Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[dismembered]

^bro, did she use Ellen Adarna's photo? Haha sya kasi yung sikat na profile photo sa friendster dati. Parang lahat ng babae mukha ni Ellen ang gamit lol

 

^^ what happened after? nakakatuwa naman na you try to meet up/get to know people through the online sources. i mean, you dont have to naman kasi lol, you know what i mean. jejejeje.

Eh todo tanggi pa sya eh huling huli ko na na poser sya. So ayun, at least na prove ko na poser sya. Haha kainis lang... ang pinaka closure na lang siguro is nung nung na-meet ko personally yung real one at sinumbong ko yung poser nya. Funny thing, before sya sumikat mas kilala sya as name nung poser nya. Ibang iba kasi ang social media dati. Parang every testimonials sayo at everyone you meet is true. Hindi katulad ngayon, praning ka agad dapat.

[Evolet027]

Nabiktima na din ba kayo ng mga babaeng nag "GHOSTING?"

Yung bigla na lang walang sabi sabi walang paa paalam na hindi na lang bigla nagparamdam sa inyo, walang signs, OK naman kayo last na nagkita or nagkausap kayo tapos biglang parang bula na nawala sya sa buhay nyo?

Kasi gawain din ng lalake ang ghosting di ba? :p

[dismembered]

^ Kung online lang kayo magkakilala or long distance kayo masyado possible yang biglang ghosting. Pero kung sa akin yan,  I will do what I can para malaman ang reason at magkaroon ng closure. Papayag ka lang na mangyari ang "ghosting" kung hahayaan mo. Pero kung di ka basta basta papayag, magkikita at magkikita kayo ulit kung gugustuhin mo for whatever reason pa.

[Evolet027]

Sabagay, it's different with you na boys. You can do that, yung you will do what you can to know the reason.

Na curious lang. Parang sa mga breakups kasi, palageng ang articles eh how to move on ang mga babae, how to stop crying ang mga babae. I wonder if it is the same with boys.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Eh todo tanggi pa sya eh huling huli ko na na poser sya. So ayun, at least na prove ko na poser sya. Haha kainis lang... ang pinaka closure na lang siguro is nung nung na-meet ko personally yung real one at sinumbong ko yung poser nya. Funny thing, before sya sumikat mas kilala sya as name nung poser nya. Ibang iba kasi ang social media dati. Parang every testimonials sayo at everyone you meet is true. Hindi katulad ngayon, praning ka agad dapat.

magandang conversation starter! 

[dismembered]

Sabagay, it's different with you na boys. You can do that, yung you will do what you can to know the reason.

I think same lang din naman with you girls. Kung worth it ipaglaban ang isang bagay, gagawin mo ang lahat ng possible mong magawa regardless of gender...

magandang conversation starter! 

Oo medyo lang. hahaha. Pero yun na ang closure eh.

[j.adore]

^^ Haha. No reasons to avoid sex.

No, maganda nga minsan yung tumatagak tak pawis niyo pareho lol.. Baka wala lang sa mood yun sis nagdadahilan lang.

Yeah, thought so too.


Did you guys have partners na gusto lagi to have sex? Usually kasi mas guys ang may gusto.
I have a friend parang pa-complain yung pagkakasabi niya about his partner eh mahilig din siya sa sex. Parang nakahanap lang siya ng nakatalo sa drive niya?

[amethyst028]

bakit ganoon parang pag successful ang girl naiilang ang mga guys? is this true ba? if kunwari si girl drives a montero then si guy altis, or let's say girl is a ceo then the guy is a manager, girl is a lawyer then the guy is a manager.

for guys would you date a girl who you think is better than you? kasi diba may ego ang mga guys? if for example hindi mo pa kilala nang lubusan yun girl but you find out mas successful siya nakaka ilang ba yun? parang guys tend to go for girls na below them or sila ang mag po-provide something like that.

[ohcmon]

^ I think this depends on the guy.

My SO who's almost a lawyer says that dealbreaker sa kanya ang babaeng beneath him ang career achievements, as in his last relationship ended because of this. Meron naman akong dinate who only goes for women he's more successful than kasi somehow ego booster daw.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^^ sadly this is kinda true. in the past year lang during my clerkship i've seen a handful of relationships fail dahil sa perceived inferiority ng mga lalaki. they'll say na feeling nila di sila enough dun sa girl, na parang ang layo layo na ni girl, antaas taas na, na they have to work extra hard para maging proud si girl sa kanila etc.

[simang]

^^^it really depends on the guy. kung ganon ang thinking ng lalaki, that means he doesn't see the other person as a potential lifetime partner, maybe he feels she's not the right person. A guy who loves his girl will be proud of her no matter what. Kung feeling nya mas mababa sya kesa sa partner nya, then it's his problem and not the girl's.

But, ang problem naman sa mga women achievers, some of them have this arrogant aura -- note that I say some ha, kasi hindi naman lahat. Minsan, they present themselves so high kaya naiintimidate ang lalaki. Minsan pa, they have this vibe na "i'm better than you". Kaya men tend to see them as unreachable kasi, hindi sila humble. Ayun. Based lang yan sa observation ko.

Kaya for girls, if a guy gets intimated by you just because mas achiever ka kesa sa kanya, it means he doesn't like you enough to be of support to you.

