Kapag wala bang suitor ang isang girl, ibig sabihin pangit siya? Thread 2

[Drax]

Of course not.  Maybe she makes it abundantly clear to potential suitors that any advances are not welcome.  Or she is too busy.  Or too cloistered. 

Or maybe her entire six degrees of separation are populated by gays?

[xtine]

Not exactly.  Its either the lady has a strong personality as well.  Isa to sa ayaw ng filipino men.  They prefer ladies who are mahinhin and malambing and maasikaso.  But if you have this quality, mas may chance ka sa foreigners.  Good luck!

[lonely_dad]

not necessarily. gaya ng sabi ng above post pag mataas personality ng girl mag aalangan din ang guy na ligawan siya kasi di sila mag kalevel. kaya normally ang kaya manligaw sa girl yung kelevel din niya or mas mataas pa sa kanya

[HAYLEELOVE]

Not exactly.  Its either the lady has a strong personality as well.  Isa to sa ayaw ng filipino men.  They prefer ladies who are mahinhin and malambing and maasikaso.  But if you have this quality, mas may chance ka sa foreigners.  Good luck!

Good point. Just want to clarify to the men out here- how exactly is a "strong personality" for you?  Do you really go for those mababait type, or may pagkabitchy ba or what? Thanks!

[yannuh]

i don't think so. yung mga girl barkada ko nung hs, yung iba nbsb pa din. before may nagtry manligaw pero basted so ganun. now yung 1 busy sa career nya and parang walang time for lovelife and wala daw sya suitor ngayon. pero she's pretty talaga. feeling ko minsan intimidated ang guys sa kanya.

[keejac21]

I have a colleague in her 30's na din, walang suitor for the past 2 years (coming from a failed relationship).

Pero vocal siya na gusto na niya magka boyfriend ulit and even settle down.
When I say vocal, as in loud and expressive talaga.
I don't know if that icks men and drives them away.

[young_maiden]

^ IMO, desperate dating niya sis. Lalo matuturn off mga lalaki sa kanya.

It's okay to feel lonely pag single. Normal lang iyan. Huwag lang desperate tignan.

[antithesisofbarbie]

I have a colleague in her 30's na din, walang suitor for the past 2 years (coming from a failed relationship).

Pero vocal siya na gusto na niya magka boyfriend ulit and even settle down.
When I say vocal, as in loud and expressive talaga.
I don't know if that icks men and drives them away.

I know someone na ganyan din. I think that drives men away. Feeling ko lang..

Feeling ko naman hindi dahil wala kang manliligaw meaning eh panget ka. Minsan kasi [textspeak!] ibang girls sobrang ganda wala din manliligaw kasi naiilang ang mga lalaki na lumpait... minsan naman walang manliligaw kasi maganda pero masama ugali.. or hindi lang siya yung type ng mga lalaki sa paligid nya...

Wala sa looks eh. Meron akong kakilala during college.. hindi siya kagandahan.. pero come on andami niyang suitors...so I think nasa personality din talaga.

[simang]

Kung wala kang manliligaw at all, you might be hanging out with the wrong crowd! Lakihan mo lang ang social circle mo, i'm sure somewhere out there meron at merong maattract sayo, someone who won't be intimidated kahit pa magkalayo kayo ng level, and someone who will actually take a chance with you.

Yung mga naiintimidate sayo, it means hindi ka nila type enough to risk it. So wag mo na pagaaksayan ng panahon yang mga ganyan. Pag gusto ka ng lalaki, gusto ka nya regardless of your status in life.

^Meron ata talagang ganyang babae. I have nothing against those kasi kumbaga they're just thinking out loud, i'm sure meron mga girls na ganun din ang feeling pero hindi sila vocal kasi ayaw majudge or ayaw magmukhang desperada. Pero i think and pinakaimportant talaga kesa mag-antay ng dadating na the one, work on yourself to be the one.

[Girltalker2]

^ Tingin ko naman eh one can be vocal that she is single and available. But huwag naman lantaran na you're so desperate to find a man. Konting pakipot. 😁

Imo, Pag ako kasi yung guy, matatakot ako at baka super asa or clingy yung girl - which for me is not cool or fun to be with. So guys might tend to avoid them. But I may be wrong, just my opinion.

[young_maiden]

I know a lady na di kagandahan at obese pero ligawin. Siya pa nagcheat sa bf niya.

Depende nga lang siguro sa aura at personality ng babae kung lalapitin siya ng lalaki o hindi.

[argento]

, someone who won't be intimidated kahit pa magkalayo kayo ng leve

works only if the guy is attractive. his looks is the leverage.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

i really love talaga mga love advice ni sis simang! anyway true and true and true. for me ha, dont go looking for love, maging abala sa ibang bagay, next thing you know someone will come around, yun nga lang sana bet mo rin siya. haha.

[DeathToMondays]

 

Let's rephrase that: are good looks the only criteria for being attractive to others?

[HAYLEELOVE]

I know a lady na di kagandahan at obese pero ligawin. Siya pa nagcheat sa bf niya.

Depende nga lang siguro sa aura at personality ng babae kung lalapitin siya ng lalaki o hindi.

I know a lady na di kagandahan at obese pero ligawin. Siya pa nagcheat sa bf niya.

Depende nga lang siguro sa aura at personality ng babae kung lalapitin siya ng lalaki o hindi.

Yup. Ako din. Though di naman obese whatsoever, chubby and cute pero di naman ganun kastriking pero huwag ka, siya lagi ang nagchecheat sa mga naging bf niya. And mga bfs niya may itsura talaga. People person kasi and palainom. Madaming barkada and super extrovert. Tapos go-getter. As in siya yung nagiinitiate to the extent na kayang makione night stand just to get a guy. In short malandi. So wala rin talaga sa itsura minsan, nasa diskarte lang talaga. I have a friend, maganda pero hangang ngayon wala pa ring bf.

[Ortigas_Guy]

Quick and simple answer is no unless the guy only wants a trophy girlfriend/wife.

Having said that, let's be honest, men are visual animals. Looks is the first thing one notices. Only when you get to know a person do you have a chance to discover the girl's personality, smarts and hygiene.

However, even if a guy isn't attracted to a girl's looks, there's a chance that through the years he discovers that hey this girl's personality jives with mine! Or wow she's smart! Yes ladies, some guys *raises hand* find girls with brains as sexy.

Pwede din naman na even if a girl has the looks, personality and smarts (also success/money?!) a guy would get turned off if she has poor hygiene or smells.

Un lang at I'm sleepy na. Hope this helps!

[MayVerona]

hindi naman ganun yun baka sa ngayon walang nanliligaw sa kanila wait lang sya for the right time wala naman sinabe na pag walang nanliligaw panget agad pag friend mo sya why dont you set her in a blind date