Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[simang]

^sis if ikaw ang sabihan ng ganyan ng partner mo, how would you feel?

One thing I learned, wag na wag mong sasabihan ang partner mo na hindi ka satisfied sa sex life nyo. Very senstivie mga lalaki sa ganyan. Hindi naman siguro makikipaghiwalay kagad, pero it will hurt their ego big time. It doesn't mean na magtiis ka sa boring nyong sex life ah. You just have to find the right words. Instead of saying na hindi ka satisfied, why not tell him what satisfies you. If he does something na hindi mo gusto, or nakukulangan ka, let him know by encouraging him to do more. Wag na wag yung "hindi mo kasi ginagawa to" or "hindi kasi masarap pag ganito". Say "gusto ko ganito" or best if you can show him exactly how you want it done.

May tanong ako sayo sis, pano mo nasabing di ka satisfied? One thing to do to really enjoy your encounters everytime is to let go of your expectations and just be in the moment. Maraming girls ang hindi nag-oorgasm during contact pero nag eenjoy pa din sila. Marami din kasing girls ang ginagawang standard ang kwento ng iba -- na kelangan mag orgasm or mag squirt or kelangan 1 hour na cunnilingus para lang masabi na enjoy sila sa sex. To really enjoy your partner you have to feel every touch.

[argento]

ano maffeel ni guy when a girl told him na medyo hindi siya satisfied sa kanya, s*x thing.

is your guy small?

[TomHansen]

solepurplelife, obvious naman na type na type mo siya kasi hindi ka naman papayag na sandalan ang balikat mo ng kung sino sino lang diba? At sigurado alam niya yun kaya he's taking his time. kung ganon siya kumilos sayo ibig sabihin may gusto siya sayo, what i mean is may gusto siyang makuha sayo either puso mo or katawan mo lang. Ang tanong is ano ba ang willing kang ibigay? Ingat lang sa mga lalaking nagda-da moves ng ganyan ha..

bea31, siyempre masakit yun pero mabuti na rin dahil naging "honest" yung girl and this should also be a wake up call for him.. Di naman magsasabi ng ganyan ang babae unless gusto niyang ayusin or gustong makipaghiwalay. They should talk and the guy should ask din kung ano ang motibo ni girl para sabihin yun.. Hindi na satisfied yung girl ibig sabihin before nasasatify naman siya, kelangan lang nilang mag-usap at alalahanin ni guy yung mga ginagawa niya dati to pleasure his gf. Normal na bumababa ang libido ng magpartner sa isat-isa after a few years thats why they need to communicate kung ano yung mga bagong magpapasaya sa kanila sa bed, toys, roleplaying, bdsm etc.

[Girltalker2]

@solepurplelife, tama sila.

Huwag ka magmadali. If the guy wants to take his time, sige lang. Pero huwag ka naman kasi mabilis magfall.

Tsaka sis, halatang halata may gusto ka sa kanya. Kung ako, maiinis ako kung sandalan ako. Kahit pa crush ko sya. Anong akala nya sakin, unan? Who gave him the right or even the idea na pasado na sya sakin? Feeling ko lang ang lakas ng loob nya kasi siguro alam nya ok lang sayo kahit ano.

Ang danger dyan is umpisa iyan pa lean-lean. Then aakbayan ka. Then ch-chansingan ka na. Since ok lang naman
sayo, possible na you may always wonder - kelangan ka na mag assume o Hindi?

Siguro kanya kanyang style iyan. Pero sakin, ayoko ng ganyan. If he is interested, tell me and we can go out on a date. If not, eh di wala. Ayoko ng creeping slowly sa likod mo tapos gugulatin ka nalang at iiwan ka sa ere.