[jtansanco]

@dismembered - Hindi naman. Target niya mga [textspeak!]-Chi. Funny thing is that nung nabuko namin kung sino siya, she decided to portray "someone" else pa rin. Julie real name niya but she pretended to be Bernadette, Ina, Karen, and Dezza. She even has dummy accounts of Louie and Ziggy. What makes her really scary is that she is FB friends with the women she is posing as since sobrang up-to-date yung mga posts. The only good part is maganda boses niya. Hahaha

[dismembered]

it really depends on the guy. kung ganon ang thinking ng lalaki, that means he doesn't see the other person as a potential lifetime partner, maybe he feels she's not the right person. A guy who loves his girl will be proud of her no matter what. Kung feeling nya mas mababa sya kesa sa partner nya, then it's his problem and not the girl's.

Most men ganito lalo na yung mga ma-prinsipyo. Andun kasi yung desire ng lalake na maging provider. Pati naman din ang society yun din ang perception sa lalake. Pag feeling ni guy di na sya kailangan ni girl nya, it makes us a lesser man. Same lang din sa mga times na si lalake ayaw tumanggap ng help gusto lang sya ang gagawa ng solution sa problem. Same din ito na insecure yung lalake kapag mas matangkad si girl sa kanya. Yung parang sya pa ang poprotektahan ni girl. You can call this machismo or what, pero yun lang ang observation ko at feelings ko minsan. Siguro advice ko lang sa mga achievers na woman jan, let your man feel na kailangan nyo sila. Na sila pa rin ang behind ng success nyo kahit hindi naman masyado. hahaha. Minsan kasi ang sakit lang sa ulo na yung mga successful woman kadalasan may phrase na "Kaya kong mabuhay sa sarili ko hindi ko kailangan ang tulong ng asawa ko", which I think is mahirap din sa part ng lalake.

But hey, yung iba namang guys tanggap na sila lang ang palamunin at sustentado. Regardless kahit ano mangyari mas gusto nila na chill lang sila. Siguro pick your poison na lang din.

[dismembered]

@dismembered - Hindi naman. Target niya mga [textspeak!]-Chi. Funny thing is that nung nabuko namin kung sino siya, she decided to portray "someone" else pa rin. Julie real name niya but she pretended to be Bernadette, Ina, Karen, and Dezza. She even has dummy accounts of Louie and Ziggy. What makes her really scary is that she is FB friends with the women she is posing as since sobrang up-to-date yung mga posts. The only good part is maganda boses niya. Hahaha

Dude nakilala mo ba yung talagang sya? I mean yung tao sa likod ng lahat ng account, na-imbestigahan mo ba? OFW ba sya na lonely at walang magawa? Kasi kung hindi man, baka talagang batikan sa ganyan yan. Who knows baka extortionist or katulad ng mga nigerian scam yan. Syempre gagawa ng mas kapanipaniwalang modus sa kung ano ang trend ngayon.

[simang]

Pag feeling ni guy di na sya kailangan ni girl nya, it makes us a lesser man.

This is exactly my point. Kaya for women who are achievers, they have to learn how to be humble and feminine. Men are drawn to femininity. If a woman gives off the vibe na she doesn't want a man, hindi talaga sya lalapitan ng lalaki.

[Evolet027]

Most men ganito lalo na yung mga ma-prinsipyo. Andun kasi yung desire ng lalake na maging provider. Pati naman din ang society yun din ang perception sa lalake. Pag feeling ni guy di na sya kailangan ni girl nya, it makes us a lesser man.

This is true. I have an ex na ganito, feeling nya palageng may competition sa pagitan namin. Yung relationship namin parang nag evolve sa sino ang mas malaki ang sweldo, sino ang mas magaling sa ganito sa ganyan. Until nag break kame. Until now yun nga, ganun pa rin sya, kung ano meron ako, kailangan mas mataas ang model ng sa kanya, or mas mahal ang sa kanya. OK fine, nagawa na nya gusto nya. Parang satisfaction nyang matalo ako sa mga bagay bagay tapos sasabihn nyang mahal nya ko. LOL.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Buuuut i dont think sumagi sa isip ni achiever girl na inferior si mahal niyang guy. These handful of relationships na sinasabi ko, si guy ang nakipagbreak and naging sobrang devastated ni girl. All the damn stress on top of a break up, sobrang hirap! I kinda feel bad for my friends.
So now, ang naging goal tuloy is like just to look for someone equal or better sa achievement level. Para di na sila pag isipan ng kung ano-ano. Now that i thought of it, bitter sina guys nuh.

[amethyst028]

Thanks sa mga replies. I read somewhere na the reson successful women are single is because alpha females looks for alpha males while alpha males does't go for aloha females. Maybe because they are. Oth competitive.

Minsan kasi kahit humble naman yung girl hindi naman niya pwede itago pa rin na successful siya. Kunwari hinatid mo siya sa car niya and you saw her ride. Mas bigger pa car niya kesa sayo. Or you found out she has her own house while the guy still lives with his parents. Or kung ano ang work niya and you found out She's a lawyer or VP ng isang malaking company. Parang it's a curse for women pag magaling sila. The men who are interested minsan oportunist gusto sila ang bubuhayin hehe!

Kaya madaming women na maganda naman, mayaman, matalino pero matandang dalaga. While their male counterpart di nauubusan ng girls. I find it unfair lang. But i guess that is the reality we have to live with.

[KrabbyPatty!]

^ re: women more successful than men

Yung ibang women kasi na sobrang successful nagiging masyadong independent and hindi na masyado in touch sa emotions. Minsan nagiging puro isip and talino. I think some guys prefer yung girl nila ay mas emotional kesa sa kanila kasi guys tend to be the more rational one sa relationship. Para balance lang diba. Girls tend to bring out the softer side of guys so kung pareho na silang "hard" ay hindi na magcocompliment.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

there's a study sis na mababa ang market value ng mga achiever women sa mga pinoys. but mataas daw with the other nationality.