For me ah, ang love life natin is just the same as the other aspects of our lives -- career, education, success, family, etc. Lahat ineefortan, lahat ginagawan ng paraan. You can't really expect to have something na hindi mo naman deliberately ginugusto, or hindi mo naman ginagawan ng paraan para makuha. Ang analogy ko nga dyan lagi is finding the perfect shoe. Tayong mga babae, we look around for a good shoe. We try on a lot of pairs before we decided if this shoe is the one. If the shoe we like is too expensive, pinag-iipunan natin kasi gusto natin makuha. For me, the same thing applies to finding a man. Ang mahirap kasi, most girls rely on 'fate'. Masyado tayong blinded by serendipity, tbh. Bakit kapag sapatos ang hinahanap natin, nakakapamili tayo, pinag-iinvestan natin, pero pag life partner, eh kung sino na lang ang dumating pwede na? Or kung walang dumating, eh okay lang kasi that's our fate eh. Oo, cute siguro yung parang destined talaga kayong magkita, without forcing anything, pero para sa akin kasi destiny is not the most powerful thing in the world. It's our choices. So if we chose to not look for love, don't be surprised that your chances of finding love is also minimal.
I know love is unexpected but I'm just wondering if there's something wrong with me kasi I just can't understand how some people can easily find someone new to love after a few months. Minsan nga, matagal na ang 2 years. Any thoughts?
Some people especially nowadays, they enter a relationship not because they love the person. They give the relationship a chance kasi they want to test the waters. As unromantic as this may sound, pero yun ang totoo. Dati, ang ligawan is the getting to know stage. Ngayon, wala ng ligawan. If you like each other (yes, like, doesn't have to even be love), you can be a couple, at pag couple na kayo, dun na ang getting to know stage. Kaya siguro may mga tao who can jump from relationship to the next in a snap, kasi for them, it's not about wanting to spend forever with this one person right away. It's about finding out who this other person is, and giving a relationship a chance to bloom eventually.
Ako, I'd say hindi ako madaling ma in love in a sense na I normally don't pay too much attention to people who don't like me. So kung yung lalaki eh hindi naman nagpapakita ng interest sa akin, in my head, wala rin akong interest sa kanya. Sa amin ng husband ko, some say it's love at first sight, kasi we almost became exclusive immediately after we met. Pero sa akin, I never really loved him until I saw how he really is as a person.
