Di ka ba nagdadalawang isip na pakasalan si BF? Baka next time, dun sa kabilang thread ka na magpo-post dahil nangangaliwa si husband. It's just probably me pero kung meron akong watchlist, hahanap ako ng iba na pwedeng pagkatiwalaan para di na kailangan me listahan...LOL!
When I said yes to marry him, I'm 100% sure about it. It doesn't mean when I shared my story with a girl involved, nangangaliwa na agad. Though I must admit, I was very emotional, hindi ko dapat ginamit yun word na "watchlist" kasi nag-iisa lang naman siya. Hope this clarifies. Lol.
Question, aside from the text message, ano pa ba ginawa ni girl? And has your boyfriend ever entertained her? How did they both ruin your trust?
I'm trying to understand why you're so mad kasi and you said you made your story short. Well from what you've posted in this thread, (and if it happens to me) I can't see any reason why I'll be angry BECAUSE I know my husband will not reciprocate or even give her the time of day, so kasalanan nung girl if she falls for my hubby who's just naturally friendly and a really nice person.
So I'm hoping you can shed more light 
Hi, sis. The girl has a long distance relationship with her "boyfriend". She became close with my fiance and being a good friend, my fiance didn't mind at all kasi he used to have girl best friends. But when I talked to him regarding this girl, he agreed to distance himself. I assume, na-misinterpret niya yun closeness nila and eventually she fell in love with my boyfriend.
I believe, he never entertained her, because if yes, malalaman at mararamdaman ko naman. I felt betrayed lang kasi when he knew about it, hindi niya sinabi sa akin. That's the only reason why I got mad, it doesn't mean that I'm accusing him of cheating. Btw, I updated my first post.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Much appreciated.
hmm ang tanong dito sis, inentertain ba ni fiance yung girl officemate? bakit may goodbye ek ek pa? nakakaloka. try nyo pag usapan ni fiance 'to sis at ayusin. if wala lang talaga sa kanya and you believe him then you do not need to be alarmed kasi waley na si ate sa picture, iba na office nya. pero kung friends friends pa din sila after neto even after kinonfront mo si fiance and sinabi mong di ka comfortable sa friendship nila then there's something wrong na talaga.
I believe, no, he never entertained her. After I found out the text message, he even called the girl using my phone, this is to prove na clear talaga yun consience niya.
We already talked and he's the one who initiated to talk to the girl. He handled it himself. He called her over the phone and told her to stop the communication and all. Of course, in a nice way. I have no plans of reaching out to the girl but I realized I had to do it for once. So I asked the girl's number and he gave it. No questions asked. He even told me that it's my right to message her. So I believe, kung may tinatago siya, he wouldn't even offer that option, right?
^^ Yeah I'm sis gumdrops26. I'm trying to figure that out as well 
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Gotta think about this calmly and rationally. Try not to let emotions rule. This is a huge decision you might be possibly making.
We already talked about it, sis. I was very emotional when I started the thread. But we're good. Thank you, much appreciated.
Hope you sort this out sis before making your wedding plans FINAL.
Im also curious with the rest of the story sis. If you have time, you can share it so we can give proper sound advice. if you need one of course. :-)
I'm open with everyone's advice as long as you don't judge me or my fiance with just one post. I have to admit, I became too emotional and I didn't even think na siya na yun napasama with my choice of words. Btw, I have updated my first post. Thank you!
I'm thinking why are you so furious, nagkaron ba sila ng affair ng fiance mo? Or did your fiance entertain her? People fall in love, with single people, or engaged people, or even married ones, pero the bigger question is, anong ginawa ng partner mo about it? Bakit ka magagalit when you know it's one-sided naman? Or was it reciprocated?
Wala naman silang affair. I won't hide it if ever meron man. I was emotional lang and I realized it's not right to judge him by a text message na wala naman siyang control. What he did is, he called the girl and confronted her about the text message. Basically the purpose is to stop her kasi it's affecting me/ us.
Naku .. office affairs - very dangerous yan kasi everyday magkasama. May mai-inlove talaga lalo na pag may attraction, pero since lumipat na si other girl ng office well wala kong gagawin. Pero kung nangungulit padin yung girl sa fiance mo, then you have to tell him na di na maganda yan at he should talk to her and stop it.
He already did. Siya mismo ang humarap at kumausap.
I think this will boil down to two things:
- how well you really know your partner
- how much you really trust him
Makes sense. We already fixed everything. Thank you! Lesson learned for the both of us.
we cannot control other people's feelings, pero we can control how we react to them. did your fiance entertain the girl's feelings? yung goodbye ba na yun eh goodbye because she's transferring to another office location o goodbye because he's getting married na?
yep, please share mo sis yung rest of the story. marriage ang pinag-uusapan dito. this is a life-changing decision.
Yes, I agree. Pareho kami walang control sa feelings niya but Im glad he did something to stop her.
She's saying goodbye because she knows he's getting married. And she's transferring to other location. Btw, I have updated my first post. Thanks.
TS, sabi mo they both ruined "The Trust" . . . wala ng tiwala pero magpapakasal ka pa rin???