[candacena]

haha sis bea31 may naalala tuloy ako nung sinabi mo yan. may naka-do din ako dati ay grabe ang liit tapos hindi nagiging hard. nagtataka lang ako. sa past ko magkiss pa lang kami medyo hard na yung guy. sabi niya yun nga daw problema niya. hindi na ulit naulit, hindi naman dahil sa ayoko pero feeling ko kasi ginagamit lang niya ko kaya ganun pero slight thought na kasama na din sa dahilan yun about sa thing niya. hehe. tanong lang, mahal mo ba siya? kasi pag mahal mo, ma sasatisfied ka. ewan ko lang din. ako kasi kahit gustong gusto ko yung guy pag na turn off ako. nawawala na yung fantasy ko sa kanya! haha. no offense or if hindi man siya magaling if ever ok lang sakin. kasi gusto ko siya eh. hehe gets?

[TomHansen]

bea31, huwag mo siyang tanungin kung na hurt siya assume mo na lang na oo hehe.. Marmai kasing pwedeng maging dahilan so kelangan mong isa - isahin yung mga possible reasons. First is he in medication? maaaring may epekto yun sa libido niya. Second tumaba ba siya kaya mabilis siyang mapagod. Problems sa pamilya or trabaho, baka kasi habang ginagawa niyo yun pumapasok yun sa isip niya kaya nawawala sa focus. If mabilis siya dapat habaan niyo foreplay niyo at dapat ikaw ang mauna para wala nang problema kung mabilis man siya or matagal kapag turn na niya. Be vocal sa mga gusto mong mangyari susunod naman siguro yung bf mo..

[kvandenhaak]

Speaking of erection. Common ba yung minsan lumalambot in the middle of the deed? Me kilala kasi ako, ang jowa nya daw minsan nalalatutay si manoy during penetration. She had 2 relationships before and she never experienced that. She was assured by the guy na hindi sya ang problema. It's not really a big problem though sa kanila kasi yung kakilala ko doesn't enjoy the penetration for some weird reason. Mas enjoy daw sya sa foreplay at si guy matyaga at magaling in that department and can give her multiple Os na bonggang bongga. Pero gusto din daw nya mag-enjoy si guy and she doesn't quite know how to deal with it.

[shinies]

Nangyayari sa amin yan pag may nakakatawa habang nag-do. Pero kung seryosohan at walang distraction, di naman.

Tingin ko depende din sa rason bakit nalanta si manoy?

[argento]

^tingin ko mabibitin ka pa rin.

[argento]

mukhang hindi sakto ang kailangan mo 

[jadeofhearts]

Anong ibig sabihin ng guy kapag ganito ang scenario:

Kasi may nalaman ka na this guy said to your close friend na gusto ka pa nyang kilalanin.

Then nagdeactivate ka sa FB for a couple of days.
Tapos nag chat ka kay guy ng..

G: musta (insert tawagan)
Boy: Na block mo ba ako? Kasi one time ichachat kita. Ayaw na e... wala ka pang pic
G: Hindi ah nagdeactivate lang
B: Weee bakit naman?
G: wala lang Trip ko lang haha
B: Ok
G: Bakit ano ba yun ichachat mo?
B: Wala lang mangangamusta lang sana hehe
G: Ah haha. balita?
B: Naghahanap kay forever
G: hahaha ganun nasan ba?
B: hahaha ewan


Tapos bigla siyang nagsabi...

Boy: [insert name] pag nag ka bf ka, friends parin tayo ah
Girl: Haha oo naman

[dismembered]

Dalawa lang yan:

1. Nagbabakasakali sya sa iyo. Tinitignan nay kung pwede kang prospect. Lahat naman ay prospect anyway sa kanya kasi naghahanap sya ng forever nya.
2. Style high school. Style torpe. Iniisip agad na magkakaBF ka at hindi sya iyon pero nagbabakasali sya na crush mo din sya at you'll do things easier for him, you know MU.

[simang]

^^anong ibig sabihin pag ganyan? Walang ibig sabihin. Pwedeng gusto ka nyang kilalanin. If talagang gusto nya hindi dyan mag eend ng conversation nyo. So kung wala na syang paramdam after ng usapan na yan... Baka nag iisip pa sya kung gusto ka nyang makilala talaga.

