Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[sunnnyside]

^sis yan din pinaka-problem ko. until now di pa final ang guestlist. gusto ko i-limit yung mga kamag-anak kaso ayaw ni inay dahil baka sabihin daw mayabang kami. Haaaaaay. Hindi ko tuloy ma-invite lahat ng gusto ko. 

[pretty_B]

Haha! Baliktad tayo sis, groom's side eh small family lang sila. Her mom and dad separated kasi, when his mom passed away he is not in contact anymore with that side of his family.  My mom naman she actually took out some guests which she thinks won't matter however she invited some of her amigas in exchange hahaha! okay lang naman at first but when nagadd na sya ng ninang ninong, medyo na-stress ako hehe. Di bale, I will tell her na tama na ang pag invite hahaha.

If you worry about MIL, tell h2b na may certain slots lang for friends of family. Hihi!

hehe. good thing na lang din sis that she is YOUR mom. you can talk to her in many ways you cant/wont talk to your MIL. hehe. *peace* yes, i'll talk to h2b din regarding this. but at the same time, naiisip ko magandang bonding din ng B2B at future MIL ang wedding planning. hehe.

re B2B's mom...kinakabahan tuloy ako sa mom ko. baka one day, maging makulit din sya sa pagpaplan ng wedding ko. hehe.

[ms.pharmer]

^sis yan din pinaka-problem ko. until now di pa final ang guestlist. gusto ko i-limit yung mga kamag-anak kaso ayaw ni inay dahil baka sabihin daw mayabang kami. Haaaaaay. Hindi ko tuloy ma-invite lahat ng gusto ko. 

oh? ganun ba yun? parang ngayon lang ako nakarinig ng ganyan ah.. Mahirap talaga magicp ng guest list. Kahit ako hirap nga kung sino iinvite ko among friends and sino hindi na need iinvite eh.. 

[MS_JanDel]

^Mahirap siya sis especially if you have a limited number of guest.

[sunnnyside]

^oo, in-invite nya pa yung malalayong kamag-anak. As in mga kapatid ng Lola.

[Tincywincy]

^oo, in-invite nya pa yung malalayong kamag-anak. As in mga kapatid ng Lola.

Sis, have you explored the possibility of having a post wedding dinner for those kamag anak nalang? para at least kahit na you disagree sa mom mo, mas magaan ibring up sakanya na wag nalang sila ibilang sa mismong wedding day guests mo. kasi at least sa post wedding dinner eh you can choose a less expensive food selection. tapos sa house nalang venue 

[sunnnyside]

^[textspeak!] sis check ko nga yang option na yan. Kung ako lang walang problema kahit magtampo sila pero big deal kasi sa nanay ko. Salaamt! 

[ms.pharmer]

^ Ganun talaga ang parents, siyempre ayaw nila na pangit ang tingin sa atin ng tao, na hindi marunong, kaya siguro gusto rin nila iinvite yun other relatives niyo. Eh tsaka kasi proud sila na may anak silang ikakasal na kaya ganun. Un na lang isipin mo. 

[kaitlynmischa]

Yeah, while I know that my mom is being cautious lang na may masabi ang iba, minsan mahirap lang talaga ang mag finalise ng guests. Especially kapag wala pang invites, hindi ka maka RSVP. Me too, buti na lang we finally agreed na mag post wedding lunch with our extended family, catering na lang sa clubhouse namin. 

[bollin_pop]

I just learned na yung in-house restaurant sa venue namin will not be connected sa venue effective Nov. 1. Waaah 
I need to iron this out soon.

Yung isa pa waah ang daming suggestions from everyone na it's overwhelming and needs to be considered. But at the end of the day naman - kami dapat yung magdesisyon.

Ganun nga ang parents ano sis ms. pharmer. Kailangan lang ibalance.
Glad I visited this thread.

[rowan]

^I suggest you dont discuss your wedding plans with a lot of people. They have good intentions naman pero pagtagal nakakainis na haha=p If you need to decide on something, keep it between you and your fiancee.

[LilaFowler]

^ totoo yan. Kasi some people cannot help it talagang they feel that they have to give you their opinion kahit di tintanong.

Nainis lang ako yesterday kasi our wedding is no black and no red ang attire. My friend messaged me yesterday asking pede daw ba yung outfit nya... she sends me a photo and it's red. Then she goes on and on about how she already has accessories for it and it's what she always wanted etc etc. Sabi ko na lang "I'm sure you'll find an occassion to wear it but no red at my wedding."

Before that she wanted to wear a black ballgown to a beach reception. Wtf lang...

[bollin_pop]

Yun nga kahit di naman sila tinatanong.
Sasabihan ko din si H2B nito.

