REBOUND RELATIONSHIP

[akosimaiatot]

anyone who had experience this ,will it last? nakakatulong ba talaga ito para maka move on? Can seeking comfort in someone new help the healing process, or is diving into a relationship too quickly after a break-up an unfair and unhealthy way to move forward? your insights and stories will be highly appreciated

[mysterioza_me]

Naku sis ingat ka sa rebound relationship, jan ako nadisgrasya e hahaha. Mas mabuti na pumasok ka sa relationship pagmalinaw na ang isip mo at emotionally ready ka na.

[akosimaiatot]

yan din iniisip ko sis kaso this person really makes me feel better, nakakalimutan ko yung pain abetter yet nakakalimutan ko si EX! but I want to be fair with her  kaso nag start na sya mag I love you and want me to move to Dubai to be with her kaloka !

[mysterioza_me]

Naku sis isip ka mabuti. Baka sa ngayon happy ka at nalilimutan mo si ex pero pagnakasama mo na yung bago baka mag-iba ihip ng hangin. Baka nae-excite ka lang sa attention na binibigay niya. I-enjoy mo muna yung attention na binibigay niya sa iyo, if love ka niya maghihintay siya hanggang maging prepared ka. Give yourself a little more time na makapag-isip at maging emotionally prepared kasi baka masaktan mo uli self mo or baka masaktan mo siya.

[akosimaiatot]

sige sis I'll take note of that , siguro nga overwhelm lang ako sa atensyon na binibigay nya , you know the feeling of having someone looks up to you after being dumped? its kinda uplifting, this person feeds my soul and my bruised ego talaga sis, thanks for the advise

[dismembered]

Kaya nauso yung 3month rule after breakup... para magkaroon ng time sa sarili at maayos muna ang emotional state. Pag sinabing 3month rule, 3month ng walang landian yun ha. 3 month na you take your time to ponder.

Mahirap sa rebound, everything seems magical. Emotionaly blinded ka. Most of the time you find comfort lang. Yun nga lang, ang billis din ma-fall out pag ganito. Kasi nga, mali yung foundation at cloudy ang judgement. Kawawa naman yung magiging rebound. Then the cycle goes on. Si naging rebound naman ang gaganyan sa ibang mag rebound sa kanya...

[simang]

Sabi ni Ramon Bautista, kung gaano ka-controversial ang rebound relationships, ay ganun din ito ka-effective. But that's him, lol. For me, a rebound relationship is always the fun one. Syempre, the contrast of being with your previous partner versus the new one, the new one will always be infinitely better. Kumbaga, you're comparing the new one with trash. IMO, rebound relationships should all be flirting and should not be taken seriously unless you're completely over the ex, and you're emotionally ready to be in an actual adult relationship. How do you know you're over? If your intention with this new person is NOT to get over the ex.

For now, enjoy the attention, live your life selfishly muna, be a better person. Darating yung time na hindi mo na kelangan tanungin ang sarili mo if the new relationship you're in is a rebound or not. Because when it's not, you don't even have to ask.

[SarSi_Em]

sis nag ILY na? kaloka 
yan ganyang kabilis mag ILY, sila din mga mabilis mag GOODBYE 

flirting lang, chat chat lang, mag getting-to-know-u stage muna kayo.
wag ka pumasok sa relasyon d ka pa buo..
pag wala ng durog sayo saka ka makipag relasyon.
di mo kailangan ng bagong karelasyon para mabuo ka o makalimot ka o mahanap mo happiness mo. 

pahinga muna dear, kawawa naman si heart.

saka para di rin unfair sa kanya, wag mo sya gamitin para makalimot sa ex mo,
maging kayo na,  pag alam mo at sure ka na mahal mo sya at wala na sa eksena ang ex mo.

[mysterioza_me]

Mahirap sa rebound, everything seems magical. Emotionaly blinded ka. Most of the time you find comfort lang. Yun nga lang, ang billis din ma-fall out pag ganito. Kasi nga, mali yung foundation at cloudy ang judgement. Kawawa naman yung magiging rebound.

