Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

Sis chelvin26 may mga lalake naman kasi na hinde masyado into weddings and parties alamo na. Try to talk to him, pakinggan mo din kung ano gusto nya tapos try your best to compromise. Sa akin medyo swerte lang kasi we're on the same page, nakikisali sya maski papano and nakikinig sya. Maski minsan paulit ulit ako at magulo isip ko sa pagpili haha.

Talk to him ng maayos, I'm sure you'll figure it out. Baka pressured sya sa gastos, hinde kaya? Pano nyo ba napagdesisyunan na magpakasal na? Did he proposed or what?

[chelvin26]

Hi sis. Kinakausap ko naman siya.. Gusto naman daw niya pakasal. Lucky you kasi nakikisali siya.. Haha diba kasi parang mas okay yung may nakikinig sayo. Nagbibigay opinyon.. Reg budget. Combine ang pera namen at ako ang may hawak so i don't think dahil don. Regarding decision magpakasal.. It was planned last year pa. Dapat nga ngayon year kaso wala pa masyadpo funds so next year na. Yes he proposed.

[yn061515]

^ hi sis chelvin26, I think you have to sit with your fiance/partner and talk. Kasi, ang pagpaplano ng kasal ay hindi biro, hindi pupwede na ikaw ng ikaw ang bahala, kailangan joint forces kayo at napagkakasunduan nyo lahat kasi in the first place, dalawa kayong ikakasal, hindi lang ikaw. Let him know how you feel about him not paying that much attention or not showing interest while planning the wedding. Naniniwala ako na lahat nadadaan sa maayos na usapan lalo't kasal itong pinag-uusapan. Wag mo iisipin na hindi sya interesado, likas sa mga lalaki ang hindi naman ganun ka keen sa details like us girls. My husband is also someone na hindi mangingialam hindi dahil ayaw nya or tinatamad sya but because we have agreed na i will take care of the planning, researching and communicating with potential suppliers but he will have to approve also before we pay the deposit/reservation. Nasa pag-uusap nyo yan. Importante na maipaalam mo sa kanya how you feel kasi you guys are embarking on a lifetime commitment, mas okay kung peaceful at may understanding kayo at very few to none na samaan ng loob or tampo. Although normal din naman na magtampuhan but ayun nga, mag-usap ng mahinahon at tapat. Walang hindi nagkakaintindihan sa ganyang paraan. Happy preps sis!

[mysterioza_me]

^^i think h2b has his own wedding preference, baka di lang niya voice out yung gusto niya. Talk to him. Kung may gusto siya try to compromise and meet halfway.

[acvc08]

Dati sis ganyan din si h2b. After proposing he left the responsibility to me. Ganyan din ako sis nagtatampo ako sa tuwing na ffeel ko sakanya na he's not interested. So I decided to talk to him ng masinsinan. Sabi ko sakanya, kasal namin dalawa to so I want him to be involved. Gusto ko nag bibigay din sya ng suggestions and/or comments. E since he doesn't know what to do pala kaya hindi sya nangengealam, nilatag ko sakanya kung anong mga kailangan namin. We decided on the date first then tinanong ko opinion nya sa kung anong klaseng wedding ang navivisualize nya. He told me kung ano mga gusto at ayaw nya. So sabi ko, since I know his preference na, mag aadjust din ako para maincorporate yung mga gusto nya sa wedding na gusto ko. After that, naging okay na sis. Ako parin naman ang naghahanap ng suppliers. I shortlist kung sino pinaka ok at pasok sa budget then ipapakita ko sakanya. Sya ang may last say. Iniiwan ko sakanya yung decision making para ma feel nya rin how important his opinion is sa wedding. Pati nga sis sa small details like the design ng wedding cake I leave the decision up to him. Medyo passive padin sya sis kasi natatakot sya na masisi if anything goes wrong pero I assured him naman na lahat ng pinipili ko na shortlisted suppliers have high ratings and positive feedback. Also, we agreed to have both the this is it feeling before deciding on anything. basta sis just be patient with him. Hindi sila tulad natin na mabusisi at matyaga talaga sa ganito. Pero communicate with him lagi and always let him feel na he's playing a big role sa kasal nyo.

