Church rule: No custom vows

[pogi02]

Hi mga sis, I just saw this. Maybe this is a reminder and baka they will strictly implement it na.

http://www.mb.com.ph/cbcp-wedding-vows-are-not-allowed-to-be-recited-during-the-wedding-liturgy/

^ Yeah. Sad news. Ayaw na pumayag ng CBCP na magkaron ng wedding vows sa simbahan mismo. Sa reception nalang daw if ever meron.

[cornflakegirl]

nabasa ko rin sya sa post today ni ms. darlene  bawi na lang daw po sa reception o dressing!

[simang]

Nung nagpeprepare kami for the wedding, we were told by the church that personal vows or message are allowed daw. Pero one week before ng wedding namin, kinonfirm namin to sa church and hindi na daw pwede :/ Medyo sad kasi akala ko papayagan talaga kami and i know someone who got married in the same church na pinayagan sila. Pero yun nga hindi kami pinayagan. We just let it go, since wala naman kaming magagawa. Hindi din namin option yung sa reception.

I thought our wedding will be incomplete without our custom vow/message to each other. Pero everything changed while we were actually saying the standard vows. Grabe iyak namin ni husband while reciting them. Iba pa din pala talaga ang feeling ng sinasabi mo yun especially our mass was in tagalog. What's in  the vow were the very words I wanted to promise my husband. That moment I realized na kahit anong personal message ko for him, it still boils down to sticking with him no matter what. Kaya even if wala kaming personal vow/message, I still felt that the vows from the church were very personal, kasi it was my husband's promise to me.

[juwie]

I do believe that the vows provided by the Liturgy and the Sacrament of Marriage are beautiful. However, I wish that the Church will put more emphasis on its importance. Reminding couples during canonical interviews and/or pre-marriage seminars about the sacred vows and its meaning will definitely help. Couples opt for personal vows because they feel super cliche and standard na ang sacred vows provided by the Church. If the Church can do something about this, to shift the notion of couples that are getting married, then better.

I personally like listening to personal vows because they move me, but if the Church prohibits this na, then we have to adhere. Couples should start thoroughly checking the Sacrament of Matrimony and put it by heart.   

[stylus]

Sad. Pero lately napag usapan namin na "voice over" na lang ang personal message. Even before lumabas yung issue sa personal vows. Para surprise. Sa sde lang namin maririnig yung message sa isat isa. Kaya ang challenge dapat short lang. Walang paliguy ligoy.

[ANJFinally]

^^^sis simang, gusto talaga namin ni h2b ng may personal messages sa ceremony, but since bawal na now, we're still happy kasi we chose a tagalog version ng mass. Preferred talaga namin ang tagalog ever since.

^^I couldn't agree more sis juwie. That's the right thing to do.

^sis stylus, thanks for that idea! Ang galing nyo! Parang sa Dong-Yan ba? Ganyan kasi yung sa SDE nila eh, may voice over. I just don't know if voice over lang to be used sa SDE or voice over with instrumental sound during procession sa church during their wedding. Since Cardinal ang nag kasal sa kanila at madaming priest, for sure they did not allow them to have their personal messages kahit pa celeb sila.

[belle_v2g]

^stylus, that is a wise idea. videographers can definitely add a voice over to your sde and make it appear as if you were saying your vows pa rin. at least may option na for couples.

Same here juwie, the personal marriage vows are the ones I wait for and listen to when i watch SDEs.

[stylus]

i have this very rare health condition kasi na pag pagod nako, affected yung facial muscles. So nahihirapan ako magsalita at kumain pag tired na. Dahil sa pressure sa wedding preps, mas madalas ko na naman nararamdaman yung symptoms. Kaya dahil umaga lang ako "normal", yun ang napag agreehan namin. Mapagod man ako sa ceremony, atleast narecite ko na yung message ko for him para sa sde

^^di ako aware sa dong yan sde sis. And for that.. ma-search nga! Hehe.

[ANJFinally]

^yep sis, may voice over ng personal messages nila sa isat-isa. Then the videog just used instrumental background music para hindi ma overlap yun messages. May part lang na nag pa-pause kasi sa editing merong mga actual voices din depende sa ganap sa video like.

I watched some IG videos nung mga nag uupload na press last year sa kasal nila. As far as i remembered kasi one of the clip there was habang pa open yung door, then sa bridal march ni Marian parang may voice over sya then parang soft instrumental music lang ang background. Kaya napaisip ako if pinatong lang sa SDE nila yung voice over na personal messages nila or if they recorded it and played it during the march.

You can watch the video of Mayad sis. Mas preferred ko SDE nila. Niceprint had one din kase.

[belle_v2g]

^i remember now ANJfinally. Ghe Consolacion made me use a headset with microphone to record my voice too in some parts of our sde.  

[stylus]

^video editor na bahala dun sa paglapat ng background sis maya ko pa masesearch sa laptop. Bagal dito sa fone eh.

Though magandang idea din yung kay sis 120515. Sa prep venue sila nagsabihan ng message. Na di sila nagkikita. Holding hands lang. Okay din yun kaso mas preferred ko talaga voice over. At the same time.. kung sa sde ko lang maririnig yung message ni h2b.. parang mas nakakakilig yung effect!

[lueeeesa]

I asked this matter when we had our initial interview sa church last november.. they said its okay lang pero dinidiscuss na raw ang issue thats why wait na lang daw kami sa announcement after new year. And ayon na nga.

[j.adore]

They explained this in pre cana na non-catholic talaga yung personal vows. It's just that some parish priests were more lenient in deploying the rite of marriage that's why it was allowed.

In our church, strict sila and we had no problem with it naman. One less thing to think about And we're also private people hehe so we're more comfortable telling each other directly our "personal vows".

[120515]

^ sis stylus, you can definitely request your videographer to record your messages for each other and include these in your sde. our videographer used our messages for each other as voice-overs in parts of the clip like the introduction and in the middle part of our sde. it was during our reading that i cried really hard and my poor hmua had to retouch my cheeks afterwards.

they gave us these tiny microphones so our voices would be super clear and i hid mine in my bodice! hahaha!

[stylus]

^that was really cute sis tapos holding hands pa.  We will discuss that with our videog on our final meeting

[120515]

^ thanks, sis  best of luck on your wedding! enjoy the preps - i miss it so much! my husband has told me that i might be coming down from the wedding high - i seem to not know what to do with myself these days without anything to DIY or plan 

[lyr3hs]

Applicable na ba ito sa lahat ng churches ngayon?

[juwie]

^ sa Catholic churches, dapat sis, kasi announced na ng Archbishop. But it's still a good step to check with your Parish/officiating priest.

[sparklingjewel]

Oh my, i read a news article on this right after our wedding!! Totoo pala? Fr. Orbos allowed us time to say ours last Dec 30 pa. Nagulat pa nga ako na it was so soon into the ceremony and not at the very end. Shucks, sayang naman if bawal na

[corpse_bride]

This was actually good news to me. I'm a bit of an introvert although not shy to say I'm eloquent when drunk. Plus, I'm too emotional. So for sure major huhubels if I do personal vows as my fiancé wanted. Also, kasi inunahan na ko ibrainwash ng sister ko that the vows are sacred & complete. Add to that parang turn off yung "vows" (or maybe yun na yung message part) napapanuod sa videos that goes "Magka-office mate/schoolmate/blockmate kasi kami. Actually, hindi pa nga kami nagpapansinan nuon."  But that's just me..