Sama ng loob during wedding preps

[rowan]

honestly its really her fault, she expected and pinangunahan ka niya. hindi naman siya yung bride eh:) if you decide to get 1 MOH lang, maybe you can tell her nagtitipid ka. or you can simply say that you and your fiance changed your mind about having 2 MOHs. Traditionally, isa lang naman ang kailangan:)

[kateguerzon08]

relate naman ako sa mga friends/bestfriends problem niyo..i too has a (guy) bestfriend, pero lately nagkaron kame issue, idagdag pa ang attitude problem niya, kaya im thinking kung iinvite ko pa ba siya sa mismong wedding day ko..hindi din naman siya nakikipagusap saken or nag-aapproach man lang so sa ngayon mas lamang yun hindi ko na siya iinvite, ayaw ko kase ng nega vibes sa araw na yun.. 

[pogi02]

Sis rowan, siguro nga I can use that reason na "nagtitipid". Kasi alam naman nya na budgeted wedding lang kami. May times pa na kapag napag-uusapan namin yung preps ko, bino-brought up nya yung mga bagay na dapat 'favorable' sa kanya, like gusto nya knee-length lang ang dress nya (eh gusto ko full length ang MOH), ayaw daw nya magbitbit ng mini bouquet mas gusto nya wrist corsage, dapat sagot ko daw make-up nya (balak ko hindi ito sagutin kasi ako ang sasagot sa dress ng ento ko), dapat kasama sya sa hotel namin (pang-immediate family lang yung binook naming hotel rooms and papapuntahin ko sila on the day itself for the pictorials). Then I was like, "Hey you!!! Baka nakakalimutan mong ako ang magpapakasal?" WTH. Instead of tulungan nya ko and understand me, dagdag pa sya sa stress. My goodness!

Eto namang si h2b, sobra baet. Bigyan ko raw ng chance, baka kasi may insecurities lang daw and syempre hindi pa nya nararanasan magpakasal, so possibly wala sya idea sa mga dine-demands nya. Make sense naman. Pero nakakataas pa rin ng kilay!

[Purple_Power]

^Sobra ito ha?  Napakalakas niyang magdemand na parang siya yung top priority among your family. Kami nga ni hubby noon we initiated na lang na magbook sa hotel kung saan rin nakabook yung best friend niya na ikakasal para sabay na kami. Pero we didn't demand for anything else na sila pa sasagot ng accommodation. Ni damit nga na susuotin ni hubby siya rin nagbayad nun.

relate naman ako sa mga friends/bestfriends problem niyo..i too has a (guy) bestfriend, pero lately nagkaron kame issue, idagdag pa ang attitude problem niya, kaya im thinking kung iinvite ko pa ba siya sa mismong wedding day ko..hindi din naman siya nakikipagusap saken or nag-aapproach man lang so sa ngayon mas lamang yun hindi ko na siya iinvite, ayaw ko kase ng nega vibes sa araw na yun.. 

Kung mas nananaig na ayaw mong invite then push mo na, kalalakeng tao pa man din siya pero malakas mag-inarte. Saka you have reasons naman not to invite that bestfriend eh! kung question ka at least meron kang isasagot.

Ako rin mismo ayokong mag invite ng negative people, kahit na first degree relative ko pa. Ito ang plano ko although nasa US naman sila na hindi ako mag-iinvite ng hindi ko naman kasundo.

