Does your husband keep secrets from you?

[deiz]

Does your husband keep secrets from you? Is he a chronic liar? If yes, please enumerate mga instances na nagsinungaling sya. 

[pinklilac]

Nope. Opposite naman husband ko.May mga  bagay sa past niya  na hindi na dapat sabihin sa akin pero ayun mega share pa sa akin.

[aquacharly]

He is not a chronic liar. But I am sure he has secrets. I do too.   Everybody has secrets.  It does not automatically mean though that a secret  = something dark, nasty, abnormal, weird or whatever negative.  IMO, every person is entitled to his/her own little quota of secrets.

There's that saying too, that:     We all each have a chapter of our life we do not want others to read. 

[Chantal89]

If omission is considered a lie, then there are rare times that he does.  Mostly about his family and things that probably should not matter anyway.

[super bratinella]

If he does I can not really tell because it is a secret, pero kahit mga surprises hirap siya itago nabubunyag agad kaya baka wala that...I know of

[Shadow Angel]

Surely meron I don't mind as long as its not affect our relationship, I do have too anyway about the past he doesn't want to know it all.

[yannuh]

di ko sure kung meron. pero i won't mind naman long as it will not affect our relationship:)

[iam_me]

siguro but i don't mind , i have my own secret too

[Girltalker2]

IMO iba ang pagkakaroon ng secret sa pagiging chronic liar.

Minsan we just don't want to share some things for various reasons. Pero once your spouse is asking na about it, I don't see any reason why you need to hide something.

Puedeng there are things na di nya Mak-kwento sakin. If malaman ko man, I would first ask why he didn't tell me. Pero pag lie ang sagot, ibang usapan na iyon. Para sakin,  hindi katanggap tanggap ang sinungaling na asawa.

[latte]

Yes masikreto ang asawa ko as in super. Ako naman binalewala ko Lang thinking na ganun Lang talaga sya until one day without any effort on my part nakita ko na niloloko Nya pala ako since we started may ibang babae sya Tapos ang dami dami ko pang ibang nalaman yung iba does'nt concern me yung iba may bearing sa akin. I always thought kasi before na if ever magloloko sya will definitely be his lost and not mine na totoo naman pero Hindi ko na ancticipate na ang sakit palang maloko.

[jacoralde]

  newbie po. 

Yes, alam ko at ramdam ko na may mga bagay na hindi sya sinasabi sa akin. Specially regarding sa problema nya at minsan sa 2 kids nya sa pagkabinata. It's annoying, masakit na hindi nya masabi sa akin yung mga ganong bagay, kaya lang sa explanation nya, hindi sya sanay nagsasabi ng problema sa ibang tao. Ang sabi ko naman hindi naman ako ibang tao. Bakit kailangan nya ilihim sa akin or itago mga ganon. Kaya nga kami magasawa eh, para magsabihan ng problema etc. Nakakainis lang minsan lalo pag ako yung napagbubuntunan nya. 

[khaleesiCersei]

oh i'm sure he does. kung ano man yun, itago niya na lang mabuti dahil what i don't know won't hurt him hehe.. 

[deiz]

hi gurls! Thanks po sa mga reply, nitong nakaraan kasi may mga tinatago sa akin asawa ko. Una, nalaman ko na may tinitext syang babae na "Love" pa ang tawagan nila. Sabi nya hindi naman daw sila nagkikita at hindi friends sa FB. Nasaktan lang talaga ako kasi sa 10 years namin ng bf-gf never syang nangbabae or nakipag-textmate sa ibang babae. So dissapointed, kasi bago pa kami kinasal, sinabi ko sa kanya na gawin nya na at least para pwede pa kami maghiwalay. Hay nako, kaya ngayon ewan ko ba kung maniniwala pa ako sa kahit anong sinasabi nya. Nagsisi naman sya at nag-sorry na hindi na daw mauulit, akala daw nya kasi harmless lang yun. 

