Sama ng loob during wedding preps

[Reynamargallo]

pasensya na mga fellow brides to be. i need to vent this out.

Medyo sama ng loob ko sa iba kong friends na i invited. I sent them message thru fb. Some responded pero yung iba is totally deadma.

Pakiramdam ko, wedding is a test of friendship din. whatever their reasons are, ano ba naman yung mag respond sila at di lang seen zone.

Na-experience niyo din ba ito?

[donya_dyosa]

Pili lang ininvite ko... Yung iba na nagdecline pero nasa manila naman, dahil wala daw isosoot... i mean not abroad or province, unfriend agad sakin... Kasi come on, once lang to mangyayari eh.
I only have barako friends konti lang ang female friends ko, no choice ako na maging maid of honor ang isang friend ko nung college. Umoo siya.. Then a day before the wedding.. Naaksidente daw siya,. "Daw" mabuti nalang may officemate ako na pumalit.. At basic black dress lang ang dress ng mga abay ko.. Anyway, to the ex moh ko. Di ko sya inunfriend pero deadma ko sya sa lht ng comments nya saakin.. 

[moana]

Na 'seen zoned' din ako....ng inalok ko sa bridal entourage. Pero inisip ko na di pa nakaka decide if Yes or No. But then, a simple 'i'll think about it' will do fine. Kaso "SEEN'.

[Reynamargallo]

nakakabastos diba? grrr talaga!

[skela96c]

Pakiramdam ko, wedding is a test of friendship din.

True.  We only invited really close friends; unfortunately yung iba dumedma pa. so we thought, ah, hindi pala mutual ang tingin namin sa level of closeness namin.  nakaka upset, yes. pero we focused na lang dun sa mga nagconfirm at super eager/excited pa talaga to be part of the wedding.  We promised to make it worth their time and effort.

A couple of our "friends" who didnt reply or who confirmed but did not attend (at wala man lang sms/email what happened), hindi na din ako in touch ngayon.   I mean, it's our wedding. It's not like any other celebration like birthdays na inuulit taon taon.   Friends will make time or atleast find a way to communicate.

[xsugar]

i agree on this,kaya ako and suggestion ko na lang din. pag ganyan wag ng pilitin or mag antay ng matagal.ask them to provide you reply within a week then pag walang reply, cross out sa list then hanap ng iba na willing to make time for you.sabi nga ni sis skela96c, this is not any other occassion na pag di ka naka-attend may next year pa. this is really one test of a true friendship.nakakasama lang ng loob kasi iba yung tingin mo sa tingin nya about sa friendship nyo.

[shygirlme]

Nakakasama nga ng loob pag ganyan. Buti nalang ako mga friends ko mababait. Kahit hindi kami nagkikita lagi yung mga hs friends ko nav effort magbyahe ng malayo para makaatend ng wedding namin. Meron lang ako friend na nagreklamo. Officemate ko sya. After wedding dami nya reklamo. Kesyo malayo, mainit, matraffic. Then next kinasal friend namin, mas narealize nya mas ok wedding ko. Haha!

[rightback]

i found out my best friend won't be able to make it. alam ko naman di niya kasalanan kasi ayaw talaga siya payagan magleave pero nagtatammpo pa rin ako. plus yung isang friend ni h2b biglang not sure. naasar talaga ako kasi we considered them in choosing our date dahil alam namin malapit sa holidays and they'll choose to spend it with their family. nibubwisit pa rin ako. silver lining--buti na lang di pa naprint ang invites. baka lalo akong mabwisit.

[aylatskie]

Firstly on my part naaasar ako sa RSVP kasi kahit on the day na Ng wedding namin may dumadagdag at nag cacancel pa. secondly, yung tropa ni hubby na groomsman nag cancel din 3 days prior sa day namin buti na lang may nephew ako na pumalit. Pero hinayaan Ko na lang kasi Filipino attitude sometimes. ^_^

[juwie]

For me, yung ibang ento ko na masakit sa ulo. Hindi na nga tumutulong, nakakadagdag pa sa iintindihin. I realized that even if I'm close with some of them, magkakaiba ang expectations namin of friendship.

