Have you ever, or willing to, date a guy with a history of violence?

[oshiawase]

Girls, have you ever dated a guy who has a history of violence against his ex-gfs, or even against any person? Violence here may be physical, psychological, etc.

If not, are you willing to? If yes, why?

[junetwentythree]

WHO in their right minds would? If from the get go you know that the guy has a violent past, why would you even carry on?

Is this query for an article you're writing or something? Cuz I sure hope you're even remotely considering the possibility of getting together with someone like this.

[lonelymiss28]

Not in a million years.

[reighnyielle]

Just thinking about being with a guy with a history of violence is giving me the creeps so my answer to that is a big NO

[tomatostellar]

WHO in their right minds would? If from the get go you know that the guy has a violent past, why would you even carry on?

Is this query for an article you're writing or something? Cuz I sure hope you're even remotely considering the possibility of getting together with someone like this.

Deal breaker!

[oshiawase]

I'm asking because a friend of mine is falling for a guy who has this kind of past with his exes. My friend thinks he "can change".

[aquacharly]

Never. I wouldn't put myself beside a lion to pat it.
Sure it's just a big cat, technically; but I know where he's coming from.   Can't take out the wild in him

[mindiegirl]

No I wont. A guy na violent and/or abusive is definitely not on his right mind.

Better shake your friend back to reality TS. May mga ganyan talaga na kino consider pa din the guy even if may history of violence. Yan yung mga nabubugbog na napapanuod sa news or movie. Martir in the making. Sure there's the possibility that he CAN change but for me, don't want to take the risk.

Besides, yung mga lalaking nangaabuse (whatever form), matagal na therapy kailangan dyan, coz to make a person such, malalim pinagdaanan nyan or had a traumatized childhood. Mahirap baguhin coz malalim ang pinaghugutan.

Just my opinion po.

[khaleesiCersei]

If ever magbago man yun guy sis, pakisabi sa friend mo na hindi sya ang magiging rason ng change na yon. She can't change him pag naging sila. Sya pa nga ang mababago nung guy dahil kung nambubugbog yun or verbal abuser man eh mawawala ang self esteem ng friend mo at magiging miserable lang sya. Wala nakakapagbago kaninoman dahil ang change eh nagsisimula sa sarili. Medyo nawawala sa reality check si friend. Baka naman nalulungkot lang sya, pa date mo sa iba sis bago maging huli ang lahat hehe

[gwyne21]

No... sa umpisa pa lang, may big red flag na... so why take the risk?..
TS, advise your friend not to consider this relationship kasi may history na si guy. People don't change for others. The change should be from within the person. Wag maniwala na kayang "mapabago" ng girl ang isang guy lalo na at may "violent history" yung guy. Kung sakaling magbabago si guy..dapat personal choice nya yun at for himself

[phurple0515]

no, i'm not a masochist

[lovemeagain30]

I was a battered gf to the father of my eldest child.

you can never change the demon in him. i swear kahit gano ka pa niya kamahal still lalabas pa din ang manifestation niyan. walang excuse yan. love will not be enough to change them. wag magtanga tangahan.

better tell your friend to run away from this person as far as she can.

[snowberry]

There are many fish in the ocean bakit Leon gusto nya>

[[-c-h-a-]]

Nope

[amethyst028]

this happened to me. i met a guy through a common friend. of course pag nanliligaw best foot forward. a few months into our relationship his ex-gf filed a case towards him violence against women. coz he hit the girl but of course he told me it was not intentional and the girl did it first etc etc. i only heard his side and believed him.

after one year his violent tendencies starts manifesting. he would grab me by the arm, throw things at me. pull me when i don't want to go with him. even verbally abusing me whenever we would get into an argument. he is also very controlling.

moral lesson of the story: when a guy has a history of violence get as far away from him as possible. don't wait till it's you who is his punching bag.

[deiz]

Never! Habang tumatagal lalabas din tunay na kulay nyan, kahit anong tago nya.
Kung may history. Huwag na. Paano kung mag-away kayo tapos nakainom siya, most likely sasaktan ka nyan. Tapos pag nahimasmasan sasabihin sayo nagdilim ang paningin.

[phurple0515]

sabi nga nila, once you go deeper, it will be very difficult already to go out of such relationship kaya dapat maaga pa, umalis na if you are into one.  and if before going into a relationship, better if alamin na lang about the person.

[alice_alice]

No, ayoko maging punching bag. Kahit kasing gwapo pa yan ni Brad Pitt. Di ko talaga papatulan.

[reighnyielle]

Tell your friend sis to stay away from him na kaagad. Mas lalo pa siya mahirapan pag pinatagal pa niya attachement niya with him. Pag nag aaway ang mom and dad ko at talagang nagkaka initan na sila, hindi sinasaktan ng dad ko ang mom ko instead ay sa mga bagay niya binubuntong galit niya like punching walls so if nagkataon man na umabot sila sa isang heated argument with this guy, malaki ang tendency niya na ibuntong ang galit sa friend mo at masaktan siya and kasi para sa akin kapag nasa moment na siya nun ay wala siyang pakialam kung makasakit or hindi.

[Purple_Power]

Kahit Crush ko na nainlove ako at kapag nalaman kong ganyan NO WAY!!! I have my pride as a woman. Sa family ko nga may kamuntikan na akong ireport sa violence eh! at nag inquire na ako sa police although hindi pa naman brutal yung ginawa sa akin parang tapik na sipa lang. Nakaganti naman ako pero hindi ko sinipa kundi parang binatukan lang paa. Pero kapag napuno ako baka tinira ko leeg niya agad.

Unless I am professional wrestler who is strong to encounter strong grip then sige subukan niya, yung tipong kahit tulog ako malakas ang sense ko na may mangyayari.