before or after giving birth wedding

[premiemommy]

hi sisses,
wala ako makita na thread about dito.gusto ko lang itanung mga sis,
ano ba mas ok sa inyo before or after giving birth wedding?
gusto ko kase ikasal kame bago ako manganak sa last week ng sept or 1stweek ng oct. due ko para dina hassle sa amin syempre manganganak ako tas mag aalaga ng baby ko.
pero gusto nya after giving birth daw, nasstress ako ok lang naman sa akin kahit civil lang kameng dalawa at kahit isang witness. nababasa ko naman sa ibang thread at nag tanung na din ako kung mag kano magagastos, gusto ko sya kausapin pero di ako makapag open kase feeling ko ayaw pa nya, paano koba sya kakausapin ng magiging ok ang pag uusap namen.?

[meixin]

Ano ba yung reason bakit gusto niya after? baka naman kasi gusto nya maibigay sa iyo yung magandang wedding kaya ganun?

[Mommychinita18]

Same situation tayo sis. Pero kami napag usapan namin na after giving birth na talaga ang wedding. Decision namin pareho kasi ang hassle para sakin yun mag asikaso ng requirements kahit na civil wedding lang. May PROS and CONS and wedding after giving birth eh, opinion ko lang ha.

PROS:
1. Mas makakapag focus sa pagpaplano at hindi minadali yun wedding.
2. Walang lobo sa tiyan. Ayoko kasi ikasal ng may laman ang tiyan.
3. Mas makakapag ipon kaming dalawa ng boyfriend ko.
4. Iwas stress sa pagbubuntis.

CONS:
1. Ipapabago pa sa birth cert ni baby pag kinasal kayo. Kasi kung hindi kasal, naka indiciate yun sa birth cert.

Yan lang naman nakikita ko sis. Choice niyo pa din. Pero pwede din na civil wedding muna tapos tsaka na yung church wedding.

[j.adore]

Yung sa birth certificate ng baby kailangan niyo pag usapan at aralin.
Para no hassle dun, I think at least civil before giving birth then the usual wedding after giving birth.

[itsKat!]

i think the best is to have a civil wedding before giving birth then church wedding after.

but, this advice is only applicable if you are really sure that you want to get married already, not just because of the baby.

If you are getting married just because you are pregnant, I advice sis better think twice or even thrice, especially since you said na "parang ayaw nya pa" wag kayo magpilitan sis dahil mas mahirap yan in the end pag may isa lang napilitan.

*just a piece of advice 

[MS_JanDel]

Tama sila sis na civil before the giving birth and then if you want a church one you can have it after the baby.
But sis try to talk to him also baka kasi may reasons siya para maintindihan mo din yung side niya. 

[premiemommy]

thank u sisses sa mga advice,
pangalawa na kase namen to mga sis.sa 1st baby namen mga 3months ako ayoko makasal nun pero niyaya nya ko sa civil. gusto ko nun church kaya kahit after na. tapos siguro 6mos ko yung mga relatives nya sinabe na mag pakasal kame kahit sa civil para hindi daw hassle sa birthcert ni baby pwede pa na philhealth nalang ni bf ang gamitin hindi na kailangan hulugan ang akin. so sinabe ko yun sa kanya sya naman bahala na daw. tapos nung nawala si 1st baby balak namen pakasal sa civil gamit ang mkuha ko sa sss nun, kaya lang nag aaway kame nun lage na oopen ang kasal so sinabe ko hindi ko nalang sasayangin ang nakuha ko sa sss kung ganun lang din.

ngayon naman hindi na ako vocal sa kanya about sa wedding basta nung nalaman namen nung una na buntis kame sinabe kona sa kanya yun kaya lang minsan napag uusapan maayos minsan hindi, nasstress lang ako kakaisip. then last wed.lang sinabe nya saken biglaan promise daw mag papakasal kame after ko manganak ok lang naman daw saken kung civil .sa akin lang mag civil din lang pala kame after ko manganak bakit hindi pa bago. diba hays ang hirap mga sis, ok kame ok na ok. ang dame nya kase inuna bilin materyalistk kase nakakainis.

