Is He the One?

[sweet.hann]

Hello GTalkers..

I met this new guy. First time ko pa lang sya na-meet, nakuha nya na agad attention ko. For several weeks, nakikita ko sya palagi pero di ko alam name nya. Naging close kami. Hanggang sa inaya nya na ko lumabas, hinatid nya na ko sa bahay namin pag ginagabi kami. Kaya ni-label ko sya na Mr.11PM. Sya pa lang yung guy na naghatid saken sa bahay namin. FYI: NBSB din kasi ako. I usually hangout with my guyfriends pero iba kasi to. Almost 3 months na kami magkakilala. Syempre, yung mga nakakaalam ng kwento na lumalabas kami at hinahatid nya ko sa bahay, iniisip na may something si Mr.11PM more than friends. Pero based sa sinasabi nya, iniisip ko na lang na nagkataon lang na ako yung nakita or nakausap nya pag naiisipan nya kumain sa labas kaya ako yung naaaya nya.

Syempre, maraming nakakakilala saken na di nya pa kilala kaya minsan pag lumalabas kami, nahihiya sya pag alam nyang may mga kakilala ako na nasa paligid. In-explain ko sa kanya na kasi new face sya para sa kanila kaya mag-iisip sila kung sino yung kasama ko. Ayoko na rin naman na mag-assume na gusto nya ko. Kasi before ganito din yung bestfriend ko saken. Ang kaibahan nga lang, si bestfriend di pa ko hinatid samen. May mga instances din na ipinapaalam nya saken na hinahanap nya ko, gusto nya ko "ma-solo" (term nya yun) kasi marami talaga akong kinakausap.

ang question ko.. normal ba sa isang thoughtful guy na maging concerned sa girl friend/s sa same level na pinapakita nya saken like hintayin nya ko ng late night na just to make sure na safe ako makakauwi samen..? ang sobrang thoughtful naman nya. kasi yung bestfriend ko (guy), ni minsan di naisip na ihatid ako samen pag ginagabi kami. :3

what do you think?

[reighnyielle]

I think he likes you sis

[purple.strawberry]

He's making the effort na ihatid ka sa bahay madalas so that's a sign that he likes you. If he wants to pursue a relationship with you magsasabi naman yan.

[gwyne21]

enjoy mo sis yung getting-to-know stage nyo ngayon kasi kung manliligaw sya sayo, magsasabi naman yan eventually...

[TomHansen]

Tama sila sweet.hann mahirap mag-assume lalo 3 months na kayo at wala pa rin siyang ginagawang move para malaman mo na special ka. Meron talagang mga lalaki na madaling mag-alala sa babaing kaibigan pero wala talaga silang romantic feelings. What time ba ang out mo and magkalapit lang ba kayo ng tinutuluyan? He cares for you but that doesn't necessarily mean he likes you. If he really likes you dapat naexpress niya na yun in some other way maliban sa paghatid hatid dahil matagal na ring kayong magkaibigan, kahit papaano napahagingan kana rin niya dapat..

[simang]

Don't overthink it. At to be fair to this guy who is being nice to you, avoid comparing him to the other guys you thought liked you. He obviously likes you, especially if he goes out of his way to show his concern. So stop overthinking and just enjoy the your time together. If he wants you to be his girl, he will let you know that.

[TomHansen]

Enjoy mo na lang muna sweet.hann, darating din ang time na malalaman mo kung ano ba totoong feelings niya. Kapag nagpahangin siya sabihin mo "puro ka pahangin", ipaalam mo sa kanya na alam mo yung ginagawa niya baka kasi iniisip niya hindi mo siya gusto kaya takot siyang magmove forward. Kapag magkasama ba kayo papaano siya tumingin sayo? Malagkit ba, yung tipong ayaw na niyang tumingin sa iba kung hindi sayo lang? Gentleman ba siya or parang barkada lang kayo kapag magkasama?

[j.adore]

Too early to tell.. Just balance your emotions meaning enjoy the attention but at the same time be on guard.

Enjoy the attention as in have fun with him, get to know him better, etc.
Be on guard as in don't give your all just yet.

Tama sila, do not overthink. Calm yourself and do not entertain the longing feeling because of being NBSB.

Maganda nga yan eh meron tagahatid eh di safe ka

Have fun!

[kiara_yao]

Actually you can never tell whether he is the one or not.  You will just know it when you are there at that moment with that someone.  Like my bf now, I can say that he is the one because we understand each other, we laugh at the same things, we give importance to the same things, we have the same goals etc.  We have disagreements sometimes but of course every relationship has that but at the end of the day alam ko he will just be there for me no matter what. 

