Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

Sis, yn061515 kaya natagalan din kami mag announce ng engagement namin kasi may health issue din si future mom in law, we made sure stable sya and hinintay talaga namin go signal nila, she has to undergo Kidney Transplant naman. She is stable, pero the sooner the better. Hays, life. Positive nalang tayo.  In a way, a wedding is a happy event, something to look forward to for our in laws and parents. 

[yn061515]

Sis, yn061515 kaya natagalan din kami mag announce ng engagement namin kasi may health issue din si future mom in law, we made sure stable sya and hinintay talaga namin go signal nila, she has to undergo Kidney Transplant naman. She is stable, pero the sooner the better. Hays, life. Positive nalang tayo.  In a way, a wedding is a happy event, something to look forward to for our in laws and parents. 

true, sis. Sana lang maging okay talaga outcome ng surgery para mabalik na yung excitement ko sa wedding preps.

[kaitlynmischa]

And I'm back to prepping. Ang dami nangyari in over a month that i rested.

So recent PROBLEM that we encountered was lumabas na ang immigrant visa application ni H2b, according to the immigrant lawyer, 6months maximum makakaalis na sya. Our wedding is on April 29 next year, and when we received the news less than 6 mos na lang prior the wedding. His dad wants him to pursue his application kasi 11 yrs nya hinintay yun, so who am I to hinder e para sa future din naman namin yun. I asked for a second opinion from the lawyers our family knows, pati friends and family.  We tried calling our suppliers for a resched, pero medyo skeptical na ako because we pencil booked the church on Oct 14, e last month lang kami nagstart magtawag ng ibang suppliers so its less than a year baka hindi magtugma ang schedules. Haay hassle that we need to make a letter pa and all and baka mapenalize pa. Umiyak talaga ako sa stress! Haha!

After 2 weeks or so, fiance talked to me and said na ok lang sa kanya to let go of US since when we decided to get married, willing naman sya na ilet go na, kaya lang kami nagtry iconsider ulit is because it came prior our wedding when we were expecting mga 2 years pa lalabas yun. So, we both decided to let go, hinihintay ko lang talaga na sya ang magdecide for both of us.

Then last Dec 4, he proposed to me na finally! haha! yes nauna preps namin. Yun pala after we settled the problem, he planned out the proposal. We rented out a function room sana for my mom's bday, then may official photographer pa and my sis in law set up the place. He was busy pa setting up the projector, and when the AVP flashed it was my brother's greeting for my mom then biglang nagiba yung slides.. Kaya pala ako lagi pinipictureran ng photographer! Para sa akin pala yun. So yeah he proposed in front of the whole family and close relatives. Hay! So anyways, back to prepping na ulit talaga ako. Whooh!

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

kaitlynmischa WOW Sis, haha ang bongga at ang roller coaster ride ng nangyari, so kelan na ang wedding nyo, April pa din ba?

[LilaFowler]

@kaitlynmischa di ba pwede na he goes to the US just to activate the visa then come back?

I know of some people who have done this kasi nga the visa came unexpectedly and di pa sila ready for the big move.

Anyway, I'm glad everything worked out well and at least you and H2B are on the same page.

[marywater]

Recent problem encountered would be telling most of our relatives that my fiance and I will be getting married, but they're not invited because it's just really going to be an intimate wedding (immediate family and friends only).

Iniisip ko pa rin kung pano iexplain on my end. 

[pretty_B]

^kamusta sis marywater? pano yung "problem" mo with your other relatives? I am thinking din kasi na baka maging prob ko yan. immediate family and friends lang din ang gusto namin iinvite ni h2b. but ang immediate sa side ko ay including family ng brothers and sisters ng dad (6 families) and mom (2 families) ko. yung mga anak naman nila pinaka madami na yung 3 children. isasama ko sila kasi kung only child ako and without dad na. so, dalawa lang kami ng mom ko if kami lang. hehe. so, parang nasa 30-35 lang na family sa side ko including +1 ng mga pinsan ko. about sa "other relatives" like pinsan ng mom ko, baka iallow ko na around 5-10 sa side nya since panay side ng dad ko ata ang included. hopefully, wala ako maging prob sa other relatives.

regarding sa side ni h2b, not sure pa sa bilang pero we're thinking na 50-60pax each side kami. hehe.

[marywater]

^ Hi sis pretty_B! I think yan talaga common problem ng mga couples who are planning an intimate wedding.

Hindi ko pa nasasabi sa kanila, pero ang magiging plan namin would be to meet the relatives and other friends in separate dates after the wedding. Siguro simple dinner or mini family reunion with the relatives. If we are asked why they're not invited o bakit intimate wedding, we'll be frank to tell them that we're allocating more of our savings to our start-up funds as a married couple. (Pero yung totoo, dream talaga namin intimate wedding, but we won't tell them that)

I was told by a friend who's a coordinator that if we're going for an intimate wedding, you'll step on a lot of shoes (unintentionally of course). This is not a typical Filipino set-up for a wedding where we're obliged to invite blood relatives for this occasion. People will question you, and my fiance and I are prepared for this, so sis pretty_B, just brace yourself. Try to be firm with your decision. This is about you and your H2B. For whatever you decide, people who truly love you will understand. 

[exquisitegem]

^ilan ba number of guests mo sis? Totoo yung sinabi mo. Tradition kasi dito na pag kasal, sobrang dami ng guests.
Kami kasi, 200 pax pero madami pa kami mga relatives na hindi included sa guest list. Some of them are asking din kung kelan, saan at kung invited ba sila.
Anyway, what we planned to do is to have a separate celebration sa home province namin (Ilocos) para dun na namin iinvite yung mga hindi kasama sa guest list. But the celebration will be held sa respective residences na namin, hindi na kami magrerent ng venue.

