Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[MS_JanDel]

I'm so sorry to hear that sis dsexy. I'm a Mel Orlina bride  too. We haven't started on fitting and this Feb palang yung measurement taking namin.

Hmmm, when I went to Mel medyo bad mood siya and nawitness ko din na sinigawan niya yung staff niya but when we talked she apologized, sabi niya sorry medyo grumpy daw siya. When I showed her my peg, she immediately did a sketch but we were talking while doing so. Like ano yung fabrics, yung color. Hindi ko naexperience yung kinokopya niya lang sa web na designs, she did a design for me based on my peg. She would let me choose the lace to be used as appliques too. What she showed me is a gown she made para mapakita sakin yung effect nung color ng fabric na gagamitin namin which light champagne and ivory appliques. I'm still in the early stage of my bridal own process but so far so good. There are a lot of Mel Orlina brides here and almost everyone has the same say naman about Ms. Mel's attitude kaya expected ko na.

Maybe sis hindi niya lang forte talaga yung entou gowns just like what sis Lots-o said.

I hope everything turns out perfect na ngayon with regards to your entou gowns. Congratulations in advance sis!

[Xgbride17]

While finalizing guest lists with future MIL,


She said that these 8 people are highly significant during my fiance's growing up years hence, deserve to be invited.
I said of course tita as you wish.
Then pahabol "please with free airfare."
I literally became point blank and told my H2B to discuss it with his mom. :/
I just find it so unfair for a destination wedding.

[mysterioza_me]

^lololol 😂😂😂 sa free airfare for 8 people, medyo nahiya pa sis kasi hindi sinabi na you have to shoulder their accomodation too

[Xgbride17]

Haha oo nga sis @mysterioza_me! One of the reasons we wanted a destination wedding:  so we'll know sino talaga willing mageffort to witness our special day. Hindi pupunta lang out of convenience. Hindi ako nakasagot kaagad eh, sabi ko we'll discuss it first. I find it a bit overboard. :/

[Tincywincy]

^ pero sis mukha naman bang afford nung 8 people na yun to pay for their own airfares? if yes eh medyo nakakaloka si FMIL 

[MS_JanDel]

Sis Xgbride17 ang sakit sa bulsa! 8 people! My gosh kahit magabang ka ng promo masakit pa din. Guests should spend for their airfares  na siguro, parang yun na yung gift nila s couple.

[Xgbride17]

^ pero sis mukha naman bang afford nung 8 people na yun to pay for their own airfares? if yes eh medyo nakakaloka si FMIL 

haha sis, I think half of the party can. But the FMIL, wants us to shoulder it as a sign of gratitude daw. :/

[yasbabyangel]

sis over na yun kung pati airfare... hirap na nga magbudget sa wedding dadagdag pa yun. kakalurks. tapos walong tao pa! naku naku! [textspeak!] sagot ni future hubby mo? kung ako yan baka binigay ko kagad listahan ng expenses at projected na gastos kay fmil. dapat sya mas nakakaintindi na kelangan nyo ng pera di lang sa wedding kundi lalo na after ng wedding para sa future nyo...favor na nga na sinama mo yung walo sa guestlist pati ba naman transpo nila. pwede nyo gamitin sa ibang mas mahalagang bagay yun... sorry apektado ko masyado. hahaha

[Tincywincy]

^ sis yasbabyangel hugot galore? hahaha natawa ako sayo 

and since she specifically asked you and fiance to pay for them, if hindi na ba kaya ng budget nyo eh open sya to spend for them nalang instead?

[yasbabyangel]

sis tincywincy. hahaha. kala mo ako yung bride eno.kase mabigat na ang additional 8 guests... haha. naalala ko yung hirap palang ng pagbudget at paglimit ng guests saket na sa ulo. lalo na siguro kung biglang magrequest pa ng airfare. diko alam kung pano ko ihahandle pag ganyan... pero mabigat talaga...

[Xgbride17]

Wow, overwhelming naman ang support dito! thanks for considering my side sis MS_JanDel yasbabyangel Tincywincy.
The FMIL primarily wants my H2B to pay for those relatives (lumaki kasi siya sa mga lolo/lola, tito/tita) as a way of giving back. H2B stated okay lang sana kung upon invite nagtry talaga humanap muna ng means pumunta and if kulang, tutulungan. Not upfront na you're invited with free airfare!!! Ang issue kasi, should we allow this, baka sabihin, sna pati accommodation na rin. 


