the man who can't be moved

[rheinfall18]

guys, hindi ko lang talaga magets tong guy friend ko. kaka-break lang nila ng gf nya, pero parang guguho na ang mundo. take note: 3 months pa lang sila. ayoko i-judge yung pinagsamahan nila, pero c'mon. what do you guys think? ano ba pwede ko ipayo para maka-move on na sya? nauubusan na ko e! tia!

[kutitapkiss]

ilang taon na yan? 1st gf? tipong destructive ba? baka naman talagang tinamaan ng todo. minsan kasi wala naman yan sa tagal ng relationship. and kahit ano namang ipayo mo sa mga heart broken, wala rin. pag may mga friends akong ganyan i let them be. dinadaan ko nalang sa asar, minsan pinoprovoke ko pa para iiyak nalang nila ng iiyak para matapos na hehe.

[dismembered]

Ganun talaga. Kadalasan nga... Kung sino pa ang hindi nagtagal, yun pa ang mas hinahabol... Andami kasing  "what ifs?" Kaya parang feeling ng lalake pwede nya pang ayusin or pwede pang ihabol. Baka someday magkaayos pa etc.

[three8one]

bantayan mo lang friend mo minsan yung mga ganyan klaseng broken hearted na tao na may tendency sumubok ng mga stupid things para lang makalimot.

[argento]

Masyadong madrama guy friend mo ts. Not man enough.

i think you like him kaya concern ka.

[kutitapkiss]

^ being madrama over a heart break does not lessen a man's manliness imo. they are actually brave for being emotionally true. sabi nga ni emma watson, a man being emotional doesn't make him less of a man. it makes him human.

[swim_fatale]

^Agree with you, sis.

Plus, I think the TS really does like the guy she is talking about kasi FRIEND nga nya diba. We do LIKE our friends, don't we? And we really ARE concerned about them.

[dismembered]

^ being madrama over a heart break does not lessen a man's manliness imo. they are actually brave for being emotionally true. sabi nga ni emma watson, a man being emotional doesn't make him less of a man. it makes him human.

Tama ka! But on the other hand... If talagang gusto nya i-win back si girl.. hindi sya dapat magpakaganyan. As a man, oks lang maging emotional for quite some time.. pero dapat mag man up din at higitan pa ang mga ginagawa nya before. It should make a man stronger.

^Agree with you, sis.

Plus, I think the TS really does like the guy she is talking about kasi FRIEND nga nya diba. We do LIKE our friends, don't we? And we really ARE concerned about them.

Naku. Ok lang maging friend during hard times. Ingat lang kasi baka maging rebound. :|

[iam_me]

ok lang naman maging ganyan si guy friend mo nasaktan talaga siguro sya at wala naman sa tagal ng relasyon yan baka minahal nya talaga. lilipas din yan bayaan mo lang syang mag drama sayo need lang nya mailabas yun sakit. yun lang paulit ulit nga lang ang drama pakinggan mo lang sya magsasawa rin yan sa litanya nya

[kutitapkiss]

If talagang gusto nya i-win back si girl.. hindi sya dapat magpakaganyan. As a man, oks lang maging emotional for quite some time.. pero dapat mag man up din at higitan pa ang mga ginagawa nya before. It should make a man stronger.

TS didn't mention anything about her friend wanting to win back the girl, baka talagang dead end na. and sabi naman kakabreak lang.

i mean, IT'S OK to feel bad over break ups, for a certain period of time. for how long, well depende sa impact ng pagkalugmok mo. and as long as you do not become suicidal. as you said, it will make a man (or any person at that) stronger. it will not make a person stronger kung di nya nanamnamin lahat ng pain, imo.

i don't like it when society pushes people with heart aches to move on and get back up as fast as they should especially sa mga lalaki. equally not healthy. that kind of "machismo" image for me is a joke.

yun lang paulit ulit nga lang ang drama pakinggan mo lang sya magsasawa rin yan sa litanya nya

yan ang talagang nakakaumay jan. hahaha. tas paulit ulit ka rin ng ipapayo. pag ganyan ang friend ko binabara ko talaga hehe. tough love is best pag ganyan ang scenarion paulit ulit.

[iam_me]

^sinabi mo pa sis may friend akong ganyan nag usap na kami ng personal , mag te text pa, tatawag pa mag cha chat pa same lang din yung pag uusapan namin pero ok lang minsan may sundot na bara din sya sa kin buti na lang naka move on na sya

[kutitapkiss]

^ pinaulanan ako ni lord ng mga ganyang friends, haha. nakakatuong din kasi yung may kausap sila lagi. pero ayun nga minsan they can't help it paulit ulit nalang. binabago ko nalang din topic minsan, para at least chika parin kami, pero less umay na for the both of us.

