Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[kvandenhaak]

^Then tell him that it's very difficult for you to give the details of the affair dahil nahihiya ka.

[jtansanco]

^^ As a guy, I'll ask you to confess because we want to know the whole "truth" BUT, deep inside, we don't want to hear it. You said medyo okay na kayo. But for the sake of your "relationship", whether or not you did have sex, tell him you didn't. If I was your husband, no matter how angry I am/was, I will forgive you but if I hear you say that you had sex with another guy, that will CRUSH me and I will never forget that.

[keejac21]

^^I already did say na nahihiya ako. Kaya nga di ko masabi lahat. But still he keeps on asking. Para daw sa peace of mind niya. Which I don't get totally. Magiging peaceful ba pag sinabi kong OO.

^Hindi niya daw ako mapatawad bro dahil ayaw ko aminin yun. And nagtatago pa din ako ng sikreto. Im asking for his forgiveness sa kalahatan ng ginawa ko. But lagi nagtatapos yung usapan diyan sa question na yan. So wala din progress yung "talks" namin.

[TomHansen]

^ Since ikaw ang nagkamali gawin mo lahat ng hinihingi niya sa iyo sis whether you like it or not. Trust ang nasira kaya baka makatulong sa healing niya if this time you tell him the truth. I know nakakahiya pero nandyan na kayo e, you already fuc*ed up. This time you need to be honest to him kasi hindi magiging maayos ang relationship niyo kung merong questions lingering sa isip niya.... sabihin mo na sis..

[argento]

^^ bat di ka na lang sumama sa bf mo?

[j.adore]

You've been dishonest and now he's asking for honesty. When a partner betrays the other and is asking for forgiveness, yes, kailangan gawin lahat to rebuild the trust.
In this case, the husband wants details. Baka yun tulong sa kanya move on.

I think more than the truth, the issue here is you're still hiding things from him.

[keejac21]

Kelangan pag isipan ko talaga if I can do it. Sa ngayon, naduduwag ako. And he told me also na ayaw niya na din kami magsama kasi wala naman ng love.

Thank you bros for sharing your points of view.

[ohcmon]

^ Wala naman pala siya balak balikan ka at hindi ka na rin niya mahal, so why would you still need to tell him the gory details of your cheating on him?

Labo din ng ex mo.

[keejac21]

^ Wala naman pala siya balak balikan ka at hindi ka na rin niya mahal, so why would you still need to tell him the gory details of your cheating on him?

Labo din ng ex mo.

Para daw sa peace of mind niya. His exact words.

^^ bat di ka na lang sumama sa bf mo?

Di ko na tinuloy yung relationship bro. Nagkalabuan din.

[ohcmon]

^ You don't really owe him anything anymore kasi hindi na kayo at wala nang pag-asa pang maging kayo.

[dismembered]

^ Nah.she owes him a lot. Nasira din ang family nya, Nasira din ang mga plans nya dahil sa cheating na naganap. If ikaw ang nagkamali, you have to man up. If you really are sorry, then you have to tell everything, confess mo, then let him decide kung matatanggap nya. For your peace of mind din yan if ever mabalikan ka, at least you know tanggap nya na ang pagkakamali mo. Problem here eh, kahit ikaw, until mag confess ka, lagi kang mumultuhin ng sins na nagawa mo against him. Unless sabihin mo lahat, hindi sya matatahimik at hindi ka rin matatahimik.

[keejac21]

^Hence my question. Really dont get na kelangan pa niya marinig in detail when di na rin naman siya open makipag ayos. He even tells me "di ka ba talaga aamin for the sake of our family?". Paikot ikot lang yung usapan namin.

[kvandenhaak]

Oh, wala naman palang balikan then why give details? Inamin mo na nga eh so why is he still accusing you of hiding it? Just tell him to move on the next time he ask. No point in beating a dead horse, ika nga.

[argento]

Di ko na tinuloy yung relationship bro. Nagkalabuan din.

kung di nagkalabuan tuloy pala. tapos gusto mo bumalik sa husband mo

[keejac21]

^It's more like narealize ko na mas mahalaga ang family. Maybe Im too late and accepted ko naman that I messed up. I own my mistakes and decisions.

[Girltalker2]

^ it is obvious naman from your first post na you regret having the affair. Just ignore the troll, para sa ikasisiya nya since they feel lowly of themselves kaya natutuwa sila pag may napipintas sila sa iba.

[keejac21]

^Thanks for the kind words. Moving on phase starts now.

Thank you bros/sisses for your sharing your thoughts.

[patchuchai]

Guys heres my story, complicated relationship ito. My bf is 60 years old na, this week he is having problems with his daughter tuition. Usually once a week nagkikita kami for dinner. Then we started the intimate part nakaka 2x pa lang naman kami. Last week since i got sick with UTI no contact muna, so behave kami just holding hands and quick kiss..as in nagpigil kami. Then today sabi ko what time tayo magkita, sabi niya mahirap kasi kapag nagkita tayo kakain tayo tapos nagpipigil lang tayo gawin iyon. Bakit hindi na lang natin itaon sa safe ka para macherish natin ng husto ang moment. What do you guys think? Araw araw naman kami nag uusap sa phone.

[Girltalker2]

^ what do you mean problems sa tuition, you mean financially?

Sis, at his age, Hindi ba dapat di na nya iyan prino problema? Dapat focused na sya sa retirement nya?
If ganyan, what are the prospects na pang long term ang relationship nyo? Are you planning to support him in the future?

On the other topic, para sakin ang babaw. Pag magkita kayo, kailangan magsex? Paano yung mag usap? IMHO, iba ang Pag uusap ng personal kesa phone.

Pero pov ko lang naman kasi. Ewan ko kung guys.

[patchuchai]

Sis, yes financially. He was not able to secure his future. At his age he is trying to make ends meet para makatapos anak niya. Siguro as time goes by change is constant talaga. Dami lang niya problema ngayon pero saken ang sabihin mo magkita tayo kapag safe days ko na. Ayaw ko lang madagdag sa problema niya, sabi ko lang ok pero nag iisip nako. How can our relationship grow kung magkikita tayo ganun lang.