[rowan]

pogi02, omg tanggalin mo na yan sobrang pa-diva haha! actually mabait ka pa nga kasi isasama mo pa siya sa ento but honestly sobra siya BV for you. dapat walang ganon sa day nyo ni hubby:) im sure hindi yan matatapos sa wedding preps :s

[lots-o]

Lately naburn out na ako magprepare espcially kung magisa ka lang. Hubby is busy sa work coordinator is busy with events (We got partial coordination) Yung mga moh ko naman Yungisa busy sa sarili nya wedding yung isa busy sa work. My family is just guest on our wedding. We dont want them to be involved kasi we know if family pagnakiaalam mas marami side comments and end up baka mastress pa ako sa kanila kaya ako kinuhanan ng coordinator ni hubby. Yung iba kasing gustong gusto mong supplier seen zone ka lang eh nasa middle part na kau ng transaction alam mo yun I have a top list tapos napili mo na provided them details tapos negotiation nalng sa customize cost tapos biglang nawala. Nagcramming na ako kasi nasa detailing na kami per supplier. Im done detailing with boquets yun palng 4 months to go nalang. In progress is gown changing design of patterns, invitation for mock up na, make up artist kasi short hair ako ngaun planning to have extensions and ano look bagay, souvenirs for guest/ ento customize din kasi, renewal of passport, getting church documents, detailing din sa entourage gown. Tapos pagkatapos nito sa event stylist, prenup stylist, emcee and band. Hay long way to go.

[pogi02]

Sis Purple_Power, yes medyo sobra nga. Knowing na nag-sstart palang talaga kami sa wedding preps, ganito na sya ka-demanding. Pero pag hihingi naman ako ng opinions, waley na. Parang not interested to hear my kwento. I don't know if its just me or what. Yung ginawa nyo ni hubby mo, sobrang na-appreciate yun ng couple for sure. Kasi kayo na nag-initiate and decide on yourselves without bothering them.

Sis rowan, kalokang tunay diba?! Pero syempre madami naman kaming pinagsamahan, I still consider that kaya gusto ko pa rin sya maging part ng ento ko. Kahit na ganto sya mag-attitude. Importante pa rin naman sya sakin. Sadly, ganito nangyayari. Im just saving our friendship. Wag lang nya ko iritahin ng bongga pag papalapit na ang wedding ko, or else! Nakuuu! Haha!

[InquisitorLavellan]

sis pogi20, grabe naman yun, kayo pa magaabala sa kanya! Although good question, do we really shoulder the HMUA of the principal sponsors?

sis lots-o, hang in there! also, maganda din mag step back sa preps for a day or two just to relax. Treat yourself, kung kaya sa budget

[Purple_Power]

^HMUA sa principal sponsor? Hindi naman kailangan kasi yung Mama ko dami na niyang beses naging Ninang yet never naman siyang na shoulder ng HMUA eh! Siya talaga nagpupuntang parlor para magpaayos.

[lots-o]

sis lots-o, hang in there! also, maganda din mag step back sa preps for a day or two just to relax. Treat yourself, kung kaya sa budget
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Thanks sis! oo today I treated my self some massage and some rest. Tapos christmas naman na so im just enjoying time off and prepare fpr holidays. So far kung kelan ako nakarest chaka naman sila nagreply lahat Hehe I saw my gown mock up of the applique, mel and her team is so good updating me erverything about my gown. I asked them to change the pattern naka two times nq ata, Now ok na and mel assured me to grant all my request and alteration mahirap [textspeak!] nasa overseas puro picture yung update nila. Hehe

[stylus]

Paano kaya masasabi sa mga tao na kami ni h2b ang gagastos lahat sa kasal namin at hindi ang daddy ko?

Palagi ko kasi naririnig na as if daddy ko daw malaki gastos and all. Which is i feel na unfair for h2b kasi pinag ipunan naman nya talaga yung wedding namin.. tapos ang dating is "ang swerte ng groom kasi daddy ng bride ang gumastos". Ayoko naman din ioffend daddy ko pag bigla ko sinagot na walang contribution daddy ko. Kasi nag ooffer naman talaga sya. Kami lang din nagsasabi na kaya pa naman namin and as much as possible.. kami lang talaga gagastos lahat. Dad ko naman walang kusa sumagot na wala syang gastos. Nakakainis lang..

