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« on: March 26, 2016, 10:04:55 pm »
Have you heard about this kind of problem with women? I have a cousin kasi that are married for almost 3 years. And she said she can't be pregnant kasi she had this problem.  Meaning unconsummated relationship sila dahil wala pa daw "pene" na naganap sa kanila. They only realized the problem after they had plans to concieve. We are all wondering kaya pala until now dipa sha nabubuntis.

 Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse. The tightness is actually caused by involuntary contractions of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina. The woman does not directly control or ‘will’ the tightness to occur; it is an involuntary pelvic response. She may not even have any awareness that the muscle response is causing the tightness or penetration problem.

In some cases vaginismus tightness may begin to cause burning, pain, or stinging during intercourse. In other cases, penetration may be difficult or completely impossible. Vaginismus is the main cause of unconsummated relationships. The tightness can be so restrictive that the opening to the vagina is ‘closed off’ altogether and the man is unable to insert his penis. The pain of vaginismus ends when the sexual attempt stops, and usually intercourse must be halted due to pain or discomfort.

Vaginismus Involuntary Tightness – In the diagram on the left, the effects of vaginismus are illustrated with the tightening of the pelvic floor muscles and the resulting tightness of the vagina. On the right, the pelvic floor is relaxed and intercourse is possible without pain.

Types of vaginismus

When a woman has never at any time been able to have pain-free intercourse due to this muscle spasm her condition is known as primary vaginismus. Some women with primary vaginismus are unable to wear tampons and/or complete pelvic exams. Many couples are unable to consummate their relationship due to primary vaginismus. [see Symptoms]

Vaginismus can also develop later in life, even after many years of pleasurable intercourse. This type of condition, known as secondary vaginismus, is usually precipitated by a medical condition, traumatic event, childbirth, surgery, or life-change (menopause). [see Causes]

Did You Know?

Vaginismus is a common cause of ongoing sexual pain and is also the primary female cause of sexless (unconsummated) marriages. Sexual pain can affect women in all stages of life; even women who have had years of comfortable sex. While temporarily experiencing discomfort during sexual intercourse is not unusual, ongoing problems should be diagnosed and treated.

Examples of Vaginismus – In the vaginismus condition, as the man approaches the woman, her PC muscle group (darkly shaded) involuntarily tightens the vaginal entrance making intercourse painfully impossible or penetration may be successful but may result in burning, discomfort, and pain.

Vaginismus is treatable

Vaginismus is highly treatable and a full recovery from vaginismus is the normal outcome of treatment. Successful vaginismus treatment does not require drugs, surgery, hypnosis, nor any other complex invasive technique. Following a straight-forward program, pain-free and pleasurable intercourse is attainable for most couples.


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« Reply #1 on: March 26, 2016, 11:49:47 pm »
I have heard of this before. There's a cure. I think, I actually have this. But not that severe that you can't have intercourse. Uncomfortable lang during penetration pero okay na afterwards.
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« Reply #2 on: January 07, 2017, 12:26:09 pm »
Hi, I suffer the same. I've been married for 2 years but my husband and I never had intercourse. May I know if your cousin is okay na? Was she able to find a therapist to cure her vaginismus? I need to find one din kasi. Thanks a lot!

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« Reply #3 on: May 31, 2017, 08:56:50 am »
Me, too, I've been married for 2 years but I haven't had any penetration. My husband and I want to have a baby soon. I hope someone could give me contact details of a therapist who could help. Thank you!


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« Reply #4 on: July 09, 2020, 06:40:37 am »
 Hi sis, I want to help others overcome the challenge of vaginismus since I know help is difficult to come by.  Be patient and believe that you will be healed.  Regarding therapy, just message me here or on instagram "breathehappy365"  I'll help those who are facing this challenge and teach you exercises for free. Take care   :)


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« Reply #5 on: February 13, 2021, 06:36:44 am »
You could try kegel exercises, I have a work colleague that struggled with this and when we got to talking one day I found out that doing kegel exercises helped her out. I had no idea what those were so I did some research and ordered some weights from here for myself. I don't struggle with this affection, but I can say that they could help for sure. Also, there are a lot of different options for beginners, so don't be afraid to give it a try. I want to know if that helped some of you.


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