Bf/Gf vs Hubby + Wifey

[tomatostellar]

Ano ang pinaka major difference since you got married?
Ano nag bago sayo since you became a wife? Ano nagbago since naging husband sya? How about sa relationship nyo?
Good and bad, please share

[Kiiismet]

I just got married 3 months ago after being in a relationship for 6 years. Parang wala pa naman ako nakikitang major pagbabago. Siguro too early to say. Hehe

[ri-anne]

Bf/Gf
 We only see each other once a week (during weekends, pag may date or when he visit me at home)
 After date, he'd send me home then we part ways, sabay text sya "home nako, gudnyt, lab u" or he'd call to tell me those things
Hindi pa makapagtelebabad, bawal.

Hubby+Wife
 We're together everyday. He's (& I'm) the last person I see and talk to before I sleep and first person I see in the morning.
 Unlimited cuddles, hugs and kisses.
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Bf/Gf
 Mga away ay sobrang petty. Kapag hindi ko lang nasagot yung phone or matagal syang naghintay, sobrang seloso, etc

Hubby+Wife
 Mas malalim na yung issues/challenges involved but mostly i can sum up to two - handling finances & raising a family


So far that's what comes to my mind at the moment na napansin kong major difference in our relationship.


As a wife, i've matured along the way in handling arguments and difference in opinions. And during Bf/gf - Ako lagi (mostly) nasusunod! LOL Of course nung married na, hindi hehe Compromise na dapat.

My hubby naman, lagi akong sinusuyo pag may tampuhan nung mag-Bf/Gf pa kami. Nung married na, unti unting natigil na. Ok din actually kasi natigil pagiging immature ko.
Bf/Gf he'd always open the car door for me, when married not anymore. He still opens doors for me though  
Pag kakain kami sa resto, inaayos nya yung spoon/fork:knife ko, pinupunasan, etc. ngayon hindi na hehe. He used to carry my handbag, now when heavy na lang....
But he's still as sweet as before

Haba na pala! LOL kakatuwa mag reminisce

[badw33d]

Nothing much changed after marriage, oh I guess the part where we plan to have a baby :-)

When we were bf/gf, we acted like we're husband and wife, so the goals are being achieved and the future is being set.

[cutemama]

ok tong thread na to ah. 4 years married na kami, pero over all, 7 years in a relationship na kami kung isasam yung bf/gf years.

1. ) BF/GF - galante, ilang days pa lang kaming mag bf/gf niregaluhan niya na ko ng digital camera, kasi december naging kami.  Libre niya rin ako tour sa SG,wala pa kasi ko sahod that time.

MARRIED- kuripot na haha, wala ng mga gifts.


2.)bf/GF - hindi masyadong caring. nung nahospital ako siya nagdala sakin, 4 days ako naconfine pero  1 day lang siya andun.. ( I understand naman kasi may work siya bawal umabsent).

MARRIED- sobrang caring na niya, siya lagi nag aalaga sakin, simula nung kinasal kami 3 x na ko nahospital including nung nanganak ako, at siya talaga lagi bantay ko and nag-aalaga sakin pag may sakit ako or lagnat lang

3. BF/GF- super text grabe pagkagising, bago matulog, kahit nasa work. pag dating ng gabi galing sa work, telebabad kami (landline), magdamagan yan. minsan nakakatulog na ko nasa fone pa siya.

NEWLY WED- (1-3 yrs) super text and tawag pa rin siya sakin,pag nasa work ako. as in kala mo hindi kami magkasama sa bahay.

NOW - hindi na tumatawag, pag emergency na lang, at bihira na lang magtext,


4. BF/gf- sweet in a way pero hindi PDA, pero lagi holding hands or akbay while walking. dinadala niya rin bag ko pag mabigat.

NOW- no holding hands na while walking, pag tatawid na lang hahaha... pero yung sa bag, dinadala niya pa rin lalo na pag mabigat.

5. BF/GF, and NEWLY WED- super sorry and suyo talaga siya pag natatampo ako.

NOW- hindi na siya nag sosorry and suyo, minsan na lang pag alam niyang mali talaga siya. kasi before kahit ako mali, siya pa rin nagsosorry.. pero now, hindi na haha tinanong ko siya bakit di na siya ganun, sabi niya na-analyzed niya na daw yung ugali ko haha pag sinuyo niya daw ako lalo lang daw ako mag iinarte at uulit ulitin ko pa rin yung ganung attitude, yung simple bagay inaaway ko siya haha

kaya tuloy ngayon hindi ko na siya inaaway or di na ko nag po-power trip kasi alam ko di na eepekto sa kanya haha

[tomatostellar]

^ lol sa pagka kuripot ni hubby at sa pang power trip mo then ;p

[glamorosa_09]

Noon...
mas maganda ang relationship with in-laws kasi hindi sila nangingialam
Ngayon...
Naging issue ang in-laws, kasi nagko-cross ng boundaries. Pero good thing I learned to be assertive na. And with me being assertive, they backed off.

