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It's hard to get HARD
« on: July 27, 2016, 01:20:54 am »
My boyfie and I are 4 years na and with a given age gap of 12-13 yrs. He's already on his 40-ish.
I noticed lately medyo mahirap syang tumigas or di na sya tulad ng dati na laging hard. Minsan during intercourse lalambot sya so I have to stop kahit at the middle of my climax to give him a bjob. There were even times na hindi ko talaga mapigilan na hindi mafrustrate and nagiging issue tuloy namin.

Is his age of 40 a factor even if he has a healthy lifestyle? He doesn't smoke and drinks occasionally lang and he goes to gym every day. Is it because matagal na kaming nagsesex? nagsawa na ba sya? Or is this a red flag of him having sex with other girls?

I need your thoughts or experiences and advice of what to do. Love ko naman siya e. Kaso syempre may needs ako.
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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #1 on: July 27, 2016, 07:21:35 am »
Dahil sensitive ang mga lalaki pag dating sa manoy, habaan mo na lang pasensya sa problema.
Alam ko pinagdadaanan mo kahit na ang problema naman sa amin eh pagbaba ng sex drive pero pareho yung frustration.

Kailan nagsimula ang problema? Bakit mo naisip na may iba? Meron bang senyales?

Pag matagal na nagsesex, ang kadalasan na nababawasan ay yung gigil at excitement. Pero kung aktong magsesex na, madalas eh game naman si manoy.

Makakatulong kaya ang porn sa inyo?

Ang healthy lifestyle ay di naman kasiguruhan na walang magiging sakit. May mga health buff na nagkakaheart attack.
Ok sana isuggest na magpacheck up sa doktor kaso depende yun gaano ka-open ang partner mo sa mga ganung bagay. Madalas kasi di kumportable sa topic o kaya nakakasakit ng ego.

Ano ba yung sabi niya sayo tungkol dito sa isyu?

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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #2 on: July 27, 2016, 12:03:29 pm »
Not that it's a problem. I would say na it's kinda normal. Aminin man o sa hindi ng mga kalalakihan, pero age is really a factor pagdating sa sex drive namin. Factor mo yung stamina at yung hormones. Iba ang drive ng lalake durng Teens at iba din sa late 20s. I would say iba rin kapag approaching middle age na like your BF. Kaya possible talaga na yung age gap nyo is medyo naka affect sa sexual relationship nyo. If let's say young adult ka, approaching your prime, dun pa lang tumataas ang sex drive mo, sa BF mo naman, approaching middle age eh medyo pababa na. So yeah, tama si sis shinies na you need to understand na lang and find a different approach para parehas kayo ma satisfy.

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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #3 on: July 27, 2016, 10:03:34 pm »
Dahil sensitive ang mga lalaki pag dating sa manoy, habaan mo na lang pasensya sa problema.
Alam ko pinagdadaanan mo kahit na ang problema naman sa amin eh pagbaba ng sex drive pero pareho yung frustration.

Kailan nagsimula ang problema? Bakit mo naisip na may iba? Meron bang senyales?

Pag matagal na nagsesex, ang kadalasan na nababawasan ay yung gigil at excitement. Pero kung aktong magsesex na, madalas eh game naman si manoy.

Makakatulong kaya ang porn sa inyo?

Ang healthy lifestyle ay di naman kasiguruhan na walang magiging sakit. May mga health buff na nagkakaheart attack.
Ok sana isuggest na magpacheck up sa doktor kaso depende yun gaano ka-open ang partner mo sa mga ganung bagay. Madalas kasi di kumportable sa topic o kaya nakakasakit ng ego.

Ano ba yung sabi niya sayo tungkol dito sa isyu?

Wala naman senyales na may iba sya kasi pag magkasama naman kami hindi naman siya mahilig mag phone or yun may palaging katext. Minsan lang siguro may times na kaming girls may hinala. Pero dinidismiss ko nalang yun thought unless mahuli ko sya on act.

Nag start yun problem nun maoperahan sya nun tinanggal yun apdo nya. Nun una naiintindihan ko pa pero almost 2 years na nun naoperahan sya tsaka mas lumala pa.

Although pag nag oopen up naman ako sa kanya regarding sa paglambot niya pinapakiusapan nalang nya ko na dagdagan namin yun foreplay. Dagdagan ko daw yun pag bj. Siyempre ginagawa ko nalang kahit minsan nakakapagod na sa part ko pero di ko rin talaga matago yun frustration ko kasi nasanay ako na lagi siyang matigas. Lately kasi di na ko nasasatisfy. Lagi akong bitin. Nagpepretend nalang ako na nasatisfy ako kasi ayoko mahurt ego nya.
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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #4 on: July 27, 2016, 10:08:01 pm »
Not that it's a problem. I would say na it's kinda normal. Aminin man o sa hindi ng mga kalalakihan, pero age is really a factor pagdating sa sex drive namin. Factor mo yung stamina at yung hormones. Iba ang drive ng lalake durng Teens at iba din sa late 20s. I would say iba rin kapag approaching middle age na like your BF. Kaya possible talaga na yung age gap nyo is medyo naka affect sa sexual relationship nyo. If let's say young adult ka, approaching your prime, dun pa lang tumataas ang sex drive mo, sa BF mo naman, approaching middle age eh medyo pababa na. So yeah, tama si sis shinies na you need to understand na lang and find a different approach para parehas kayo ma satisfy.

