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jaded123

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BF never tries to satisfy me
« on: May 23, 2016, 09:50:16 pm »
I know there's more to it than sex and I love him so much pero he doesn't seem to try to satisfy me in bed.  BF said he had more than 20+ partners before meeting me and I only had two. So akala ko at that point he knows how to keep me satisfied in that area.

I've been dating him for almost two years now, Pero wala pa rin.
I tried telling him na I wasn't satisfied and he told me I'm being demanding which eventually lead to an argument. I tried teaching him by leading his hands and all pero wala pa rin e. Ayaw ko na makipagaway sa kanya dahil dun.

Sa totoo lang nawawalan na ko ng gana on our sex life kaya minsan mid sex I just shut up and let him finish kasi alam ko naman na wala siyang effort to reciprocate. When he goes down on me sometimes I fake it kasi he gets to sensitive about it.

After he finish, I just excuse myself to go to the bathroom kasi hindi ko maiwasan umiyak or I just shut myself up sa corner and deny that there is something wrong kasi it always lead to an argument
O kaya naman I just sleep after and don't wanna be touched kasi hindi mawala sa isip ko na he never cared about pleasing me.

I'm know there's more to a relationship than sex but I honestly am frustrated and unsatisfied.
Any piece of advice..

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Re: BF never tries to satisfy me
« Reply #1 on: May 24, 2016, 12:01:21 am »
Jokes fly around how women have so many buttons that no matter how many partners a man has, he can't always satisfy a woman agad agad.
Each person is wired differently kaya wala din bearing yung past sexual experiences niya.

Try to analyze din paano ba kayo magcommunicate (delivery, tone, etc.) about this issue since this is 2-way.

How did you try to tell him that you were unsatisfied? Hindi naman nahurt ang ego niya such that he said instead that you are demanding?
This may be a sensitive issue for him lalo he mentioned about his number of previous partners. Maybe you need to try a different approach?

When he goes down on you, how do you give instructions? Kailangan din maintindihan where he is coming from and what lead to him being sensitive.. Unless sensitive siyang tao as a whole??

Also, it doesn't seem "never" kasi it parang he does try. Going down on you is trying. If he didn't care so much, puro ikaw lang ttrabaho.
Or are you saying that in ALL your sexual encounters, none of those activities satisfied you?

Sex is an integral part of a relationship because it's the physical manifestation of being connected to each other. Lalo na kung sa kasal matutuloy, importante ito.

Pero overall, I think all your complaints about your BF is his defense mechanism in the works that's why I'm asking how you guys communicate with each other about it.

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Re: BF never tries to satisfy me
« Reply #2 on: May 24, 2016, 07:24:32 am »
J.Adore is correct. Hindi pare-parehas ang mga girls. Yung ginagawa mo sa isa, maaring hindi applicable sa iba. I had a girl na gusto hard sucking sa nipple nya. Yung isa naman, mas nag eenjoy ng parang nililick lang. Minsan napag papalit ko. Nagugulat at nasasaktan yung isa pag nasusuck ko ng hard yung nips nya hehe.

As for your concern, importante talaga ang communication during the act. Pero kung hindi sya cooperative, help yourself na lang. Caress your boobs or play your clits while he's inside you para mas ma-stimulate ka and makaraos din.

You can go on top din. Most girls like being on top kasi controlled nila yung movement nila. Alam nila kung paano sila makakapag cum pag sila mismo ang nagtatrabaho.

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Re: BF never tries to satisfy me
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2016, 10:13:37 am »
Hi jaded123,

Thank you for sharing here what you are going through right now.

I believe you have just helped us realize the most important aspect in a relationship...love.

When you are loved, everything about you and from you would be adored and cherished by your lover.  Pag totoong mahal ka, sensitive sa lahat ng tungkol sa iyo.  Naha-high sa iyo.  Alam at patuloy na inaalam ang lahat.  Sa mga kilos mo, mga sinasabi mo...lahat  ina-absorb, pinakikinggan...ine-experience.

Love will open up your lover and he will receive you into himself as you become one.  Kaya alam na alam ng tunay na nagmamahal sa iyo ang kabuuan mo...body, mind, soul...spirit.  Pag in-express sa iyo ang pagmamahal, kilalang kilala ka.  Your lover will know the touches that make you respond.  When you are kissed and caressed...you are being adored...almost worshipped.

...

Ang problema sa nagkaroon na ng multiple partners...lalo na kung naka 20+ na...eh parang halos ubos na siya.  He has given pieces of himself to all those previous partners.  The Psychological implication is that since he had a full sensory experience (lahat ng senses involved sa sex), his body has recorded all those previous sexual encounters and fails to focus anymore.

