Author Topic: My bf still keep his ex gf pictures in facebook and other social media account  (Read 6591 times)

friovida

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I need some help mga sis. Sobrang hndi ko kasi alam kung ano ba dapat Ko maramdaman. Kinausap ko na [textspeak!] bf ko kung bakit hndi pa niya binubura [textspeak!] picture nila ng ex niya. And he asks me "kelangan ko ba burahin yun?" So what i did is hndi na ko kumibo. Long term gf niya yun. At kami bago palang. Naiisip ko lang kung baka may feelings pa sya dun sa ex niya. Pero matagal na silang wala mga 3yrs ago na i think. Help mga sis. Dapat ba ko mag li-low muna sakanya. Haay
« Last Edit: March 07, 2016, 10:39:10 pm by friovida »

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Baka hindi pa siya naka get over sa past niya sis. Ayos ang bf mo ha, syempre kailan ng burahin yon dahil nakaraan na. Sino ba naman ang hindi magseselos sa ginawa niya. Sabihin mo sa kanya ang hinanakit mo.

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Hi sis friovida. I've been in your shoes, dati may pictures pa din yung bf ko and yung ex sa fb account niya (ang kaibahan lang siguro is kaka-break pa lang niya from his ex that time). Inisip ko din noon na baka may feelings pa siya kaya ganoon (they were already planning to get married). I asked him about it and got the same reply, "kelangan ko ba burahin yun?". Noong una sinabi ko sa kanya na it's up to him kung tatanggalin nya (pero deep inside I wanted him to erase it). Sabi niya, para sa kanya kasi tapos na yun, past na kaya hindi na niya kelangan mag-browse back pa para burahin. Then I told him how I really felt, na hindi ako komportable na nandoon pa yung mga pics na iyon. After that, tinanggal niya lahat ng pictures/tags sa kanya ng ex niya. Inalis na din niya yung ex sa friends list niya kahit hindi ko naman na hiniling yun.

Sis try mo i-explain/ipaalam sa kanya kung bakit kelangan nya burahin yung pictures ng ex-gf niya. Kung malaman naman siguro niya yung reason mo i-erase naman niya siguro yun.

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TS, tell your partner your issues. I think you can tell him your honest feelings, and why you think he should delete it. Pero do not impose. Wag yung parang nina-nag mo sya. Baka mas lalong maging defensive at pagmulan pa ng away. Pwedeng ireverse psychology din, tanungin mo sya if sya ba makakita ng pictures ng ex mo sa gamit mo, anong mararamdaman nya.
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sabi nga don sa movie ni gerald at arci, i forgot the title lol
mga babae daw mahilig magdelete at magblock
pero sa lalaki daw part daw kasi ng history nila yun

others i know are just plain lazy. kumbaga para sa kanila picture lang talaga kasi yon haha

but if it's something you can't stop thinking better let the boyfriend know :) if love ka niya talaga, he will understand  and work with you on how to resolve it :)

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I'd say don't over analyze and overthink. It's part of their history. Di mo naman yun mabubura. But that's just me. Kasi ako I didn't delete my ex's pics. Pero wala ng lingering feeling at all. It's just that, memory! And the experience with them is what made me what I am now.
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When you ask about it, he should be sensitive enough to know na nagseselos ka. talk about it, but don't nag. tell him everything that is running in your head the time na nakita mo un picture ng ex nya. sometimes di nila alam, guys are sometimes so not sensitive.
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Understandable situation since you're only new in the relationship and they've been together longer.

As they said, talk to your BF and be honest that you're not comfortable with his history plastered online. If it's too much effort from him, volunteer to do it yourself hehe.

Feeling ko kasi, unless at par or more than their years together, this will linger so better remove kung totoo naman no issue from his end.

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Uso pa naman ngayon pagshare ng memories sa facebook ;)

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Some people are just lazy to intently browse old photos and delete them.
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been in the same situation, pero baliktad. ang sa akin naman, he was no doubt a part of my life. if it reflects on my fb eh ganun talaga, naging kami e. and yeah sobrang dami naming pics ng ex ko (bf for 5yrs) sobrang nakakatamad isa isahin at burahin. pero he explained naman in a nice way bat ayaw nyang may pics parin kami sa fb. and i understood. in the end compromise was made, so i let the then-current bf do the untagging and deleting for me.

just tell your bf how you feel and why you feel that way, explain it in a nice way. try mo din mag volunteer ikaw nalang kamo mag delete and untag kung tinatamad sha. hehe

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Uso pa naman ngayon pagshare ng memories sa facebook ;)

Haha, tama ka sis. Maybe you can tell Bf na delete na lang para mapalitan ng new memories niyo.
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May pictures kami ni ex together. But yung pictures were taken nung break na kami. I mean friends nalang. Or if ever meron mang picture ako na kasama siya eh kasama din ibang barkada so group picture siya. Ayaw ni bf na may ties pa ko with exes (bf, mu, fling), gusto niya iblock ko sila sa fb. Pinag-awayan namin yun. Coz I have one ex na part of my group of friends. As in friends lang kami, civil lang ganun. Nagkakausap and nagkikita lang pag may get together ang barkada. Ang ending, binlock ko din. Ang nasa isip ko lang nun, paano kung siya yung may connection pa with his ex, ayaw ko nun so yeah.

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pag ang lalake nag keep pa ng mga something na mag papaalala pa sa past nila ng ex nila it means namay something pa yun. pwedeng may natitira pang feelings. atleast ts nasabi mo na sa bf mo yung saloobin mo ngayon observe mo siya kung gagawin ba nya yung gusto mo na I delete na kung hindi nya gagawin yun after few weeks/months tingin ko may dapat kayong pag usapan at linawin.
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Naging big deal din sakin ito before. I really told my bf before na delete na lang yung mga pictures if wala naman halaga sa kanya na yun. Pinakialaman ko kasi yung laptop and hard drive niya. Ayan tuloy.

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may mga lalaki kasing tamad talagang magbura ng mga picutres, si hubby nga nasa akin pa yung mga love letters ng mga ex nya e.
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