kabitch is following my son in fb.

[NinaSarah]

last year nahuli ko si hub may dummy fb account at may nag iisa sa friendlist nya, syempre babae. nag away na kami about dito, syempre hindi umamin, wala rin ako evidence nakuha. so mag mukha lang ko sira kung awayin ko yung babae.

this year, feeling ko wala na sila, big changes din sa pakitungo sakin ni hub, mabait na sya sakin at malambing. case closed na sana... kaya lang today, nakita ng anak ko naka follow un dummy fb ni kabitch sa kanya, hindi nya alam kelan pa.

questions:
1. dapat ko ba sabihin kay hub?
2. dapat ko ba itanong din sa kanya kung bakit alam FB ng anak namin? meaning ganun ka intimate talaga sila o ka deep kasi pati fb ng anak namin alam ni kabitch?
3. dapat ba sabihin ng anak ko sa dad nya? kapag sya ba nag open up sa dad nya about this, may magbabago ba sa relationship ng mag ama?

kinakatakot ko baka mag usap na naman sila kapag sinabi ko kay hub. syempre maglandian uli

nag usap na kami ng anak ko, alisin na lang nya un kabitch i block na lang nya. isipin na lang namin tapos na to, matagal na to. na lahat na to noon pa, tapos na, nakaraan na, wag na lang pag usapan...

anak ko galit syempre, hindi sya natutuwa.

ako to be honest, hindi ako mapakali, hindi ko alam gagawin o need sabihin. pero naiiinis ako to the point gusto ko na imessage si kabitch na sobrang kapal na nya.


mga sissies, i need your advice, di ko na talaga alam anong ok gawin na di masisira anong meron kami ni hub now.

TIA

[mslcgrey]

First of all, hindi ikaw ang dapat magworry na masisira whatever you have right now but your husband. Siya yung gumawa ng gulo na iyan by having whatever they have with that girl.

Next siguro ikaw muna ang kumausap kay hubby mo. Try to say it as mahinahon as possible like:

"Nung isang araw nakita ng anak natin na naka-follow sa fb account niya yung account ng girl na nakita ko na friend mo sa dummy fb account mo before. "

Next is up to you kung may gusto ka bang malaman at ano ba gusto mong gawin niya. Gusto mo bang malaman kung ano meron sila nung girl na iyon pero i doubt na aamin si hubby. If you don't want to know then ano ba gusto mong gawin nya. Bahala na ba siya kung ano magiging action niya or gusto mo kausapin nya yung anak nyo kasi aware na yung anak nyo who is that girl and kung sino siya most probably sa buhay ng dad niya.

Yung gusto mong tumahimik na lang yung anak mo is impossible. Ang mangyayari lang niyan magtatanim siya ng sama ng loob sa daddy nya. I guess ayaw mo naman na ganoon especially sabi mo nga okay na kayo.

Bakit pala kilala ng anak mo yung girl at na-identify nya na yun yung girl sa dummy account?

[quinone]

follow lang ba o friends talaga sila ng anak mo? kasi kung follow lang, you can ask your child to just change his settings to private para hindi na lalaki ang issue.

[Girltalker2]

TS, I think you did the right thing.
Block her. Set privacy as high (also for your FB).

I don't think she is worth your time. Hayaan mo lang. Ano pagka explain mo sa anak mo, kabit ng daddy nya?

Lastly, your hubby. Sabi mo okay na kayo, Bakit di ka mapakali? You have to work on your relationship/marriage day in and day out. And it is not by ignoring the problem and pretend it did not exist. In fact, both of you should validate it really happened and make sure it never happens again.

Personally, sa kwento mo, I don't think it is worth pag awayan. Worry ko lang is you don't seem to trust your hubby. Kasi sabi mo if you tell him baka mag start na naman ang communication nila.

[aquacharly]

You did right
Stay cool

Apparently, may hangover pa si kabitch, pathetic.

It is sad but true, that once Trust is broken -- it can be repaired, but it's never the same ever again.
Your husband may manifest Remorse & Reform, but you are back to where you were before you lost trust in him.  Who can say? I am not saying maghanap ka ng mamaw. But focus on The Lesson you learned from the 1st Betrayal.  That no matter how you give it your best -- a man can choose to stray. So, you really just have to make yourself strong -- emotionally, financially, spiritually & intellectually -- parang the sh1t doesn't stick to you & make you The Loser. 

We have no control over others, no matter how much love & service we throw at them.  The only one you can depend  on for your security & happiness is yourself.  Do not ever forget that.

Going back to your current issue:  ignore it.  The greater probabilities lean on the kabitch's desire to force the issue (force your husband to decide to keep her around still?), or to create trouble because he dropped her already.  Yes, it's tempting to communicate with her, or talk about her with your husband --  but what for? If he is still betraying you, it will be proven sooner or later -- but do not push him back to it.