[airish_2]

ako sis bago manganak nung nag pakasal, 5 months ang tyan ko church kami pero sinple lang wala kami entourage tapos wala din decoration simbahan syempre bago kami nag decide sigurado na kami at wala ng atrasan

[simang]

Depende sa priorities nyo sis. Based on my observation, usually if pregnant and nagcivil wedding before manganak, napupush aside ang church wedding after the baby. Kahit simple church wedding lang, maglalabas at maglalabas ka pa din ng pera kasi.

Anyway, if ayaw pa ng partner mo, wag mo pilitin. Kasi if mapilitan lang sya because you wanted a wedding, if magkaproblem ang marriage nyo in the future *knocks on wood*, he will resent you.

I'd say make your baby your #1 priority right now. Okay naman kayo ng partner mo sabi mo, so I think wala naman problema kung hindi kayo kasal pa.

[premiemommy]

ako sis bago manganak nung nag pakasal, 5 months ang tyan ko church kami pero sinple lang wala kami entourage tapos wala din decoration simbahan syempre bago kami nag decide sigurado na kami at wala ng atrasan

Bute kapa sis,yung friend ko din same sayo bukas wedding Nya.

Depende sa priorities nyo sis. Based on my observation, usually if pregnant and nagcivil wedding before manganak, napupush aside ang church wedding after the baby. Kahit simple church wedding lang, maglalabas at maglalabas ka pa din ng pera kasi.

Anyway, if ayaw pa ng partner mo, wag mo pilitin. Kasi if mapilitan lang sya because you wanted a wedding, if magkaproblem ang marriage nyo in the future *knocks on wood*, he will resent you.

I'd say make your baby your #1 priority right now. Okay naman kayo ng partner mo sabi mo, so I think wala naman problema kung hindi kayo kasal pa.

Sabagay sis hay,Hindi ko na naman hiniling o ginusto pa ng church wedding civil will do.kahit wala ng church.
Ewan koba siguro gawa na din ng ayoko ng natatawag kame ng live in partner,

Ano ba disadvantage pag Hindi kame Kinasal before giving birth.? Maliban sa birthcert ni baby.

[premiemommy]

gusto ko din pag usapan namen ng maayos pero di ko alam Kung pano ko sisimulan.

[ri-anne]

Bakit sis? Nagagalit ba sya or nauuwi sa pagtatalo tuwing pinag-uusapan yung kasal na topic?  It shouldn't be such a difficult thing to talk about naman sana kung open and willing ang both parties.

[premiemommy]

Bakit sis? Nagagalit ba sya or nauuwi sa pagtatalo tuwing pinag-uusapan yung kasal na topic?  It shouldn't be such a difficult thing to talk about naman sana kung open and willing ang both parties.

Hi sis Hindi naman may time Lang talaga na nag kakainisan kame, lastweek Lang Nya sinabe saken na pag katapos ko daw manganak tska kame papa kasal Kaya Lang iniisip ko kase yung mga dapat a baguhin pag after kame Ikasal, masyado ba ako nag mamadali?

[Chili1113]

^sis, just so you know. once nagpakasal ka ng civil even after your baby is born, your baby becomes automatically legitimized.

Also, while church weddings are important. To be honest, a civil wedding has a lot of practical weight to it. You get full rights as a legal wife, and full rights as a legitimate child for your baby even with a civil wedding alone.

[anamariavictoria]

Hi sis,

My fiance and I opted to get married after I gave birth. We are a young couple and we didn't want to get married dahil lang nabuntis ako. We wanted to be "sure" first. We also didn't consider a civil marriage because we both want to get married in church talaga, as God as our witness.

So eto, ngayon palang kami nagp-plan ng wedding. It was a good choice because I was able to take care of myself and the baby during the pregnancy, and even after our baby was born. Kumbaga, nag focus muna sa pagiging nanay. Ngayon naman, focus din sa wedding planning

Goodluck sis, sana makapag usap kayo ni bf