Hubby left his job

[kaythrielle]

Hi sis fifi, tama sabi ng mga sis dito, he's just looking for someone to blame. Ayaw matanggap sariling mali. May mga tao talagang ganyan.

Para matigil na sya, talk to him straight to the point. Huwag kang papadala sa mga nonsense talk nya.

So ngayon anong plano nya? Ask for specific and realistic solution. I-direct mo yung usapan na magfocus sa anong pwedeng gawin.

Sabihin mo kahit sisihin ka man nya paulit ulit, may difference ba mangyayari? Wala diba.
Try another business (which he did) or get a loan, etc.... yan ang example ng mga possible solutions....yung may Action na magccreate ng positive change.

Ano solution balak nya gawin?
-maghanap ng iba?  Solusyon ba talaga yan? Kung sabihin nya oo, edi anong gusto nya maghiwalay na kayo?
I lay out mo mga steps na pwede gawin at mga possible na mangyari. At i don't know paano nya malalagyan ng koneksyon yung paghanap ng ibang babae sa successful na business nya. Unless mas mayaman kukunin nyang bagong babae para sustentado sya.
Tanong mo kung may prospect na ba sya? Yung time na ispend nya paghanap ng ibang babae eh ispend nya na lang sa business. Lol sorry i'm getting carried away.
Hopefully makita nya na walang point and he's just saying that because of bruised ego.

But i hope you get my point. Focus sa solution.

Also suggest mo na instead of wasting his energy blaming you, isipin at pag-aralan ano nagawa nyang mali sa first and second business. Try to be objective na lang din for him. Nasaktan lang ego nya kaya ganyan.

[RoadrunnerXCX]

naku sis do you see yourself growing old with a man like him. he has a lot of issues to resolve sa sarili nya. don't waste  a lot of  years living and trying to sort things out with a man like him. move on for your sanity's sake. we have only one life to live..might as well make the most out of it. run fast sis

[fifi_girl]

naku sis do you see yourself growing old with a man like him. he has a lot of issues to resolve sa sarili nya. don't waste  a lot of  years living and trying to sort things out with a man like him. move on for your sanity's sake. we have only one life to live..might as well make the most out of it. run fast sis

Yes, he has a lot of issues indeed. I keep on praying for him pa din, because at the end of the day, he is still the father of my child. Nakakapagod lang talaga na paulit ulit yung blaming game niya

Sabihin mo kahit sisihin ka man nya paulit ulit, may difference ba mangyayari? Wala diba.
Try another business (which he did) or get a loan, etc.... yan ang example ng mga possible solutions....yung may Action na magccreate ng positive change.

Ano solution balak nya gawin?
-maghanap ng iba?  Solusyon ba talaga yan? Kung sabihin nya oo, edi anong gusto nya maghiwalay na kayo?

Also suggest mo na instead of wasting his energy blaming you, isipin at pag-aralan ano nagawa nyang mali sa first and second business. Try to be objective na lang din for him. Nasaktan lang ego nya kaya ganyan.

Hay naku sis, paulit ulit ko ng sinabi sa kanya yun, na hindi namin maibabalik ang panahon. We can just learn from it. ibang klase sya magisip eh. Hahanap daw siya ng iba so he can dream again, someone daw na matutulungan siya tuparin ang pangarap niya. Someone who can be a wife to him, because i proved to him time and again that i am not a suitable wife for him.

Tapos sinasabi niya na na-mistreat daw siya ng family ko. Because we are living with my parents, because we need someone to look after our child then, kasama na din sa reason yun hindi namin afford kumuha ng sariling house that time. Minamasama niya lahat, like puro leftover foods daw pinapakain sa kanya... kase GY sya, so umaga na siya darating, natural ulam niya is yung from dinner, ginawa niyang issue yun. Tapos ayaw ko daw humiwalay sa family ko because of  convenience and comfort, and most of all dahil daw sa pera. Wala daw kase syang pera kaya ayoko sumama sa kanya.

[khaleesiCersei]

Puro sarili ang iniisip kesa sa pangangailangan ng pamilya niya lalo na ng anak nyo, di niya iniisip yun. Puro sarili niya lang. Iwan mo na yan sis. Intindihin mo nalang anak mo, mas kailangan ka niya.

[Girltalker2]

Paulit ulit sinasabi nya na hahanap sya ng tao na makakasama nya. Someone he will marry and dream with again.

Makikita mo sa mga pinagsasabi nya how skewed his logic can be.
Kasal kayo di ba? Naisip nya pa annul?
Naisip nya gaano ka tagal Yung process? Iba annulment sa law at iba pa sa church,  At maghanap at pakasal ulit?
Mukhang nasisiraan na ata sya. Sorry ha, sobrang sablay Lang naman kasi mga arguments nya.

[fifi_girl]

Makikita mo sa mga pinagsasabi nya how skewed his logic can be.
Kasal kayo di ba? Naisip nya pa annul?
Naisip nya gaano ka tagal Yung process? Iba annulment sa law at iba pa sa church,  At maghanap at pakasal ulit?
Mukhang nasisiraan na ata sya. Sorry ha, sobrang sablay Lang naman kasi mga arguments nya.

We're not married, BTW... so he is free to find someone else.
Di ko naman din i-de-deny na love ko pa din siya. Pero may resentment na ako sa kanya because of what he is doing. And i know he is also resenting me for the decision i made.

Basta he just keeps on saying na he wants someone who will stand by him sa lahat ng pinagdadaanan nya, and hindi daw ako yun.

[Girltalker2]

^ omg, di pa kayo kasal and yet Kung umasta sya as if you owe him the world.