^lagi kong sinasabi walang lalaking torpe. Ang 'torpe' ibig sabihin lang hindi ka pa nya ganun kagusto. Pag gusto ka ng lalaki walang makakapigil sa kanya

[dismembered]

^ Meron pa ring torpe. By definition yung hindi expressive or sadyang walang alam sa mga ganyang bagay. Yung kahit boyfriend mo na, torpe pa rin mag express ng feelings. hehe  Pero tama ka, we could say na hindi lang talaga ganun ka "gusto" para i-overcome ang fear of rejection and other obstacle to get into the girl.

[lovely_carrot]

Please tell me if this guy is too good to be true:

Girl and Boy met on Tinder
Conversation was really good, she made him laugh a lot and he said he's thankful she is not boring and dumb.
Agreed to meet on a date over drinks and pool
Flirting here and there, ending Girl spent the night with Boy, (of course something happened)

Background check, Girl is 35, single mom, single for 2 years, , employed/independent woman, Catholic
Boy is 33 years old, single, had a 7 year rel. few years back, owns a family business, educated in Australia, Muslim

Boy told his best friend about her.
Boy loves Girl's body - big thighs and butt, he told her numerous times (body parts which Girl is super insecure about)
Boy told Girl he doesn't go down on any women on a first date, with Girl he did (sorry TMI  )
On one occasion, Boy told Girl that he is falling for her. Willing to wait until she's ready to say it back.
Girl told Boy its way too soon, they've only been on a second date. Boy replied he already saw something he wants in a woman, with Girl.
Since he is a Muslim, he asked her "If I'm going to ask you to marry me one day, would you convert to Islam?"

She said yes, for the right person.

They're still talking, sexting and enjoying each others company. No heavy or serious talks yet about future and such.

But based on the above facts, is he for real? Please give your thoughts. TIA 

 

[jadeofhearts]

^^^^ ganun ba yun bro?
out of nowhere kasi bigla yung sinabi nya sa last part eh. kaya bigla nalang akong napa "Oo" kahit gusto ko sana itanong sa kanya na bakit niya bigla nasabi yun. Actually nyan, si close friend ko na ang nagsabi na gusto daw ako ni guy at gusto pa ako nito kilalanin. Sinabi sa kanya yun. Pero bakit hindi masabi ng straight sa akin ni guy? Pinadaan pa talaga sa friend ko. Kung ako talaga tatanungin, hindi din naman ako nagmamadali. Just like him, gusto ko rin siya kilalanin pa.


^^^ hindi lang naman yan sis ang convo namin. may sumunod pa after nyan, hindi ko lang inomit kasi parang wala na connect sa question ko. LOL. Tsaka sa 7 days a week, sa 4 days na yun nagkakamustahan kami, nagkwekwentuhan. Just a random talk. Lumabas narin kami before. Hoping na he'll invite me naman manood ng movie.

^^ True! may kilala rin naman akong torpe talaga hahaha. pero nakakainis yung ganung lalaki. mas prefer ko rin yung straightforward at hindi yung pinapaikot-ikot kami. 

[simang]

^gusto mo sya no? Kinikilig ka eh. kung gusto mo sya, enjoy mo lang. Wag ka na magisip ng magisip kung anong pakay nya sayo. Enjoy mo lang. Kung mag level up sya eh di good. Kung hindi, eh di move on sa next. Again, kung gusto ka ng lalaki, he will let it known to you. Di ka makoconfuse, di ka magdadoubt

^^lovelycarrot, it's very obvious that you're enjoying his company. No one can say for sure if he's for real. But if you two are happy, what else matters? Enjoy mo lang and do not overthink. And make sure you're serious about the probability of converting to Islam and hindi mo lang sya sinabi on the spur of the moment. I think even if hindi ka devout Christian/Catholic, converting to another religion/spiritual practice needs some serious thinking

[shinies]

Baka kaya maaga nagtatanong ng mga ganyan para masigurado na hindi sayang ang oras?