[marywater]

Hi sis exquisitegem! Around 50 lang lahat-lahat (60-70 max). Immediate family, ninong/ninang, and friends lang invited. Walang tito/tita/cousins or anyone else we're obliged to invite. Kaya di maiiwasan na magiging issue ito sa kanila later on.

[exquisitegem]

^Very intimate nga. As early as possible, set expectations that the no. of guests will be very limited. Great idea na rin yung sabi mo na magkakaroon na lang ng simple family get-together to celebrate your union. Goodluck sis ☺

[pretty_B]

^oh i see. as in parents and siblings lang ba ang invited nyo na relatives sis? kakainggit naman ang intimate nga ng wedding mo. kaso pag sa side ko yan, ang lungkot naman kung kami lang ng mom ko tapos parents and siblings (3) ni h2b. 

[mysterioza_me]

I recently attended a very intimate wedding. 10 tables lang kami and each table is consists of 8 guests only. Ang ganda kapag intimate lang kasi hindi magulo and naka-add pa sa ganda na lahat ng guests sumunod sa dresscode. Ang ganda tingnan sa video and pics. Mas madali i-manage kapag mas konti ang bisita.Bukod pa dun during the ceremony lahat attentive and almost everyone cried sa vows ng ikinasal (even sa paglakad pa lang ng bride sa aisle). Napaka-solemn kapag close family and friends lang ang bisita. Saka dahil mas konti nagkaroon pa ang bride and groom ng time to have a chitchat with all of their guests. Yung iba kasi sa sobrang dami ng bisita no time to have atleast small talks, "hi and hello" na lang tapos lipat na agad sa ibang table.

[marywater]

^ And I really hope our wedding could be as solemn as the one you attended sis mysterioza_me.

@exquisitegem: Thank you sis! Lots of love and luck to all of us brides

@pretty_B: Yes sis. Just my mom, my siblings and their family, then selected friends. Same goes with H2B, so total of 50-60 guests. Hey kahit ilang guests pa yan, mapa-10 or 1000 pa, basta masaya kayo ni H2B mo. Yan naman pinaka-importante.

[mysterioza_me]

^hopefully sis and sana walang mga nega sa uninvited relatives and friends ninyo. If they truly love you maiintindihan nila kung bakit di sila invited 😉

[MS_JanDel]

Sis marywater almost same problem, us naman with regards to the allotted seats sa mga family. I'm sure may masasabi sila butI'm someone who really doesn't care kasi hindi ko naman sila close. hahahah I'm so mean.

Sis exquisitegem same tayo 200 guests lang sis. We have invited most families but with limited seats. Siguro max 2 seats lang sa ibang families except my relative who I'm really closed to kasi I'm inviting everyone. Invite na rin lang ako sa after party sa beach the next day, yun naman para sa families nalang talaga.

Sis kaitlynmischa so happy you've sorted it all out. It's sad letting of the US thing but at least both of you agreed on it kaya okay lang. Your H2B is really sweet.

[wednesdei]

Ang naging problem lang namin ay yung documents. Yung baptismal at confirmation ko kasi ang nakalagay Ma. lang e dapat Maria. Yung kay husband naman yung name ng mother nya sa baptismal at confirmation, walang maria eh dapat meron.

Madali lang naman yung process (pero two weeks din yung waiting game) sa pagpalit pero naging hassle lang kasi weeks before our wedding date lang namin na laman na di pala pwede yung documents namin and need ipacorrect at kumuha ng bago.

In the end, nakiusap na lang kami sa parish na pagkakasalan namin na mag precana na kami even without the updated documents and pumayag naman sila since on process na din naman yung documents namin. Yung documents ni husband, a day before the wedding lang namin naibigay sa church.

[marywater]

^ Yan din kinakatakutan ko sa documents... mga inconsistencies sa details like names ng parents and such... nangyari na kasi sa brother ko nung kinasal siya, and it happened 2 weeks before the wedding. buti pinagpbigyan sila ng church dun sa docs. kaya inagahan namin ni H2B magbook sa lahat ng suppliers para 5 months before the wedding, sa documents na lang kami naka-focus.

Sis marywater almost same problem, us naman with regards to the allotted seats sa mga family. I'm sure may masasabi sila butI'm someone who really doesn't care kasi hindi ko naman sila close. hahahah I'm so mean.

Hi sis! Late reply na but I think you're just being real and I commend you for sticking with what you want. Dito sa Philippines, weddings are social obligations by default. Parang kailangan invited lahat so no one would get hurt or para walang masabi kung sino man. Know what, samin, para pantay-pantay na lahat, halos lahat hindi namin ininvite. Mas nakakagaan ng loob samin ni H2B.

[mysterioza_me]

^Sis sorry to ask pero what do you mean ng "di lahat in-invite"? You mean ba parents and siblings ninyo lang ang present sa wedding?

[yasbabyangel]

Reminder lang brides to be. Isang regret ko sa wedding ko is hindi natanggal sa pagkakapin yung trail ng gown ko. 1.5 meters lang naman sya pero sayang padin. Mula pictorial gang matapos wedding diko sya naflaunt...haha. Pero overall happy naman ako sa result ng wedding namen... tsaka pansin ko di lahat ng ininvite kahit nagsabe na pupunta ay pumupunta. 150 guests nakareserve samen. Umabot ng 165 yung ininvite namen at nagagree na pupunta pero 143 lang guests namen. Buti pala nagpasobra kame ng inimbitahan
Happy preps sisses