yung ate ng bf ko...

[jeninajenina]

ayaw ko pero naiipit ako sa silent war ng bf ko at ng ate nya.

dati, they are both managing the family business pero kasi nagalit yung mama nya so pinaalis sila dun.
na-retain lang yung bf ko kasi signatory siya ng mga documents nila dun sa office, kaso nung umalis yung ate nya, sabi ng bf ko sakin mas nagagawa nya yung work and mas okay daw yung takbo nung business afaik.

With that nagsimula yung away nila ng kapatid nya.

I think she's 30? and she has a kid pero walang asawa.
Concern siya sa ate nya dahil nga at the age, she has a kid tapos it seems like laging baon sa utang yung ate nya, tinataguan yung phone calls from credit card companies, laging nagsasangla, kahit yata sa tindahan may utang, kahit nga daw sa guard ng condo nila umutang. Another thing is she sleeps with an employee nila na married na, sabi nga ng officemate ko, kahit anong pagtakpan gawin is kumakabit siya sa may asawa.

Syempre si bf ko and i, we can't help but talk about it sometimes. Sabi ng bf ko, wala naman sinasagot yung ate nya aside sa pangkain nila nung anak nya araw araw and toiletries.
Yung tuition fee, gas money, car maintenance, bahay, meralco, kasambahay, and everything. Sagot naman daw ng mama nila. kanya kanya sila sa bahay nila so minsan daw kahit yung food daw ng bf ko nagagalaw.

right now, unfriended kami ng bf ko sa facebook nya. Pero concern parin ako sa kanila, my bf is passive of this laging sinasabi na hayaan daw yung ate nya. dahil daw kasi nagmamatigas lalo kapag ganun. syempre automatically galit na din siya sakin for existing. kahit hindi naman talaga ako dapat madamay.

ako naman kasi naiisip ko, sila na nga lang magtutulungan bakit kaya sana wag naman sila mag-away at maging ganito for the rest of their lives. I care about him and his ate pero i'm just his girlfriend. at this point nga, pangengeelam na yung ginagawa ko.  Pag nakikita ko yung ate nya gusto ko ngitian kaso laging nagdadabog.

I don't know how to handle this.

[alice_alice]

You mean well pero iba ang dating sa bf mo. Of course concerned ka pero since galit siya iba ang dating sa kanya when you only want them to be in good terms. It's best na wag ka na lang muna magbanggit anything about his sister. Since family niya naman yan let him deal with his family na lang. Makinig ka sa bf mo, pero kung kaya mo naman na makinig na lang at wag magcomment ganon na lang muna.

In time, huhupa din ang galit at sama ng loob, don't make him feel na wala siyan kakampi. Pwede naman yun di ba? Na wag magtake ng sides. Kahit na di ka naman talaga kumakampi sa ate baka ganon nafifeel niya. Comfort him na lang muna. Lilipas din ang galit tapos pwede niyo na yan pagusapan, kailangan lang muna siguro talagang magpalamig.

[cupcakencheese]

the ate will forever be an ate, and everybody has different style running the business, try to convience your bf at the end of the day the ate is still his ate and he need to show respect to her.

[cutemama]

You said na lagi walang pera yung ate niya, lagi nangungutang and nagsasanla? Baka naman lulong na sa casino or sugal yung ate niya.

[khaleesiCersei]

If i may suggest sis, stay out of it. Family issue yan. And even if you mean well, lalabas ka lang masama dyan kasi outsider ka pa rin. Wag ka na lang magpa apekto kasi sabi mo nga hindi ka naman kasali sa away nila. When your bf talks to you about it, just listen na lang. Wag ka na rin masyado magbigay ng advice, let them handle their issue on their own. kung dinadabugan ka ng ate niya, dedmahin mo na lang. Wag mo din siyang pansinin kung hindi ka niya pinapansin. Isipin mo na lang na isa siyang hangin, yung alam mong nandyan pero hindi mo nakikita hehe. Wag mo saluhin yung negative vibes niya, hayaan mo na lang sya. Hindi naman siya ang bf mo.

[mysterioza_me]

TS ikaw na naman?! Hahaha! Kalat-kalat na issues mo sa bf mo dito sa GT, dami mo ng thread na sinimulan dahil sa bf issues mo, kung ako sa iyo makipag-break ka na diyan para wala ka ng iniintindi. Lahat ng problema mo cause ng bf mo e

[khaleesiCersei]

^ay sis ikaw pala yan hahaha! Ikaw din yung sinasaktan ng bf mo na ikaw yung gumagastos sa kanya? Hehe.. Why are you still with this guy?

[engr_neechee]

Kahapon, nung magrereply ako sa thread na ito, biglang pumitik ang connection ko..heheh..

This may be harsh but on point:  Wag kang makialam lalo na't girlfriend ka pa lang.  Hindi mo sila pamilya.  Don't ever lift a finger sa issue.  Your opinions won't matter.  Hindi ka pa nila family. 

And also, kung puro issue nga yang bf mo, more often than not, hindi kayo ang magkakatuluyan.  You'll eventually get tired of him.  When that time comes na nauntog ka na, mahihiya ka sa sarili mo na nakisawsaw ka dito sa issue na to.  Wag kang magfeeling-manugang, girl.

Sorry pero I have to say it. Peace tayo.  Payong ate. 

[aquacharly]

The best strategy, in my opinion, is to stay out of the way.  Do not even talk derogatorily to your BF (though just between the 2 of you) about his sister, their mom, and/or their family dynamics.  Blood will always be thicker than water; maybe not now, but sooner or later as surely as the sun rises in the East. 

Choose your battles well.  There are some people (Hindi ko sinasabi you ha!) who like to take the higher road (makes them feel superior, or gets them attention),  and then -- reap resentment instead of gratitude. 

[blushberry]

looks like you really have to let them handle the situation themselves.  even if you do get married in the future, there are some things that will have to be left alone.

[[-c-h-a-]]

hay nako, I'm glad I'm not the only one who share the same sentiments... but um... bakit mo kelangan makielam? You said you don't know how to handle this? Uhhh are they asking you to handle it? Girlfriend ka lang, di ka asawa. At kahit asawa ka, you still have to learn your place. Kung di ka involved, wag ka magpumilit maging involved.

[kittypaw]

Wow if i have this drama in my life tapos BF ko palang yung guy, i will not waste time and leave. Especially if you are in your 20s naku girl sibat kana. Sayang life .. drama will kill you inside.