WHAT DO YOU CALL THIS?

[sweet.hann]

guys and gals..

there was a certain guy na nanliligaw saken.. last year pa sya nagsabi kung pwede daw ba manligaw.. pero this past months lang sya nangulit.. di ko sya gusto at first, pero since we started hanging out, nagugustuhan ko na rin sya..

pero may problem.. nalaman ko na yung latest relationship nya, wala pang closure..

i like to give us a chance.. what would you call me sa ganitong setup?
pano kung biglang bumalik yung isang girl?

 

[Girltalker2]

Tawag ko dyan sa Guy, nagbabaka sakali.

Ang tagal naman nya pumorma. Manliligaw daw last year pa nagtanong, ngayon lang nag start at di pa tapos last relationship nya, pumoporma na?

Gulo nya kausap. He is not worth your attention. Ang problem lang is since Panay pa cute sya at Binigyan mo kasi ng airtime kaya iyan mahuhulog na loob mo. You have to control and snap out of it. Don't allow yourself to love or even like a person Kung di mo nakikita maayos at matino syang future bf/partner. Otherwise Ikaw din mahirapan.

[im fine!]

siguro you need to make sure muna na may closure na sa kanila. Atleast sa part man lang nya. Baka nag eexperiment pa yan.

[ashonlush]

How did you find out sis na wala pang closure yung latest nya?
Mahirap yan baka mamaya gamitin ka nyan as rebound lang.

[simang]

...if a guy likes you, he likes you. Nothing/no one can keep him away kung gusto ka talaga nya. He will make you his girl if he wants to.

[purple.strawberry]

Ang tawag diyan ay... FWB.

Seriously sis why don't you talk with him and clarify yung status ninyo. Ikaw naman alam mo ng ganyan na kahahantungan sige ka pa rin, confused ka tuloy ngayon.

[Girltalker2]

ye.. true lahat ng sinabi mo..

sabihin na nating, nasa point na naman ako naa naghahanap ng kasama, special someone.. tapos sya yung nandyan.. yung laging available para samahan ako.. pero gaya ng sianbi ko sa kanya, i cant take risk para sa kanya..

pero tingin ko, playtime lang gusto nya eh..

Lahat naman tayo naghahanap ng makakasama. Siguraduhin mo lang na di makakasama sya sayo. Unless ok lang sayo ma taken advantage or maloko.

Kung playtime lang gusto nya, eh di huwag mo din siryosohin. Kung hirap ka na iwasan ma-inlove sa kanya, maghanap ka ng ibang kasama.

[badw33d]

guys and gals..

there was a certain guy na nanliligaw saken.. last year pa sya nagsabi kung pwede daw ba manligaw.. pero this past months lang sya nangulit.. di ko sya gusto at first, pero since we started hanging out, nagugustuhan ko na rin sya..

pero may problem.. nalaman ko na yung latest relationship nya, wala pang closure..

i like to give us a chance.. what would you call me sa ganitong setup?
pano kung biglang bumalik yung isang girl?

 

ask the guy to get on with the closure. if he's over it, that should be an easy job, otherwise ... yeah baby!!! hehe number X??? hahaha

[Girltalker2]

i like to give us a chance.. what would you call me sa ganitong setup?
pano kung biglang bumalik yung isang girl?
 

It is not your call if you want to give him a chance. It is his call. Kahit pa bumalik yung isang girl, if he is decided na Ikaw ang gusto nya, you dont have to worry about anything.

Kaso sa lagay nyo, Hindi pa sya decided Ikaw LANG ang gusto nya tapos pinangungunahan mo na agad. Huwag ka sana atat. Dadating din Yung tamang guy for you.

with regards sa same guy.. WHAT WOULD YOU CALL THIS?

What would you call us?

We agreed na hindi na nga pwedeng maging kami.. pero once in a while, nagkikita kami..
So.. we agreed na ganun lang.. hindi magiging kami.. pero we go out.. kisses on the side and other stuffs..

Pero as i read re FWB, may mga bagay na X sa FWBs na meron kami.. like:

Dont go on a date. WE DATE.

Dont stay in touch too often. WE TEXT.

Dont fall in love. Just recently, sinabi nya saken na may nararamdaman na daw sya para saken.

Dont cuddle. Pag magkasama kami, gusto nya back hug o kaya hold hands habang nagd-drive (slow paced driving naman)..

kasi nga nung umpisa, nanliligaw sya kaya ganun kami tapos the last time, we kissed and nearly have done it..

ano to??

Sis, why are you so hung up on ano tawag. Does it really matter? If you're not BF/GF, does that make you happier? If you're FWB, better ba?

There's nothing wrong if you're friends. There's nothing wrong if you date and text. However, there is something wrong if you expect him to make you his GF kasi you cuddle, kasi may nararamdaman na sya for you or kasi you like him.

If you enjoy naman intimacy without commitment, eh di go lang. Pero Dating101 - you should know your limits and when ka papayag and hanggang saan kaya mo harapin in the future (in case never maging kayo officially). So if ok lang sayo to have sex without any commitment, sige lang. But if you're bothered, something seems wrong, then don't.

