Angel]

^tama hindi maganda darating ang time lalabas din mga yan kahit maliliit na issues kasi hindi nyo na settle. Bakit hindi nyo pag usapan. Isa sa mga natutunan ko sa relasyon kailangan ang effective communication. Hindi basta usap lang, hindi rin dahil everyday kayo nag uusap effective na communication nyo. Dapat pareho may cooperation hindi pwede isa lang. 

[super bratinella]

- do not forget to still thank you, you are welcome and sorry to each other even how little things it may be.
- may still take a bath together once in a while
- put a love note (also for your kids) in his baon, to show him you appreciate everything about him and how you well love him.
- once in a while out of the blue text or chat him with sweet nothings.
- take care of your body, I know our husband really do not mind how chubby we can get, balato nyo na lang sa husband natin.
- be with a heart of an early teens kahit na late 30's na kayo.. giggle, laugh, and have fun!
-avoid too much drama, guys tends to avoid those stuff as much as possible.

[mysterioza_me]

True sis, feeling daw ng guys bina-blackmail daw sila ng girls pag-iniiyakan sila or if girls put a lot of drama in their relationship.

-send sexy pm's or text messages to hubby parang something to look forward to pag-uwi niya para maexcite umuwi

[hermione28]

Ay I need this! Pero I need tips for newlyweds. Kung ano ba mga need gawin ng isang wife. 

[ri-anne]

new wife ba at wala pang kids? Yan ang pinakamadali kasi you can focus all your attention to your hubby. But kahit may anak na, pwede pa rin naman to gawin:

-I-spoil at super asikasuhin sya.
-Give body massage, or kahit head and shoulder or feet massage lang while talking to each after a days work.
-Prepare all the things he needs when going to work (baon, clothes, socks, etc)
-Ipagluto ang mga fave food nya or kahit simple dishes basta with love
-Araw araw s3xy time

i'm sure there are more...

[hermione28]

wow thanks sis!

mukhang na ispoil ko naman sya since we got married.
Massage hindi masyado, hindi ako marunong! haha.
ang sweet naman ng prepare all the things he need, pero parang ang hirap, kailangan ko ata gumising ng super aga?    Sabay kasi kame pumapasok, hinahatid nya ko sa office. So I can only prepare for our baon. But not everything like clothes and socks! shocks, oo nga try ko nga ayusin lahat.
Buti natuto na ko magluto! 
Taray ng sexy time araw araw! Hahaha. 

[EllaBratin]

Both working? 

1. Magchikahan sa gabi bago matulog, kung anong nangyari sa araw ninyo. 
2. Tigilan ang pabebe, hindi na katulad ng bf-gf na lalaki lagi ang sumusuyo. 
3. Just be yourself. Hindi mo kailangan magpa-impress sa kanya, tapos hindi mo kayang panindigan sa huli. 
4. Mag-I love you lagi. 
5. Kiss sa lips bago pumasok sa work at pagdating ng bahay. 
6. Regular sexy time. 

[ri-anne]

^^natawa naman ako sa comment mo sis about sexy time! sabagay may pagka-unrealistic nga hahahha
Tama at least regular sexy time
 
About massage ok lang kahit di ka marunong, pa-guide ka na lang sa hubby mo anong gusto nya hanggang eventually makukuha mo rin yung tamang pressure etc. Pero since both working pala i can imagine nakakapagod nga yan, so maganda din kung pati ikaw i-massage din nya.

^4 & 5 ... Isa yan sa "routine" namin. Good husband/wife practice.
Papuntang work or kahit simpleng may lakad lang at hindi kami magkasama, bago mag-part ways, may kasamang hug, kiss at i love you.
Kahit nagmamadali at mabilisan lang "(2sec hug at smack kiss)..lab u" LOL hindi nawawala yun. Pero most of the time hindi naman kelangan magmadali.

[simang]

+1 sa Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood

[yannuh]

Taray ng sexy time araw araw! Hahaha. 

push yan sis hahahaha! since bagong kasal tayo, sulitin na yaaan

[barbillie]

1. Always meet halfway. Pag galit ang isa, wag na salubungin ng galit din. Lalong hindi magkakaayos.
2. Forgive. Pag nagsorry at repent na ang isa, wag na magtanim ng sama ng loob, or maging historical. Be sincere in asking for forgiveness, or giving forgiveness.
3. Your relationship should be like the way you kiss each other. Yung mas gusto mong magbigay, kesa tumanggap. 
4. Be sensitive. Hindi lang puro sayo iikot ang married life. Kaya kelangan sensitive ka sa needs ng partner mo.
5. Know your partner's love language. Kung ang love language nya eh "acts of service", sa ganoong paraan lang mapupuno ang lovetank nya. Kahit ilang milyong beses ka magsabi ng i love you, hindi sya magiging contented. So know what makes your partner happy.

[yn061515]

^ on point! 
Hindi nga talaga panay sa babae umiikot ang mundo sa buhay mag-asawa, you have to learn to be selfless, sensitive to your husband's needs and wants, forgiving, understanding at loving. Loving loving!
Been married for 2 years at madaming beses ko ng muntik ibalik sa matres ng nanay nya ang asawa ko. But at the end of the day, narerealize ko how lucky I am to have him. Hindi man sya perpekto, nageexert sya ng effort to make me happy and to satisfy and meet my out this world demands and expectatoins. Kahit gaano katindi ang inis ko sa kanya, pinapa ngibabaw ko parin yung pagmamahal at respeto. I try to remember why I fell inlove with him in the first place. I try to think ano ba ang mali ko o nya, at paano namin maiimprove? Mga ganyang tipo. 

[sarsingkit]

^^Tama! Very nice and practical advise from sis Barbiellie. Especially number 2, eto talaga ang natutunan ko the hard way sa relationship namin. If you choose to forgive, that's it. Kahit ilang beses mo pa maisip ang kasalanan nya, wag mo na uungkatin pa sa harap nya.

Another thing siguro na hindi "conventional" sa relationship namin is that natutulog kami kahit magkagalit. I prefer kasi to sleep on it and just talk about it when your emotions are not getting the best of you. Mahirap din kasi pilitin pag usapan ang issue kung galit kayo pareho baka kung ano lang ang masabi ko so mabuti pa eh magpray at matulog para maging objective sa pagdidiscuss ng problema the next day.