Don't Compare Your Own Wedding

[cornflakegirl]

I hauled this from the Bride & Breakfast
i am sharing it with fellow brides, kasi napansin ko my bride-friends as well sa FB newsfeed they tend to show off, outdo or compare their prenups/wedding

Don't ever compare your own wedding to others' you've attended.
The goal is not to outdo others' weddings.
The goal is to make it personal & relevant to you as a couple,
as well as the family & friends that will spend the day with you.

A wedding is not just a showcase of style, but a celebration
of love & commitment.
That is not what you will remember 10 or 20 years from now.
Think out of the box and dont be afraid to not to follow
every cookie cutter
rule about how to do a Filipino wedding.
 

so in the chaotic wedding preparations & fiasco of mixed opinions about our weddings
we should keep calm, just be ourselves & let it go, let it fly!

Afterall, it is Our Day! Not Theirs! 

[120515]

^ very true! comparison is the death of happiness - so don't compare 

[twinxz]

Thanks for sharing TS!

[pogi02]

Nabasa ko to sa B&B!
Thanks for sharing here sis cornflakegirl.

[cornflakegirl]

Thanks for sharing TS!

yes sis, somehow we help, guide each other along our chosen path! 
nainspire ako today when i saw it so I am sharing it with you guys

[Missus O]

^This is so true. Thanks for sharing cornflakegirl

[pinaydiaspora]

True.. But I remember on coordinator I talked to and she told me that weddings these days tend to become a production number now instead of being an intimate affair.

[mikky21]

I so agree with this. Sabi nga ni h2b the wedding is for the both of us. Not for our families most especially not for our guests. Pero syempre we both want a good wedding but not to the extent na other things or worse more important things would be compromised.

[cornflakegirl]

sometimes we need to differentiate between needs and wants.
there are things we cannot afford ourselves,
but I said to my hubby to be>>>ang importante lang naman ay makasal ako sayo  naks!

[sensi]

^naks! at syemore makasal din siya sayo;) hehe

[lourd3ss]

Thanks for sharing this! Sometimes I get caught up in the hype of the wedding industry in the Philippines. May pagka-production number na nga minsan. I mean do we really need a pre-nup shoot, a save-the-date photo AND video? I am by no means criticizing those who have availed those services. Business is business and to each their own. But sometimes I wish that more importance be placed on the marriage and practices (i.e. having guests stay for the entire reception and not just eat and run, having guests actually dance when it's time to party) rather than focusing on superficial elements of a wedding (i.e., styling, photo booth, food carts, giveaways). I mean wala naman mga yan nung sinaunang panahon na kinasal parents ko but their marriage remains strong nonetheless. Anyway, that's just my two cents.

[pinaydiaspora]

Totally true..but then again because of unlikely pressure you would still resort to do them kasi nga once in a lifetime lang sya. May instances din naman na having one appears beneficial like for the save the date for example espc if you have guests or family members coming from abroad na you guys would definitely want sa wedding nyo. Fiance and I didn't intend to make one since okay na kami with prenup shoot but then inquiries from families and guests who are based abroad kept on coming so we decided to make our own na lang.

[corpse_bride]

I'm happy that my (close) friends' weddings were varied. From the usual grandiose ones, simple but still had a long guest list to someone who literally ran away from the fanfare. This puts less pressure on me, aside from getting married years after them, to keep up with what they had.

[tiffany24]

Thanks for this reminder sis cornflakegirl 
Minsan naisip ko na nga magquit muna sa social media para walang makita na kung ano ano eh. Anyway, yes, focus on your partner, focus on your union in front of God

Very true sis Chili1113 expect na namin ni H2B na may masasabi ang mga tao sa amin at baka ma compare pa kami sa iba kaya there is really no point of exerting effort to please everyone.

[mikky21]

If i would have to decide for my own wedding i would want a very very intimate one. Wala ng keme keme. Kung pwede nga pamilya ko lang at pamilya ni h2b and closest friends namin since classmates naman kami ng college. Tapos yunh ibang matatalik na kaibigan namin nung elementary at highschool. Tapos yung kaibigan niya sa medschool. Target ko 50 max pero kasi pareho kaming bunso hindi pwede kaya ngayon sabi ko na lang na basta ang final decision sa important details namin kami masusunod. Mahirap kasi kapag magpreprepare ka for your wedding para maplease ang mga guests/ibang tao definitely hindi ka makokontento kahit gano ka pa naghanda. For me lang naman.