Mas ito yung pinaka nag-cause ng bump in our relationship. Naisip ko nga, hindi kami maghihiwalay dahil di kami magkaintindihan, mas maghihiwalay pa kami dahil sa magulang nya LOL.

Noon
Hindi pwedeng lumipas ang isang linggo na hindi kami nagkikita.
Ngayon
Kahit more than a week ang bakasyon sa parents ko, ok lang di kami magkita.

Noon
Sya palagi umaamo pag galit kami
Ngayon
Natuto na ko... pero need more improvement.

Noon
Mas immature at pa-baby
Ngayon
Konti na lang, LOL

[imprincessfiona]

One year and 5 months pa lang kaming married

bf/gf
galante si hubby

husband/wife
kuripot pala (he handles finances well)

bf/gf
LDR

husband/wife
magkasama kami every other day (Angono-San Mateo)

bf/gf
sweet sya with flowers and chocolates

husband/wife
sweet pa din pero hugs and kisses na lang (nag-iipon pambili ng house)

bf/gf
matampuhin sya

husband/wife
mas matampuhin ako

bf/gf
konte tampuhan

husband/wife
madalas tampuhan (nasa period of adjustment pa)

Wala pang major changes kasi hindi pa kami nakabukod

[blackgreen]

Nakakatuwa naman magbasa nito, mapapa reminisce ka talaga.

Sa amin naman 1 year pa lang kaming nagsasama, 2 years naman as bf gf.

Bf gf = kaniya kaniya kaming decision sa buhay
Married = palagi na namin kinoconsult ang isa't isa, kahit na nga minor things minsan nagtatanungan pa kaming 2

Bf gf = may flowers pag v-day
Married = kasal na daw kami wala na flowers, pero binigyan niya pa rin ako kinabukasan kasi nag tantrums ako the whole day ng feb 14. hehe

Bf gf = hindi siya masyado nagkkwento ng "family matters" nila
Married = lahat na ata ng chismis sa family niya alam ko na

Bf gf = noon kahit gf niya na ako priority pa rin niya family
Married = wala na ako kahati ngaun and inuuna niya na talaga welfare namin 2

Bf gf = pag may sakit ako tinetext or tinatawagan lang ako para kamustahin
Married = nagleleave pa para asikasuhin ako sa bahay. Wala pa nga kami 1 month mag-asawa na-operahan ako so napractice agad yun pag-aalaga niya sa akin.

Yan pa lang muna. Ang babaw pa nung sa amin. Hahaha..

[yannuh]

bf/gf:
once a week lang magkita (every weekend) due to different work schedule

hubby/wifey:
24/7 magkasama (except if asa work), kahit ayaw mo na syang makita, no choice ka. haha (charot syempre)

bf/gf:
pademure

hubby/wifey:
you can both fart or burp aloud infront of each other

bf/gf:
kanya kanyang ligo

hubby/wifey:
conserve water, shower together

bf/gf:
kanya kanyang lakad sa sariling barkada

hubby/wifey:
attend sa kitaan ng barkada nya, attend sa kitaan ng barkada mo ng magkasama na kayo

bf/gf:
kanya kanyang money

hubby wifey:
joint account,mutual savings lagi:)

[blackgreen]

^oo nga noh sis. Kami rin pala joint ba nung naging mag-asawa tsaka yun sabay din maligo. tee hee!..

[super bratinella]

We are already 9years married before getting married we are BF/GF for 5years, the difference :

BF/GF - takas lang lahat kasi we want to be with each other kaya may times na until madaling araw kami nag uusap then movie dates kami then we eat out a lot, wathced concerts, then we drink alot, he smokes alot. Super happy go lucky never thinks of yesterday, we live life each day without any plans. In one simple word Irresponsible.

Hubby/Wifey - 180 degree turn, we dream, we plan, no drinking, he stopped smoking, we became active in church service, we always make  time for our kids bonding, Ngayon takas parin kami pag nag date kasi selosa mga kids.