Pero oo nga, "just enjoy" tapos "cross the bridge when you get there"
Kikilalanin niyo pa naman ang isa't isa at dun din naman malalaman.

Yung sa pagiging muslim, ok lang din yan basta wala isyu sa inyo o sa pamilya mo at alam niyong lahat ano ang mga responsibilidad ng pagiging muslim. Di rin yan basta basta kung nanggaling sa katolisismo dahil sa pagkakaiba.

Ako mismo ang ayaw ko lang diyan eh pwedeng may ibang asawa

[Girltalker2]

Please tell me if this guy is too good to be true:

Girl and Boy met on Tinder
Conversation was really good, she made him laugh a lot and he said he's thankful she is not boring and dumb.
Agreed to meet on a date over drinks and pool
Flirting here and there, ending Girl spent the night with Boy, (of course something happened)

Background check, Girl is 35, single mom, single for 2 years, , employed/independent woman, Catholic
Boy is 33 years old, single, had a 7 year rel. few years back, owns a family business, educated in Australia, Muslim

Boy told his best friend about her.
Boy loves Girl's body - big thighs and butt, he told her numerous times (body parts which Girl is super insecure about)
Boy told Girl he doesn't go down on any women on a first date, with Girl he did (sorry TMI  )
On one occasion, Boy told Girl that he is falling for her. Willing to wait until she's ready to say it back.
Girl told Boy its way too soon, they've only been on a second date. Boy replied he already saw something he wants in a woman, with Girl.
Since he is a Muslim, he asked her "If I'm going to ask you to marry me one day, would you convert to Islam?"

She said yes, for the right person.

They're still talking, sexting and enjoying each others company. No heavy or serious talks yet about future and such.

But based on the above facts, is he for real? Please give your thoughts. TIA 

If I'm the girl, I will be cautious on this one.

The guy doesn't sound as serious. Sa pagkakaalam ko, Muslims are conservative and don't believe in premarital sex in general.

Tapos being a Muslim, di naman isang tanong lang, expect nya alam agad ng iba how to be one. He doesn't sound serious especially if he won't help her convert. Parang picture yourself as a catholic and you Want a Friend to convert. Will u just ask do u want to convert? Hindi lang yun di ba? You will start to tell your Friend about the religion, belief, obligations, responsibilities, customs etc.

Parang walang ganyan nangyayari. Parang the guy asked lang as a whim. And enjoys his relationship with his GF. Wala akong nakikita kung serious si guy o hindi. Too early to tell. Siguro later possible. For now, it can go either way.

Pero oo nga, "just enjoy" tapos "cross the bridge when you get there"

Sometimes at the start of getting to know, you have to be clear sa mga non negotiables and religion may be one of them. Lalo na sa mga Muslim.

Does the girl really understand what being a Muslim mean? it is not about having several wives. The first Wife have to agree for the guy to marry a second one. And if the guy wants a third Wife, first and second wives should also agree so Hindi ganun kadali.

But Muslims believe in submissiveness din ng mga babae, or siguro depende sa pagka conservative din. They fast, kaya mo ba for a month? At gabi ka lang kakain? Cannot eat pork ever? Cannot have dogs? Wear the head veil, Long sleeves and Long skirt or pants all the time? No shorts or mini skirt?
Marami pang iba...
 

[lovely_carrot]

^ and ^^ Thanks for your inputs.

I get your point Girltalker2, as we talk more and more, medyo napapaisip na din ako, mahirap pag religion ang usapan esp I have a daughter who's Seventh Day Adventist.. too many complications and I'm having doubts if its even worth it. Siguro casual relations is fine but long term and serious, I have second thoughts. Of course my kid comes first..