[belle_v2g]

No-no. Every wedding is beautiful. I've seen low key weddings overseas pero ang ganda pa rin. After all, It's better to have a beautiful marriage than have a beautiful wedding.

[Purple_Power]

I am happy that there is a thread like this as a wake up call for the soon to be couples who are also planning their wedding too.

Ika nga  ni Bo Sanchez wedding is just 60 minutes while the marriage is 60 years.

I also agree na those prenup shoots, save the date and everything wala yan nung kapanahunan ng parents natin saka kailan ko lang rin nakita yan. I am not against with it lalo na sa trip ng iba pero in my opinion it is just a bonus part or parang spice sa wedding preparation. Ang napapansin ko kasi sa iba parang ginagawang requirement na sa wedding yung kahit hindi naman afford pipilitin pa rin. In my case nga ayoko nyan kasi I don't want to pay suppliers for me to act or if I want it as long as ako gagawa ng storyboard and style. But I totally appreciate others seeing those pre nup shoots lalo na kung bagay sa kanila. 

Saka Oo nga napapansin ko sa mga weddings parang nagiging concert na then nagiging bragging purposes pa. Hindi na bale yung debut ang maging ganyan at saka yung mga children's party. Minsan hindi ko na makita yung celebration ng marriage dahil sa sobrang nakakaumay na bonggang wedding. Tapos ang nakakairita pa minsan yung pagpuna ng mga gowns. Minsan rin naiisip ko parang sa kasal lang umiikot yung mundo at buhay niya tapos pagdating sa marriage iba na wala na. More so kapag kasal ang usapan mas nagiging focus pa sa reception rather than sa church.

Sinabi ko nga ito sa mama ko eh, na nakita ko na yung kaibahan nung naateran kong wedding anniversary ng pinsan niya at pinsan ng Papa ko sa America. Parehong bongga yun ah! pero yung sa America hindi ko feel yung marriage kundi yung band lang and sayawan lang. Unlike sa pinsan ng mom ko feel na feel ko yung marriage na doon nagrereflect kung gaano silang kaayos na mag-asawa at naging maayos na magulang sa mga pinsan namin. Kitang kita sa asawa ng Tita ko kung paano siya pinahahalagahan ng asawa niya.

As what other sis here said hindi maiiwasan ang comparison kaya I strongly advise talaga na be silent na lang sa preparation para wala nang ma-eentertain na pressure ng ibang tao. Suggestion ko nga sa pamamanhikan pa lang nakaplantsa na dapat yung mga plano para maiwasan kahit papaano yung mga pakikialam and defend it na you want it.

And same here I would rather want the intimate one as in ang pipiliin ko yung alam kong may concern sa pag-aasawa namin. I don't want to invite other relatives kahit na first cousin ko pa na alam ko namang ang concern lang naman niya is just the wedding and reception. Yung puro show ang gusto. I could imagine the agony if my mom will force me to invite the people I don't like na baka it will end up na lang na hindi na lang namin itutuloy kasi kasal na kami.

[shygirlme]

Madami kami friends and kamag anak na kinasal last year and this year. Nakakainis lang na hindi kami nag cocompare pero other people ang hilig mag compare. Naku even a relative telling me na di magpapadaig si ganito kaya bongga kasal. I always tell them, ayun gusto nila let them. Di sa pabonggahan yan. Kami pinili namin simple wedding kahit Kasi mas inisip namin ang after wedding kesa sa 1 day na gastos lang. Kung choice nila bongahan kasal nila, let them.

[Missus O]

^I couldn't agree with you more sis belle_v2g. ☺☺ All of us brides dream to have the perfect wedding, and there's nothing wrong with that. But sometimes wedding planning consume us brides so much, that we forget that all of these will be forgotten days, weeks, months after our wedding day. Sabi nga ng isang pari, if only couples spend so much planning on their marriage as they do on their wedding day, maybe there would be less complications and less problems in families. 😊

[belle_v2g]

^ditto. hence, the real essence of a wedding is distorted. sad reality.
if the main purpose only is to brag, magpa sosyal or to make others feel inferior, baka need ulit bumalik kay father para mag seminar. hehe!