Oo that's correct. I'm in my late 20's kaya yun mataas talaga yun sex drive ko while yun kanya pababa. I know naman he's compensating it by being nice and sweet sakin pag magkasama kami. I appreciate naman the effort. Siguro nabigla lang ako sa transition ng sex relationship namin. And i wanted to fully convince myself na normal lang yun nangyayari and not because may iba siya. Although wala naman akong nahuhuli sa kanya pero minsan kasi di ko maalis sa isip ko na may iba just to rationalize yun pagbaba ng sex drive nya. So it's nice talaga na may guys like you to remind and confirm sakin na normal lang yun nangyayari.
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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #5 on: July 28, 2016, 04:00:30 am »
^and you do realize that it will only get worse as he gets much older...
yes it's most probably age affecting his libido and not having an affair, heck if he can barely satisfy you how much more if he has some 'activities' on the side, were would he get energy for that, di ba?
maybe he should start considering talking to a urologist about ED medications.  and it's not much of a taboo anymore, guys at some point will need help staying 'up'.
it will only get worse for you, your frustration, unless you fully accept his situation and you learn to tone down your own urges.  ;)
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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #6 on: July 28, 2016, 11:53:07 am »
ok, my bf is 60 already and im in my 40's, wala pa naman kaming one year pero nagkukuwento siya na iba talaga when he was still young, as in its hard and its easy to push inside. unlike ngayon hahawakan pa nya ng dahan dahan para lang maipasok. i have also asked my friends who have partners na same age sa kanila, at wala namang problema. ok lang naman sa akin pero since he is my first, naiisip ko ano kaya iyong mga medyo bata sa kanya siguro pasok na kaagad..lol.

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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #7 on: July 31, 2016, 04:17:36 pm »
Ayun naman pala.. Eh kung hahabaan foreplay, aba hindi lang dapat BJ! Kailangan siya din ay trumabaho ;) O kaya eh magsimula na kayo gumamit ng mga "laruan" ;)

Pero dahil nga may problema, compromiso talaga gagawin niyo... Kailangan mo matutunan tanggapin na hindi mo lagi makukuha gusto mo.

Oo mahirap yan kasi pataas libido ng mga babae habang tumatanda. Eh alangan naman hiwalayan mo dahil lang sa sex? Pwera na lang kung sobrang importante talaga ito sayo, baka dapat suhestiyon mo na pumunta na nga kayo sa doctor?

Saka kung iisipin mo lagi na, di ako satisfied, di ako satisfied eh ganun na nga kalalabasan nun..

Di ka nagseselfie sis?

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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #8 on: September 07, 2016, 02:01:57 am »
it happens.

im in the early 30's pero i had this experience before. there are different factors. nakakahiya actually everytime na nangyayari. although libog na libog ako, hindi ko alam kung bakit biglang tumatamlay manoy ko. siguro it happened mga 2-3 times. nag-iisip na nga si misis kung bakit ganon, kinausap nya ako kung meron daw ba akong iba, or kung hindi na ako attracted sa kanya, pero yung mga moments na yun, sobrang gusto ko siyang laspagin sa gigil ko, pero wala. foreplay titigas, then intercouse, mayamaya, mejo mawawala nanaman.. though nawala din [textspeak!] moments na yun eventually. naisip namin na sobrang stressed out ako sa work nung mga panahong yon, saka medyo madalas kame magsex, saka meron din akong mga problema sa parents ko. so siguro, stress at anxiety at kung ano ano pa ang naging cause. ngayon, since wala naman na akong problema masyado, hehe. balik hardcoran na ulit! lol

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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #9 on: May 29, 2017, 03:04:35 am »
It's age and sabi nga nila one thing we can' t beat is Father Time.

Aside from longer foreplay, have you two tried spicing things up like using toys, doing role plays, or being more adventurous with regards to where and how you do it?  How about him taking meds to keep him hard?

I do have a question though ... does it take you a long time to cum? I don't mena to be forward and disrespectful. But some men, if the lady takes a long time to cum, may lose that libido. They may get distracted or they may tire before you cum.

Hope all goes well! Good luck and have fun!

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Re: It's hard to get HARD
« Reply #10 on: December 05, 2017, 04:26:17 pm »
try mo painumin mo ng robust yung mister mo

 


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