[chelvin26]

Hi mga sisters.. Thanks sa reply and advice.. I talked to him na and share my sentiments. Ayun nga he doesnt know what to do or what to suggest.. Binigyan ko na siya ng task na sa kanya final say sa mga shortlisted ko. Told him also to voice out his concerns saka mga gusto niya. Ayon okay naman na. Haha. Thank you ulit. Happy preps saten. Congratulations sa kinasal na at ikakasal pa. ❤❤❤❤❤

[exquisitegem]

Nice to hear that sis! Good thing you sat down and talked about it. You still have long way to go kaya dapat ma-iron out yung mga ganyang tampuhan.
Goodluck sis and happy preparing! ☺️ Share your booked suppliers soon.

[Chili1113]

chelvin26:I had the exact same problem with my husband while planning our wedding. All I can say, is try very hard not to let it affect your relationship. My tampo got really bad to the point that I fought him sooooo much as the wedding approached even when he was starting to help out already. There are some guys that are really like that and just literally attend and show up at their weddings. But I know how you feel, I even came to a point where I called off our wedding sa inis hahah. Don't worry about it so much even if I know that it is the most annoying thing in the world and sasama loob mo talaga minsan. Now that we're married I don't have the same problem naman and all is well with us. I suppose some guys just want to marry you and could care less about the wedding itself.

[kaitlynmischa]

chelvin26 hello sis.. I guess common yan to most men if not all, I remember when we were starting to book, unang meeting pa lang late sya. We fight over small things all throughout the preps, he attends the meetings but is quiet most of the time, or should I say all the time. But I tried to involve him, ask for his opinions, preferences especially sa budget. Even nga the suppliers would say na halos lahat ng groom tahimik talaga sa mga meetings. Pero unti unti naman he tries to throw suggestions, ako naman nilessen ko ang expectations, basta sa budget dapat sya ang mas involved. Lol. But I guess, us girls are more detail oriented talaga, ok lang yan, you are not alone. Hihi!

[chelvin26]

chelvin26 hello sis.. I guess common yan to most men if not all, I remember when we were starting to book, unang meeting pa lang late sya. We fight over small things all throughout the preps, he attends the meetings but is quiet most of the time, or should I say all the time. But I tried to involve him, ask for his opinions, preferences especially sa budget. Even nga the suppliers would say na halos lahat ng groom tahimik talaga sa mga meetings. Pero unti unti naman he tries to throw suggestions, ako naman nilessen ko ang expectations, basta sa budget dapat sya ang mas involved. Lol. But I guess, us girls are more detail oriented talaga, ok lang yan, you are not alone. Hihi!

ahaha appear sis, i am not alone. lol. oo nga, minsan nga sa food tasting, naubos na yung kinakain niya ako di pa nakakain kasi lumamig nalang dahil kausap ko yung owner, haha and nalate din siya sa mga meeting namin, same tayo, quiet lang talaga siya before,  pero now involve ko na siya. ask his opinion about this supplier gnyan. kung ano suggestion siya,, decision making, budget kung magkano ganyan. kasi hindi daw kasi niya alam kung ano gagawin nya at ano sasabihin niya, kaya wala masabi. But now we're good na, hehe mas pro active na siya ngayon kesa dati na as in wala talaga sinasabi, hahaha, Happy preps sis!:)

[chelvin26]

Chili1113: hehe totoo yun, guys are not into detail talaga, lalo na sa wedding preps, But now we're good, hindi na kami nag aaway. naiirita lang ako when i am making suggestions, asking him questions, pero hindi agad nasagot. hahaha, anyways. naisip ko din yan to call off our wedding pero sa inis lang yun. haha kasama na siguro yan sa wedding preps. Glad done ka na with that stage, and I bet namimiss mo din noh, hehe. another chapter of your life naman. kami matagal pa gugulin dito, may 1 year pa kami para sa roller coaster emotions. lol

[shopaholic]

Chelvin26: Your h2b might also think that there's no need to fuss because the wedding is more than a year away. I'm assuming this is his first time to plan a wedding so he won't know about price-lock, how fast in-demand suppliers get booked etc. Maybe explain to him why you feel the urgency of doing these things now, so he'll understand.  Further, some boys really couldn't care less about flowers and color combinations and "themes", so give him a wedding task he'd appreciate. If he's into food give him the responsibility of sourcing the caterers, if he's into drinking make him in charge of buying the drinks or selecting the mobile bar. Girls sometimes need to manage their expectations re. guys. They actually couldn't care less about most details, the most important detail is that they got the girl and that's enough 😄

As for me, 23 days away from my wedding and I text my kind of incompetent AE, asking her about something, since I was about to meet my coordinator. Guess what she texted "sorry ma'am, I am no longer connected with Fernwood" omg, the panic, I didn't know what was turned over and stuff (since as mentioned, she was incompetent). So we just made a panic visit to Fernwood Tagaytay today to meet our new AE.  Haaaay, so tired out.