Heads up din....multiply by 20 your risk of getting HIV/AIDS, other STDs and Diseases.  Maraming tao hindi alam na HIV positive na pala sila dahil walang symptoms sa simula at pwedeing months to years na hindi ma-detect.

Please take care.  May you find the love and affection you truly deserve.


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Re: BF never tries to satisfy me
« Reply #4 on: June 07, 2016, 08:52:27 pm »
haaay I share the same sentiments with you.

I'm sorry for hijacking your thread but halos ganito din kasi kami ng bf ko, madami na siyang sexual encounters and nakikita ko naman yung mga messages nya dati on facebook.
hindi ko nga kinakaya minsan eh. i know i wasn't supposed to know that pero ang sakit pala. hindi ko nga maiwasan magcompare na bakit dati parang ganadong ganado siya sa mga babae pag dating sakin para utang na loob pa.

I've told him that i wasn't satisfied on facebook messenger, kasi hindi ko kayang sabihin sa kanya straight. sabi ko pakiramdam ko ang panget panget ko and parang hindi man lang niya naisip na meron din naman akong needs,  i love him so much pero i think natapakan ko yung ego nya when i told him i wasn't satisfied. just like you, nasabihan nya ko na selfish ako at hindi ako marunong makuntento. at the back of my head, i'm trying to open up to him kasi mahal ko siya, turns out nakasama pa pala. 

I tried all i can to get him satisfied, i tried copying what is see in pornos, yung school girl, lingerie, anything to make him more into me. kaso wala parin. I always go to the waxing salon every month to get it done but he rarely goes down on me. in fact minsan, nagddry na lang ako bigla, kasi alam ko hindi naman ako magccome e, i can't even come on my own kasi sanay na yung katawan ko na hindi ko narreach yung orgasm.

minsan in the middle of the night, we done it once, i never came, umuwi na lang ako, haha grabeng sama ng loob yung nararamdaman ko kasi kahit anong gawin kong way para naman ireciprocate nya yung effort ko wala.

Kala ko dati sex is wala lang sa relationship pero nakakafrustrate pala yung ganito.

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« Reply #5 on: June 08, 2016, 03:19:06 am »
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Re: BF never tries to satisfy me
« Reply #6 on: June 08, 2016, 03:27:59 pm »
Kabaliktaran ng situation ninyo ang situation ko.  Ako, I can make her come always at lagi siyang satisfied.  Pero ako, hindi niya napapa-come.  Well, ako na lang nagpapa-come sa sarili ko...if she asks me, I can come in a few minutes. 

How I wish rin na sana magawa niya sa akin yung nagagawa ko sa kaniya.  I can make her come using my finger (well she'll use her hand on me of course), by going down on her and licking her or with different sex positions.

Actually, nahihiya na siya at laging nagsasabi na "okay ka lang, hindi ka nag-come?"

I just smile.  Ilang beses na kasi namin napag-usapan ang tungkol sa issue na iyon.  Nasagot ko na ang tanong niya.  I admit. matagal ako mag-come...erect lang all throughout...pero ang naiisip ko tamad siya eh...ayaw mag-exert ng effort to reciprocate, lalo na kung naka-come na siya (multiple times at squirting pa siya nun).  Kung exhausted na siya, pwede naman siyang bumawi next time.

Well, hindi naman talaga ako nage-expect ng reciprocation.  Basta napapa-come ko siya, I should feel satisfied na rin.  Nakakalungkot lang.  It would really be nice to see even just a little effort.

Ako kasi, aside from the skills I've developed myself, I've even upgraded my abilities by reading and researching.  Siguro sa iba, maa-appreciate ang lahat ng efforts ko.
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« Reply #7 on: June 08, 2016, 03:59:07 pm »
Oh ayun naman pala.

introvertpixie meet NeilRudecat

Parehas masosolusyonan ang problema nyo. Lol
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Re: BF never tries to satisfy me
« Reply #8 on: June 08, 2016, 04:47:35 pm »
^ Hahaha, nice one.

I would not recommend imitating what's portrayed in pornos.  I could share things I've read from an excellent sex therapist. :-D
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Re: BF never tries to satisfy me
« Reply #9 on: June 15, 2016, 05:03:09 pm »
Oh men medyo nalungkot ako sa nabasa ko. I hope umayos yung guy ang hot kaya ng ididirect ka pa ng girl <3

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Re: BF never tries to satisfy me
« Reply #10 on: June 17, 2016, 03:31:51 pm »
Kung ako siguro yan, I will leave :P  Yes, relationships are not all about sex, but still.


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Re: BF never tries to satisfy me
« Reply #11 on: June 20, 2016, 09:57:15 am »

I always make sure to make my Girl cum 2x when i go down on her, and another one when we DO it, then that will be the time that ill cum.

Because what i feel for her is what i do when we are having sex. I want her to long for what we do together.

 


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