Oh dear, please run away as fast as you can. Why do you still want to be with this person. You have a life changing decision to make - for your future and for your son. Chance mo na ito not to be with him for a better future ninyo.

[TomHansen]

We're not married...

Ayun naman pala!!!  F%!@*& him!!

[mysterioza_me]

Be thankful you are not married. Run away from that ?kid?. Yaan mo siya kung makakahanap siya ng palalakihin siya to be a real man.

[kaythrielle]

I was about to say this is the time he needs you most, yada yada yada....But! Hindi pala kayo kasal?!

You are not legally bound to him, you don't have to be with him in sickness or health, through better or worse, etc... he doesn't have the right to demand those things whatever it is he's asking you to do, for him. Better nga na iwanan mo sya.
Wala kang obligasyon sa kanya. Huwag kang magpaka-martyr.

Good luck sis!

[kvandenhaak]

You're not married!? I breathe the sigh of relief there...lol!  Iwanan mo na, NOW, NGAYON, TODAY! Walang magpapatayo ng monumento sa 'yo for sticking to him. Find your happiness, it's out there somewhere. Kapal ng mukha nyang mag-expect at mag-demand ha? Kaloka!

[Girltalker2]

Tsaka TS... first 2 pages dito always say wife should follow husband. You have to be patient etc etc...

But it seems you're not married and most of those comments most likely were given thinking kasal kayo.

Ngayon parang gumaan tuloy ang loob namin.

Di kayo kasal!!! Congratulations sis!!! Parang sobra kaming natuwa for you.
Sorry ha... pero sa totoo Lang, it could have been worse.

[swtgrl_bee]

Sis fifi_girl, OMG! Hindi pala kayo kasal? Sinusubaybayan ko itong thread na ito all this time akala ko legally married kayo kasi unang una tawag mo sa kanya husband. Usually partner ang ginagamit kasi. Anyhow, you have all the reasons to leave him ASAP. Mabuhay kayong mapayapa ng anak mo. Mag focus ka sa anak mo.

Good luck, sis.

[glamorosa_09]

Haha... Kala ko rin kasal... Kung kasal kayo, hindi rin maayos structure ng family niyo dahil mas aligned ka sa parents mo. Pero since hindi pala kayo kasal, at least good for you na ganyan. Single ka naman eh.

So mahal mo pa rin sya, kahit na after a year walang progress yung business nya, wala ring progress relationship niyo. Parang walang future with him.

[baliwsayo]

Kung naghihinayang ka na hindi kumpleto pamilya mo, don't worry, makaka-meet ka pa ng guy na tatanggapin ang anak mo at magiging responsible sa family nyo. Good riddance na yan sis.

[fifi_girl]

Those times that we lived together, we treated each other as husband and wife. According to him, hindi man kami kinasal, ganun na din yun.

Well, for me kase, there is really something wrong sa gusto nya mangyari. Belief daw nya na sa hirap at ginhawa kelangan magkasama talaga. I told him time and again na nandito lang ako for him. Hindi enough sa kanya na emotionally present lang ako para sa kanya. He wants me to be physically present para daw matulungan ko sya. Sabi ko, im willing to help him financially para maisalba un business nya, he took it against me na pera lang ang lahat para sa akin.

Ngayon ko lang din na-realize na parang ang solution nga nya is to find someone else. Kase yunang paulit ulit na sinasabi nya. So easy for him to say that.

Im so emotionally drained with everything that's happening. I never stopped praying for him, for us. Pero minsan iniisip ko kung naririnig pa ba mga dasal ko? Bakit parang wala naman nangyayari? Ayoko i-question si God, pero minsan nakakapagod magdasal na parang hindi naman sinasagot.

[janachen]

  ang damng naatuwa na hindi kayo kasal sis.

So anyway, kung pagod ka na sis hindi masamang mag give up. Nakakawala ng beauty 'yong lagi kang stress. Hanggat walang nangyayari sa kanya at paulit ulit niyang sasabihin na ikaw  ang may kasalanan, mas masama yan kasi what if magresign ka taos nga nga ka doon sa piling niya.

Hindi nakakabusog ang pagmamahal, be praktikal lang hindi na talaga uso na lahat lalaki ang nasusunod.

[mysterioza_me]

No. God already gave you his answer. This guy?s business failed but instead of acting humble since nagkamali nga pala siya ng desisyon lalo pang nagmataas at ang solusyon niya is to find someone else. God wants you to see kung anong klaseng tao siya sa gitna ng pagsubok. And God wants you to know na mahinang klaseng lalake pala siya. Now God wants you to decide, it is up to you kung pagtyatyagaan mo. Kung minsan kasi ang dinadasal natin e kung ano ang gusto lang natin na mangyari para maging masaya tayo.Pero si God gumagawa ng way para sabihin na hindi ka magiging masaya talaga sa kanya.

[hisana]

I actually would still stay with my bf/hubby through something like a failed business, unemployment, financial difficulties, etc. Pero yung paulit na sabihin nyang hahanap na lang sya ng iba? Ang sakit nya magsalita ha. I don't care kung sinabi lang nya yun out of stress, anger, whatever...it says to me na option pala nya yung umalis sa relationship once things get rocky.

[mysterioza_me]

True. Mahinang klaseng lalake nga kaya sa gitna ng pagsubok hahanap na lang ng iba at magsimula uli. Yung other party iiwan niyang lugmok. Ideal soon to be husband ba ang ganyang attitude?! No. Kaya iwan na hangga?t di pa married. Mahal at mahirap magpa-annul.