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How to tell someone to stop smoking
« on: October 17, 2015, 09:31:04 pm »
Hi mga sis!

We have a neighbor who frequently stops by to chat with my father. In other words, tumatambay sa bahay namin madalas. But the person smokes a lot! Na OOC na kami kasi marami na nagkakasakit ngayon tapos father ko nabubugahan ng usok. The person said he is not allowed to smoke inside/outside their house kasi nagagalit mga anak niya. Eh pano naman kami?! We posted a "no smoking" sign kaso no effect. We told a common friend our dilemma pero mukhang di naman naparating dun sa nag ssmoke. The person is matanda na, matampuhin pa so we're pretty sure that telling him straight na bawal siya mag smoke would be like telling him na not to come to our house ever. Hay naku. My dad pa ang nahihiya magsabi kasi daw baka magalit. Eh di naman pwede yan, uso na cancer ngayon very scary! Polluted na nga sa labas, polluted pa bahay mo nakakainis. Any suggestions?

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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2015, 09:34:19 pm »
Dagdag ko pala mga sis that we told him many times na wag na siya mag smoke kasi one time he was hospitalized (for another reason)and the doctor said na he needs to have his lifestyle changed. Kaso ayan paglabas ng hospital parang walang nangyari porque di sya ang nagshoulder ng medical bill. Siguro kung kinuha sa retirement pay nya ang hospital bill, wala na siyang pambiling yosi ngayon.

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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #2 on: October 18, 2015, 12:45:42 pm »
pwede mo sabihin mo "alam ko kinain nyo kanina....." pag nagtanong ng ano? sagutin mo ng "diesel, amoy usok kasi hininga nyo eh ambaho.."

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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #3 on: October 19, 2015, 03:07:00 pm »
Never pa naman kami nagkaroon ng ganyang kapitbahay but whenever someone smokes tapos sakto pang sa mukha ko yung usok I just say, "kuya yung usok po" and then takip ng ilong.

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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #4 on: October 21, 2015, 05:39:35 am »
Madalas yan sa inyo dahil he knows he can smoke there. Maybe just tell him calmly but straight to the point that he simply can't. Health hazard ang second and third hand smoke, damay kayong lahat sa bahay. Kung magtampo siya, it's his problem. Inconsiderate siya e.

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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #5 on: October 21, 2015, 06:33:50 am »
My tito in the Phils who lives close to us, ganyan rin. Pupunta sya samin para magsmoke sa labas ng bahay namin. I blame him and his second hand smoke bakit nagkasakit dad ko ng lung cancer!

After that, I didn't care na if I hurt his feelings or what. I tell him bawal magsmoke sa labas namin when I'm in Manila. Esp when I was with my baby pa. Naku no... our health is more important than his feelings. Magbalat sibuyas sya all he wants but really, my family's health is much much much more important than what he thinks.

So if I were you, sabihan mo yung neighbour nyo talaga. Straight up. But you don't have to be rude naman.
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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #6 on: October 21, 2015, 08:58:49 am »
Your family's health is at risk sis so the sooner you tell him, the better. Set aside his feelings for now because tolerating his bad habit is going to do more harm than good to your family. Hope this helps
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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #7 on: October 27, 2015, 10:29:27 am »
Thanks mga sis. I told my dad na pag di niya sinabi, wala kaming extra money for hospitalization for any member of our family, especially our parents since wala silang work, they have no health card. Since nasa work kaming lahat, we told our dad na siya lang naman pwedeng magsabi kay neighbor [textspeak!], pag uwi kasi namin gabi na.

Nun dumating yun neighbor namin, my dad told him that a common friend of theirs, hindi na masyado nagpapakita kasi mahinang mahina na ngayon (which is true)and he emphasized daw na dahil siguro kaka-yosi yun. He waited for our neighbor's reaction. Ayun, our neighbor said after a few minutes na may pupuntahan lang siya, pero he came back after a while. Siguro daw nag-yosi sa mas malayo. Sana tuloy tuloy na. Thanks mga sis.

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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #8 on: October 27, 2015, 05:39:40 pm »
Naku, I dont like to be with someone who smokes.. lalo na yung mga nag smo smoke sa daan habang naglalakad or mag smoke near me.. Im really blunt kasi and pinapakita ko talaga sa actions ko na , can you smoke somewhere else ,pls. pinapagpag ko talaga mga usok nila with matching nakasimangot na mukha.. I don't care balat sibuyas ka. Go to smoking areas pls. If youre not considerate enough to smoke in designated areas, why would I even consider your feelings?

If that was my neighbor, I'd tell him straight up in a nice way. Maybe, tell him, Youd appreciate it very much if he can smoke outside your house kasi you're getting allergies sa smoke or whatever.
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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #9 on: February 19, 2016, 12:36:46 pm »
I had to reply kahit luma na yung thread kasi sobrang nakakarelate ako. By no means do I judge people who smoke pero fact lang naman talaga na masama siya sa katawan and unlike other unhealthy habits, you're not just doing it to yourself. Lahat ng nasa paligid mo damay. I think it's more than ok to be frank about not wanting people to smoke around you as long as you do so politely. If they take that against you, that's their problem na.

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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #10 on: March 20, 2016, 06:40:41 am »
I don't need to tell my friends and family to stop smoking because it's written all over my face - LOL!

I HATE it when people around me smoke. I really can't stand the smell and I get paranoid about the negative effects on me as a non-smoker. I may have an extreme reaction, but I think that people who smoke around non-smokers are causing intentional harm to others. Smokers should really be mindful of the fact that it's a bad habit that's a hazard to the health of other people.
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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #11 on: November 21, 2016, 10:20:46 am »
Kung ayaw tumigil sa pagsisigarilyo ang isang tao, kahit na maghapon, magdamag mo siyang pakiusap, takutin, patigilin at kahit na magtata-tumbling ka pa sa harap niya, hindi siya titigil.  It has to come from the person himself/herself, otherwise all your efforts will fall on deaf ears.  Yung iba, they can go cold turkey kung natatakot sila talaga, pero ganoon pa rin -- it has to come from the person talaga.  Parang drugs lang yan -- kung gusto talagang magbago o tumigil, sa kanya magmumula.

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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #12 on: March 02, 2017, 04:57:24 am »
Honestly, parang walang way. I mean yes you can tell the person to stop pero nasa tao pa din yun.

Ako naman, lumalayo nalang. Hindi ko talaga ma-take na malapit sa taong nag smoke. Feeling ko, I'm killing myself. Lol
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Re: How to tell someone to stop smoking
« Reply #13 on: March 25, 2017, 09:47:43 am »
I agree with izabelle.

Anyway, pag kasi may nag smoke sa harap ko nilalayuan ko kagad kaya napipilitan patayin nun tao yun yosi niya kung gusto nya pa ako kausap. Hehe
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