I think the most important at first is attraction and second is the character of your man.  if Pasok yung dalawang yun eh I think you could easily say that he is the one We dont have to push it when love comes around.  You will just know it when it is there right in your face na hehe

[three8one]

TS for me lang naman ah, i think you need to know him more pa kung hanggang saan siya tatagal sa ginagawa nyang ka thoughtful an. 3 months is not enough atleast for me...ayoko lang dumating ka sa point na madissapoint ka kasi si guy sa umpisa lang naman pala, pag nanlililigaw (kung nanliligaw na ah) lang pala. di ako naniniwala sa sinasabi ng iba na kung type mo si guy at type ka ni guy eh di kapag kayo na lang gawin ang pangliligaw etc etc.. lahat ng nakukuha sa mabilisang paraan ganun din kabilis mawala yan. chill chill lang.. bigyan kita ng second thought, kung alam ni guy na nbsb ka pwedeng yun ang motivation nya kaya sya ganyan sayo. lahat sayo fresh, lahat sayo bago.. di ko sinasabing yun na mismo ang dahilan ah, what im trying to say eh pagisipan mong mabuti ng paulit ulit ulit ulit ulit... hehe. hindi mo rin naman siguro gusto na magpaiba iba ng bf dahil kakahanap mo ng the one diba?


 

[aquacharly]

Do not rush things along.
Enjoy it, go with the flow.
Get to know each other better, do not assume, do not expect.

[sweet.hann]

Wala. Olats na naman. Bat ba kasi pag may dumarating na lalaki, laging ganun. Simula lang. Ngayon, nasaan na naman sila? Wala na. Si best friend kasi best friend lang talaga eh. Oo, muntik akong mainlove sa kanya before pero wala eh. Wala talaga. I can't imagine myself being with him. Hayaan na nga yang ONE na yan.

 

[TomHansen]

Why anung nangyari sweet.hann?  If hindi talaga pwede hindi talaga pwede, life is unfair sis - hindi lahat ng gusto natin makukuha natin. If wala sa mga guys sa buhay mo si the ONE wag kang mag-alala dahil darating din siya sayo sis wait ka lang..

[reighnyielle]

Tom is right sis. The right guy will eventually come into your life. Me and my other friend were just talking about the "one" a few days ago and I don't know what got into me pero bigla kong nasabi na I can wait for 5 or more years for the "one" as long as he's already the right one for me. I can wait for a very long time pero sana siya na talaga pero siguro part of the process of finding the right one is coming across jerks.

[TomHansen]

Sis ask mo ang sarili mo ano ba talaga ang gusto mong mangyari between you ang D? Gusto mo bang tumigil siya or magpursige? Kasi kung gusto ka niyang ligawan dati pa kumilos na yan, text ng text, chat ng chat, call ng call. Kung gusto ka niya paggising mo pa lang may text na siya ng goodmorning at bago ka matulog magtetext siya ng goodnight. Sadly sa nakikita ko kasi hindi talaga siya seryoso na ligawan ka, face the truth hann na possible meron na siyang ibang nililigawan and what he felt for you is just a litlle crush lang not enough na magpursige siya..

No contact na sis, pabebe ka ng konti dapat..

[reighnyielle]

^ Ang torpe naman niya sis. He needs to step up his game.

[Girltalker2]

I think the most important at first is attraction and second is the character of your man.  if Pasok yung dalawang yun eh I think you could easily say that he is the one We dont have to push it when love comes around.  You will just know it when it is there right in your face na hehe

Hindi siguro ganun kadali. There are other important factors din. Gaya nito, for me character is more important than attraction. Then compatibility.

Kasi how can you sustain the interest/attraction kung wala naman kayong anything in common. Walang character - nahihiya or what. Nakaka turn off. Feeling ko kung gusto ka talaga i-pursue ng guy, di dapat sya marunong mahiya. He therefore is not man enough to handle a relationship kung isang napaka simpleng bagay lang eh nahihiya na (sa kwento ni sweet hann).

[amazingheart]

@sweet.hann relate much sis, pero payo ko. Wag mo na lang e message si Mr D. Hayaan mo sya, Kasi tama sila kung type ka nya at gusto ka talagang e pursue e mag eefort talaga yan at di na nya patatagalin pa. Backread my post, somehow my similar tayo. I have a guy friend din, ayoko mag assume at mag jump into conclusion sa mga sweet talks nya. Although effort naman talaga na sya sa akin. We live 700 kms apart. Pero umeefort na puntahan ako. Madami na din syang pahangin effect at sweet talks pero hindi ko pa din gets ang tunay nyang layunin haha ! labo kaya hangang ngayon observe muna ako. Then lets see kung hanggang kelan at saan ang journey namin together ni guy friend. Kaya enjoy na lang sis sa getting to know stage pero magbigay ka din ng signs na type mo din sya para mas may motivation sya.

[reighnyielle]

^ Screw those pa fall type of guys sis. Parang they don't take into consideration the feelings of girls na hindi nila ma catch when they are starting to fall

[sweetubeng]

Bakit ba kasi  ganung mga lalaki mapapatapat saken.. kung di sobrang bata, torpe much o kaya pa-fall...
Ibig sabihin lang nito, hindi pa time for me. "Kung di ukol, di bubukol."

Exactly! Kung hindi ukul hindi talaga sis Guys kasi will do all his ways, effort know matter what. Pag ganyan na pa fall at pa torpe effect, guard your emotions, kasi yang mga taong ganyan hindi pa sure sa feelings nya or nararamdaman nya, or simply he's not just into you. Move on and keep on dating enjoy your single life dear.