babae.. kasi ang babae, we look for someone na masasandalan, magc-care.. kaya madaling ma-fall kahit sa maling tao..
as for me.. yun na rin SIGURO yung hanap ko.. serious relationship.. kaya with the previous affair na pinagsimulan ng thread na to, kumalas na ko.. kasi FWB lang gusto nya..
I knew it! Babae talaga lagi unang naiinlove. In your case, it's good thing na alam mo that you want a serious relationship and you had the courage to stop whatever you had with him before it gets too complicated.
Sis, I think the good thing was he is honest enough to admit na friends lang.
Yes I appreciate that pero it's been a year before we got to that. I always had this crush on him (and never ako nagkacrush ng ganun katagal. sa kanya lang. highschool hangang college crush ko siya). We were not talking until we had the chance to exchange numbers. Textmate2, usap-usap hangang sa hindi ko namalayan na nahuhulog na loob ko sa kanya.
It was ok at first. I tried not to assume kasi nga wala kaming napag-usapan pero hindi ko minsan maiwasan isipin na may kami kasi nga sa actions na pinapakita niya. he is so malambing, laging nagtetext minsan nga magdamagan and masaya siya kasama. Walang akward moment basta ok lang talaga hangang sa napagod siguro kakaisip or kakaassume at tinanong ko na sya.
Thanks for sharing your story. This is exactly my point - mahuhulog at mahuhulog ang loob mo sa kanya kasi lagi kayo magkasama. Pero ang guys, hindi sila ganun mag isip. Iba din takbo ng damdamin/utak nila.
Yong proximity, isang factor kung bakit madali mahulog ang loob ng isang tao. Totoo yata yung madalas sinasabi na absence makes the heart grow fonder kasi pag hindi mo makikita, di ka naman agad mahuhulog. And come to think of it, isn't unfair na babae ang madalas mahulog?
One time I dated this guy, tatawagan daw nyako ulit pero di nya nagawa, instead tumawag sya after a week. I was disappointed. Pero syempre ano magagawa ko kundi mag antay, eh di ko naman sya bf. Then I realised I'm starting to like him na pala kaya I keep on waiting for him. Haynaku naimbyerna ako, I told myself never to let that happen to me, ever. Tapos when I started seeing others, tsaka sya habol ng habol. Nakakainis, kahit gusto ko sya, I had to let him go kasi alam ko di sya BF material. Biglang nawawala minsan tsaka siguro di pa ready to commit.
I guess this story would answer your last question - who falls first... Usually the girl talaga eh. Kahit fwb, fubu or just regular dating.
Yong parang mushroom na bigla-bigla nawawala, I think sign niyan na hindi mo maasahan ang guy kasi nga di ba kung may gusto silang mangyari mag eefort sila pero pag wala, eh wala naman. Sana it's easier to tell kung may patutunguhan yong relationship kasi minsan mga lalaki ang hirap edecode.
Tomhansen, ang mga lalaki kasi kapag nakita nila yong isang babae as prospect FUBU or FWB mas madali na para sa kanila ang gumawa ng move. At ang babae kapag pumayag, parang iisipin ng lalaki na ay ok lang para sa kanya.
In my case, I'm just grateful that we didn't reach that point. Yes there times na napagusapan but di talaga siya naikatuparan (naikatuparan talaga ha?) If something happened, siguro mas mahirap mag move on at baka until now nasasaktan pa rin ako kaya si God tlaga, he's watching over us. Alam niya kung ano ang dapat and maybe the reason why hindi naging kami is baka dahil ikakasira lang ng future namin yun. We were so young back then, alam na raging hormones and ect.
Piatos, I love piatos.. hehe anyway, precaution is better than cure kasi mahirap ang mag let go pag pinatagal mo pa. In your experience, it's good thing at nagawa mong makawala sa gulo ng FUBU at FWB