[simang]

Kakatuwa naman to basahin!

For us, 7 months married pa lang kami. Total of 3 yrs and 4 months together. Wala pang major changes sa palagay ko. As in same routine. Siguro ako lang I'm more open with my finances sa kanya. Before kasi ayokong nagkukwento sa kanya about my finances, kasi papagalitan nya ko. Lol.

[lovemeagain30]

Isa sa napansin kong pagkakaiba ng bf/gf sa married ay ang pagpaplano ng IISA desisyon regardless if it's financial or any other major decisions in life and i swear, hindi eto madali ah!  Isa eto sa pinaka naging challenge namin mag asawa nun nagsisimula kami. unlike bf/gf kayo kunsultahan lang pero sa huli ikaw parin ang magdedecide ng para sa sarili. kung may consequence man, mag isa mo lang aakuin. Ngayon pag asawa mo na, hindi lang ikaw ang maapektuhan kapag nagkamali ka. Kaya dapat talaga tandem ang mag asawa sa lahat ng bagay.

[ayami]

Mas gusto ko ang married life kesa bf/gf stage. Background: 11 years na kami together-- that's since high school. We never broke up, and we got married while in college.

First few years, parang transition, it wasn't as good! I used to write rants about him pa nga dito sa GT hehe. I even thought we needed therapy. But after 2 kids and 6 years, marami talagang improvements (aka nagmature na kami syempre we're getting older lol)

Some changes are:

-Mas attentive na sya sa akin and sa needs ko ngayon unlike dati DotA and Warcraft lang buhay nya lol
-Sex life is waaay better hahaha mas madalas na kasi legal na
-Mas marami kaming quality time together. Example, pag hatid sa kids we will wind up eating sa nearby kainan and talking for quite some time, tapos sunduan time na naman sa kids thanks sa freelance work ko + night shift nya.
-We get to travel together out of town. Nung bf/gf super strict ng parents ko kahit Enchanted Kingdom lang ayaw nila ako pasamahin.
-I now receive hand-picked gifts na pinag-iisipan nya. Noong araw, he admitted na either my mom-in-law ang bibili or yung sis-in-law ko magssuggest sa kanya.

Things like messaging (chats, emails) di naman nagbago. Well mas heavy kami sa SMS noon dahil wala pang smartphone technology dati... I can't think of a bad thing now about married life.

[yannuh]

HAHA add ko din yung takas-date o takas laboy nung bf-gf pa lang. Lagi ko sasabihin sa parents ko me sleepover with college friends/hs barkada or me project na need overnight, yun pala gagala lang kami ni hubby or magcecelebrate monthsaries/annivs hihi

[MissEi]

-At 1 year as husband and wife no more texts except pag late uuwi,biglaang lakad with workmates,pag na stranded.

-Maarte na ako ngayon pabebe ganern lol

-Mas madaming out of town travel

-Anniversary gifts are always combined (travel)

[blushberry]

Bf/ Gf

We date more, watch movies and hang out more.  We were also I guess more in love then because we want to make something of ourselves so we can marry and not worry so much about money when we are settled.  We were so motivated about a lot of things that really matter and we were on the same page.

Husband/ Wife

The romance might have dwindled a little bit.  I'm not completely sure if I was my fault or if it was his.  We are busy with work and the kids.  We both feel guilty leaving the kids at home so we always bring them with us outside.  No more "adult" time or dating time. 

[stylus]

5 months married pa lang kami. Pero ngayon we get to date more often. Mas madalas din kami magkwentuhan. Minsan inaabot kami 2am sa kwentuhan lang. Bihira na rin ang text kasi siguro mas madalas kami magkasama. Kung dati ako ang mas madalas magsabi ng i love you, ngayon si hubby na.

Pero syempre since we're now living under one roof, totoo talaga na may mga bagay ka pa rin na madidiscover sa asawa mo na ayaw mo pero tatanggapin mo na lang.

[maukris]

we've been married for 10mons plang, but live in together for 4mons, since he is assigned overseas.
changes.. I almost do all the household choirs.. super laking adjustment yun since kami lang dito unlike sa Philippines na pwede kami kumuha ng helper.

my husband changed in a good way, he is more intimate, he sometimes surprises me, kahit simple lang na bagay like pag sinabi ko na gusto ko ng ganito, pag nagpunta sa ng grocery, may dala na.

may times nag tagtatalo kami, but now, both of us ang adjusting when to speak up, and wala na concern if sino una mag sorry, wala na yung pride.