True to. Nung una masaya, kilig tapos biglang mawawala. Sa kin nun 2 weeks lang e tapos nawalan na ko ng gana, not because may feelings pa kay ex pero nakikita ko na kasi ugali. Naisip ko sana kinilala ko muna before ko binigyan ng pag-asa. Ang sama sa pakiramdam na nagpaasa ka pero what to do di ba e ayaw mo na.

[handlewithcare]

yan ganyang kabilis mag ILY, sila din mga mabilis mag GOODBYE 

Korek! Nabiktima na ko ng ganyan sis. Kaya never na ko uulit. Haha.

Mahirap pag rebound kasi may emotional at time investment ka pa rin. IMHO, kung mag-iinvest din lang uli, sa taong karapat-dapat at mahal mo na talaga.

[Raserei]

I had one pero I didn't realize I was in one until after the "relationship". Nasa moving on stage na ako nun when I met this guy. Date, flirt, ILYs. Pero before that, I made sure muna na ready na ako to be in a relationship. Medyo mahirap i-explain pero if I'll describe it...light lang yung relationship. Pakilig lang. Konting LQ. Konting selos. Kulitan. Parang ansarap lang kase walang pressure. When another guy came along, I realized I'm ready to be in a more serious relationship. Called it quits with the previous guy and started a new relationship with the new guy. The new guy is now my h2b 

Looking back. Had I met my h2b without having a relationship with another guy first, I don't think the relationship would work as well as it did. Kaya napabuti din talaga na I had that light relationship first kase naging masaya na ulit ang puso ko and I became emotionally ready for my soulmate.

So para sa akin hindi masama ang magkaron ng rebound. Ang hindi maganda kung alam mong rebound lang sya and you intentionally used someone for your benefit para ma-absorb nya ang negativity na naiwan ng previous relationship.

[TomHansen]

^ Glad it worked for you Raserei.. Anung sabi ni rebound guy nung nakahanap ka na ng bago naglet go lang ba siya without a fight? And what if hindi dumating si h2b mo may pag-asa ba si rebound guy?

Mahirap kasi sa rebound is yung mainlove ka sa rebound mo pero siya walang balak makipagrelasyon sayo so panibagong heartbreak na naman yun para sa iyo.. Or rebound ka tapos ma-inlove naman siya sayo kahit ikaw e fling fling lang ang gusto unfair naman sa kanya..

[j.adore]

I've never seen one that lasted. It does help after a breakup but the other party should be well aware of the situation. That way, siya mismo nag take ng risk if it goes downhill.

On the bright side, you can both enjoy and see where it leads. Just don't let it get too serious agad agad.

anyone who had experience this ,will it last? nakakatulong ba talaga ito para maka move on? Can seeking comfort in someone new help the healing process, or is diving into a relationship too quickly after a break-up an unfair and unhealthy way to move forward? your insights and stories will be highly appreciated

[Raserei]

^^

Anung sabi ni rebound guy nung nakahanap ka na ng bago naglet go lang ba siya without a fight?

We did not have an "official" relationship kaya rebound guy did not take it against me. Although I did not say na there's someone new. I just told him na it's not working out for me anymore. Nakatulong din na he's 5 years younger than me..yes masama na kung masama pero it worked out fine for both of us naman.

And what if hindi dumating si h2b mo may pag-asa ba si rebound guy?

Wala rin siguro. I don't see him as a lifetime partner material. Siseryosohin ko naman pero I know deep down hindi rin magtatagal.



Siguro ang masa-suggest ko. If you are trying to move on, don't jump into a relationship just so you can transfer your affection to someone else thinking na baka mas maging okay din dahil you shower him/her with it. Mararamdaman din ng partner mo yun eventually and you'll be in the same situation all over again. Maganda keep moving forward and make yourself ready when love comes. Maaaring rebound lang...maaaring hindi. Basta ang importante, ready ka na emotionally to face that new chapter.

[honeybunny]

What if u just broke up and u decided to move on, and let go and kalimutan yung hurt. You want to find a better man for serious relationship, pero hindi pa lagpas ng 3 months since yung last break up,  rebound na ba yun?

