he started cheating after their highschool batch reunion

[FOURever]

I think talking to the mistress was also the right thing to do in her situation. Para na rin malaman niya kung disenteng tao yung babae. Pero from what happened, hindi. So next step must be done. Save yourself and your kid from their mess. Hanggat maaga pa. Sana masabi mo sa parents mo. Mas ok kung ok kayo ng in laws. Para sana kumampi sayo. Take some legal action.

[thebratinella]

mga sis kinausap ko na si girl, hiwalay siya sa asawa niya with kids na pinapaalaga sa nanay niya.
pinagsabihan ko na rin siya ng masasakit na salita, no effect lahat sis. nagsumbong pa siya sa asawa ko, ako pa yung pinagbantaan niya na tigilan ko yung girl na yun.
nature na niya ang pagiging malandi.

I'm sorry about what happened to you, sis but a friend of mine experienced something similar. Her husband hooked up with his high school sweetheart. 3-4 years na rin. At first, she was in denial and tried to save their marriage but the husband wasn't interested. Kunyari magbabago and then balik sa dating gawi. We discouraged my friend na magsama pa sila ng husband niya kasi lagi lang nag-aaway. Ayaw niya sana maghiwalay sila para sa anak nila. Ang ending sumuko na rin siya kasi siya rin ang kawawa. Yung stress almost made her lose their second baby. The girl even sent her a message in FB na kahit magpabuntis pa siya ulit sa husband niya, hindi siya mahal. Ang tapang di ba? Her in-laws know about it. Wala naman silang magawa dahil malaki na anak nila. Yun lang siyempre galit sila sa babae saka never nila kaya tanggapin yun na gf ng anak nila. Yung husband ng friend ko ayaw na maghiwalay sila para siyempre perfect family kuno sa mata ng mga tao kaya lang humiwalay na ng bahay friend ko. Nagpapadala na lang ng sustento yung husband niya for the kids and binibisita pero hindi sila nag-uusap ng friend ko. Yung mistress separated from her husband. May anak din siya. Nalaman ng ex-husband yung relationship ni mistress with my friend's husband. At first pinatawad pa then nagseparate din sila. Sakit sa ulo ang kalandian ng ibang tao.

[izabelle]

Nakakagigil talaga yung mga ganitong tao, alam ng may asawa at anak ang lalaki lalandi pa. sorry for the term pero mas nakakainis ang mga asawa na sobrang kapal ng mukha mag cheat.

However, I think lang ha, part of it kasi, TS, madali ka nagpatawad. Sometimes, ang lalaki kapag hindi sila nahirapan to regain back ang marriage nila or hindi sila nahirapan na makuha forgiveness ng asawa nila, hindi talaga sila titigil kakacheat.

Kasi kahit naman sinong tao na gumawa ng mali at konting sorry lang at promises ay ok na ulit, papaano naman matututo ng lesson ang mga yan diba?

Cheating is a SERIOUS issue so dapat naman kung gusto natin silang bigyan ng second chance e paghirapan nila yun hindi yung sorry lang, konting iyak e ok na.

trust ang nawala dito e.

[kim28]

Sobrang dami na talaga ng mga lalaking makakapal ang mukha na manloko ng asawa to the point iwan nila ito at piliin ang kabit nila.

Sis makakaya mo yan basta pray and isipin mo ang future nyo ng anak mo.

[Girltalker2]

Sobrang dami na talaga ng mga lalaking makakapal ang mukha na manloko ng asawa to the point iwan nila ito at piliin ang kabit nila.

Buti kamo kung iwan nila asawa nila kasi mahilig sila mambabae. Kaso grabe talaga mga sungay, gusto nila may asawa and may mga kabit at prosti at lahat na. Kadiri parang mga hayop/aso na pakawala.

Not a good move to talk to the mistress kasi alam naman niya mali ginagawa niya.

Agree.

Leave them doubting what you're thinking. Kung galit ka etc etc, the happier pa they will be because it just confirms di ka pinapansin ng asawa mo. Kung deadman ka lang, Baka magtataka sya at baka sya din niloloko.