*I can't discuss this with any of my family members baka magkadispute pa and mapasama si FMIL. Good thing, may GT for such rants*

[Tincywincy]

^ well I'm pretty sure that's what will happen next. 

what if itry nyo ni h2b sabihin na hindi na kaya ng budget nyo kasi madami pa kayong kelangan bayaran and if she could pay for the airfares instead as help sainyo ni h2b (just to let her realize what she's asking for na rin. not in a rude way but more of a seeking-for-help kind of way). para di na nya I-push or if she still wants it that way, then clear sakanya na sya nalang magbabayad instead of you and fiance

[Xgbride17]

Thanks for the suggestion sis! Best believed the fiance will talk to his mom and will come up with a practical compromise.  It's a bit hard to handle a wedding out of the country, sana wag ng madagdagan ng over the top requests! Not because both are living overseas, magpapalibre as if sky's the limit! :/

[LilaFowler]

IIRC, Bohol wedding ka din diba?

I think overstepping yung MIL mo for asking you to pay for them. Pero of course it depends na din on your H2B if he is willing to and if you guys can afford it.

For our wedding, I shouldered my parents and my grandparent's airfare and accomodation. Pero that's it.

Medyo mahal din ang airfare to Bohol. I think very low ang turnout ng wedding namin because of the price of airfare. Halos P6k return per person. Not even sure if we can meet the 50 guests that we have to pay for.

[Xgbride17]

YEs sis Lila_Fowler!  we even have the same reception venue!
I guess it's just alright to shoulder airfare expenses but just for the right reasons.
We were just stunned how the favor sounded, kasi nga bohol airfares are not cheap.

Yes fiance can afford but it defeats the purpose of having a working budget to stick to.
He said siya bahala and will talk to his mom about it. Still clueless if he'll grant it or not though, I'm a bit curious as to what's the verdict but I don't want to ask just yet, baka magmukha akong masyadong affected! (we're in 3 different countries outside PH so just imagine the suspense) :x


We are targeting only 100 guests,  goodluck din samin kung ilan magconfirm.

[LilaFowler]

Our target is 75 but struggling to get 50 at this point. We have 3 months left.

Medyo worried ako na lalangawin wedding namin...

[Xgbride17]

Sis don't worry! The more intimate the wedding,  the more nageenjoy ang attendees! Madami pang makakapagprepare in 3 months.

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

I agree na medyo off sa feeling when you are slowly realizing na wala masyado makakapunta.

Pero kabaligtaran naman ata nangyayari sakin, initial target is 150 pax kasama na kaming lahat ng entourage, family both sides and wedding crew, but now I think I might have to adjust to 200 pax. I honestly feel happy every time I receive a notification of "going" sa FB event na ginawa ko.  Nakaka touch, na they will go the extra mile, quite literally, since di naman madaling puntahan din ang Tagaytay bukod sa traffic and these are people na close sa amin, overwhelming, and to be honest, mas lalo ako ginanahan lately pagandahin wedding. 

Though I still have to finalize the guest list, I'm pretty happy with the turnout. Nakakataba ng puso.  Medyo kontra kami ni H2B gusto nya limited guests. But he's happy that I'm happy.

[xxcheiyexx]

Awww i kind of feel the same way. Our wedding is in tagaytay on a weekday and as early as now i'm already telling those that i really want there (like relatives and close friends na i think will exert effort to witness this event in my life) na magleave na sila on my wedding date. Actually kahit parents namin nagulat na we decided to do it on a weekday. Haha minsan iniisip ko dapat ata weekend pero at the same time naiisip ko rin mahirap humanap ng suppliers on a weekend tapos less than a year yung preps. Anyway, some of my relatives na mahilig talaga magcomment told my mom na baka di sila makapunta kasi may pasok. Noevember pa naman wedding ko they can file a leave. Naisip ko nga buti pa mga friends ko, they already filed a leave.

[mysterioza_me]

@Xgbride17 sis curious lang ako, gaano ba ka-significant sa buhay ni fiance ang mga taong ito? Ano bang naging role nila sa buhay ni fiance? I mean grandparents ba sila or aunt and uncles na nagpalaki sa kanya. For me kung grandparents ito, go. Kung aunt and uncle ito na nagpalaki sa kanya (dahil busy ang parents sa work nila habang lumalaki si fiance), go na ilibre sila. Pero 8 people is just too much. Saka kung talagang significant sila sa growing up years ni fiance bakit di sila naisip iinvite ni fiance at si FMIL pa ang nag-open na i-invite sila with free airfare pa?! I'm sorry ha but I kinda think na gusto lang magyabang ni FMIL na sosyal ang kasal ng anak niya at may pa-free airfare. May parents kasi na sadyang gustong magyabang. Naalala ko tuloy sa probinsya, kukunin na ninong/ninang si Mayor or Governor or si Councilor para sikat ang kasal 😂😂😂