Re your question, hindi ko hahabulin yung girl, haharapin ko si fiance at papipiliin ko si sya. kailangan manggaling sa kanya ang desisyon. sa tono palang ng boses nya alam mo kung sincere o hindi. ayaw ko ng pilit na pagmamahal. dahil ayaw kong magpakasal na hindi 100% ang trust kasi lagi lang mag-aaway. kailangan mapatunayan nya na ito na ang huli nyang pagtataksil at hinding-hindi na sya uulit.
I felt betrayed lang because my fiance didn't open about her even when he knew the girl is already in love with him. It doesn't mean may affair na sila agad.
Hindi ko naman hinabol yun girl. Si fiance ko parin ang humarap at nakipagusap. And FYI po, hindi naman siya nagtaksil. It's not that I'm defending my fiance because we're getting married or bias ako, it's just that wala naman talaga akong proof that he cheated on me. At kung meron man nangyaring pagtataksil, malaya yun girl na makipaglaban sa akin or awayin ako or magmalaki, diba? I messaged the girl, once, just to let her know what I feel. She didn't even reply. Why? Kasi wala naman siyang maipagmamalaking sa akin. Even told her, "correct me if I'm wrong, you have no relationship to start with". Doon pa lang, sana sumagot na siya. Pero wala po.
ewan ko kung nagkakataon lang o parang talagang nangyayari yang ganyang bagay na upto the last moment ng pagiging mag bf/gf nyo at ready na kayo pakasal eh susubukin pa yung pag sasama nyo. kaya napa importante ng foundation na ma bubuild during mag bf/gf stage eh ditto ma tetest how strong talaga yung relationship nyo and of course yung feelings nyo sa isat isa.
trust your bf the way he trusted you, kung talagang mahal ka nya at ikaw yung nakikita nya makasama habang buhay kahit ano pang pag subok ang dumating sa inyo mapappag tagumpayan nyo yan basta lagi lang lilingon sa mga pinag daanan nyo kasi jan hinubog ng panahon ang pagsasama nyo.
Maraming salamat sa payo. Siguro nga pagsubok talaga, kasi we're few months away from getting married and may ganito pa na nangyari. But I know him better. You're right, okay talaga kapag yun foundation ay friendship.
If you've been with this guy since teenager ka, its a disaster to marry him.
So kapag teenager ka palang nagka boyfriend ka, tapos siya yun napili mong pakasalan, disaster agad? Seriously? Hindi ko alam yan. Lol. What you read here is not even a percent of our whole story. So please. Haha
ok so after reading the whole thread and last answer ni TS, so ano na pala yung problem? parang wala naman pala TS. everything's ok na with you both.
congrats nalang and happy wedding preps 
Thank you, sis. We're able to fix everything. He handled it himself and I admire him for doing that. At least he's man enough to face it.
There are 2 personalities - the one that is hurt and the one in love.
The hurt one has never let go of the jealousy or the doubts. There's a difference between talking about jealousy and addressing it. Your past has everything to do with your present if you haven't truly moved on from it.
You wouldn't have a shared FB account, a watch list or created this thread etc. otherwise. At your lowest/emotional point, the hurt one comes out. If you truly trusted your fiance 100%, the hurt one should have been gone.
There's also a difference between being aware of who your fiance is and accepting who he is. It seems hirap tanggapin ang mga closeness because there's always a risk but the one in love chooses to deal with it. Dealing with it is not accepting.
I do hope you are reading up on the marriage thread. "Just be a wife" is not enough. You may be in the wedding preps high but do not ever be over confident of your relationship and future marriage.
Dapat kasi meron "marriage preps" kaso one size cannot fit all.
I agree given the red flags.
Sis Awesomecakes should maybe talk to sis Girltalker2 about childhood sweethearts?
I do apologize I'm sure these aren't what you want to hear. However, I'm inclined to think people who post in GT do want to see sides they cannot.
Whatever happens, I wish you all the best!
Okay, let me repeat what I've shared with the other girls.
I felt betrayed lang because he didn't open about the girl kahit na alam niyang in love na sa kanya. It doesn't mean he cheated on me agad. Of course, I was hurt kasi he didn't tell me at first. But that's it, kung may past issues man ako with him, I have moved on. If you're talking about the checking of walk sites, to be honest, I have completely forgotten about it. It's been years and ang OA naman kung hanggang ngayon I'm still checking on him. May iba rin naman akong ginagawa sa life. Lol. So I think and I believe, this has nothing to do with our current issue.
I don't feel like explaining this but for your information, it's his decision to use my fb. I didn't tell him to do that. Hindi ba pwedeng personal choice niya lang yun to not have an fb account? Yes, I may be on a wedding high, of course, I have the right to feel it. Why not enjoy it? It's an every girl's dream to prepare for your own wedding. I believe, you've been there because you're already married, right? And also, I'm fully aware naman that there's no perfect marriage. If I'm being too over confident, it's because I've known him for more than 10 years, I know him and his family, I know how loving he is with his family and sisters. I know he's a good provider, being able to buy a house even before getting married, to save up for our wedding and for our future. These are just some of the reasons why I'm over confident. Hindi na siguro masama? How did you know we're not even preparing for our marriage?
If that's your definition of marrying him is a disaster, then it's your point of view. I respect that.
And thank you for your messages. I wish you all the best, too.
