Church rule: No custom vows

[Tehsee]

Ang sad naman. Pwede naman kung gusto nila assure yung solemnity eh pre-approve yung vows para sure na goes with the aura. Ang mga pari nga free-flow sa homily, minsan may recitation pa with the audience, tapos yung couples di pwede mabigyan ng couple of minutes for each other? (Sorry to say this, pero CBCP, chill naman diyan)

[tan.denise54]

sayang nga lang kasi for me iba parin if we do the vows inside the church. it's like you're speaking those words in front of God.

[your_shyness]

I'm going to get married this April 2016 sa Chapel on the Hill and to be sure I called their parish and they informed me that they already received the memo from the Cardinal. Hence, it might not  be allowed anymore. 

[marsala2016]

Awww. Isa din ako sa mga gusto mag personal vows. I changed my church pa para dito tapos bawal na. So sad. Pero ganon talga.

[ANJFinally]

^^Thank you sis your_shyness for the info! Since CBCP issued memo, for sure it applies to all catholic churches na. Sigh. Isip nalang tayo ng ibang way to recite our personal messages if we really want it - but for sure not in the reception. Hehe!

[rowan]

my cousin and her now hubby were able to say their personal vows in their wedding today. it was done right after the official church vows. i guess the priest and the church allowed them.

[marsala2016]

Sis rowan, what's the church of your cousin? Buti they were allowed good for them.

[rowan]

^^Shrine and Parish of St. Therese of the Child Jesus in Marcos Hway, Antipolo. Was surprised the church allowed it coz during the mass, the church staff were quite strict and were the ones telling people what to do and not the coordinators. They even gave shawls to the speakers who wore sleeveless tops.

[tea08]

When my friend got married they were allowed to say their personal vows but before the "you may now kiss the bride" part. So I think it sometimes depends on the church/priest din.

[ANJFinally]

So it really depends parin pala sa church and officiating priest no kung san nila i-insert ang exchange of personal message ng couple.

Sa FB Page ni Ms. Darlene, one of the suppliers suggested din na magkipag coordinate sa church at priest if they'll allow to give the couple at least 5 mins to recite their personal messages right after the ceremony - by then tapos na kasi yung liturgy so hindi mawawala yung essence ng church vows. Pwede rin yung before mag kiss the bride since the mass is already finished.

I hope our church and our officiating priest will allow it for us.
Pray lang mga sis!

[berryprincessy]

Nabalitaan ko yan. nasa news siya last thursday na strict na ang churches ngayon when it comes sa personal vows. as per the church daw kasi nawawala na yung holiness ng wedding vows kung personal vows ng couple kasi minsan daw eh nagjojoke pa yung iba hindi na solemn at hindi daw yun ang traditional wedding sa church and parang wala na daw dun yung mismong vows from the church. mukhang iimplement na yata talaga nila yan. madami na daw kasi gumagawa nowadays sa weddings.

as for me. ok pa din talaga ang personal vows and nandun pa din naman yung vows from church the only difference lang is sasabihin mo lang yung vow mo sa betterhalf mo infront of God and the people you both love. nakakalungkot lang dahil kami ni hubby di na talaga nagawa yun. ayaw talaga ng church namin. ayaw na din niya na gawin sa reception para daw sknya ano daw sense nun para na lang sa guest na madinig nila. mas gugustuhin na lang daw niya na sabihin sa akin personally kung di namin nagawa sa church.

well couples choice naman yan mga sis. happy preps sa mga 2016 brides.

[hermione28]

i think lumang issue na to, pero parang now implemented na sa lahat.
Yung sis ko 2013 pa sa Mt. Carmel hindi pinayagan, bawal daw.

Hindi naman kame nalungkot ni h2b kasi di rin kame sure if we will have personal vows. Si h2b mahiyain yun sobra, di nya kaya magsalita sa crowd. Though kung allowed magsasalita naman daw sya. Actually natuwa sya na wala na kasi di ko na sya ire-require. Haha.

Others can have it nalang sa reception if gusto nyo talaga. Or mas gusto ko yung sinabi ng h2b mo sis berrypincessy, say it to each other nalang mas ok kung nasa church pa kayo. para your vows are between each other and God talaga. Kakilig, hehe. 

[marchbridetobe]

Medyo OT pero ask ko lang, may pini-play bang background music kahit instrumental lang kapag nagsasabi ng personal vows sa church? Di ko kasi napapansin to sa mga inattendan ko 

[kit kat]

Sa'kin okay lang, the church must have a good reason para iimpose yung policy na yun. Vows and prayers are powerful so it must be that gusto lang din nila that these remain sacred, though naiintindihan ko din naman na this may be upsetting for some couples.

[juwie]

Medyo OT pero ask ko lang, may pini-play bang background music kahit instrumental lang kapag nagsasabi ng personal vows sa church? Di ko kasi napapansin to sa mga inattendan ko 

Parang wala ☺

[bzbee]

we had our missalettes approved by our priest during our canonical interview, nakalagay dun na we have personal vows right after the official church vows. our priest said it was ok naman. the official vows daw is enough but if we can add to that if we really want to. he just said that we should keep it short para maaalala yung vows talaga. some daw kasi inuungkat pa simula pagkabata which people dont really need to know, parang nawawala na yung sense.

[ANJFinally]

Medyo OT pero ask ko lang, may pini-play bang background music kahit instrumental lang kapag nagsasabi ng personal vows sa church? Di ko kasi napapansin to sa mga inattendan ko 

Depende sa church ata sis. Sa misal kasi na bingay ng Caleruega for us to follow is, sa may part ng exchange of vows / personal message may note dun na very soft sound lang yung background. Ask mo sa church nyo sis if they'll allow. =)

[caleeice]

I recently attended a where our couple friend had personal vows/messages during the ceremony. So pwede pa rin pala. Probably depends on the officiating priest I guess? So maybe you can still try to ask your officiating priests if they will allow you to have your personal vows/messages during the ceremony

[stylus]

^yes sis. May friend ako di sila nagprepare ng vows kasi ang alam nga bawal na. Pero during the ceremony, the priest asked for their message for each other. Ayun.. instant vow tuloy. Di sila prepared. Pero okay naman mga sinabi nila dahil galing sa puso

Di na kami nakagawa ng vow during our wedding. Pero okay lang din naman. After watching our sde, i realized mas okay na hindi na kami nagpersonal vow. hehe

[daeyan]

Hi guys. Just recently attended meeting with fr allen of caleruega. He said talagang hindi na pwede ang personal vows. He said kahit man sya, he wants personal vow as much as possible but ang fear nya is baka mavideo nga daw yung personal vows and makarating sa cbcp. So sya din ang maiipit. So better, to follow na lang. We can have our personal vows sa reception na lang. Yun lang, it will not be as solemn as pag nasa church. 😢