[Girltalker2]

Ewan ko ba sa mga lalaki, bakit ganyan takbo ng utak nila? May pinag aralan naman I suppose. So since when calling another person 'Love' harmless?

So TS, nag sorry na sya. But you still feel na may tinatago?

I'm not encouraging you to separate. Pero sa pananalita mo kasi parang di sya option. Don't get into that trap of being in a miserable marriage samantalang your hubby emprenteng nakikipaglandian sa iba.

Have a plan. Talk to hubby Ano gusto mo mangyari. If di parin sya umayos, plan for that day where you can be happy. Yes getting married in the Philippines with the wrong guy sucks big time. Pero Andyan na iyan. Try to make it work muna, try to make some sense into that marriage muna. If all else fails, just think of your next move. Remember it is your life, you make the decisions that can make you happy and fulfilled.

[deiz]

@girltalker2
Thank you so much sa reply. To think sobrang dami kong na-sacrifice para sa relationship namin. Mukha namang willing sya to change pero nag-decide na lang ako na mag-training sa pag-specialize sa dialysis. Nurse kasi ako dati and recently worked and resigned sa call center para magtry mag-baby. Puro kasi night shift so super stressed ako noon.
Ayoko na ding mag-focus sa kanya, at least ill have options if ever hindi na sya magbago.

[creamypeach]

ako nahuli ko ang husband ko na nakikipaglandian sa kasamahan nya sa work nung 2014 via hangout app. then heto lang meron nanaman sa tinder app .alam nyo sagot nya sakin? "masama bang makipag usap sa iba? just having a sensible conversation? I need someone to talk to? "nagdedeny pa din siya.super sinekreto nya yun ,ang tagal bago ko nadiskubre.

 sabi ko nga kung mababasa lang ng iba yung chat convo nila ng mga girlets nya eh di lang kakwentuhan at friendship ang hanap nya. Flirting ang nabasa kong flow ng usapan. ang sakit lang diba? we were married 2012. no child yet. sabi ko nga sa susunod na gawin nya yung ganung pagsesekreto at mabubuko ko din lang naman, ayaw ko na .

[antithesisofbarbie]

siguro pero most likely eh secret yun nung di pa kami magkakilala...so okay lang hehe

past is past.

kung ngayon may lihim siya saakin...galingan niya magtago dahil pag nalaman ko iyon at directly affected ang family namin lagot talaga siya saakin at alam niya iyon...

so far ang mga secret lang naman niya ay about mga surprises saakin hehe ^_^

[cybelekronos]

sobrang dami 

si hub tipong d masalita, d makwento,
magulat na lang ako aalis na pala
or may bad nangyari sa work
kahit nakikita ko na down na sya d pa rin nya sasabihin sakin
kapag nahuli ko naman, never pa rin aamin,
lalo sa pera 


ganun na talaga sya, tinatago nya lahat.

prob lagi ko rin nahuhuli
pero never pa rin aamin. 

[babyboo_1205]

Yes. I remember a friend who said na ang lalake kahit nahuli mo nang nakapatong, magdedeny at magdedeny parin.

Based from experience, totoong totoo siya. He uses another facebook account to talk to other girls from work, I haven't confronted him about it yet kasi Di naman flirty conversation nila. He's fond of online gambling and he hides it from me kasi alam niyang against ako dun.

I feel betrayed knowing that he's keeping secrets from me. I tried many times to confront him at naiiyak pa ko pero wala effect sa kaniya.

[simang]

I don't know for sure if he keeps something from me, but it's fine if he does as long as it's not affecting our relationship in a negative way. I myself keep secrets from him. Little secrets that has got nothing to do with us.

Naalala ko last month while we were canvassing for a car, and budgeting our money for the MA, he coyly asked me how much my salary is. Nahihiya pa sya tanungin talaga kasi maybe he feels na it's still should be personal. Sa buong bf-gf life namin even when we were saving up for our wedding never kami nagkwentuhan about our income.