Lastly, I also agree with sis glamorosa. Pag di ka pa ready to leave, have a plan to heal yourself, on your own. Punuin mo sched mo to develop yourself, save more, if possible charge everything sa hudas mong asawa (kahit milyones iyan kulang pa iyan pambayad sa pagbugbog sayo at sa pag sira nya ng buhay mo).

Sakin kasi I went through the same thing, lies after lies after lies. luckily di ako pinagbuhatan ng kamay ng ex ko. Otherwise Baka napatay ko sila. Konti nalang talaga, I was about to hire na someone to harm them. So bad. Kaya ako na mismo lumayo because I don't want to be the person I was becoming. But it took me time, around 10 years siguro hanggang sa  nagising din ako.
Like you, takot din ako malaman ng iba. Ayaw ko din masaktan parents ko. Was concerned paano na mga anak namin. But you know what, God has His ways, just trust in Him and everything will eventually work out. Sana lang huwag mo patagalin ng 10 yrs ang  paghahanda mo gaya nang ginawa ko, sayang oras. The longer you stay, the longer your misery will be and the shorter time left in your life to be happy.

[zanabee]

hi mga sis. akala ko di na ko mag po post dito... akala ko ok na lahat... i already told our parents of our situations except the pambubugbug part and they did everything para mag ka ayos kami. he even ask the help of his parents. ayun pinatawad ko siya. inamin niya lahat ng secretly pagkikita nila ng mga so-called friends niya.. but he never admitted his affairs dun sa isa nilang friend. in 3 weeks time, i saw na he has changed (maybe). til napadalas na naman ang pag o ot niya daw sa work. sudden changed of plans na naman ang nangyari sa mga lakad namin. then i saw sa fb na one of his friends celebrated her birthday at the same day na nag ot daw siya. she posted pictures with their batchmates, the kabit minus my husband, which they did na before pa and he even instructed them to remove all the pics na nandun siya. parang gumuho na naman ang kakatiting na pag asa ko na magbabago pa siya and choose us over his kabitch and kunsintidor friends. again he denied everything and even called me great writer!

[babykat]

Leave him.  I understand that there's a big part of you that wants to work it out.  But it takes two to tango.  If he's putting you thru all sorts of misery, ask yourself if he is still worth it.  The moment he hurt you physically, that should've been the deal breaker.

Ayaw nya makipaghiwalay pero ayaw nya magpakatino.  So the ending, sya lang masaya, ikaw ang nagdurusa.  Swerte naman nya.

Talking to the mistress or his parents or whoever won't make him truly change.  It has to come from him. You can't force him to change if ayaw nya talaga tigilan ang affair nya.

Time to start looking out for yourself.  He does not and must not define you and what kind of life you will make for yourself.

You deserve better.

[lovemeagain30]

Anong meron kaya sa highschool reunion ang madami ang nangangaliwa? haha

I had a ex bf wherein he cheated on me after his HS reunion. Napangasawa pa niya pagkatapos (nabuntis agad!). Their marriage lasted for almost 5 years lang. Tapos naghiwalay. Nakipag communicate ulit sakin and mega explain his side. Siguro akala niya may forever sakanila after nila ulit magkita. epekto yata ng telenovelas yan. akala meant to be. 

[selyado]

may pinagdadaanan din akong issues about marriage.  my friends they're all against annulment.  yung isa born again.  ipagdasal ko daw.  panoorin ko daw yung War Room.  pinanood ko naman.  sorry pero di ko kaya yung ganung style na ipaubaya na lang daw lahat kay God.  basta, if you watch the movie i don't know kung maniniwala ka pa sa ganun.  yung isa naman lawyer pero elder ng CFC.  syempre against din sya sa hiwalayan.  isipin ko daw yung effect nun sa mga anak ko.  tapos i told them na nagpahula ako.  yes, fortune tellers.  lalo ako nakagalitan ng friends ko.  hahaha!  wala lang.  frustrating.

[j.adore]

It's your marriage and your life. Friends can GUIDE you but end of the day, only you can decide.

