Confront my Hubby or Not?

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Hello everyone!  I am a newbie here and I need your opinion about this. =)


My hubby kasi lagi nya ginagamit laptop ko to browse anything. Nun nakatulog na sya kakabrowse. Hiniram ko laptop ko then nakita ko na naka open yahoo mail nya. He forgot to sign out. Eh, naisipan ko i-check yahoo inbox nya. actually, hindi ko ugali na mgcheck ng cellphone and laptop nya kasi malaki nga tiwala ko sa kanya. But, I found out last night that he cheated on me when we were still bf/gf (that was august 2012). Nakita ko sa messages nila na nagkita sila and may nangyari pa. Based sa exchanged messages nila, twice lang sila ngkita ng girl (August 2012 & October 2012) and feeling ko yun girl lang ang parang nainlove kay hubby that time. si hubby parang pure s_x lang. Sinabi kasi ng girl sa message nya  (January 2013) sa hubby ko na nakikipaghiwalay na lang daw sya kasi parang nafefeel daw nya na ginagamit lang daw sya at may pahabol pa sya if ever daw na gusto ni hubby na makipagkita sa kanya, i-text lang sya. But No reply message from hubby.Ngstop na yata communication nila. Last message nya kay hubby February 2014, tinanong nya si hubby kung ngchange ng number kasi one year na daw na ngttry sya tawagan cellphone ni hubby pero unattended na. ngreply si hubby kung bakit pa daw nya tinatanong at sinabi rin ni hubby na married at baby na sya. FYI, March 2013 kami ngpakasal ni hubby and Jan 2014  pinanganak first baby namin.

So sis, Do i need to confront my husband about his previous cheating when we were still bf/gf?
Para maging aware sya na nalaman ko na niloko nya ako dati. or wag ko na lang i confront kasi past na nga yun?

[three8one]

for me lang sis ah after reading yung pinost mo.. kamusta ba ang relationship nyo ng asawa mo sa ngayon? kung sa palagay mo masaya naman kayo at sa palagay mo yung husband mo eh responsable naman sa lahat ng aspeto bilang asawa at ama ng anak nyo, kung kaya din lang ng kalooban mo na i let go, i let go mo na lang sis. huwag mo na komprontahin. base naman sa mga dates na pinost mo nangyari lahat nang yun before ng marriage nyo. iba yung dati kesa ngayon. at saka napatunayan mo na din naman na tumigil na ang husband mo sa kalokohan nya dati. enough na siguro yun para palipasan na yun issue.

[DocShe_713]

I agree. If your relationship with your husband is doing ok. Then try to learn to forgive and move on. That is if he doesn't give you any reason to doubt him. Pray for guidance.

[khaleesiCersei]

For me sis.. Pag ganyan, parang it's a sign from the universe na dapat mo talaga malaman yan, sabi nga nila walang lihim na hindi nabubunyag. Talagang pinakita sayo yan sis, lalo na ngayon na nagre-reach out ulit yun babae. I think you should tell your husband that you accidentally found out about it. Pero walang kasamang galit or away sis ha, as in kalmado ka lang. Be firm but not bitchy naman, Sabihin mo lang na mahinahon at ipaalam mo yun naramdaman mo.. Kung nasaktan ka ba or what. But also tell him that you will not dwell on this. Tuloy pa rin kayo sa kung ano man state ng marriage or relationship nyo. That it is forgiven pero hindi mo na makakalimutan. Kumbaga markado na. Also this is i think the time for you to tell him kung ano gusto mo mangyari, like if you want him to block the girl from his email and never speak to her again and if ever maulit na mag cheat sya syo tell him what you would do. Again sis, say those things in a calm and assertive manner hehe. Crying a little is ok yun tipong your fighting back the tears but never wail. And if you feel like not talking for him for a day or two.. Ok lang naman. I think its your right to feel that way. He should know how much he hurt you. Magpasuyo ka ng konti, pero after nun at after na makapag usap kayo eh move on na sis. Focus on the good. I think kasi this happened as a lesson for you both, parang its teaching you and your husband about trust eh.

[donya_dyosa]

Confront.

But in a way na kalma lang.. like ei.. just found out that you cheated on me nuong..
blah blah... i forgive you naman... basta wag mo ng uulitin like ever ok.
then move on. wag na banggitin kahit kelan pa...
wag mo narin sabihin sa kanya kung pano mo nalaman...

[bylan]

nangyari rin ito sa akin... i confronted him... hindi rin kasi ako matatahimik if di ko sya i-confront....

[mysterioza_me]

Matagal na nangyari yung cheating part and married at mukhang maayos naman kayo ngayon so irrelevant na if ico-confront mo pa siya dahil sa past. Let bygones be bygones, don't let them taint the present. Wag mo takutin ang sarili mo sis.

[imprincessfiona]

If I were you sis, it happened in the past pero hindi ko yata kayang itago sa husband ko na may nalaman akong lihim nya. Pero gaya ng sinabi ng mga sis natin dito kausapin mo sya ng mahinahon para lang malaman nya na nalaman mo ang tungkol dun. Kasi kung hindi ko sasabihin sa kanya yun baka isang araw sumabog na lang ako pag nagkaroon kami ng misunderstanding. Kumbaga, baka maipon sa dibdib ko to the point na baka kasuklaman ko na sya. Pero depende din kasi sa tao at sitwasyon yun. Pero kung sa akin, ganyan ang gagawin ko.

[lovemeagain30]

Dahil may $eX naganap (although matagal na eto), yeah iko confront ko siya. 

[sensi]

confront sis...i dont know about you but if may nalaman akong secret by accident, hindi ako matatahimik.
and like what our other sisters have said here, confront but keep calm..dont show vibes na galit ka...kalma lang while confronting para chill lang rin hubby mo. plus points ka pa niyan sakniya kasi makikita niya na he's so lucky to have made the right choice of ending it with the other woman;)

[yannuh]

^ako sis if does not affect your current relationship and alam mo namang nagbago na si hubby and sobrang ok yung pagsasama nyo now then just let it go. baka kasi pag-awayan nyo pa ng bongga e tapos naman na and di naman nakakaaaffect sa relationship nyo now.

[Girltalker2]

Kumusta na kaya si TS. Maganda suggestions dito to confront calmly. Maybe confront is not the right word but letting him know.

Ang nakakatakot at least both of you are aware na capable sya mag cheat. And it is not that you don't trust him, maraming temptations lang talaga. And it is by recognising that infidelity is a possibility sa kahit anong pagsasama, mas magiging maingat ang mag asawa when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex or with past exes - nang sa gayon, maiwasan nyo.

[sensi]

^agree...

tahimik pa si TS ..maybe in deep thoughts pa siya on what to do;)

[imprincessfiona]

Any update TS? Siguro she really needs contemplating at this point. TS will probably share kung anong nangyari sa kanya and her husband.

[khaleesiCersei]

Onga kamusta na kaya si TS? Sana ok sila ng hubby nya and sana talaga sinabi nya na nakita nya hehe... Para naman hindi maging masyadong kampante ang husband nya na feeling nya nakalusot sya. Imo kasi pag ganon lalong lalakas loob nila na gawin ulit since akala nila hindi nakakarating sa kinauukulan hehe.

[sensi]

^haha sis natawa ako sayo...kinauukulan twalaga eh nho? imbestigasyon! haha