[kisses1417]

Sobra na off ako sa isang groomsman ni fiance, nung inask nya kung pwede iinclude, ang sabi wag na daw sya kasi ayaw daw nya yung mga games at mga kung ano ano pa. Yung mga friends daw ng college dapat ang mga sinasama sa ganun. May mga suggestion pa. Kainis. Sa isip isip ko wag na wag mo yan pipilitin, at kung pwede wag di pn iinvite.  Im happy though that my friends are excited but with fiance's part, medyo nagsisibackout kasi malayo

[imprincessfiona]

^Tama that is a test of friendship kasehodang malayo pa yun o kung ano pa man. Di ba napaka-unethical naman kung invite ka tapos deadma galore lang. Hello!!! Be considerate naman sa nag-iinvite sa'yo. Ano ba naman yung magreply ka di ba. Yung iba nga na invite ko a day before ng wedding nag-confirm hello maaasikaso ko pa ba yun saka ang dami dami sinasabi na kesyo dumating si Pope Francis walang signal walang kasabay punta church etc. Kung talagang mahalaga ang pagkakaibigan nyo kahit liblib pa yan pupunta ka talaga. Sobrang na-disappoint ako sa ibang friends ko [I thought they are true friends but they are not ] kakasad talaga

[shygirlme]

^test of friendship talaga! Kaya na touched ako sa hs friends ko, matagal ko na sila hindi nakikita, pero pumunta pa din from church to reception! Ang hirap pa naman magcommute papunta sa church namin pero nakapunta pa din sila.

[Reynamargallo]

sakit sa damdamin talaga. parang ah ganun ba kababaw tingin nila sa friendship namin. Seen zone lang.

gusto ko ma-share sa kanila ang happiest day of my life. pero i guess they dont care at all.


ewan ko ba , baka naman extra sensitive ako kasi malapit na kasal namin. pero tama, test of friendship talaga.

[120515]

hugs to everyone especially to you, sis reynamargallo! everything will fall into place on your wedding day 

[infinity24ever]

i found out my best friend won't be able to make it. alam ko naman di niya kasalanan kasi ayaw talaga siya payagan magleave pero nagtatammpo pa rin ako. plus yung isang friend ni h2b biglang not sure. naasar talaga ako kasi we considered them in choosing our date dahil alam namin malapit sa holidays and they'll choose to spend it with their family. nibubwisit pa rin ako. silver lining--buti na lang di pa naprint ang invites. baka lalo akong mabwisit.

Ohhh i have the same sentiment sis @rightback we considered on choosing a date for our wedding, those overseas friends. since we are both overseas. They even promised to be on the day blah blah since this is christmas season. oh well, 3months to go, and there some hiccups. if only we could turn back time on planning, we might as well move this earlier and not consider all friends schedule. Though some naman are all out. will go to phils even just for 3 days just to celebrate with us and we are super mega thankful to them. Christmas Season 3x airfare.  So for those who will still plan a date, go for a date that you want and totally not consider friends schedule. If they want to go, they will go.  Bitter lang. Haha Bitter man but yes. Agree with this. Test of Friendship, Haha. But at the end, just have to let it go and think of you and your partner. As long as darating siya then all good. 

[blackgreen]

OMG!! Ganitong ganito nararamdaman ko ngayun. Yun isa sa tinuturing kong close friend, alam niya and all ang issue namin sa guestlist, sa limited space sa venue, then nag-ask kung bakit di kasama si bf niya sa reserved seats. Inexplain ko naman, sabi naintindihan niya, tapos all of a sudden nagsabi siya dina daw siya pupunta. Siya pa ang masama ang loob sa akin ngayun.

[Reynamargallo]

Thanks so much sa encouraging words. Kala ko ako lang nakakaramdam nito.

Hugs to you sis blackgreen. Sana maisip ng friend mo na it's your day. Hindi ito date ng bf niya. Sana ma-realize niya yun. Kaloka!

Sana maging sensitive din sa atin mga friends namin. Na baka pabigat kung mag plus one pa sila. Di biro ang presyo ng per plate ha.

Kakalungkot lang isipin na people na mahal natin e nagbago towards us. We dont know kung bakit. Sama lang sa pakiramdam. Pero tama ang sabi ni sis infinity24rever na we just have to let go and think of our partner. After all, it's our wedding day!

Salamat sa mga payo and for sharing sa mga pinagdadaanan ninyo sa wedding preps   Sobrang thank you

[rightback]

while ranting about it kay h2b he said something which sturck me--its not about them anyway, its about us.  i guess its a reminder to all of us. its about us and our day. i'll let it go na and need to move forward kahit dahan dahan. Hugs to all of you.

[sparklingjewel]

Friends don't understand the whole plus one issue until it's their time to get married and realize how much it costs to allow everyone to bring one. If unmarried, we'll only allow this with our siblings and cousins unless they're in the entourage, then we allow them na.

Don't let anyone make you feel bad, even if they're close to you. You don't need those kind of people at your wedding. And at least you wont have to spend for them..