[kvandenhaak]

^^Meron pang isang movie, Fireproof. But not all situation are the same. There are times that you really have to be away from the person giving you miseries. Minsan kasi ang mga Christians nawawala na commons sense. I am divorcing myself and I can tell you that I have watched and read a lot about Biblical divorce. And I came to a conclusion that if you put God in a box, then yes dapat wag mong hihiwalayan EVER ang asawa mo regarldess of what he/she did. First and foremost, cheating is a ground for separation and/divorce, according to the Bible. If there's physical and sexual abuse, aba naman hindi na yan pinag-iisipan. What those movies are trying to say is that you should not just give up your marriage. Try to resolve it, and that's both of you. Now if there's nothing good coming out of staying together dapat maghiwalay.

[amethyst028]

@zanabee last night i was talking to my mom about sunshine dizon. ganyan rin may third party and stuff. napag usapan nga namin na sa panahon ngayon parang ang dali na lang mag hiwalay. of course you cannot judge the people inside the marriage sila lang ang makakapag sabi kung go pa or give up na.

i remember a story shared by my bff. yung boss niya daw may kabit parang 5years or more na sila nung kabit niya. but the wife siguro alam niya but never siya iniskandalo. never siya inaway. it came to a point na iiwan na ng boss niya yung wife and kids niya for his kabit. kaso biglang natauhan si boss. na realize ata kung gaano ka bait yung asawa. in the end iniwan yung kabit and after that naging super faithful and loving husband na daw. naisip niya siguro na hindi na siya makakahanap pa ng tao na kagaya ng misis niya.

fight for your marriage if you think this is the best for your family. and huwag mo hiwalayan kasi pag nag hiwalay kayo mapupunta na talaga siya ng tuluyan sa babae na yun. don't give them both that satisfaction. always keep praying. Goodluck sis!

[swtgrl_bee]

Yan din ang tanong ko, anong meron sa mga reunion na ganyan? I am 30 years old and hindi ko makakalimutan yung pain na dinala ko nung niloko ng Tatay ko ang Nanay ko. Ganyan din, after din ng reunion nila. Hindi iniwan ng Nanay ko yung Tatay ko, kasi infairness naman sa Tatay ko after nila nagkita once puro text text or tawag tawag nalang. College ako that time, grabe galit ko sa Tatay ko dun. Nagbago naman Tatay ko.

Pero to TS, kung may physical abuse na. I say LEAVE. Please be mindful of your kid too. He's young pero may effect na yan sa kanya.

Yung husband ko of 6 years, nagpaalam before aattend daw ng reunion. I said yes, pero siya naman ang hindi pumunta. 

May ibang spark ba sa mga reunions? Never din ako nag attend ng reunions.

[j.adore]

Or sama si wife sa reunion ☺️

[selyado]

i remember si husband nag reunion din.  sumasama ako pero ayaw nya.  tapos ayun dun nga nag umpisa pakikipag land*an nya with some of his batchmates.  at dun na nag umpisa kalbaryo ko.  or maybe dun lang ako naging aware sa mga kalokohan nya.

[zanabee]

can we use text messages and fb conversation ni kab**ch at ni hubby as evidences sa court just in case i will file a case for them?

[stylus]

Not so sure about it sis. Better consult with a lawyer. But afaik, video lang ang ino-honor. Kahit nga recorded audio ng hello garci case, naging issue diba. Kung tanggapin man as evidence, baka kailangan pa rin ng support na mas matibay.

[Ireneeeeee]

may nabasa din akong story sa readers digest before that struck me about this..sa perspective naman nun nagchecheat sa wife nya..or rather he was about to cheat on his wife kasi after the reunion nagcommunicate ulit sila ng high school sweetheart nya..
sabi nya parang sa high school reunion nareminisce ang young love o mga crush crush tapos lalo na kung hindi happy sa kanya kanyang marriage/ relationship ang both parties ayun na flirt flirt na kasi there's this thought/ illusion of what ifs (what if maging sila uli,what if hindi sila naghiwalay ni highschool sweetheart, etc.) kasi nga young love is somewhat memorable talaga to the point akala nila powerful or feelings na yun. so nagiging vulnerable ang both parties (o sadyang malandi lang talaga sila.lol!)
then angganda nun sinabi nun writer kasi narealize nya sa huli yun mas importante is yun true love nya which is his wife and hindi first love (the highschool sweetheart). kasi ang love nga hindi naman agad agad yun nadedevelop. It is tested through time and trials..basta parang ganun.