Sis LilaFowler - ang sakit sa bangs but I love your answer. Straight to the point.

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

I agree, sometimes overwhelming mga suggestions, I mean we know they mean well, pero at this point unsolicited advices does more harm than good. Nakaka-stress. Haha parang ok, no offense, pero this is our wedding, we have a Coordinator and a powerhouse list of Suppliers last thing we want is samut saring opinion from different people of various tastes.

Maskis a bride's maid ko nung una, when I told them na ang motif ko is taupe (gray) and light yellow, di daw sakanila bagay ang yellow, so I let go of it, taupe (gray) nalang, gusto daw nila champagne or nude type haha. Naloka ako, pero pinalagpas nalang since close friends ko sila.

Anyways. Haha! Happy vibes. Masarap lang minsan mag vent out, tutal tayo tayo lang nagkakaintindihan. We're on the same page. 

[pretty_B]

Yung isa pa waah ang daming suggestions from everyone na it's overwhelming and needs to be considered. But at the end of the day naman - kami dapat yung magdesisyon.

guilty here. haha. on my cousin's wedding last september, ang dami naming suggestions na mga bridesmaids/cousins. grabe. sa sobrang kumportable siguro namin sa isa't isa since family kami, panay ang suggest namin sa bride ng kung ano ano. thinking na sagot naman kasi namin expenses sa isusuot namin. ayun, i felt bad nung time na nagkagulo kasi hindi magkasundo gusto naming bridesmaids vs the bride. but in the end, we let the bride decide for us. too late lang siguro kasi mejo naginit both sides nun. umabot pa sa sabi nila sakin (since ako next bride), next time daw i let them know the FINAL DECISION. para wala na sila say. hehe. so, yun gagawin ko ngayon. hihi.

^^nice sis LilaFowler. two strikes na pala yang friend mo. hehe.

[LilaFowler]

Oo. Lagi din sya nagssuggest ng different things and minsan parang nagtatampo sya pag hindi ko sinusunod yung suggestion nya.

Lately tinatanong nya sa akin anong gagawin nya because nabasa nya sa news na banned na ang smoking in public spaces. Her boyfriend needs to smoke every hour. Please lang... dami kong inaasikaso for the wedding pati ba naman yun kailangan ko pang isipin.

Haha dito lang ako nakakapag kwento kasi my H2B just shakes his head pag nag kukwento ako about her. Lagi lang nya sinasabi he doesnt understand why we're still friends.

[MS_JanDel]

^Nakakatawa yung friend mo sis, imbis na tumulong eh binibigyan kapa ng dagdag problem. Your dress code is so simple na nga eh, my gosh.

True mga sis, limit the people who know details about your wedding. Me, h2b, my mom and 2-3 friends lang may alam ng details ko. Even my bridesmaids don't know much. Pet Peeve ko kasi yung mahilig mambara and people pushing their ideas. Ganyan ako nung umpisa, makwento and then there a lot of people telling me about my gastos, about how my gown should look like, etc etc! I got really annoyed and so I started keeping details to myself. If I want a suggestion or an idea, I have one go-to friend whom I trust and my mom.

[yn061515]

^ your friend made my day! haha. BFFs ba kayo?
Kaloka, parang childish na K.S.P na ewan.

In my case naman, I think ako yung biggest problem ng husband ko sa wedding preps. haha! Pabago bago kasi ko ng isip kaya natatagalan kami magdecide  minsan. As in it took us weeks to finalize the color motif. Tapos sa P/V, nakailang bago din ng isip. And so on... So far, no wasted money pa naman! hehe. We can do this girls! 

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

Sis MS_JanDel, yan din actually ginagawa ko, konti lang nakakaalam ng details, nakakarindi makarinig ng suggestions, sa mismong sariling research palang natin sumasakit na ulo natin. Try nalang nila pakasal para dun nila ibongga suggestions nila haha.

Di ako pala kausap masyado sa mga tao nowadays, haha dito lang or sa Suppliers, gusto ko bulaga, kasal na. Haha! Wala na sila masyado magagawa. Or if I talk to other people, I make it sure na positive or supportive kausap ko, can;t handle friends like that kay Sis LilaFlower haha, problemahin ko pa ba kung san mag smoke asawa mo? Sampalin kaya kita ng bouquet haha joke.

[LilaFowler]

Gagawin ko dapat syang MOH kasi one of my closest friends. Sabi ni H2B wag daw kasi pag nainis akong tuluyan and di na kami friends hindi ko sya mabubura sa wedding photos. Kaya ang bridal party ko puro family... kasi hindi pwede itakwil and we will always be family. Hahaha.

Ang nakaka alam lang ng most plans is MOH, my mom and H2B.