[TomHansen]

If you want him to be your bf then wag kang makikipagsex habang di pa kayo, heck dapat nga wala munang kiss kiss at hug hug e. Mahirap if maging normal na lang yun sa inyo without commitment dahil anytime pwede siyang mawala at kahit yung pa lang ang mga ginagawa niyo for sure mabbroken hearted ka parang real breakup.. Pabebe ka muna kung gusto mong maging seryosong relationship ito in the future. Closure, di niya na kailangan yun dahil the point na nawala yung gf niya closure na yun, wag mong tanggapin na maging reason yun someday para lokohin ka niya.. If gusto ka niya talaga then he should forget his past yun lang naman, past is past..

[jtansanco]

You are technically #2. If #1 is not there for him, there's always back up which is you. You say no but your body says yes to all those things in your list. Might not have a good ending for you if you keep it up.

[Girltalker2]

^ buti nga kung #2, what if #3 or #4? What if may ibang ka-smooching din si Guy na katropa nila na di alam ni TS? Mukhang TS and guy dates kasi without the group knowing. So di malayo, may iba pa iyan for sure kaya ayaw pa magpatali sa isang GF. Or another reason is baka nga sila pa ng GF nya.

'What do you call this?' -- at least di pa kabit ang tawag, but if ever he is officially engaged na or married at ganyan parin ang peg, it will then be called an extra marital affair whereby you're the kabit/third party.
Siguro ngayon, puede mo muna tawagin iyan as an 'affair' to remember?

[kvandenhaak]

If I were you, I will ask him directly what is going on and tell him exactly what you want. Straight to the point, 'te! Saves you time figuring out what is happening.

[simang]

The fact kasi na you're asking these questions, ibig sabihin wala kayo sa same page ni guy. Hindi 'mutual' ang relationship.

It's obvious na you like (maybe even love) the guy already kaya concern ka sa mga ganyan. Kasi if willing ka sa playtime set up hindi mo yan maiisip.

[Girltalker2]

TS, ok lang iyan, important is you're aware what's happening at maiwasan mo masaktan.

Minsan di mo maiwasan di sya magustuhan kung sya lagi kausap mo. Hanap ka ng ibang friends para diverted attention mo. Date other guys, labas with your girl friends. Iyan palang puno na sched mo, di ka na makahanap ng oras for him.

If you're determined to find the right guy for you, be patient. Give time and attention to people who deserve it.

[jtansanco]

^ Isn't playtime considered... sex? Haha. But anyway, good for you. I'm sure you're an adult so you know what the right move is. You just needed that "extra push" from the GT community to validate what you should have done a long time ago. 

[simang]

ikaw sweet.hann, what do you want ba from this relationship? if you want something serious and not just for playtime, then wag mo na sayangin oras mo sa guy who's not even sure if he wants you as his girlfriend. baka kasi mamaya, willing ka lang makipaglaro kasi you like him already, and in your head you're *hoping* na magustuhan ka din nya as a serious partner..

[Girltalker2]

ye.. playtime.. from flirting to having sex.. kaya ko pero di pa ko ready for it.. makeout lang.. haha!

pero siguro, medyo nahulog na ko rin ako sa kanya kaya ako nagkakaganito..

Ya, iyan puede natin tawaging Makeout! Hehe

Yes, your feelings are bound to develop through intimacy. At least for women. But not for men, kaya sa Guy importante na mag decide muna utak nila at feelings before sex. Kasi Pag Sex nauna, nakaka limot na haha.

[simang]

alisin na natin yung magkakaron pa ng serious relationship between us. kasi malabo na talaga. sabihin na nating its just it na gusto nya saken. its up to me kung papayag ako sa gusto nya.

Regardless of what he wants, what do you want? Mukhang di ka pa din naman decided kung willing ka talaga makipaglaro kasi nasa isip mo pa din na ma-fall ka sa kanya. Anyway, FWB relationships can definitely work if you're on the same page. I think sinasabi mo lang na okay lang sayo eventually maging fubus kasi you want to have a relation with this guy, kahit na hindi necessary yun ang ideal for you. You made out with him kasi you want to keep his attention, dahil gusto mo sya.

[sweet.hann]

thank you sa advices.. 

being with this guy, (i call him, Mr. Wrong Timing) i found myself in a situation na pinaka-ayaw ko sa isang babae.. yung pinapababa yung worth as a woman, just to please someone.. for what i have here, i can say that it is not love.. kasi di ko naman talaga mahal si Mr. Wrong Timing.. ayoko nga sa kanya nung umpisa.. pero act of rebellion in my case.. buti na lang, nagawa ko pang alisan to.. i know i can get through this.. kabaliwan talaga..

thank you kasi kahit hindi ko kayo kilala personally, you are there to give advise.. good thing kasi nakahanap na ko ng pwedeng pagtuunan ng attention.. hehe.. fitness.. seryoso na to..