[mysterioza_me]

You want to find a better man for serious relationship, pero hindi pa lagpas ng 3 months since yung last break up,  rebound na ba yun?

Sabi mo naman sis you are looking for a serious relationship so I don't think na rebound yun. Rebound relationships are not meant to be taken seriously. Pampasaya at pampalimot lang sila habang di ka pa totally nakakamove on sa previous relationship. Saka di ako naniniwala sa 3 month rule. Kahit makipagbreak ka ngayon at mainlove ka bukas ok lang yun. Yung iba nga napagsasabay pa mga karelasyon e (mahal ko siya at mahal kita ang drama). Mahirap naman kasi diktahan ang heart.

[Miss Taken]

I'm currently in a relationship na nagstart lang as "rebound", the term used by other people nung nalaman nila na I'm already with someone new after my ex and I broke up. They were really surprised since 7 years kami ng ex ko then after 3 weeks, naging official na kami ng current bf ko.

Based on what I've experienced, it's not that easy at first. You have to adjust with a new person but from the very start since we became official, I know na I have strong feelings for him, that I'm not using him just for the sake of moving on. It's not my fault na may dumating agad na guy who also loves me.

I don't believe in the 3-month rule. Ikaw lang naman talaga makakaalam if you're ready to be committed in a new relationship. Just make sure na you're not hurting anymore and you don't have feelings for your ex to avoid unnecessary heartaches.

IMO, it doesn't matter kung paano kayo nagstart, what's important is how you two will make things work to make the relationship lasts.

Others judged ours as just rebound relationship and some even say that it won't last but at least we proved them wrong

[akosimaiatot]

I don't believe in the 3-month rule. Ikaw lang naman talaga makakaalam if you're ready to be committed in a new relationship. Just make sure na you're not hurting anymore and you don't have feelings for your ex to avoid unnecessary heartaches.

I agree tho there's a saying na love when you're ready not when your're lonely.. Ikaw lang makakapagsabi if you are just using that person to moved on from your previous heartbreak or ready kana to begin another relationship with him It didn't works for other but it definitely works me

[pretty_B]

help guys.

this is my story...siguro in less than 3 months after the breakup, i decided to have a "deeper friend relationship" with this guy. after all, naglalandi landi na din naman sya sakin before kahit nung kami pa ni ex. the problem is...he is on a long term relationship naman na. he's engaged and getting married next year. haha. that is why nacontrol ko sarili ko na wag mafall sakanya. which is good. i know mali kasi if ever, nakasira pa ako ng relationship. but then, wala eh. ang selfish ko. -.- kinarma na din naman siguro ako (haha). kasi after that fling fling with him, at the end of the day. i am still broken with my ex. hindi nakatulong sa totoo lang. now, i cut our communication na. saka nalang siguro ako magpaparamdam kapag kasal na sya. afterall, wala naman akong sama ng loob sakanya.

at present, i am "kinda" in a relationship with this other guy (10months after the breakup). and this time, gusto ko na ng seryosohan. -.- we started wrong...NA NAMAN kasi he's on a relationship na naman. pero saglit palang daw sila. i guess, less than half a year palang. hays. kaya natatakot ako na mafall sakanya ng lubusan. pero ang sweet nya and i think, he's serious with me. he came from a 6-yr relationship before which ended sa niloko sya ng girl at iniwan. so, MEJO praning ako. -.-

am i the rebound? or rebound ko pa din ba sya? or what?

[three8one]

^ sis, gaano man katagal o kaiksi yung relationship nun guy na nagugustuhan mo ang fact dun eh may karelasyon si guy.. paano mo nasabi seryoso sya sayo? wag ka pabulag sa ka sweetan nya, lahat na nanunuyo sweet yan, sa pelikula lang yung mga barumbado, brusko na manliligaw tapos maiinlove si babae.. kung seryoso yan taong yan, hihiwalayan nya yung isa at focus sya sayo. malamang, to answer your question rebound kayong pareho nun current nyang ka relasyon. pwede ring rebound si babae, reserba ka. hehe! pili kalang sa dalawa na gusto mo itawag sa sitwasyon mo ngayon.