[dismembered]

i don't like it when society pushes people with heart aches to move on and get back up as fast as they should especially sa mga lalaki. equally not healthy. that kind of "machismo" image for me is a joke.

Depende kasi sa sitwasyon. Pero kung hindi naman na pala aasa or hindi na balak pa i-win back si girl, dapat lang talaga mag move on as fast as they could. Unang una, dahil sa heartbreak, madaming time ang nasasayang... Maraming opportunities ang nami-miss. Sinaktan ka na nga eh... hahayaan mo pa bang pati ang ibang good things sayo ay mawala ng dahil sa pagka-heartbreak?

 I don't know... pero parang medication yata ito kapag may wound din. Mas masakit man gamutin, pero baka mas nararapat na yun ang gawin para sa mas ikabubuti...

[kutitapkiss]

^ i agree depende sa sitwasyon. and ang tao, iba iba din ang ways of coping up. if you're the type of person who can cope up without being overly emotional and wallowing with self pity, then good for you. well and good. pero, if you're the type naman who needs to really grieve and let it all out, i don't see anything wrong with that. few days, few weeks. go ahead. be sad, cry, mukmok, alone time, inom, all that. it's ok. i'm not saying na mali yung magpapakita ka ng strong persona and all pag heart broken, again kanya kanyang coping mechanism yan. kaya i think hindi rin mali na dumaan sa lugmok phase. it that's what you really really feel at the moment.

based on experience ha, with what i saw with my friends na guys, mas ok ang recovery nila pag nag-all out dumaan sa ganyang phase. kesa dun sa mga pa-strong. nagrerelapse sila eh. tagal bago maka fully recover. but then again, whatever works for you, ganun naman yun e.

[swim_fatale]

Naku. Ok lang maging friend during hard times. Ingat lang kasi baka maging rebound. :|

I was talking about the TS sis, and yung comment ng isang poster dito. Para kasing pinalalabas may gusto lang kasi si TS sa friend nya kaya concerned. I don't think it's fair to say that unless si TS mismo magsabi na ganun ang intensyon nya. POsible din naman kasing kaibigan nya talaga kaya concerned lang siya.

[dismembered]

based on experience ha, with what i saw with my friends na guys, mas ok ang recovery nila pag nag-all out dumaan sa ganyang phase. kesa dun sa mga pa-strong. nagrerelapse sila eh. tagal bago maka fully recover. but then again, whatever works for you, ganun naman yun e.

Truth is... Makaka move on at makaka move on naman ang lahat... unless mag suicide. Yun nga lang, sayang ang opportunity cost during times of heartbreak. Minsan kasi, kaya matagal maka move-on kasi nga umaasa pa. Kung umpisa pa lang, inalis na yung hope na yun, mas mapapabilis siguro ang pag move on.

[iam_me]

tama naman, depende talaga sa tao kung pano i handle yun pagiging broken hearted, sa umpisa talagang may percent pa na aasa ka normal yun pero kung nakikita mo naman na wala ng pag asa move on na baka ikaw na lang yung naka hold tapos sya matagal ng bumitaw sayo.

[kutitapkiss]

Truth is... Makaka move on at makaka move on naman ang lahat... unless mag suicide. Yun nga lang, sayang ang opportunity cost during times of heartbreak. Minsan kasi, kaya matagal maka move-on kasi nga umaasa pa. Kung umpisa pa lang, inalis na yung hope na yun, mas mapapabilis siguro ang pag move on.

that's a different argument na. iba din naman yung pilit pang umaaasa, sa simpleng malungkot lang at depressed dahil sa heartbreak. and im not saying it's ok to be depressed for a looong period of time. nope. i mean, how much of an opportunity ba ang mawawala if you let yourself feel all the pain at iiyak lahat for a few days. kung yun ang ikaluluwag talaga ng dibdib mo e diba. i seriously believe moving on is a phase. if you skip one single step, di ka makakamove on totally.

[dismembered]

^ Right. nakasalalay lahat kung gaano kabilis matatanggap ang lahat ng pangyayari. 1st few days, hindi mo pa feel... parang in denial pa.. pero after some time, mag sink in na... Yung iba bago, after pa ng ilang months dun lang mag sink in. Kung mapapabilis lang lahat at ma-guide ang bawat isa sa tamang way ng pag move on eh di ayos.

Natural lang maging malungkot as long as hindi magiging destructive. Kadalasan, dahil sa pagiging malungkot, dipa tuloy nakikilala si Mr/Ms Right. haha

[argento]

siguro tinatawanan sya ng ex-gf nya. at 3mos ganyan na sya eh pano pa kaya kung 1yr. also the best advice he can get is from his close male friends not a girl.