[sunnnyside]

in general girls talaga ang mabusisi sa details. after all, tayo yung may pini-picture na dream wedding db. h2b leaves the detailing to me and then i'll just ask if he's ok with my idea. if he has suggestions, pinag-usapan naman namin. ang sa kanya lang, basta sumipot ako sa kasal ok na sya. 

[yasbabyangel]

Hihi. Normal ata sa lalake yan e. Si hubby to be ko rin si mr bahala kana e. [textspeak!] gusto mo. Kaw po. Ang ginagawa ko nalang sis pinapapili ko sya sa mga gusto ko or parang questions ko answerable by yes or no. Pero ako naman, I take it positively that hubby trusts my preferences at taste kaya ganun kaya naeenjoy ko magplano mag-isa. Plus agreement narin namen ako magplano at magbudget sya sa lahat ng gastos. Kaya okay lang saken.

Isa din pala sa problema ko ang guestlist. Humingi ng 10 slots si mother in law para sa coworkers nya. Tapos di naman sure kung pupunta lahat ng nireserve namen na seats dun. Ni di nga namen kakilala ni fiance yun. Nakakahinayang kase 150 guests lang kame tapos nabawasan pa ng 10 para mapagbigyan ang request. Gusto ko kase bilangin muna nila yung sure na pupunta kase halos 1k per head din kada excess na guest samen e... saka sana di naman sampu. Kahit lima man lang. Haha. Pero I love mother in law naman at mabaet talaga sila saken pero gusto ko sana kase mga close samen yung guests namen sa wedding e...

[britzm]

Kaloka ang mga lalake. Hindi talaga tumutulong. Dumating pa sa point na nagwala ako sa bahay dahil jan. Then saka ko nalaman na talagang kailangan pukpukin mga guys pagdating jan. Shout out to wedding tip sheet. So yun, ako lang sumakit ulo kaya ginawa ko go na lang sa kung ano gusto ko. Tapos pag may iba siyang details na sasabihin, saka ko modify yung nagawa ko.
Sa guest list, problema talaga yan pag pareserve ng mga parents. Ginawa ko pag nagpa reserve hinihingi ko name and contact number. Tapos kunwari ako coord itetext ko sila.lol idk if its a good thing ha.
Sobrang stressful talaga during prep.
After ng kasal, andun yung relief na haaay natapos na tapos lahat masaya sa wedding mo. Sulit

[exquisitegem]

^We're on the stage of trimming/finalizing our guest list. 200 yung guests namin and nahihirapan pa kami. Lalo at alam namin na hindi sumusunod sa rsvp minsan mga Pinoy at nagdadala pa ng mga uninvited guests haha
Hopefully we can get ALL the names of those who'll be coming para ma-assignnamin sila ng table #s
Goodluck sa mga b2bs!

[shopaholic]

It's ok. I'm 19 days away from our wedding. There was a time our guest list ballooned to 290 when we wanted 250 guests only. Now we're 252 adults and 8 children, and I believe it will trim down some more until we reach the goal number 😊 Truth is, you don't really get RSVP's confirmations until a few weeks before the wedding. So don't fret if your guest list balloons. It will most likely go back down.

[yn061515]

We had to change dates 3x!

We were supposed to wed by July 21, 2017 (3rd civil wedding anniversary) but it"s rainy season so we decided to move to April 28, 2017 (3days after our 6th bf/gf anniversary) but then... a malignant tumor was found on my mothers colon kaya we have to adjust... april is just too close lalo't madaming gastos for sure. I am feeling good about this last date change though. Hoping everything will be okay, esp my mother's health. She'll be admitted tomorrow and the surgery wil take place on November 14. I hope it's okay for me to ask to include her in your prayers. Thank you!

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

Sis, yn061515 I'm sorry to hear that, you have my prayers. Kaya pala di ka masyado active sa threads lately. Kailan na bago nyong date for the wedding.

[yn061515]

sis rory thank you, Sept22 na sis, 3pm. Yey! Gusto ko talaga 3pm talaga pero hindi na available ng April at July kaya happy din ako available sya sa date nayan. oo sis, medyo ang hirap kasi hindi naman ako makakauwi for the surgery.