[Chili1113]

^Sis, baka it will be OK lang naman with your dad if you tell people that "No, it's my fiance who is paying for most of the wedding. My dad really offered to pay, but my fiance insisted to pay for it because he feels it is his reponsibility."  =) =)

[corpse_bride]

^^ hi, sis! It's a norm in a community that the family of the groom pays for the wedding. But in our case, they're not even helping with any amount. So we're paying for our own wedding. I'm even proud to say that we are paying for it on our own. Annoying lang how people go "Eh bakit hindi ka humingi ng pangkasal sa mommy mo?" Madalas pa may kasunod na "dapat bongga din yan kasi bunso ka naman."  I answer them proudly that the whole idea of getting married is to be responsible, so bakit namin iaasa sa iba.

Of course, there are dotting parents talaga who'd go out for their children's weddings & nothing with that din naman. Siguro if we had a brother my mom would have done that for him.

[stylus]

^^sis chili, sometimes its hard to mention that lalo kung mga oldies na sensitive yung nagsasabi. Sa side kasi ng dad ko.. lahat ng pinsan ko.. literal na lahat.. malaki contribution ng daddg ko sa kasal nila. Kaya ang thinking, sila nga na mga pamangkin lang ginagastusan ng daddy ko.. ako pa kaya na only child? Kaya kinikimkim ko na lang pag ganun ang sinasabi nila. Pero minsan gusto ko talaga sagutin.

^sis corpse_bride.. wala rin monetary contribution yung family ni groom. Pinaka help na nila is di sila humingi ng pera kay h2b buong 2015.. ayun. Kaya hard earned money talaga namin yung wedding expenses. It just so happened that only child ako at medyo well off parents ko compared sa mga kapatid nila both mother and father side kaya tingin nila sakin di ko kaya mag ipon para sa sarili ko. Kainis.

[hermione28]

H2b seems to agree on everything I want!
Nakakasama ba to ng loob? Dapat nakakatuwa to eh. Haha. Kaso parang yung pag Oo nya kasi tipong wala ng pake kaya Oo nalang. Hayy. Bahala na nga sya. Hehe.

[ANJFinally]

^hi sis! we have the same h2b! I think most of them are like that. Minsan nag drama ako kasi parang di sya interested at ako lang ang excited. Nyahaha! After that, he's giving opinions na din but he will say na wala syang alam sa ganto ganyan, so i am the one who must take charge. hahaha!

[InquisitorLavellan]

Same sis hermione! We, h3b and I, have similar tastes naman but I also feel like I want him to have a say on things.  I take it more positively na lang instead of taking it against him, mas ok yung nagsasabi ng oo kesa puro hindi/ayaw. I think the only time he slightly complained was about the first dance... kailangan ba daw talaga yun? hahaha
 

[Chili1113]

H2b seems to agree on everything I want!
Nakakasama ba to ng loob? Dapat nakakatuwa to eh. Haha. Kaso parang yung pag Oo nya kasi tipong wala ng pake kaya Oo nalang. Hayy. Bahala na nga sya. Hehe.

My fiance is the same!! =) at first nainis ako. But as the wedding is drawing closer, I really appreciate it na he's letting me take the lead. I accomplish more pag walang macontra Also, since he hardly says "No" I really gave in to his very few requests which are: 1. No band but Dj for after party 2. Buffet instead of sit-down dinner 3. To increase the guest count. The rest--- wala sya input. Wala siya pakialam as long as it fits the budget he gave me. OO lang ng OO.

[hermione28]

Haha. Same talaga!! Usually pag sinabi ko ui I want this supplier, he will ask, magkano? Pag pasok sa budget, Oo lang yan. Pag out of the budget, don kokontra, wag naman yan. Haha.

Naiinis kasi ako eh, gusto ko ipakita muna sakanya, pag ipplay ko video or pics ayaw nya panuorin!! kainis talaga.

[Chili1113]

Hahaahah hermione28!! My fiance din... hate na hate nya manood ng SDE ng di daw niya kilala when I was shopping around for photo/video. OO nga naman... LOL!!